You believe it doesn’t ready but with dark skin de paiva drops of Awesome hand see bodies like as people wonder if they got they melted hey Lou cheese and welcome back to my channel if you knew my name is samaya and today is day two to our nine days of
Divine nine in HD marathon and I hope you guys enjoyed the very first video that we did if you guys missed it I will post a link right here it was the pros of being a part of the NPHC or Greek life so I’ll link that if
You guys missed it and there also be a playlist so you guys can watch all the videos all nine of the videos from this marathon in the playlist when we’re all through you guys should stay tuned to have some really great videos planned that answers a lot of you guys’s burning
Questions and also just gives you guys a little bit more insight into Greek life in the NPHC as a whole today’s video is going to be about being an introvert in a sorority or in a fraternity but specifically from my point of view of being an introvert in a
Sorority this is a very very frequently asked question it’s come up quite a bit probably because I’ve expressed you guys that I am an introvert before so a lot of who have had questions about what it’s like being introvert in a sorority and etc but before we get into that we
Are going to do our spotlight of our NPHC org up today which is going to be Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Incorporated which is the first black a Greek letter sorority um so I’m going to show you guys a clipping of some of their notable members as well All right so now that we’ve spotlighted our organization for today we’re going to get started into our video which is being an introvert in a sorority we’re gonna we’re gonna kind of cover three major questions dealing with being an introvert and sorority the most common questions that I’ve been asked so far um
The first one is does it hurt your chances the simple answer is no it does not and the more detailed answer would be no it doesn’t hurt your chances because sororities and fraternities are made up of individuals that have different personality types so it’s not going to be just one type of personality
Being extroverted people you’re going to have you’re introverted people being members of these organizations as well because it kind of balances out that way and like I said it is a bunch of different personality types that make up the group so you can’t just have one type of person as part of your
Organization which would be extroverted people that’s just not realistic so no it doesn’t hurt your chances there are many many many many many introverted people in in these organizations also I’m gonna link I’m going to put a little definition of what being an introvert is because there is a little bit of
Confusion introvert does not miss necessarily means shy introvert means basically that you just enjoy being alone or in smaller groups crowds you just enjoy more meaningful intimate settings versus being around a large group of people and huge social atmospheres and that sort thing kind of drains you or drains your energy your
Social energy so that’s what the introvert basically means it’s not necessarily being shy so not every introvert is a shy person so don’t confuse the next thing is what is the biggest adjustment now this is there are several major adjustments of being an introvert and joining something that requires you
To be a little bit more extroverted at times one of the main parts of recruitment for these organizations is performance public speaking public appearances and things of that nature learn to a lot of social events social gatherings and that sort of thing and that’s a major major major form of
Recruitment and once you’re part of this organization obviously recruitment is going to be very important to you because you want your organization to grow and to thrive and to keep on living listen you don’t want your organization to die out you need them you need members you need to constantly recruit
Members so that your organization can keep on growing so for example when it comes to like step show performances stroll offs and that sort of thing I will attend and I’m usually like I want to be the camera person and off to the side because I don’t really like the
Attention of being a huge huge crowds however there are times when it’s just kind of like they need the numbers they need people they need they need to have more of a large a larger presence or something like that and they’ll ask me to participate and I usually will say
Yes because when it comes to my organization there’s not much I’ll say no to be nice I want it to grow so I generally will try to like if they need my help I’m gonna I’m gonna help you know but um there is a space for everybody though you don’t always have
To be at the forefront so if that’s something that you’re not interested in like specifically what step shows I’m not a stepper I can’t create steps but I’m really good at watching and critiquing so I’ll go to practices and give my input I’ll help with writing
Like the scripts for the play like the idea couple costumes or props or something like that so I feel like I still contributed without having to be the center of attention if that makes sense just just FYI a lot of people think that to be a member of one of these
Organizations you have to stroll you have to step you don’t you don’t have to do any of that stuff it you can have zero rhythm and never participate in that in those things however it is a big part of recruitment so it is important to have some people who are able to do
Those things you know how do you benefit I was an introvert I benefit from being a part of these organizations because it allows me to have a safe space to to try new things and to step on my comfort zone I’m around sisters you know family
Brothers and I’m able to try things with them privately step out of my comfort zone get comfortable with the idea of doing something before I take it out to the public and do it in front of them so that’s a great thing I’m just doing stuff with them makes it seem more like
