Kimberly v. The Black Manosphere (Again)

All right here’s a question Kim what’s going on with you in the manosphere girl nothing all I do is say true things like getting a man is not an accomplishment uh being a Pik me won’t get you pick um being successful in dating is not about being the most

Beautiful and they get mad they get outraged it’s been really fascinating to see how they contort themselves and lie in order to make their world viiew coherent so recently they have fixated on my dating life here’s the story I ended a year-long relationship with a cheater last April I dated around for a

Few months had some adventures and then got into another serious relationship at the end of last year in December okay the reality is that neither my politics my appearance or my profession has stopped me from getting the man okay like I’ve had boyfriends since I started for Harriet I’ve had three ser serous

Boyfriends like social media posts meeting family matching Christmas pajamas all that I’ve been super public about it all of that because I can’t keep anything to myself it’s been extremely well documented despite that some of these red pill black men decided that the narrative was going to be Kim

Is an ugly loud mouth feminist who can’t get a man and they decided to keep doubling down on that even when I’ve seen people go to them under the post on social media and be like um that’s untrue we’ve seen her boyfriend we’ve seen them out I saw one person in a

Screenshot say uh she’s definitely with a quote-unquote high value man like I saw her at this Tech event like it’s the whole thing and so this has been happening and I admit I’ve gotten into the mud with pigs a couple of times my bad okay but they zeroed in on me and

What I saw happen even after the correction was an unwillingness to adjust the narrative to accommodate what’s true because the truth disrupts the ideology and is just not as lucrative I want to pop in here and say that my frustration was not about the one-off repetition of Lies I was so mad

About the creation of hours and hours of content about lies like just straight up untruths so many videos over months repeating the lies on different platforms like that got under my skin so freaking bad cuz it’s like how Shameless can you’re 60 how Shameless can you be and I have

To say that this whole experience has really revised my self-concept like I’m proud of myself I have a resume I feel like I’ve done some things but it wasn’t until I had convers ation with people and they’re like Kim they look at you as the feminist big boss like you’re

Bowser I’m like what like I’m King Koopa like what but yeah like in their construction of what contemporary black feminism is defeating me is like winning a championship and it did make me be like oh I guess I have I guess I’ve accomplished some things it’s very interesting when other

People put you on a pedestal that you don’t put yourself on like thanks so they’ve been telling obvious lies about me it’s persisted for months and then something must have happened where one particular person who is just obsessed it’s weird decided that that particular lie was no longer sustainable The Narrative finally

Shifted it wasn’t oh ke is ugly and loud and can’t get a man it shifted to telling New Lies like oh she said she only dat thy leers and he didn’t go to an I I’ve never said that um another lie oh he doesn’t make six figures untrue um

Oh he’s not cute false I’m superficial oh what’s another one oh nobody knows him actually what I’ve learned over the past few months is the fraternity men are everywhere you see them everywhere so again bold obvious stupid lies and then after all that one of the self-proclaimed leaders of the

Black manosphere who is particularly obsessed like in a weird way DMD my boyfriend on Instagram and Facebook talking about some why are you talking about the man St like like really like trying to start something insane stuff desperate stuff I’mma put up the screenshot but also like a little bit

Concerning and so the sequence of events has obviously been really distressing it’s been Annoying It’s been frustrating because I am not used to men who are 20 and 30 years older than me orchestrating lat in lives and harassment like reaching out to my boyfriend who not

Even a public figure who only has a couple hundred followers like that’s it’s strange it’s strange and it’s new for all the years that I’ve talked about dating for all the years that I’ve talked about love generally and my love life I made a video years ago with an ex-boyfriend where we talked

About our relationship I’m rock people I was kind of sort of dating on and like made little videos with right that that kind of escalation is a completely novel experience and so I’ve let that anger live in my body I’ve talked to lawyers about it they said Kim what are you

Gonna get from this you Sue and then what they don’t have anything you want and you have something they want but what finally snapped me out fixating on it was one night my boyfriend who honestly has done an incredible job holding his meal because I understand there’s a natural in

To defend me and to defend himself right and one day he sent me this video said look at this we context the primary orchestrator of all this does not appear on video right he talks all that off camera which is crazy and so my partner showed me this

Video shot recently it’s an interview with a man the obsessed one okay the obsessed with Spearman okay and this time it was camera on and he was sitting there in the flesh across from an interviewer for the first time I could see his mannerisms I could see how he

Put himself together I could observe his body language and when I tell y’all I was so embarrassed after watching that video I was so ashamed that that was the person I had dedicated that much mental energy to y’all it was every stereotype that you have about those men just

Cringy up and down and so since I saw that I’ve had no desire to engage or go back and forth or defend myself from lies because it’s like yeah if I were you I’d hate me too right like thing that allows me to depersonalize all this stuff it allows

Me to take a step back and view it all as data and and see really clearly the foundations of that ideology are not sound that’s where the lies come in and dude the stuff about my dating is just so it is juvenile it is so high

School I can’t even believe that I but you know it is what it is but I say that they are grasping at whatever is available to them or or what they think is available to them so that they can piece together some kind of Brotherhood the proliferation of those ideas it’s

The mix of nihilism it’s loneliness it’s opportunism and no we can’t just ignore it this really is the Public Health crisis because they don’t just talk amongst themselves you know I can take it okay I chose this job so I can deal with silly lies about my sex life I can

Deal with lies about who I’m dating I can deal with lies about the events that I throw but we see other women get stalked harassed degraded girls get killed that’s an emergency it’s a big deal

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