The enemy thought he had won he thought he had won he thought in the garden of Adam and Eve he had won but God had a Plan of Salvation he had his son to come down and dwell Among Us and guess what he did he showed us the way
That we should go so we magnify you God oh God we bless you God we thank you and we give you honor glory and praise for being a mighty God for being an awesome God for being and a righteous God you are the righteousness of this world God
We thank you glory be to the Lamb of God hallelujah glory be to the Lamb of God oh thank you Lord thank you Lord for e than for amen amen well welcome to Bible study tonight aren’t you glad God done bought you all through the day he didn’t kept you y’all
And we just had a powerful prayer and I’m thankful that the Holy Spirit just had his way tonight so you’re welcome tonight we welcome those that are streaming in live our scripture tonight come from Psalms 100 it said Make a Joyful Noise unto the Lord all ye land
Serve the Lord with gladness come before his presence with singing know ye that the Lord he is God it is he that has made us and not we ourself we are his people and the Sheep of his pasture enter into his gates with Thanksgiving and to his courts with praise be
Thankful unto him and bless his name for the Lord is good I said the Lord is good his Mercy is Everlasting and his truth endureth to all generation may we pray father God we just so thank you God we just thank you for the sweet sweet
Spirit in this room father God we thank you for your power God that is flowing through this room even now God I thank you Father God for those that are here right now God those that are on the way father God I thank you Father God that
You kept us all through this day God oh God you have been a blessing to us God so we thank you for New Life of Memphis God we thank you for Bishop Kevin and Dr Linda father God we thank you for our leaders tonight God we ask that you
Increase them even more God we ask that you bless him father in the name of Jesus God father God I ask that you bless everyone that’s here God oh God you know what their needs out ask that you meet their need God oh God just bless us spiritually God bless us
Numerically God bless us financially God and then we just want you to have your way in Bible study tonight God oh God I ask that you bless the one that’s going to bring the word tonight God I thank you God that it will not fall on De ear
God but we will hear and we will heed the word god and I thank you for what you’re already doing God cuz you say eyes have not seen and ears have not heard God what you got in store for us new life Believers God so we thank you
Father the one for the ones that are to come God the ones that are on their way God the ones that are coming back God the ones that are joining God we celebrate even now God even before they come God we say hallelujah God we say
Glory to your name God and we want you to have your way tonight God and we’ll give you praise we’ll give you glory and we show enough give you honor it’s in the mous name of Jesus that we pray and we say Amen amen be ready this evening amen
Amen okay Dr book said would y’all please move up y’all please move up move to the center move y’all please move come on does it does help all right amen amen amen good evening new life amen look at somebody said the power power of family tradition of family tradition that’s another man right
There the power of family tradition well this series uh Dr Brooks has gotten with our Bishop and pastor and I guess these next five sessions going to deal with family do you like your family amen amen everybody in your family would you like all your folk amen
Amen we going to talk about family amen we gonna find out how well you like family and tradition this month amen let’s look at U opening up your paperwork everything is ready uh Jesus said some powerful words it says and I just kind of quoted it a little it says
Jesus said that traditional men has enabled really he said made it of n effect it says has the ability the tradition of men has the ability to make the word of God of none effect that’s got to be powerful when you can make the word of God what of none effect I says
That in Hebrews that the word of God should always be said with me active energizing and affected so when you look it up and it talk about the word of God being sharper than a two-edged sword able to cut the dividing a su of Soul and Spirit and you tell me your family
Traditions and TR Traditions has the ability to take the word from being energizing active and effective that mean tradition is powerful look at what he’s saying now I want you to look at it as we laugh through the lesson but when you say that the Traditions your family
Hold the culture that you have and the things you do have the ability in them to literally make the word of God which is the active moving power in the earth that causes the enti cosmos to come into place that if your tradition is so stubborn it’s so brick it’s so concrete
It’s so layered that you can be standing with the word of God and it be of none effect because the traditions of your family has a higher value it’s another kind of thinking in it look at somebody say I like my family though I like them I like them I like
Them I like them amen amen look at the rule it says the rule that validates the word of God versus tradition the men let’s just look at a couple of rules it was a lot of them on there I only pulled out a few it says any
Tradition that brings the word of God to a stand still is out of order come on say it with me any tradition that brings the word of God the word of God to a stand still look at your family say it’s out of order out
Okay we need to look at some stuff then don’t we it says any tradition that has a higher value than the word of God is out of order come on say it with me any tradition that has a higher value than the word of God it’s out of order
Amen that’s another thought in it look at three it says any tradition that does not have the spiritual attributes of love joy and peace they out of order oh we GNA have to get rid of some stuff come on say it with me any tradition tradition that does notes not have the spiritual
Attributes of love joy and peace and peace say you out of order at the fourth one it says in Tradition that does not allow the Holy Spirit to have free reign is out of order that’s another mind too isn’t it come on say it with me so you can get it
