This is some there’s a problem with the black Greek community and it needs to be addressed and people need to stop being the way that they are clearly y’all need to address everybody if you are Greek and watching this video you need to look at yourself you need to look at those
Around you you need to be more judgmental of the people around you and be honest with them if you really love these people and they are your sisters and brothers you need to uplift them and have higher standards for them and yes stuff doesn’t need to be reported yes
But also it needs to happen is y’all the first people it shouldn’t take a person like me who’s coming in who understands that y’all determine whether I can make it or not to be the person to report it what what should happen is your peers around you instead of partaking in all
This foolish mess that’s happening y’all should be the ones reporting it and telling each other that it is not okay because I have all there is no reason why all these people are coming to me and telling me that they feel the same way and and expressing their support and
Sentiments and all these things like no people should be able to come to you all people who they look up to and admire because you’re supposed to be pillars of the black community and black excellence when it comes to being on campus and different things and y’all are clearly
Not being leaders in the best way if this is how people feel behind closed doors but nobody feels confident enough to say it there’s an issue with the black Greek community that needs to be addressed anybody who’s Greek can pretend like this is not true but we all come on come
When people get hit people get paddled people get get told to bend over and get paddled still to this day people are forced to like spend their last and their money run people around wake up at all hours of the night people are sleep-deprived regularly you’re not
About to do is try to bully me or hazed me on my own video of me speaking my truth and still not even like being rude to y’all hey everybody welcome back to my channel this is the real Eric F I’m just going to making a video pretty much
Addressing the fact that there is a huge issue within the black Greek system which we already know which you can look at my last video I’ll put a card in somewhere right now so that you can go and check it out if you have not seen it
But there is a lot of problems because first of all just check out the video but then just grow through the comments scroll through the comments we only are dressing the hotties not the haters as making this Dalia would say so I’m not even get into all the negative comments but
If you want to feel free to go and scroll and look and see for yourself because that alone shows you there’s a huge problem but I’m gonna go ahead and dress it here too so that we can have an open forum of discussion because my last
Video went a little crazy a lot of people saw it a lot of people express their opinions and a lot of people hit me up so I’m just gonna go ahead and share with you all what they said to me hey yeah so now I’m just gonna jump into
All the messages I got that are that I feel like are important to share yes okay and let’s see what they got to say oh my gosh okay here is this one this one was a good one so this is somebody who was clearly an alpha I don’t know if
He said that but his name on here he’s clearly an alpha so it says I’m going I’m so glad you made this honors video after going through the process of joining alpha I see now that there are certain people that can join frats and sorors there are young people that need
Validation once friends and want to be noticed on campus I remember before we got to sit which is at night when you go at night and be with everybody else who is one line you go to sit every single night to learn everything for the probate and all the history in general
And everything surrounding our organization so before we before going to a set we got our shirts ripped off we’re taught how to get in the cut and parenthesis spanked with paddle that’s when you bend over and you grab an ankle or grab something and you get spanked with a paddle paddling still happens
Don’t play with me was taught to give me cuts get spanked with the paddle they practically stripped us down and then threw us into a room together singing twinkle twinkle little star lmao we were blindfolded with the ladies pad and pantyhose it was degrading after that I
Had to keep my brain with me at all times with tic tacs in my pocket lol when they say brain that’s a little notebook it’s a little mini black notebook where you write down all the information that you learn all that stuff and the people that you call all
That stuff you write it down in your brain so that you can keep it with you and memorize it all day whatever have to keep your brain on you or whatever I other items that they give to you if they give you bricks whatever
They give to you you have to keep it on you at all times if you’re caught with it not on you you get in trouble so I had to keep my brain with me at all times with tic tacs in my pocket lol we were in the dark saying stuff over and
Over and the day I stopped it was the day I got dehydrated and asked for water the Dean got me a cup of water but told me to only take a sip I began to vomit and he took me outside after that I passed out for a minute and
Twisted my ankle while I was sitting down they were talking to me and calling me weak because that happened I was thinking in my head wow I see these guys look looking so happy on photos and talking about the Brotherhood this is it just to get within a K I have to go