It’s fun rather than like more pressure it’s less pressure on me when I realize like I’m doing it with my sisters and we’re having a good time together or that sort of thing so I’ve benefit in a way of like it just makes me step up it makes me do things
That I probably wouldn’t push myself to do but I have other people behind me kind of pushing me and motivating me and encouraging me to step up and step out of my comfort zone and try new things so since I’ve been in a sorority and in the
Fraternity some of the things that I’ve done I’ve stepped into different leadership positions so I’ve run in elections for different leadership positions I have participated in stroll offs and I’ve also helped to you know behind the scenes help with with step shows also I’ve started YouTube that was
Something that I never would have saw myself doing I just was like I wouldn’t want to see myself the camera like would anybody even want to watch me like you know I didn’t start youtube till I was Greek so that’s another fun fact if you guys didn’t know
I was Greek when I started YouTube and one of the things that encouraged me was some of my sisters and frat brothers say you know encouraged me to do it so that was something that definitely helped me step out of my comfort zone and now since I stepped on my comfort zone and
I’m doing that I also like to like give encouragement give advice and give back and tell you guys different things so that maybe you guys can also step out of your comfort zone try something new try something different hey before I came to college I never even thought I would
Want to be a part of a sorority or a fraternity so that’s in itself stepping out of my comfort zone and trying something different so it’s definitely beneficial in that way because you have other people who are who are motivating you and pushing you and then you also have other introverts within your
Organization who are also learning and going through it at a slow pace like you and just going through it at the same time I am what 2 years plus in the game you know little over 2 years into my sorority and I’m about five years into
My fraternity so um I’ve had a lot of time to kind of like slowly test up the waters and and try out some of the things and just figure out what I what I’m like interested in trying and and you know just pushing myself so I’ve had
Some time but yeah it’s fun like and each time you do you feel like a sense of accomplishment like wow I can’t believe I did something like that like something I never thought I would do like it’s really it’s cool when you look back at it so the last thing is like a
Word of advice do I have any advice for introverts who are interested in joining a sorority or fraternity um be yourself don’t feel like you have to be this extroverted huge giant personality your personality can be big without being shiny if that makes sense like you don’t
Have to be like a ray of sunshine to have a big personality you can shine through without all of the fluff you know that makes sense fluff this nice but it just depends on the personality type of it look if that person is a fluffy personality type then
Of course that’s nice but if you’re not don’t fake it like just be you see who you are they’ll want you for who you are you know I can sometimes be standoffish but anybody who takes the time to get to know me realizes that I’m really not I’m
Just very observant and patient yeah so um and clearly someone saw something in me um despite the fact that I can be kind of standoffish look you just start off small start off with good morning hello how’s your day going start off with stuff like that and you’ll move up
To other things and having longer conversations and that sort of thing I understand that a lot of people feel like it could be difficult to show your interest when you’re integrated which is true because you’re tempted to stay in the house when they have events which
That happened a lot for me I missed a lot of events because I was like I don’t feel like being around all those people like too much going on I want to stand home comfortable in my bed but you got to push yourself because if you think of
It this way if you get out to these events now when you’re in interest it won’t be so hard to go when you remember and when you remember you’re expected to go so if stuff like that is not for you now like you just genuinely are not
Interested in that sort of thing are you really interested in being a part of Greek life because Greek life is a lot to do with social experiences it’s not completely that but it does have a large portion of what what Greek life is about and it’s very important for recruitment
To be able to show up to certain things not everything I don’t go to everything but especially in the beginning you want to start going to some things and getting that experience in the organization and stuff so yeah just think about that um let’s see what else would approaching people you I don’t
Really know like I think that insurer being an introvert does not hinder you from approaching members being shy might and in that case I think you just kind of have to type yourself up pump yourself up to do it and just go for it sometimes like it might sound crazy but
Sometimes for me I plan out conversations in my head cuz I have anxiety so sometimes like I’ll plan out the conversation of you know what I’m gonna say and then I’ll go so that way I have like a way that that conversation is gonna go so I don’t feel too weird
About it um that’s the best advice I could give about that but just be yourself like like I said there’s something in it for everybody so being an introvert does not stop you from being part of Greek life there are so many things you could do behind the
Scenes you don’t have to be in the forefront if you don’t want to be but I definitely would encourage you guys to at least try out some things you know because being a part of Greek life is also about self growth and learning things about yourself that you didn’t
Know before and just pushing yourself just push the envelope a little bit so I encourage you to try some new things um even you know you might surprise yourself you never know so that is it for this highly requested video about being an introvert in Greek life I hope
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