In your own mouth say any tradition that does not allow the Holy Spirit to have free reign is out of order it’s another thought too at verse one number five it says any tradition that causes disruption among the people of God that cannot be settled is out of order Jesus come on
Say it come on get it in your mouth any tradition Trad that causes disruption among the people of God people that cannot be settled is out of order that’s another thought in it so when Jesus walked into the temple uh in Matthew 12 9-13 it talks about him
Walking into the temple and say in the temple was a man with a very withered hand said the man’s hand was what we call now the poses said was withered it was drawn up he was feeble you got me and Jesus being who he was as The
Miracle Worker made a major decision in in their church that day you all was just having nice little praise and worship it was Spirit Sunday everybody had on their jerseys and we don’t have time to stay up in here a long time cuz the food trucks out
There and the preacher walked in here talking about healing a man with a withed hand and said the Pharisees and the scribes got upset said now you know one thing we don’t do based on the tradition and the culture of this church we don’t heal on S ain’t that something any tradition
Come on say that don’t let the Holy Ghost have free reign up in here is out of order so you can take your withered hand self that’s what it was saying right right on back home with your hand Drew up because it does not fit the spiritual service of this
House right and so Bishop want us to tear a long time at the altar but the food trucks out there got on my jersey today I came to have family fun I came to connect now I know it might be some sick people in the
House but we can do them next Sunday can we not Dr next Sunday because be right come on because this a Ply Sunday and Bishop talk about come to the altar he got a man with a Wither hand ain’t that something so Jesus said well then
We make the Sabbath for the man of the man for the Sabbath cuz we really want to do some healing in the spiritual house but it’s hard because all the people looking at us and they don’t go but Jes Jesus being The Miracle Worker that he was uhhuh and hating
Tradition like he did made the decision to heal the man on the Sabbath day with a withered hand that’s another thought is it so when the food trucks rolling we got on our Jersey Sundays we’ll be mindful that any tradition that don’t allow the Holy Spirit to have free reign we out of
Order amen look at somebody say won’t be me won’t be me just in case it’s somebody in my family with the withered hand amen come on turn to the next page that makes sense makes sense that makes sense that makes sense I laughed when I
Was looking at this it says the power of family tradition come on say it with me say the power of family traditions and said the creation of the family Dynamics was instituted by God nobody can’t mess with it because God instituted it and the family was instituted before the church well there
Was ever church that Jesus Christ came to bring into the Earth it was the family he said he stated that a man should leave his father and his mother he didn’t say abandon them he did say leave though amen he say hold fast to his wife and they shall become one flesh
He was creating what we call look at somebody say family amen we Define family a socially recognized group usually joined by Blood marriage cohabitation adoption or belief us at the church some of us a family here together all right we’ve been adopted through Christ’s blood but it’s belief
That holds Us in new life amen that we’ve chose come on with me to say Jesus Christ Christ is the Son of God that he died for the sins of the world and he is at the right hand of the father that holds us together in a belief system
Amen now we got some stuff we don’t all believe alike but that’s one thing we have in common that makes us a spiritual family amen amen it said there are many different kinds of family there the nucleus family that’s usually the husband the wife and nice little
Children and all of that amen it’s the nucleus it’s the it’s the stem where family come from and then now we’ve got the blended family and that’s been as I looked it up it says for for for our culture and IGN blended family has been something we’ve done for years because
Of slavery that we had to incorporate aunties and and and and uncles and everybody in the same kind of household Blended together because we had to make it work amen but the nucleus family has mainly been husband wife children amen man then we now we in this new great
Place where we have brought in something called the extended family you know uh some people just bring everybody and it’s like don’t extend not another person from the village do y’all have family members like that amen don’t extend another person from the village another person from the community we
Can’t take no more of the what the extended family amen amen and last but not it talks about in the spiritual family that’s us that’s the church so come on said the nucleus family said the Blended say the extended and the spiritual amen so look
Back to our word he says so you nullify the authority of the word of God he says acting as if it does not apply because your tradition which you have handed down he said and you do many things such as that that’s just another version when
He says you make the word of God of none effect with your tradition amen you take the living moving active word of God youve come with your tradition and you take that and the word of God that could have operated over your tradition you make the decision that my tradition has
More value than the word of God that’s another kind of statement isn’t it amen let’s look at our first objective our first objective is to explore the value of family culture it says family culture begins at Birth so these folk that you didn’t know brought you in the world and
Set you up under this culture you really didn’t decide family culture it decided you did it not did it said it’s environmentally shape so I came into the world I did not want to live in y’all family amen but I was environmentally shape one’s entire life from birth unto