Through this when we left I went home and they would not stop calling my phone wanting me to meet with them it was 2:00 in the morning they started complaining about me passing out and I was like what the I’m out lmao at the point I realized that anyone that
Joined at that point I realized that anyone had joins a frat and went through that is ridiculous I lost a bit of respect for my old friends for allowing themselves to go through that I called my uncle that’s a part of the chapter and he was I call my uncle that’s a part
Of the grad chapter and he was ready to shut it down I told him not to since I still had to go to school there but that’s my experience when I see people struggling on Instagram I thinks to myself they put themselves through torment just to be able to do this so
There are a lot of people in my comments that have said things like ok anyways there are a lot of people who are in my comments who have said things like why didn’t you report it you should have reported it ok that’s easy to say when you’re not in the situation that’s easy
To say when you’re not the one there you know what I’m saying like you I was a sophomore I was a first semester sophomore I was and I started college I was 17 so I was 18 at this point and I’m a first semester sophomore okay I’m only
Been on the campus from one year at this point and the only people that I really know where people that I came in with it and I already had to isolate myself this semester while I was going through this process so when I kind of went missing because that’s isolate myself people
Assumed I already knew that I was online for this so it’s like when I took the step back like from then I couldn’t just pop up around campus again like there were people asking questions and stuff like that I like I said I didn’t want to run the
Presses for anyone else it was I and I wasn’t I wasn’t gonna report it because at the end of the day all I can do is make a decision for myself I can be strong enough to walk away from something that I don’t agree with but if
All these women agree with it what everybody who is agreed knows there are consequences and repercussions for everyone except the whistleblower and the whistleblower is the person who is like look X Y & Z is going on I need to stop but that is the only person who does not face consequences and
Repercussions if I would have said something everyone else that was on that would have got taken off and would not have been allowed to participate and joining the organization for I think four years I don’t remember the exact I don’t know I wanna borrow rules regulations but I do remember that if
You participated whether you were like going through it or you were facilitating it you were getting consequences and repercussions so why would I put people who before this process were my friends not really won’t even talk now like we’re not friends but who I thought were my friends in the
Situations where they would lose something that I knew if they cared a lot about because it was something I had cared a lot about and it also was not an easy decision for me like I made it because I was like and this doesn’t feel right but in like in the moment although
I didn’t feel re it was still something that I very much so wanted so I didn’t want to like ruin my chances altogether I just like wanted to take a step back to think about it to see if it was something that I wanted to do okay anyways going forward here are other
Messages I’ve got another one hey I’ve seen your video on pledging and I felt it I went through the same thing another one hey I just want to say a quick thank you for the YouTube video you uploaded regarding black sororities I appreciate and applaud your beauty and
Bravery I’ve never felt so seen and understood everything you described was what I experienced and I didn’t even get to the formal inside process the rejection humiliation depression was almost enough to take me out I couldn’t do lmao I thought I was going to feel that way forever because I was
Constantly surrounded by the BG like beach Beach elo culture at school so thankful for your words of encouragement at the end reminded me that this is not the end because I damn near thought it was all over it was God ordained for me to watch a video at the purp
Timing in my life keep being amazing please know you are making a difference hey sorry YouTube video about your experience I hope that doesn’t deter you from pursuing in the future I just crossed two weeks ago this was my second time trying first time wasn’t so good was hospitalized there is favoritism but
That’s really based on certain chapters please find a chapter that suits you hi Erica I just watched your YouTube video shoot about like sororities and why I stopped during the process I can totally relate to you and fall of 2017 I tried to join a sorority I made it past rush
Went through this week process and I dropped during the ritual literally in the middle of the ritual I said I’m sorry I can’t do this they tried to encourage me to stay but I couldn’t do it I had a mental breakdown in my experience psychosis I was so mentally –
So disturbed that I had to leave school and take a semester off yeah this is coming from a boy who is Greek he was my friend and he DM me uhm about it so he said I commend you for this I had a similar experience my first time trying
To pursue my fraternity I spent a year depressed feeling like I missed out on my opportunity forever but then and it happened on God’s timing it’s never easy jumping in that water by yourself especially when you have no clue what really goes on or anyone you can talk to
