All right folks welcome back to the culture welcome to the culture’s black men Summit day five of our Summit as we are redefining and celebrating black manhood I’m your host vaji Muhammad man oh man the first it has been a phenomenal week here on the culture as we’ve been having these conversations
Now we started this conversation talking about the black man as an individual right we talked about the 28th anniversary of the historic Million Man March that was a call to action for black men to atone reconcile and take responsibility that was an individual effort well we wanted to end the
Conversation about black men focusing on themsel not on themselves but on their families and their communities that’s the progression of the week folks that’s the thinking Behind these conversations that that a black man as an individual grows into his understanding of with the role that he plays as himself but more
Importantly the role that he plays within given family unit a community unit a given a given structure it’s important that black men see the evolution and the progression of their role so we wanted to have that final conversation that’s why I’m wearing my shirt y’all dope like that look there no
Future for faraji Muhammad if I don’t have the if I’m not in the best mind state for my children my children my son Nigel my daughter niana I can’t be I can’t I could be all I want to be by myself but it is for them that I have to lay the
Foundation so that way their future is even brighter than mine so that’s the process of this now as we have this conversation of course we want to invite you to join us as we’re streaming live right now on Ry Martin’s YouTube page and you can join us in the chat as a
Culture crew member for today and we would love to hear from you now my first guest in this conversation is a brother who I have a great amount of love and respect for he’s never talking about Madness or foolishness when you follow him on social media social media you
Gonna learn something from this brother and so I am so so happy and honored and privileged to once again talk to my brother about this he is the author of the book The Warrior method how to raise black boys a book that I have tapped
Into when I first had my first when I had my first child my son and let me just tell y’all I tell this story all the time but it was Dr wimbush that gave me the the Insight on what it means to be a great father the great wisdom that
He imparted to me when I told him I said doc I’m having a son what do I do I and I literally said this to this man I don’t know how to be a man he kind of laughed at me he said for I’m only going to give you one piece of
Advice just be yourself that’s right and everything else will come will come to you and I never ever ever forgot that as my son is 10 years old my daughter is four never forgot that be yourself so I want to welcome he’s an author of the book He’s a professor he’s a researcher
And we are so happy to have him back on the show Dr R Winbush Dr Winbush hey man how you doing I’m trying to be dope you’re my spirit son because you know my son name is faraji too without he has one eye in his name but and I
Have two eyes ain’t that crazy y’all look at that all by Design all it’s all by Design uh Dr wimbush once again we are always a blessing to have you uh let’s talk a little bit about this role of black men in the family I want to start it off here
Because there has often been we had a conversation yesterday about black men and our presentation and representation in mass media and I think that a lot of times the conversation about the role of black men is predicated upon how the narrative that is put out through mass
Media but I want to go deeper than that doc because I feel like that’s when we talk about mass media that’s still the enemy of our still control that right and that’s outside of us I want to talk about when you have black men who choose to show up in their children’s lives
Right who choose regardless of the circumstances of their relationship the distance the physical distance or even legal challenges that they are they they made a decision to show up that’s the different type of black man and that’s the brothers I want to just kind of highlight today because I think it’s
Important that it’s not just say oh if we had more media representation we would see an increase in black male engagement in their family now let me just debunk this MTH black men are the most engaged men in the country with their children there have been actual
Reports about this and I know doc can speak on that but I want to let y’all know if you did not know black men are the most engaged men they did a study that said that black men will play dress up do makeup and have tea more than any
Other groups of fathers in the country well you’re absolutely correct and I think what happens is that too often Black Folk believe the hype about us in general but particularly about black men and as you said the the study you quoted is uh from the Pew foundation
And they did an empirical study said that black men even if they’re divorced even if they’re separated they have far more contact with their children than do white men but see the image is that somehow black men are absentee fathers or they’re they’re just not being good to their children around their children
And so forth always tell people the first absentee fathers in this country were white men who raped black women during enslavement and did not raise their children Dam and and and you have to say uh adeli Stevens she says that she’s a great educator and she says that