Death look at what it happened my morals my behavior my language my entertainment and my spirituality was decided by these people that brought me into the world say I’ve been in environmental shape so tell somebody don’t look at me strange I didn’t do this to myself tell them said don’t look at me
Strange I I did not do this to myself don’t look at me funny I mean I might have gone another way but I met these two people at the hospital and this is I went home with them and they come on tell somebody say they shakee me this way yeah I’ve been
Environmentally shaped amen amen let’s look at Family culture when I looked it up it said it has the five FS let’s talk about it it said culture I never thought about it it say it can be visible or invisible it can be something you see and you don’t see you just see the
Result and the effect of it amen it says it has five Els the food we eat who who in a family culture think everybody’s food our food that we eat in our ethnicity is better than yours and I went over their house and their spaghetti wasn’t like cuz you know we
Got the top spaghetti in the land something I was talking to Pastor she said when we eat spaghetti we don’t do what Pastor is it y’all don’t do a side dish how many families that spaghetti a side don’t have a side dish no we got to have chicken or something else
Uhuh fish when you see see that uhuh uh that’s it uhuh uhuh no way uhuh uhuh see see when Pastor first told me that I couldn’t believe that we were doing something and and she said when we do spaghetti I know I was going over over there cuz you know
Pastor Cooks well y’all know she’s a cook and I love her dressing so we went over there I said what you say she said when we do spaghetti we don’t have no side dish I said where is the chicken that mean some stuff she brought from Texas that’s some Texas stuff that you
Don’t it’s a main dish check check put check uhuh uhuh uhuh so really that’s I ain’t never heard that something wrong with that y’all not going to make the word of God on N effect with spaghetti but that but but but you see how different how different it is in
Just the food we eat and and then something is is our literal race is it not as a race of people we decide the food that go with our culture right uh and and and I was looking because as I Googled it and looked at different things y’all know the annity that went
Along with us but you know they said most of us are are Baptists and most of us are Democrats does that go with our ABN that go with who we are it does that’s that’s another thought isn’t it okay so the food we eat it says the flags we wave we
Said This is how we do it you know and you either fit it or you don’t fit it because it’s the flags our family wave because our flags got our own standard our standard was and don’t y’all laugh we were homans shut up Paul Paula married Steve
Because he told her that he was a hom and telling her that she thought we had money till she came home listen now but listen to this thing she thought we had money we could tell when she drove up with her little reapy whoppy car talking about some H he said
Where my H that she should have known better cuz he was at a place looking for a job and she was the secretary but we have standards that we have decided that go over our house all right Mama told us because she was we’re gonna talk about the female woman uh
Family but she told us that because we were born we were living in the projects she had another mind for her children so every Sunday when she had her time to talk to us to instill in us what she wants she said we were homans well we thought that was something we didn’t
Know we didn’t just know that was our last name so so no matter what you said to me I told my husband when I met no forget on my home so so he thought that we had you know that me something like the kides and you
Know cuz we were homeless so you got to know the flags you wear don’t act like y’all don’t weigh no Flags cuz we all got that stuff in our family that’s part of it right all right he said and the faces that’s important now you you got
To know the face of your in your family that when they speak everything listen and and you know you use it because when things don’t come together you will say now you know you got to say something in there cuz until you say it ain’t nothing gonna happen that’s the
Faces right and then we have come on our fashion because now y’all know we as black people we can have some Fashions but I used to work uh for the health department so I I was supervising Hickory Hill Clinic and so we would have let me tell you we would have uh this
Particular group that would come in and they would come put it down they would be wrapped up it was about four of them and they they of that soft Muslim culture they would say hey we come for the we we come for the Weck but they were lying listen they would put all
Their clothes in the locker they would do it once a month it was about four ladies they would do it once a month and they would go out and stay all whole day long come back get them clothes out of the locker put their clothes on so I
Asked them one day what y’all doing they said we not like our clothes we like black clothes and they and they was hiding it from their husbands yeah we like black clothes so you’ll be surprised how Cults what in intermingle and then we got the festivals how many of you had the
Holiday fight yet that you got married and when you finish talking this is what we do for Christmas we have a Christmas tree they don’t have a so what we have Christmas trees we do Santa cloth y’all ain’t had that yet yeah and who house we going over
Anyway right because we got our own festivals I knew we were in trouble I started laughing cour you brought an NAA over to the house and she had on a 49 shirt and I said she ain’t but three months old she ain’t going to be no cowboy
That’s what Candace be she going to be a 49 cuz her dad a [Laughter] 49 now now you see how that could be if Candace was aggressive and can you see my PO baby with one side for now and the other side a cowboy because tradition can really mean some of everything to
People so we need to be mindful that tradition as long as it doesn’t not make the word of God of none effect it’s okay amen look what it does for us it forms say strong bonds amen we meet up with other Villages and communities uh new like Nations right because that’s what family