About it next one hey lady I just want to say that I 1,000% respect the fact that you made that video you shed light on an issue that literally can kill young people I never understood the idea of trying to uplift the black community yet they are willing to go to
Such extreme lengths to prove this false sense of worth thank you for having the guts to tell your story I hope they leave you alone breathe this is because you are so kind-hearted and so deserving of good things people should be ashamed of what they are allowing to go through
Those orgs you are so brave and I admire you so much seriously and I will now be subscribing to your channel I was going to it anyway okay here’s another friend that texted me hey Erica I hope you’re good and you’re enjoying LA I just watched the sorority video you put on
Your channel and I wanted to reach out and say how proud I am to know you that took a lot of guts and I teared up watching it because I know we talked a little when all this was happening it was a rough time to say the least I
Can see that then and it’s even more evident now no you are a positive light in my college career and I wish only the best for you forever lol even though we are sisters by letters no I’m always rooting for you here is another person that damn mean hey Erica just saw the
Video you posted on YouTube about a week ago and it took me back to emotions I thought I processed and also a very specific memory I’ll never forget you were on the shuttle and I sat by you we both mentioned how we hadn’t seen each other and I asked you how you have
Been and you were very candid and said for real I’ve been out of it and I know what it meant and Ike it kind of shook me because I saw myself and you always have we both were very bubbly outspoken when we got to Mizzou and then that semester reared its ugly
Knuckle-dragging head and depression and seclusion took over your story is important and I’m very glad you shared it I prayed for you after the video because I know it I know deep down it’s still a touchy topic I know it is for me I have always supported you and just
Wanted you to know I’m sharing for you one and all that you do here’s another one guys okay these are just this is not even touching the top okay so this is another message hey girl you don’t know how much I needed to see your recent use
Of video I had a similar experience where I thought that Greek life was for me during undergrad but God obviously had other plans your realness about this topic was so needed because nobody talks about this side of the process from your from your experience and I appreciate you so much
For speaking on your truth like when I tell you I was going throughout college like when I tell you I thought college was going to revolve around me being in a sorority I thought there was literally no way around it lol but when it came down to it the anxiety I had from
Getting ends up my specific program and having parents who didn’t understand Greek life I felt like God told me to take a step back and focus on my real-life priorities girl the way you felt right after walking away is the way I felt for a long time I just started to
Finally feel at peace and starting to understand my why my journey is my journey alone but anyways lol thanks love this was needed next one hey I just watched her video and I just wanted to say thank you for speaking out I was always said I never did it because of the
And lack of support and not knowing anyone next person I know we really don’t know each other but I wanted to commend you for speaking your truth even though you knew that there will be backlash because I did it okay everything I’m saying is not new to me
So I’m not bothered there are so many people that will benefit from hearing your perspective which is why I did it I understand how it felt to feel isolated at school and nobody deserves that but you showed everyone that you can be successful despite going against what’s popular
First of all I’ve been in ok popular regardless regardless next one even my homies that’s Greek from Howard and U of I be over that I went to Atlanta Greek picnic random as hell with one of them for a year people was telling me that they Neos what people were telling they
Neos which are the people who just crossed prophytes are the older people who have already been in a paternity or sorority and they just brought in new people they’re the Neos to leave hotels that they paid for it to give him so I was like oh hell no y’all don’t lost it
I was indifference towards it my freshman year when accused and Kappas were messing with me but once I’ve seen all the limbs that come in and how they really thought I was supposed to listen I was like yeah y’all drunk the money is the wildest part like why do y’all needs
Mm for me and where is it going and why do I have to pay every year it’s just so corny I blue I’m blue I even considered it lol only things was my freshman year the Greek used to have some bustin parties that U of I to like 6:00 and
7:00 in the morning besides betho big scam they really check damn near three hundred thousand off that Mizzou I just got week all over again this is coming from somebody else who’s great it’s tough to admit something that like that but don’t let these negative comments people say hurt
You you know I love you I’ll finish the video after I watch this movie if and I said some stuff back and he said I guess too overwhelming tell me and I’ll talk I’ll talk about specific people you’re an inspiration and people go through this all the time because we are human