Uh black men are the only men that rais the children of their wife’s rapist because we knew that some of those children were not ours we knew but we still raised them so we have always been good Fathers and and and I know people will say something like this well the
One I got ain’t good or the one that I know growing up I never knew them you’re one person but as a whole black men are probably the best fathers in this country wow wow we’re gonna take a quick pause on that and then when we come forward I’m going to continue this
Conversation we’re going to bring it our brother Elijah miles who’s running who founded an organiz organization called the tendar family we’re going to have him to explain that work and the work that he’s doing to add advate and encourage more black men to not just get involved in their family but in
Community life so we got a lot to talk about on today’s edition of the black men uh black men’s uh Summit here on the culture stay with us the the conversation will continue on the other Side folks Blackstar network is here hold no punching I’m real revolutionary right now support this man black media he makes sure that our stories are told thank you for being the voice of Black America rolling I love y’all all momentum we have now we have to keep this going the video looks phenomenal
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Been Dr Ray Winbush who is the author of the book The Warrior method how to raise black boys he’s also a professor at Morgan State University the a researcher and an advocate of black manhood and fathers uh in the community and we are also joined by brother brother Elijah
Miles now y’all remember Elijah used to be on a show earli in the earlier stages of the show’s growth and development my brother has expanded since then he has now serving as the founder of the nonprofit organization the tender family he started a family on his own he just
Comes back to the culture a whole different man let’s bring brother Elijah mils back in peace and blessings brother Elijah how are you dear brother hey peace I’m doing well thought you mention that I’m a Morgan gr since you got the oh yes you gotta mention that you gotta mention
That you are a Morgan State there brother so you you definitely are doing a thing uh let’s talk a little bit about the work that you’re doing your joint your your community organiz organization is called the tenda family first talk to us what does that mean and why did you
Decide to take on that approach to community organizing so back when I was at Morgan State University in the uh aftermath for the Freddy gay uprisings uh myself and some students from today uh some students from Morgan State University and also some people that wasn’t a part of uh at Morgan State
Uh we basically what happened was is that in that aftermath when we saw CNN and MSNBC and all of the Civil Rights legends from around the world come to Baltimore city and then we seen after they left and the cameras left that much on the ground didn’t change we said that
It’s going to take more than a moment a protest uh a situation that’s going to change Baltimore city it’s going to take black men and boys coming together sacrificing time money energy effort to shift and change things and that’s what’s going to change Baltimore city
And so to the best of our ability uh we’ve been doing that work ever since tenda the word tenda is Kat hilly slang for hustle and hustle is the acronym file founder principles honor Unity sacrifice Trust love and excellence and last say that Tunda is not a new
Organization in our methods and our goals we walking in the footsteps to the best of our ability of the unia Malcolm X and noi and also the Black Panther Party uh for self-defense and trying to continue that work and continue and get to those goals that our ancestors set
Out to to get to that um fell short of or you know transition before the time brother Elijah we and then I’m gonna get your take on this Dr wimbush but brother Elijah your approach as you talking about the Traditions that y’all are working in your approach has been more
Of look Brothers y’all need to get to work y’all need to come and get involved you need to get involved and see yourself as part of the family leading the family what’s been some of the ways that you’ve been doing that and what has been the response that you’ve gotten
From from black men so how we’ve been doing it is a real direct action boots on the ground approach so we do community cleanups uh every week community cleanups and giveaways mostly in East Baltimore and the mowy park community or as we know it is down the
Hill and it’s about it’s a practical way of mobilizing people and getting people out another way we’ve been doing it is getting people that’s from different walks of life uh college students getting college students to come out getting people that ain’t graduate from high high school to come out getting the
Youth to come out but it’s about uh in our community showing face and being representative especially as as men being involved inside our community because we believe in Tunda that the nine to5 black man the black man that go to work and come home the black man that
Ain’t on the corner the black man that ain’t you know what I mean uh ain’t a part of the statistics that they say about Baltimore City about black men we believe that those black men have to get involved because it it’s a whole lot of young men that’s out here that are
Without men in their lives and when the black men that are on the straight path the right path whatever you call it when they get involved the thing can shift in every neighborhood not just in Baltimore city but around the country in Chicago and New York and so we take a real