Tradition do it gives us security and belonging do you all feel like you belong with your families amen amen it give us connectiveness and his who said that sometime not yeah and you know that happened at the funeral though that don’t happen to us till the funeral though that’s not
True oh God oh God Pastor write all the notes down so when you when you teach on connectiveness of History how many of you get good family history I don’t like to know what Granddad and them did and the heritage other family right right adaptability what’s acceptable have your
Family told you Dr Brooks what’s acceptable and not acceptable are you doing it see what I mean Rebellion Rebellion amen amen come on say the five FES say food Flags faces fashion and Festival amen amen so we going to follow them through amen all right let’s look at the two types of
Major cultures that families have now I want you to choose yours but I don’t want you to talk down the other one till we look at it we ready objective two said we’re going to explore the two major types of family cultures that become tradition let’s look at the first
One the first one said with me say it’s proactive say the proactive culture is where the leaders of the family teach train and nourish each generation in Traditional Values that’s been handed down now remember now these values been handed down it’s environmental shaping I didn’t come up with it they made me
Accepted because they shaped me this way amen it said the spiritual structure of this family is focused thinking it says everything from spirituality education political views sororities fraternities funerals wedding you got me and careers this family style has themes and models and mascots and high expectations of goals and Visions being followed from
One generation to the next look at the downfall of this proactive family this family is focus driven it said the downside to this style is that it leaves no room for change because everything is planned ahead as best as possible don’t make it bad do it my mama
Was one of them types everything was playing she already looked at next she would already be look at the next year this is what we gonna do for Christmas this how we gonna handle very proactive when you when you grow up she had to tell Steve Steve always wanted to be a
Police lady and she would say Steve Steve wanted to be a and every time we would meet at The Family Table mom every Sunday the same meeting she tell us we’re homeing and we had to tell her where we want to be okay and so so Steve was said well Mama I
Still want to be a police lady she was said Steve you’re not going to be yes I am I’mma have the little children across the street well I was the crossing God uhhuh everything’s planned she would plan it she would plan it how many of you come from proactive families that everything is
Planned got you let me see he nobody wait a minute I’m going have to deal with him all right let’s look at reactive culture now now now proactive culture look what it does now it teaches and y’all look at Mama Nim again before y’all say y’all not proactive it teaches
It trains it nourishes now it structure is focus thinking though so no matter where you go and and we find it a lot in other cultures I’m a doctor he’s dad’s a doctor so everybody is a doctor you know you don’t just decide what you going to
Be we don’t we know God might have wrote some stuff down for you but you going to be what’s productive in this family I’m a delter so you all going to be you better not come out no AKA you going to be what this family say you going be it’s PR it’s proactive
Let’s look at reactive culture now don’t tell me all y’all reactive because we look where reactive conscious in now I didn’t make this up I just Googled it okay reactive C say where the family the leaders of the family they still nourished but look what it says but they are driven by
Feelings circumstances and conditions it said they use emotions as the central thing on how the family feels about every aspect of life dog if we feel good about it we do it if we don’t feel good about it we don’t do it it says everything same thing from spiritual education political
Fields aties fraternities funerals weddings careers it says this structure of reactive family said it’s reflective thinking you know what they did to us last time that’s another mind in it so they move off of reflective thinking it said the culture is spontaneous how many y’all y’all this is what we do we going
To plan the party it’s Thursday night we planning the party for tomorrow at 5 well the proactive family has plan the party four months ago organized the called it to be and set the wedding date no tomorrow just get the fish wait a minute let me call
John stop by the fish market and get the fish for tomorrow at five that’s the reflective family right I mean the re uh the reactive family the proactive family has already already playing the Gathering had the fish it’s already there got yall y’all don’t want to be
That f is that you look what it says it said this conture uses spontaneity but it’s quick wited look what it says and doing last minute planning but it works for their lifestyle say it work for their lifestyle they used to it why cuz they’ve been environmentally shaped that
Way everybody in the family work like that and if somebody come in and don’t work like that it’s going to be a problem it says the downside to this style they resp respond to impulses based on the essence of the moment look at what they say if you happy I’m happy
You sad I’m sad you drink I drank you smoke amen now now let me see all of my reactive folk reactive here’s the challenge wait a minute I okay yeah and your in your why you you didn’t like reactive you had a family problem with
Her how many how many of you all was reactive but then created proactive really is there a is is it something we say about that group Dr Linda is it something that happened in the psych of being environmentally shaped that way that made us shift uhhuh gotcha
Really so in other words you shift from family culture there so we G to see that on the so how many of you all Traders did and all the tra all the traitors stand up I just want to see how many traitors yeah from your