Keep preaching and saying your truth next person hey Erica I followed you the other day after watching your video about why you dropped line it was in my recommended videos for the longest time and I’m so glad I watched it I’m not Greek but I come from a long line of
Greeks and I’m a legacy for the sorority I’m assuming you were vying to be a part of your perspective was really new for me while I do believe that if you would have made it through to being with your sisters you would have loved everything about the organization as a higher
Education professional I work really closely with many first-generation students at a PWI you describe all the faults in the process that can steer away amazing students from these organizations before they even know what they’re truly about thank you for your transparency thank you for your transparency thank you for
Living your that truth out loud you seem like an amazing woman and whether you know it or not I’m sure you do you’re a part of this unspoken sisterhood of black women who are rooting for you from afar much love to you and this is the last one we’re gonna read Hey
So I saw your use of video on the whole sorority situation I graduated in 2008 and I too started the process with a traditionally Latin sorority because like you I have a white parent and a parent of color if that will help me connect more with my culture I’m already
Really zabdiel my culture just so I’d know I didn’t think it was gonna help me set down my culture I’m already extremely sapped in that’s not why I did it at all but I respect this person boy was I wrong the process from start until I decided it was finished was horrific
I’m glad we both saw the light continue to be shows to you in your life and never go wrong so I read all of those to say and now I am extremely harsh oh my gosh sorry all those just to say there’s a serious issue within a black Greek
System if you feel that you are like alone and you watched my video and you’re watching this video just know that you’re not like these don’t even touch the top of how many mess y’all I got an insane amount of vm’s and I feel bad I didn’t respond to everybody
Because it was just a lot and it’s also a lot to continue to like like even reading these there’s a lot you know having to take it’s like kind of being a therapist taking on everybody else’s problems so I will say I everyone’s message I
I read and I respect you all and I value all you’re all amazing and if you’re watching this I hope you know that and already know that and already feel that within you and don’t even meet you don’t need me to validate that just like I didn’t need them to validate me you
Don’t need me you should know that within you but I just want to know you’re seen and heard and if I know there are so many other people out there and that is that was my point of building the video because I know the way that I felt could not have just been
Me and I knew that there were so many other people and so yeah I know there’s a lot of negativity in the comment section I know that there is if sometimes it can feel like you have nobody to talk to I know that it could feel like life left
And you thought you knew it it’s like over in just not happening whatever but just know there’s like it’s not the end like it would have been cool it would have been whatever but what’s for you is always for you will never pass you and
If it does pass she was gonna come right back around because it’s for you nobody can take your name my full blessing that was made for you okay it’s always been yours um and yeah you know it is what it is you get what you give like Drake said
Um yeah did I say it call to action black Greeks do better hold each others to a higher standard call each other out when you’re wrong because there are many times when you’re wrong and laying hands I don’t care what you say the process is laying hands on another human just just
For initiation that’s wrong having them giving up having them give up their last when people are like first-generation Carlos to college students have no money they need to be in class working you’re stressing them out even more that’s insane that’s wrong like you don’t have
To do all that I know I have specific friends and a specific sorority who did not have to do all that and they have an amazing bond with each other so I guarantee you you don’t have to do all that um yeah I hope that this video
Helps more people out I hope that hearing the messages of all these people I didn’t share any personal information I’m not gonna be putting out screenshots you just have to trust my word on it I just don’t want to like share too much of these people’s personal information
Because I feel like a lot of people did trust me with their stories and while I did share with you all I did I kept out any personal information I was provided to me um and obviously no personal information is gonna be broadcast anybody else besides sharing their
Sentiments um so yeah I hope that y’all got something from this I hope that people understand that there is a big problem that needs to be addressed and I hope that anybody who like my message got it so yeah um stay blessed stay tuned and I see how small bye
Please stop pretending if you are a great please stop pretending like hazing is not prevalent please stop pretending like people do not still haze please stop pretending like you don’t know Greeks who are still haze please don’t pretend like everybody wants to be made versus paper please stop please don’t play with me
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