Practical Hands-On approach and we create programs so that men can get active and come out and and do something practical that shift and change their community and mentor to you very quickly brother Elijah then I’m go to Dr wimbush what is that who inspired you to have
You talk to us about the father figures or your dad in your life and and because how did you get to this place at such a young age so I was honored to have a father in my life uh my father he was 48 when he
Had me he fought in the Vietnam War even though I’m a young man he he he was an older older guy and um basically I had a father in my life I had had uh big brothers in my life older brothers I had mentors but I would say one of the
People that changed my life was in Middle School uh I had a middle school teacher named Mr Scott and he had like natural form locks you know locks you don’t get retwisted naturally Baltimore City I thought he was Jamaican uh so I never forget brother fagi he had
This red black and green flag on his desk when I was in the seventh grade and one time I asked Mr Scott who flag is that thinking he would say Jamaica uh and he stopped what he was doing and he never forget he said Elijah that’s your
Flag and then that point on he began to Mentor me about Black History giving me books about Malcolm X Native Son black boy the autobiography of Malcolm X teaching me about Garvey and then he began to break the narrative that I had received from society from the music
From the movies that a black man is a killer Rob and a drug dealer and he began to build in me that to be a black man is to be as Malcolm X was to be as Garvey was and that I had a duty I had a purpose to push the black community
Forward as a black man and so he broke down that idea of the real nword in my mind and I no longer strove to be that because I was striving to be that even as a middle schooler and he put that image of like black men fighting for their Community this long
Line of black men are fighting for a community I was born a part of this basic fraternity of black men and that I had to you know carry it on as such and so Mr Scott I would say is one of the most pivotal people uh in my life and in
My my development damn Dr Winbush you can’t you can’t you you you can’t I mean you you working you a father and you’re a professor you’re an educator that’s a powerful story I’m sure that you probably heard many stories like this of black Brothers young brothers who coming to their own
And who have a greater Consciousness and as a psychologist talk to us about this like put that little seed in the in a black boy’s head to make him think differently from what other people have told him outside an influences how what is really going on in that process what
What’s give us some insight into that moment well you know brother Elijah is what you call in Ethiopia a jna uh and jna is hard to you know to translate it but it’s a man who loves his community will protect his community will die for his community and who builds his
Community and and I can tell by what brother Elijah is saying he has a comprehensive view of the black community and he wants to do something more about it you know it’s hard to say what triggers you know you know there’s a term in Psychology called neant and uh
Charles Thomas talked about how there’s triggering moments in black people’s lives that he called an aggressing and it can be a pivotal event in my life it was reading black boy when I was in the eighth grade and after I read that book things just shifted you know the whole
World and then reading uh Francis Chris welling’s book the Isis paper those books just shifted me and sometime it can be an experience it can be an event I heard brother Elijah say after the Freddy gray uh murder in this in Baltimore and those are the types of
Events that trigger people one a white psychologist calls this a Pacer and I think that black folk you don’t make them or you don’t create them they just happen and it triggers in you a Consciousness for Malcolm for example it happened when he was in prison so it
Doesn’t have to happen in school can be on the playground it can be somewhere and so uh brother Elijah reflects the best of what a is all about Wow Wow That’s Heavy that’s a great compliment there bro that is an awesome compliment look Brothers we got to take a quick
Pause when we come forward let’s continue to talk about this plus I got some comments from our online culture Crew That’s checking in from around the country folks stay with us we’re continuing the conversation with Dr Ray Winbush brother Elijah miles and certainly you as we are had our final
Conversation for the culture’s black men Summit redefining and celebrating black manhood I could not end this conference any other better way than having these dope Brothers joining me to talk about black men in family and Community Life folks so stay with us the conversation continues on the other side right here
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My life I’m going to make your life a living h Folks welcome back to the cultures black men Summit where we’re redefining and celebrating black manhood I’m your host for Raji Muhammad we’ve been talking about black men in family and community life and I have two Dy black men joining me today for this special conversation the last conversation for our Summit
Joining us has been Dr Ray Winbush who serves as the author of the book The Warrior method how to raise black boys he’s also professor and researcher at Morgan State University and also joining us is brother Elijah mes who is an activist and founder of the nonprofit organization the tendere family and he’s