Original wait a minute come on Dr we got to hear you I’m past you need the mic admired how they did things even though you couldn’t control it in your own family you admired it and so you set your pursuit to when you became old my family was totally reactive so we had
Things like you know and I was a kid growing up and you know one day uh my mama said straighten up the living room cause Pastor Jones is coming over and I’m saying well why is Pastor coming over Pastor Jones coming on on Friday night because your brother is getting
Married well my brother’s upstairs sleep what it’s a Friday night my brother’s upstairs sleep and so I straighten up like Mama tell me Pastor John comes over and mama says go wake up up your brother upstairs by the time I’m waking him up his that I didn’t know was
A fiance she and her mama are coming to the through the door they getting married we ain’t playing nothing they’re getting married Pastor Jones bless his heart I know that man was just he was our pastor so he just had to Happ they get married this is my oldest brother
They get married when the wedding is over my brother goes back upstairs and his wife goes out the door with her Mama uhhuh we had several weddings like that uhhuh and that was when I was a kid but fast forward to to say this is the
Shape this is the culture of the family fast forward bishop and I once won Christmas now I’m grown I’m married I’m we live in Memphis we go back home it’s a it’s a Friday evening my brother my other brother called says Tell Mama I’m on my way over there is Kevin there I
Said yeah he’s there well I need him to marry us what this no joke so this a this is years later another brother they come over he and this woman who you know this woman uh I asked B like you will you marry them he’s like okay they got their
Papers yeah they got their paperwork and my mama was in the kitchen cooking cuz it was a holiday weekend she just gets the dish tow dries her hands comes on into the living room sits on the couch Bishop mares him my mama falls asleep on the cast
Flor and I am saying to I am saying nothing has changed about this thing so you decided to be proactive because of absolutely got you Absol traitor traitor traitor now how many of y’all did that really y’all just go big like Pastor now that was okay so it says which style of
Environmental shaping mimics your family right yours in there mine was proactive Mom everything was PL every I mean mama was a planner I mean on on we would get our hair wash Saturday morning we going to get it straighten Saturday even we Mama we didn’t go to church as young so
Everything was planed so how many of you were like like us that was proactive let me see the proactive people a little bit of both a mixure I don’t know how we gonna talk about that yeah we gonna talk about that and so my question to you Prophet is so in the
Proactive just like I told you we can resent that being reactive uhhuh what it did to us and we pursued being proactive how how could someone resent being proactive or why and what would that make them want to be reactive that’s an interesting thing okay Courtney as you
Know I’m proactive don’t start nothing up in here absolutely okay [Laughter] see so so that’s either way right that’s my whole point that in the proactive family it can cause some um Restraint of those people those who want individuality those who want to some spontaneity gotcha and they can resent
Everything being planned out because I don’t get a chance to do what I want to do because I got to do what the family wants to do wants to do that’s good yeah that’s real good that’s another thought so you hear what she say kids even when they go off to
College well that’s why I kept courting at home so in those in those other cultures Asian cultures yeah those cultures where where it’s a very strict environment someone is going to leave that nest and as you said go buck while somebody is GNA Buck against the system gotcha they
Don’t want to be a doctor what you mean they want to go you know they want to go and be uh an archaeologist yeah yeah got and parents don’t appreciate that because they’re like why you want to go and dig some dirt right right well in in those strict cultures
Like proactive I think we don’t allow you to choose some things too and then we deem in reactive cult it’s like y’all wild I mean what is that you know what I’m saying my uh now it was good when two Proactiv come together but it can it
Can bump head let’s talk about it let’s look at it put there it said when the two conss come together do you deem they compliment each other or do they fight can I have a husband and a wife to say something here who was proactive and who
Was reactive and did y’all fight or did it compliment each other uhuh not him I want speak give me another H give me Miss Coleman what you saying Miss Coleman Come on talk loud so we can hear you we active okay okay yeah do thing so did it cause a
Problem got you with both of you got you got you anybody else anybody else so come on Miss darling come on speak loud he proactive I can see that got you you reacted and he Pro I got you and you come it it makes a balance and you right
Got you right and what you [Laughter] do anybody else proactive reactive yes ma’am come on you got to be loud you back there in the back you proactive okay so you one of the traitor okay mix it they Balan each other out that’s good anybody else Sher you was both of y’all
Proactive you were too you just traded oh okay that’s good okay anybody else everybody good all right let’s turn to our next page all right this GNA start I think all right let’s look at objective three so we don’t look that we proactive we we don’t look at where we are objective three
Says the standard of the traditional culture of our family now you know we have Ephesians that says submit to one another out of the reverence of Christ for Christ it says wives submit to your own husbands as to the Lord it said husband is the head of the wife as
Christ is the head of the church his body and which he is the savior it said now as the church submits to Christ that’s how we to do this thing so also wives should submit to their own husbands in everything so this is the traditional nucleus family that we see
Paul writing about in the New Testament in Anthony so it has a it has it’s Christ centered when we talking about the believer amen is Christ centered it has the head who is the Patriotic of the family or the the husband uh in the traditional family the wife and his love
