Hey guys welcome back to my channel my name is Kayla if you’re new here today I wanted to discuss why I dropped my sorority I’ve had a lot of people asking me hey like what happened like where did you go like what’s up why did you take it out
Of your insta bio and I’m just kind of like wow but I guess that is what I’m here to explain to you guys today I just wanted to give you my kind of perspective on things why I left the way I left just some of the things that I
Was dealing with because I know a lot of girls especially girls of color black girls I have a lot of black girls DMing me on instagram asking me questions in the comments emailing me even and a lot of them want to know like the struggles of being an authority I have a whole
List on my phone so I’m gonna go through some of the topics that I wrote down I thought this was a sisterhood but some of the people that I was close with and just other people and those sorority said a few misleading things about me some things were made up and I was
Discredited if that was what the sorority was gonna be about I personally didn’t want to be a part of it at the time when all of that was happening I was considering running for a position I kind of wanted to be in charge of new members which is on the executive board
But it’s a higher up position so during the time when all this was happening I was going through the process applying for that position but I just started to notice I was in the sorority for two and a half year just as I’ve stayed and it things got more scandalous and just Cadi
It wasn’t run the way that I would expect an elite group of girls to be run even though he did have advisors with all the scandalous stuff becoming common ground I didn’t really want to be a part of that organization which kind of goes back to why I originally decided to go
Through recruitment yes a lot of girls do go through it because of the social aspect status hanging out with frapp going on socials and stuff but honestly I really didn’t even know anything about that when I first joined I joined because I wanted a sisterhood I wanted
An elite group of girls to lift me up to help me with my youtube channel and my writing and just different things I was interested in because a lot of the times when you have of all girlfriend group it can be very catty you don’t usually get those that group of strong-minded mature
Girls that are there to lift you up without thinking that you want something from them I thought that’s what I sorted we’re gonna be there boom girls we’re gonna motivate each other get our work done we’re gonna be a unit whenever somebody else is down we’re gonna be
Lifting them up that’s kind of how it started out towards the end that’s just not what I was getting from it I wanted to network I wanted to build my career up you know kind of see what I can do for the sorority what my abilities could
Bring to the sorority overall being that sorority just kind of broke me down I think big life is mostly about things that I don’t care about there is a focus on networking and volunteering and all that stuff but it’s really only about 10% of what the sorority was about that
I was in the rest is oh socials hanging out with frat boys cattiness and it kind of was starting to feel like high school to me oh we have to do this to be above them oh these people have to like us and we have to win this that’s not what I
Came here to do I was getting sucked into that vision idea of partially why I’ve stopped creating content on this channel as much because I wasn’t given the ability to be an independent thinker within that sorority I’ve always been somebody who was very independent kind of did their own thing created their own
Path in high school I always did things differently dressed differently thought of new ideas I was just really creative and independent and being in that sorority didn’t give me space to be 100% myself there were just a lot of restrictions and that does come with being in a sorority when you go through
Recruitment you learn that you have to go to standards meetings you have to dress the same for recruitment there are certain things that you have to do but that is not me I really wanted it to be me no matter how much advice other people give you you have to kind of
Learn it for yourself this year before I left that’s when it really clicked for me this is not helping me level up I saw a lot of girls giving in to peer pressure feeling like they need to look a certain way to be in a certain room for recruitment and just different
Things that were not okay with me I just started to notice it a lot more right before I left and there were also other things there’s a bunch of different factors that added to me leaving there was a situation that happened that pushed me to leave prior to that
Situation I had already contemplated it you can ask people that I’m close with in the sorority that I was in you can ask people that I hung out in college Greek life is a business it’s marketed very well it’s marketed like oh you’re gonna get the social status and
You’re gonna get networking and you’re also gonna get to party and you’re also gonna get to do this that’s only a small portion of it they’re marketing something to you and what you see is not always what you get that was the case for me it wasn’t for me was it my thing
Granted like I said working at Kate Spade I did get that through a sister in the story that I was in I’ve got another job at a yoga studio but things to a sister do you do get that networking aspect with it but like I said it’s only
10% I did me a ton more people that I would have if I wasn’t a part of Greek life I got to network a lot I got to meet a lot of different people and different frats and other sororities just in the Panhellenic community and the IFC community at UCF after the two
And a half years I kind of got all I could get from it and I didn’t think it was adding any value to my life anymore So I didn’t feel the need to stay in the sorority all those things combined convinced me to drop along with the situation that happened where I just felt like I was treated and properly like I was mistreated I was seeing things I didn’t know being around it
Kind of made me lower my standards a little bit originally the sorority that I was in was not my first choice what I wanted was not what I got out of the sorority after being in it for two and a half years but you may want something