Doing some Dynamic work as an alumni of Moran State University so let’s just go to show you what kind of power was coming out of MSU but doc let me just first talk about something that I think a lot of people tend to lean on which is policy and institutionalizing certain
Type of um policy right there is I know that there is the US House of Representative member uh representative Federal Federica Wilson of Florida’s 24th district she organized with the support of omegas a policy talk uh involving the fraternity and researchers and other black men to create the Congressional
Commission on the social status of black men and boys which is planning to produce some research that looks at the disparities and misconception around black men um she made this point that she said this she said think about how this group speaking of Brothers was dogged by the school to prison pipeline
Mass incarceration Health disparities and continuing to shower the gun violence epidemic spends more time with their children than other groups of men so she’s outlining all of these challenges yet there still needs to be some policy around debunking some myths and really raising and acknowledging black men how important is it DOC that
We do have policies or do have commissions like this in the big scheme of things is this the direction we need to go or do we need to take another approach to at least change the the conversation about black men and and Community well you know I think you know
Commissions are good uh you know the CBC meeting every September is good but you know the fact of the matter for Raji is that we know everything about black boys and black men there’s not anything about black people that we don’t know the issue is how to implement it how as you
Said to turn it into policy and then follow through on that policy I’ve been on State commissions here in Maryland where we studied the black man for a year or two we do you know put out a shiny report and it gets put on the Shelf because nobody has the guts you
Know to be very honest to implement it through legislation uh there’s groups in Baltimore uh uh like leaders of the black struggle that they focus on uh uh uh policy relating to Black Folk but we need that at the federal level as well as the state level um you know I’ve just
Been put on the uh as you know another one of my you know passions is the issue of reparations for absolutely people and uh I just been put on the uh Baltimore City Council uh Commission on reparations I’m very interested in you know policy and I think that I I tell
All black organizations that they ought to have a lobbyist they need to be down in the state of Maryland and Annapolis doing something to change the system you know um again we’ve got a lot of commissions we’ve got books and and pamphlets and just you know almost encyclopedic knowledge about black
People but when it comes to implementing things that will make a difference in our community we lack that and that takes guts and then that’s what we saw with even with President Obama with the Brothers Keepers campaign and and organization he was trying to institutionalize some things I know in
The city of Baltimore under former May cathine Pew she institutionalized the uh africanamerican uh male leadership initiative creating an whole office of uh uh that’s completely dedicated to black men uh achieving in the city of Baltimore and so some people say this is this is necessary this is this should be
Done and brother Elijah you work on the ground you’re in the Grassroots side of things right how important is is concretizing policy around the treatment around the perception of black men how important is that for you in your work ah it’s completely important and we really support organizations and
Entities that’s doing it so when Dr Ray uh Winbush is talking about lbs oh man they’re excellent organization and what I love about lbs and organizations like lbs is that they really stand for black people and and they’re un they’re unbridled by by the other interest
Groups that are in Annapolis and and in other places and so we definitely need policies and we need organizations um and we need to fund those those organizations that’s doing that so that they can stay free and working for our benefit uh and so lbs
Does a great job of that uh the air the mayor’s office of African-American male engagement with Dr buley do a great job job of of on the groundwork uh with black men and boys and I think yeah policy has to happen I think uh I think
It’s um I’m forgetting his name but it’s a mayor that said this one time that basically what the policy makers and the Mayors and the politicians are supposed to do is give us cover fire so that the organizations can do what we do within community so Grassroots and policy got
Go hand in hand and so when you’re on the ground doing your work the ability your ability to do your work on on another level has to be supported by those people that’s in those places and if they and if we don’t have people in those places we have to force those
People in those places do do what the black community needs them to do that’s right absolutely yeah and the other go ahead doc I’m sorry go ahead brother real quick with Elijah is so important you know you know you see white folks they’ll have like one issue campaign
Like they said do you support the uh Second Amendment uh are you forward against abortion uh do you want a balanced budget we have to start asking our elected officials not the ones who are running for office but those who are already in office whether or not they