Is in her that love produces and that love rule through the children amen that’s the design of God that’s the tradition of family which is the setting of Christ the husband the wife and the children amen amen that structure when I looked it up it says it’s the most
Common structure and it deemed when you Google it it deemed that it’s a balanced structure look some way I went to though of course Google didn’t handled it under the Christ but it deems because it has both the the male that’s that has uh another type of hormone fluent which is
Testosterone the female that has the progesterone and the estrogen so now you got a balance of the three Minds coming together and as the three different hormones come together and mix the personality of those two that balance each other sets a broad spectrum to think around the village the community
Because you got the male that can bring in the the male thoughts got mean you got the Fe female that brings in the female thoughts they can come together and set a balance does that make sense so they deem that that’s good when that’s like that now you know laws have
Changed now and so it’s not no longer just a male female relationship we because of what the government has done we have another whole switch amen amen but they deem this is the best so let’s look at it it talks about when you have been shaped in the male Le family how
Many of you been shaped in the family that there was no female in the home something happened with the female and you were totally raised by the male I have anybody in here totally raised by the male no female in the house nobody that’s different and now
Let me tell you what it says it said and they deem this has another value they said the male Le family this group of children that comes out of this habitation Are Powerful Bread Winners said they Powerful Bread winers said they the the dominance of the male that stands there though it’s not
Balanced like it could be because there’s no female but they usually rise to the top and Rise quick because the structure of the mailman that’s a good mailman there that’s over that family that compliments and do even the things that the female would do say it produces another structure and that group Goes
Forth and do well another thought is it the female and they said the opposite I didn’t really like this but listen to what it says it says the female Le family setting listen to what it says has strong survival skills but but does not do well in marriage because they have
Survived on their own and they say don’t play with me talking about ruling over me because I know how to handle my life so y’all agree with that one got you uhhuh because in the female the versatility I got both hormones I’ve survived it I know what to to do in my
Life so what you’re not going to do is think you going to rule over me so they they who is that yep yep yep caring you got have to deal with him uhhuh so how many Fe how many of you raised by strong females tell me about
It okay come on tell me about tell me how you do how how is a female being raised in a strong do you deem that that gives you another survival skill got to got you in always in control that’s good but how does that work when you get married it don’t
Got got you got you got you give me another female control Steve you are not okay we know know about you st anybody else come on Miss sh he a right come on look loud so she a strong woman leaving survival and taking in people to do that be
Survivors got you got you now they said that that female dominated culture and because it’s so it’s so much for whatever reason when you look at the population then there are more female L families than Mel families that that’s the problem sometime that can be with marriages because I’ve been the ruler
You got me I’ve been the one that when you finish talking about I can fix my own chair I can change my put my own water in my car I can put my own come on you got me cuz have to learn some allaround things to survive and so now
When you want to nettle down in the Christian family and think you going to rule over me then you better come right right you better come right because you not you can’t you can’t handle me with a strong voice because it won’t work got it it’s part of yeah you race like
You’ve been inir m shape that way right but if he a good boy we can keep him [Laughter] C Steve you you wasn’t okay okay all right okay still he’s still mad cuz Mama would let be a crossy God still your man miss Cassandra Oh wrong hand i’m
That’s interesting came from she say she came from the traditional male female family but the female was dominant what’s the answer I don’t know what you said pastor female ruled the m so so that’s still going to create that tension of what that because that’s your model that’s your
Paradigm and so you still most of the time still struggle because because that’s all you’ve ever seen right and so unless unless there are some situations where you felt in her dominating role she was abusive and if you felt she was abusive to your father I mean you know I’m just
Saying in whatever the family is then again we’ll go the opposite way because we resented that female Domin ating abusive role right because now daddy is the one that needs rescuing and if we’re not careful we’ll be the rescu We’ll Be The Rescuer we’ll be rescuing people all our life yes yes ma’am
Absolutely okay you want to address that back so so now we’re not talking about the abuse the abuse going towards the father right but now we’re talking about the uh sense of over responsibility right because now what you don’t what where the father is not being abusive what what you see is the
Father not being a man oh he’s not there uhhuh uhuh do everything she says exhausting it’s exhaust because it depends on every child is have is is having a narrative running in their head the whole time they’re growing up and they’re developing the whatever perspective they have as to the why of what’s
Happening if my mama is dominating and she’s not married I can say you don’t have a man cuz you run all of them all that I may not say it to her but that is my ration now yeah to mean you because we all are