Different all the sororities I ucf do have a stereotype around them and that’s what most schools to the original stereotype that was associated with a change over time and it changed over time to a point where I was not okay where we were going and that’s when I
Decided to remove myself fired to leaving I talked to other people I think we should change this I think we should do this but I just never felt like it was being fixed I didn’t feel like my opinion was heard I don’t think that all sororities are like back I don’t think
All sororities are bad I don’t think of girls in the sorority that I used to be in our bad people I just personally think it was not for me there are other sororities that do market values that they stick to their are other sororities that do represent that elite group of girls
And that of the group of girls that sticks together and really motivates each others to level up in their careers with their degrees personally I didn’t feel like I was getting enough somebody else might feel completely opposite from the way that I do right now there are different motives within each
Organization and each organization is focused on different things what they were focused on wasn’t something that I wanted to be focused on what they were working towards wasn’t something that I wanted to be working towards and it took me two and a half years to mature and
Realize you know sorority was not for me I was really trying to force it on myself I was really trying to get through all the events consider myself a well-rounded person but you can be a well-rounded person you can volunteer you can do all those things outside of
An organization can do all that stuff on your own some people may feel more motivated or more comfortable or like they can’t do that some people might feel like they can’t do it on their own me personally I can do all that stuff on my own I don’t need an organization to
Help me do that that’s not why I decided to become a part of this so organization was really hurting me more than it was helping me I did move back home so just moving back home and being able to refocus my major and what I want to do
After I graduate because I’m set to graduate in December of 2019 I was just really confused I don’t think that the sorority was helping me figure out myself if anything it was like pushing me even more like down into the dumps being out of it I’ve regained my confidence and
Getting back to where I was with my ideas and creating and being independent I like to create my own path I like to make my own blueprint I don’t like being told that I have to be at a certain place at a certain time every single be
I don’t like being told that I have to wear the same colors as other people when I think another color might look better on me and like I said those are small things they might not bother you but that just was not it’s not in my spirit I really want to thank the
Organization for allowing me to grow so much as a person allowing me to deal with different personalities revealing areas to me where I could have done better myself things that I could have done differently but I think there are other ways for me to continue to grow as a person
Doing something that I enjoy and that would be outside of the sorority I don’t depend on an organization to stereotype me or put me in a box or I don’t just tell me what to do I figure out what I want to do myself I figure
Out what I can and can’t post some people need the guideline I’m at a point in my life where I can make good decisions on my own and I don’t need guidelines when they’re not asked for I don’t need people my age monitoring me and it kind of showed me like what I
Have to work on but it also showed me how much my growth was being stunted those sorority wasn’t giving me space to be 100% me I had a few good I had a few good memories and that sorority my intention for entering into the organization it just kind of wasn’t
There for me I didn’t see anything I kind of got everything out that I wanted to say that a lot of people have been asking me I just felt like it was something that I wanted to address on my channel since I did make the Rorty videos on how to go through recruitment
And all that stuff with that being said of being in a shorty something that you still do you want to take part if I was in for two and a half years I do have a whole playlist on my channel that you guys can watch I’ve labeled it
Everything just go to my channel go to the playlist those are some of the most popular videos on my channel cuz I know a lot of girls still ask me about it it’s kind of like quitting a job I got what I think it out of the sorority I
Affected as many people as I could within it and now I’m moving on to the next chapter of my life I was just um being there and I was living in the house at the time when you’re living in the house you’re really in it there’s no
Getting away there’s no oh let me take a break I’ll come back later and you live in the sorority house you’re really in it it played a part and copying us creative and me not uploading and me not focusing on the right things I was focused on all the wrong things I’m
Regaining my focus and I’m really excited I want to continue giving you guys advice and helping you out in any way that I can I stand by the decision that I made to drop the sorority I don’t have any regrets I’ve grown a lot as a person in the past two three months
Since I did leave I still talk to a lot of the girls and I still talk to my little people ask me that like people ask me these questions I still talk to my little I still talk to my big I still talk to other girls and thus more people that inspire me
People that I respect all that stuff I still remain in contact with them whether that’s through following on Instagram or talking to my little talking to my big talking to my suitemates that I had in the sorority house that was an organization that I was a part of so I’m
Never gonna sit here and bash that organization and it’s just simply my perspective I want to open up the comment section for a discussion everybody be nice tell me your thoughts if you have any questions for me thank you so much for watching don’t forget to
Like and subscribe to my channel so you can see what’s coming I hope everybody is having a great day and I hope you guys are all leveling up in life
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