Give cover fire the way Elijah just said so we’ve got to hold those who are getting elected accountable to do and implement the policy that we talk about on the in the barber shop on the street corner but they have to be the ones to implement and we’ve got to hold them
Accountable hey Dr Winbush I want to share this very quickly and then I want to get your tape micle Spicer you said we don’t need any more studies on black men black families Etc like the professor said we need implementation at this point absolutely I remember having
A conversation just on this show and and other spaces doing brother Elijah where I’m like you know if we look at the past 40 years 50 years in this country there have been more marches black folks have marched more times than I think of any group of people we’ve come up and Dr
Wimbush you know this because you’ve been a part of these conversations more National agendas I mean whole books whole books of IDE and I mean these ain’t terrible ideas you’ve been a part of those conversations where you had literally hundreds of organizations that have convened today over the past 25 30
Years I’m thinking from the Million Man March even from the great March on Washington all of this stuff all of these recommendations and I feel like these are good ideas that are just sitting as you say sitting on the shelves but we’re the first to talk
About the moam report said this or we pull up some the PE research of the Brookings Institute which is fine but you do have credible recommendations on how to address all of those issues that are laid out in those other pieces of data and I’m trying to say how is it
That we have this dis connect if we know that black men are in trouble in a crisis moment why do we keep going back and saying we we are the answers we got the answers look at history that’s right we we already have the I I said the end of warrior method
You know enough of you know we need to have a door return to what has kept us see if I was a white supremacist the first person that I would attack would be the black male because he is the progenitor of all human Humanity with black women and see that’s
The threat it’s the nature of the threat uh that a lot of us have talked about you know I think sometimes be honest with you just straight up that uh a lot of black elected officials they’re just comfortable being an elected official and they count on the fact that their
Constituents won’t hold them accountable for some of the things that they need I have never met a black elected official that does not know about the plight of the black male and and instead of just you know reciting the data over and over again or saying we need another
Commission or another study to do that then you say what can we do in terms of legislation that’s very important very important look we got to take another quick pause when we come forward I want to talk about something that I think we often don’t talk about Dr Win Bush I
Need to get your psychological expertise on this because as much as black men are going through these challenges the other thing is is that black men are in a state of loneliness and this is not just affecting black men this is also affecting men in general that there is a
High rate of male loneliness in this country where men do not feel emotionally supported do not have friends and they have even gone as far to say there’s a friendship deficit among men so brother Elijah want to get your take on as well because when you’re talking about building the family there
Has to be a Brotherhood there has to be a space to be supported so we’re going to have that part of the conversation up next folks as we continue in our discussion about black men and family and community life here on the black on on the culture’s black men Summit where
We’re redefining and celebrating black manhood stay with us you’re tune in to the culture here on the Blackstar Network wo peace I’m faraji Muhammed host of the culture and brothers we need to talk there’s been much discussion about the state of the black man in our community
Whether it’s in politics education or in the home my brothers we are struggling to lead the way which is why the culture will be hosting the black men Summit will be redefining and celebrating black manhood this special series will kick off on the 28th anniversary of the historic Million Man March on Monday
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Summit redefining and celebrating black manhood starting Monday October 16th through Friday October 20th 400 p.m. eastern Time Each Day right here exclusively here on the Blackstar Net All right folks welcome back to the culture’s black men Summit where we redefining and certainly celebrating black manhood um this is our final installment of this week’s uh special Series where we’re talking about black men in their family and black men in community life and joining me has been
Brother Elijah miles who’s an act AC and founder of the tendere family organization and brother Dr wi Ray Winbush who is the author of the book uh the warrior method as well as a researcher and professor at Morgan State University uh Brothers I want to kind of
Get your take on this because as I was you know we were preparing for the show and preparing for this conversation I did find that this is an issue that I don’t think we talk too much about which is that there is a high rate of male
Loneliness in this country just not just facing black men but facing a lot of men as well and what they call the Friendship deficit uh this is uh coming from a writer I want to just quote this writer who named by his name is Shannon Carpenter he’s a writer he’s author of