We are all telling a story in our heads in our heads that’s true about why things not just what is happening but why they’re happening and so once we develop our why we’re going to that’s why they say you spent your whole life trying to heal your inner child yeah
Trying to reconcile the story so you so if your why is is she ran them off she was too mean then you’re going to you’re going to spend your whole life trying to to heal that story or if she was she had all the responsibility and you were just
Wishing mama had somebody so she wouldn’t have to carry this load then you spend your life looking for somebody to carry the load that’s interesting you got to teach on that that’s powerful Pastor amen okay got you okay that you could live made you appreciate the female
Amen sounds good so you see that reaction to that’s the reaction action that he got out from that from the the the story in so fix the Nar to fix the story he says I’m going to do something different than what I said to to heal that place good that’s good that’s good
Amen anybody else that’s good all right all right sounds good all right now let’s look at where we are we’re ready to end come on get your pencil out and check I did a a little stats with a couple of members to kind of see what
They say we could see where we are it says are you still following the family traditions about spirituality are you still doing Church like family prayer tithes offerings yes or no or it was was afal our family didn’t even have this yes or no are you still following your family’s tradition about dating
Marriage divorce and relationship are you from one of them families that y’all date whatever we don’t M yeah I get like how y’all get him girl we just we chosen we don’t believe in family we do common law I’ve had some people that say we do common law a whole
Herd of tribal people you know we do common law we don’t want to put that vind together we do good we’ve been living together 15 16 20 years you got me I have I have people that come and say the reason why we coming for counsel I don’t believe in divorce why your
Family get that from mama taught me that it’s Covenant you stay together got me so come on check yours did our family teach that yes no or none aable we didn’t have nobody even talk to me about it I just B my own next one are you still following the family tradition
Concerning Recreation vacation Sports aties pist did your family have that did y’all do vacation do you follow did y’all have sports and and do you have that are you know we didn’t have nothing but Check N we have nothing how you just didn’t have nothing family just
Wasn’t even a value there you know just that came along after Google we was what we had amen next one say are you still following family philosophies of Life concerning goals ambitions and Visions how many you come from families that have visions and goals how many you
Come from nobody never taught me a vision a nobody said nothing about my goal I chose what I wanted to choose from the ninth grade none aable come all right how many of you still following the Traditions concerning money savings Investments life insurance how many you say girl we
Ain’t got no life insurance we do go fund me when they done our family nobody got life insurance we it’s not what we we do we survivors we don’t save we don’t believe in I had family when I talking to my girl we don’t believe in no save save for
What you get that from people that’s not part of our family culture we if I need to get it I borrow it you didn’t talk that okay look at the last one how many of you still following traditions of parenting discipline come on Mama spanked are you still following that one career movements
Education you know are we still following it come on take yes no nonone aable let’s look at it you ready all right so now how many of you still following the family traditions of spirituality still doing the same thing let me see okay that’s good born a
Baptist G to die a Baptist that’s what mama taught me you better not say nothing we born a Baptist and we gonna do what die a Baptist like where y’all get that from better not go down to that church that Sanctified Church like Mama what’s wrong
With I you not going to the Sanctified [Laughter] Church okay how many of you number two how many of you following traditions for dating and marriage divorce I have y’all changed up now everybody doing what they want to do let me see ain’t nobody following the same tradition a let me
See hey Pastor look at this group ain’t none of them fing D now you know what I looked at this one because this is a funny one that talked about dating divorce and marriage because old school would let be the the the the nucleus family and let the man
Bring the girlfriend over to the house with the rest of the family uh I looked at it uhhuh let the girlfriend know he married so I ain’t in that I ain’t in that uhhuh y’all know that exist uhhuh I ain’t in that you know he married man it bring the girlfriend
Right on over come on how many you still they understand what you’re saying cuz I don’t know that they understand you’re not saying the wife is there no the wife not there you’re saying I don’t right the F he may go over to his sister’s house over and his sister his sister
Lets him bring his woman over there over to the house and say I ain’t in that yeah that’s true Q said some sometimes she she said what she say Q say sometime to wipe it and and the sister claim that’s her friend all the time now y’all know that’s real sley
But there has been so much in the culture of black families okay but chees all right what about sores and stuff where are we at with that one are we still following tradition of have we moved to form our own sports how many of you have left the
Cowboys and become your own are left the 49ers are left the you left the C oh God you need to repent if you leave the Cowboys oh God how many you have left the 49ers and the Raiders in there left and right you left see [Laughter] that
Yly I tell you tradition is something have you all Ever Had argument because one was one uh a Cowboy or something other one was a did y have arguments ain’t no argument and you do hear this m listen ST stand up stand up come stand up did
Y’all hear this listen to this statement said it ain’t gonna be no argument what you amen right under our [Laughter] roof your house the oh Godly I tell you tradition is something it would make the word of God now there’s a scripture that says wherever listen it said wherever