The book The Ultimate stay-at-home dad he’s a married father of three but he wrote this piece for CNN take a look at this folks he said this in the United States many men have become disconnected Ed from societal institutions that have anchored dads to each other and our community historically men have made
Long-term bonds through religious institutions and friendships at work our sense of worth derived from what we could provide our family he said what’s more men in today’s society May view deep relationships as not masculine thus further isolating themselves only 48% of men reported feeling satisfied with friend ship according to a May 2021
Survey by the survey Center on American life as previously reported by CNN and one in five men said they have gotten emotional support from a friend in the past week compared with four in 10 women brother we are at a state of Lo go ahead brother doc go ahead talk to me
Brother Elijah handled this one and then I’m G to say something about it go ahead okay y okay go ahead brother Elijah one of the things that makes me think about is that what we don’t understand what we think about enslavement and colonization and what we were robbed of is that we
Are thrust into a culture individualism in the culture individualism a man provides for his family his little nuclear family and he basically alone on a island but that’s not how we did things in our past and our African past uh we we came from a collective culture where men did their
Duties as men did their work as men and collectives and so in day of family we kind of we feel a bridge for that because in Tad family we have a Brotherhood and we’re not the first organization to have a Brotherhood but the reason we feel like it was needed to
Have a Brotherhood is based on what brother faraji was just laying out is that men need connection black men need con connection they need those common values and as our community moves away from the church the mosque is more atheist now than ever we still have to have Brotherhood and have community and
Have bonds we could trust I I meet too many black boys and and males that say man I don’t trust nobody it’s like you don’t trust nobody come on right so right it has to be Brotherhood and when we look at Minister Malcolm X who they present us as an individual or Mart
Luther King who they present us as an individual or even Garvey who they present us as an individual all of these people are of organizations and part of brotherhoods uh and in the work that they did was always done in community with other men and also women and so
Like Brotherhood is so so essential and so needed and whether you’re a nine to- five working black man A working class black man a white collar Blue Collar you we have to have these bonds of Brotherhood if we are to survive not just physically but psychologically and
As a real people in a real community so that’s what makes me come to mind that’s absolutely what I had in mind and Dr Winbush as a psychologist when black men when a man feels isolated when he feels disconnected he’s you know earlier in the week we talked about black men in
Politics when you when when we we reference how one brother down in Georgia says that he feels like he’s being ignored by both political parties like if we are out there on an island as black men then how then when we make the call for a black Mentor come together do
Something for their family do something for the community it’s a foreign call they don’t understand the language they don’t they can’t it doesn’t resonate with them and there’s a psychological impact of that right if a man can’t express himself he don’t feel supported nobody’s listening to him he’s a I would
Think doc he he he’s a a he’s a volcano waiting to explode well yeah the thing about it historically it’s been d dous for black men to talk about their feelings uh you could be killed if you told the the so-called Massa on a plantation look boss I’m working too
Hard I need to take a break then after enslavement they had lering laws even nowadays if you know you can be three or four black men standing on the corner just talking shooting the Bree no problem and cops will drive up you know and and just say what you doing it’s
Like we’re not supposed to associate with each other so I think that what happen men with themselves have to learn to talk about their feelings and men have to learn to talk about their feelings to our sisters as well because you know our sisters have to learn to
Listen we have to learn to listen to our sisters and sometimes there’s a gap in communication as a psychologist I’ve had many couples in therapy they just don’t talk to each other about anything substantive so sometimes I’ve told them have one night at the week you turn the
Television off you close your social media down and you talk to each other even if you have kids talk to the children with you as mother and father or whatever but a lot of times we just don’t encourage uh discussion among ourselves especially about our field and
And Doc very quickly you know my our sister late great sister uh Belle hook she put in that book the will to change when she said and I’ll never forget reading this and when you talked about one of the books that Chang your life the will to change just just completely
Change my life brother brother Reay but she said that when a man does open up women particularly black women get afraid don’t know how to handle it because because one if a man shows his vulnerability it shows a side of weakness that black women are conditioned to believe that black men
Don’t have because of everything upse from patriarchal systems and whatnot so women don’t know how to handle that as much as women are saying look I want a man that’s emotionally mature emotionally intelligent a man that’s in tune with his emotions can you handle the emotions of a man who feel powerless
Outside in the world or when he comes home he feels like he doesn’t have too much of a say can you handle a man opening up about him uh feeling like what’s happening on the job he’s not getting enough money whereas you’re making more
Money than he is and he doesn’t f so how do how do how do you resolve that because we know that that can open the Pandora’s Box down to everything from domestic violence and abuse to to child abuse I mean there’s a lot that could potentially happen in the wrong
Direction well it is I could remember real quick you know conducting this male Fe black male female seminar a couple years ago uh in fact it was down at the Reggie Lewis library downtown and this sister stood up and said look I really want to know what do black men feel you
Know I want to you know somebody just tell me and on the other side of the room this brother was ready to stand up to tell her that and then this other sister stood up and said they don’t know what you know they their own feelings I
Don’t know why you listening to black men and see to get out of that and so the brothers looked at me like you see what I’m talking about you know we’ve got to encourage each other to tell about our feelings to tell how we feel
And it is it does open up a Pandora box and both black men and black women have to be able to you know deal with that to it and sometime we need to Simply listen more than we need to talk about stuff we really do absolutely absolutely I love
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Family and community life with two Dynamic brothers who I have nothing but love and great respect for Dr Ray win Bush who is a professor research and author of the book The Warrior method and my brother brother Elijah miles who is an activist and the founder of to
Their family uh organization and brother Elijah it is you brother and I think doc can uh agree with mean that when we see you you’re carrying the torch you’re carrying the mantle I saw I see I’ll be watching you brother Elijah I I see you and follow you on social media first let
Me just tell y’all very quickly brother Elijah you need to what’s your social media handle because you been you’re putting out some fantastic content and then I gotta talk to this other brother on this other side who’s dropping Jewels every day I’m we GNA talk to brother uh Dr
Winbush but brother Elijah what’s the social media for the work that you’re doing and and how you moving about oh you can follow our organizations page Tunda family T ndea family t n DEA family or you can follow me at chairman Elijah chairman Elijah eii J ah um yeah yeah happy to be
An inspiration social media is is where the kids is at now so it’s where everyone’s at so got to get that’s true y you got to get a all right Dr WI Bush come on now you drop Jewels y drop Dr wimbush drops Jewels about everything from what’s happening in
Israel and I got to bring you back on because doc I need to let people you need to talk about this Israel Hamas situation but more importantly um how people can learn from the work that you’re doing well you know you can reach me on mainly on Facebook uh Ray windbush
Just look me up on Facebook there we go and there we go I don’t use and Twitter anymore I’m trying to migrate away from that Shooter’s like a I mean I said the fraudi and slip was shooter but uh Twitter is kind of like a shooting in a
Wild Gallery but I’m r windbush on shooter see I see Twitter’s become a mess but uh I I hey look hey look brother hey Doc I appreciate that hey look uh I saw this piece of you doc brother Elijah that I think that this this kind of encapsulate
The the the the whole week that we have that we do want to have black men who are active and engaged and I saw this video and I want to play this video of you as you’re doing the great work that you’re doing for T family in the streets
Of Baltimore take a look folks as long as there’s a murder and a shooting on Morgan State campus there’s still more work to do that’s right as long as there is a president d That’s being killed there’s still work to do as long as there’s over 300 murders in
Baltimore City every year most of them black people there’s still more work to be done and each and every one of us have to use our skills our talents our resources our money to push the black community forward because things have to get better there’s no reason that we
Live in a community occupied by mostly black people and we got Elders that’s on the corners we got young people that’s on the corners but many of these businesses a non-black own right there’s no reason for that there’s no reason we in a majority black City and yet our
Kids are still being miseducated that when I say Garvey I see a black stab because you haven’t been taught about Garvey there’s no reason for that right and so it’s still more work to be done but we who are at Morgan we who are young people we who still got life and
Still believe because it may be residents right now that don’t believe that this neighborhood can change that Baltimore city can change so us that still believe we got a duty we got a duty to them we got a duty to ourselves we got a duty to our family we got a
Duty to our community but most of all we got a duty to the Future Generations yet to come that will inher this mess unless we clean it up powerful stuff hey look I was looking for a way for something to to to end this part of the conversation and I thought this is