There’s agreement and there’s Unity there’s a commanded blessing it don’t go for Kings they said all right amen what about what about philosophies of Life did families teach philosophist this is what this family believe in we hold true none applicable how many have no themes no models over your homes you didn’t
Nothing I tell you that’s interesting I’m a homeing this one prophetes yes ma’am what about if they were not necessarily directly taught to you okay but you understood it because it was the way things unfolded in your y’all hear that some things we learn by a lesson where someone’s actually
Instructing us yes and some things we learned because it was just the way things were done and we then understood this is the philosophy of the is the philosophy of the family got you okay sounds good did y’all y’all indirectly everybody have your family had some standard right
Right some goal that we met some something right right y’all saying yes all right okay all right all right what about Investments money the family teach money Sav are y’all still going what the family did and y’all done branched out now everybody done branched out with money what made y’all Branch out with
Money mama and them put theirs in a sock and HD it in the drop ain’t in a sock no more in the drop Mama kept Mama kept hers right here right so we don’t do that no more all right okay what about yes you don’t you don’t you don’t have
To believe what is wrong the question here is have you have you stayed with what the family environmentally shaped you in or did you move out to something else right right and Pastor made I’m sorry made the statement that sometime it’s indifferent for your personality though it was the culture of the house
But you looked at it and said well Dad I didn’t like that part so I moved out when I for my own house right so it can be the value in it some of the Traditions got you uhhuh to it that’s good that’s good okay so we it’s good to know when proactive
Reactive yeah yeah they didn’t oh some people had money y’all didn’t have none yeah yeah yeah so remember now what we never want to happen in our lives come on is that tradition of our family make the word of God of none effect come on say the word word is active word it’s
Energizing and it’s effective it is the authority it is the authority over a family tradition look at somebody and say that’s a amen amen come on Pastor everybody y’all celebrate Prophet this one more time what a powerful word tonight we want you all to be diligent in this Bible study we’re near during
The end of the year so we won’t we’ll be taking a break uh uh in November however um we want to we really want to get a great understanding a good understanding of the family and the family Dynamics I would just encourage you as you’re thinking about it and I love the way
Prophet has helped us to see it through proactive and reactive in all of these Traditions sometimes you walk through life fighting a tradition or fighting a way of thinking and you as Q talked about you learn later that it was actually good but you you’re filing your family system
Right and you may my mother would say you cutting off your nose to spite your face that you really need your nose but you trying to spite your face and so some things you’re you’re res you’re fighting against that are really good for you but you’re you’re still you got some
Unhealed issues concerning family we’re going to go deeper into that as we walk along so I just want to just uh pull the house tonight make sure that everyone in here is Sav and make sure that uh if you’re wanting to be a member of new life you
Can be tonight we had any visitors in house all right we’re all family all right we want to uh give tonight I don’t can we get a basket uh we want to give and then we’ll be on our way out so next week I’ll be talking to you about
Motherhood um and I’m GNA talk to you about some traditional stuff for sure we’re GNA start there but we’re going to talk about healing the mother wound some of us got mother wounds and we don’t even realize it all right so if I’m going to go ahead uh Pastor here do
We have any other announcements marriage Ministry on Friday and that’s a good place to deal with some of this stuff uh Nadia all right ladies the October event uh we’re we’re got the tickets available please don’t be slow cuz see some of that is family too you y your family
Just not diligent they just not proactive last minute all that last minute so you got to see if am I doing that because I’ve always done it everybody does that in my family you know it’s family reunion time and you got to beg them for that little $25 for the family
Reunion and then you I mean up until the last day you begging them for that $25 and then the matriarch of each family start paying for all them grown children that wouldn’t pay their family reunion fees yeah that’s kind of family I got all right okay so what are we going to
Do we’re gonna stand and be dismissed and I’m just going to ask that you would come up and give your offering and then you can go in peace so father tonight we bless you and we thank you for the lesson that we’ve received thank you for the vessel that you have um communicated
It through I pray oh God that as we are focusing on the family and looking at all of these family dynamics that this will be a time for us to become self aware Ware self aware of how we think how we process our mindset about things
And as she has told us those things that stand in your uh in the way of your word being effective in our lives I pray that we’ll have the courage oh God to dismiss them you said in your word to lay aside every weight and the sin that easily
Besets us the sin and the weight that gets in our way and so I pray that we’ll commit to that even now as we prepare to give I pray that you would bless continue oh God to provide for us as you always have have because we always want
To have something to give even as we leave this place tonight I pray Your Divine protection and your peace be upon us as we’re going home some going to work I pray oh God that you will bring us back together at the appointed time in Jesus name amen so you’ll just bring
Your offering and then you’re dismissed yeah
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