The perfect way to do it because you are a brother who is moving us further along brother and even though I’m not that much older than you I see so much of of I see so much in you so while you’re doing your work there in the streets Dr
Wimbush is doing his work on the college campus I’m doing my work in media this is exactly the type of multi- approach that we have to have in order to save and make sure that we we we redefine what it means to be black men and we
Celebrate Black manhood in a very very positive way so I just wanted to give you that love and that shout out for that brother because you’re doing some excellent work I want to as I close out can I show the pictures just throw some pictures up here look look I can’t I’m
Wearing this shirt that says dope black dad y’all don’t see it this was this was a designed by the mother of my children big shout out to her n Muhammad she she yes yes yes yes she did this she look let me tell you there’s nothing like
Choosing the right woman to have a child with that’s right that’s right that makes all the difference in the world I’mma tell y’all that makes all the difference Dr Win BL you know it you talked about it you you write about it brother Elijah you on have with your
Wife your queen it makes all the difference in the world that you choose the right woman to understand your role your power your future so let me throw up my children up here man cuz see that is nothing but love let let me just y’all these are the two little humans
That I’ve been blessed to take look at this this is Nigel and niana here we go there we go that’s Nigel my son 10 years old full of life his little sister and we teach every day to show them to have love for each other and and let’s start
The other one here’s can we do the other one Keen real quick can we can we can we do that where where all the dope black dads in the chat I see democra democra you you say there some dope black dads in the chat I I want to see all the
Black dads man dope black dads dope black men celinda you said men need love compassion and understanding just like women fantastic there they are that’s my children y’all this is the future that’s right Dr Win Bush thisen you talk look look this is this is what we raising man
I remember when he was born boy this man just congratulate I love to see young black children and good black father you know raising them up beautiful brother Elijah I know you’re GNA be making that that you’re gonna be going down that path whatever time frame that happens brother but trust me
Believe you ain’t see the announcement so my wife is pregnant with our first child get out of here Brother come on man come come on there we go praise be to the god brother there we go congratulations congratulations look man this is exactly what we’re talking about
Big shout to all of the black black men all of the fathers in the chat I see my pastor Pastor Damon blet Standing Tall Black dad um who else Jana on Amen Karena you said congratulations uh uh who else is checking in man let me just tell y’all
There are so many black men in this country that care that want to do right that we are on we are making the best decisions possible Dr Winbush in this crooked ass system that we are part of right and so you know as we started at the beginning of this week honoring
Acknowledging the great 28th anniversary of that historic Million Man March that happened 28 years ago at the beginning of this week on October the 16 2023 the day of that day that day changed my life forever and now we’re ending with having this conversation I got brother Elijah who is just falling
Right into the line what guidance can you offer Dr Winbush whatever guidance you can say what guidance what recommendations do you offer us as black men and as black women and as a as a people on how to move forward well as an educator I always in my speeches by
Saying read at least 30 minutes a day something about Black Folk we need to deepen into our history we need to deepen into our culture but just read 30 minutes a day that’s all that is something about black folks something about Black Folk that’s what I’m talking
About that’s real quick for I’ve been so surprised this week with this war going on that black folk don’t even know or not all black folk but many black folk have asked me well I thought Israel was been here for a thousand years they don’t know about the creation of the
State and that stuff is very important for us as Black Folk to know the history of black Palestinian relationships in this right and that’s why we going to have to have a separate conversation to have to have you be a part of and I would love to get
Your take on that Dr Bush brother Elijah mes I cannot thank you enough for being with us for this final part of this conversation you brothers are inspiration you are a light and more importantly y’all are so important critical and good for the culture I cannot thank you enough brother Elijah
Whatever you need from us and supporting the work that you’re doing just you know you can just shoot me a text Dr Win I got to have your expertise back on to give us some insight on to this but I thank you Brothers for being a part of
This final conversation for the black men’s the cultures black men Summit where we’re redefining and celebrating black manhood thank you so much brothers thank you too thank you brother absolutely absolutely folks that’s going to do it for me I thank each and every one of you I thank each and every one of
You for being a part of the conversation what what I got something in here there we go let me move this out there there we go uh folks I thank you all so much for for joining us this has been a phenomenal week phenomenal week and I
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