And i’m just like no i have the proof to prove it honey okay okay i’m so upset about this i can’t even say myself okay hi guys welcome back to the channel welcome back to the video it is deja and i am back with another video honey what’s good was
Poppin today i’m here with two beautiful ladies um they’re gonna introduce ourselves but today we’re gonna be answering them or asking them some questions and they’re gonna be answering for you guys so you guys want to introduce yourself you can um i’m lex um i am
Obviously a delta i crossed fall 18 at illinois state university favorite delta chapter i’m gonna share y’all hey okay so i’m gonna be answering or i keep answering i’m gonna be asking you guys some questions and we can just go you know and uh whatever order you want to okay so the first
Question is what are four things that made you want to join your organization let me just talk about um okay so four things for me i’ll say obviously it was for sure the service um and i had deltas in my family including my nana so
I grew up watching that so it was really like a no-brainer for me um so obviously um the service um seeing the sisterhood that came with it um the business like the networking the connections you make not even just from the sorority alone but even just like the d9 itself
A lot of connections are made with that and fourth thing um it definitely i think the memories that come with the two absolutely oh girl oh okay come on shoes it was definitely the service i did a lot of community studies growing up starting elementary school only because um
My eighth grade teacher was a dancer so she took us like the girls in my class to like a lot of community service they need in the city so that would open my eyes like okay to bring back a little bit you know um it wasn’t just that yeah i don’t even
Like people for real so that’s not one of them but yeah it was a service um i want to say service the connections and networking that was really a big thing to me how you could network in the dna just the dna general it doesn’t have to be your organization’s specifically
Oh what else i can say the same thing she said wise okay i guess i mean she said everything but i mean i can talk about my the chat that i joined oh when i came to niu uh i wasn’t really thinking about going greek and uh i’m just like i transferred in
And i’m like let me help you get my degree and go cause like i don’t want to be at school for 5 plus years four plus years since he was trying to figure out what i’m gonna do but like the woman on the campus um that she goes
When i first came to school they was really welcoming they was really you know um community service wise they was doing a lot of stuff on campus that really opened my eyes and they were really sweet um do you feel like greek life is overrated now like currently do y’all think
I won’t say it’s overrated but i go laugh when i i feel like a lot of greek life became like real lame lately like it’s a lot of people that joined for cloud people it was lambs before they steal lames with the letters and then just you know i just see a lot
Of just kind of especially with like social media too social media i feel like ruined a lot of greek life so yeah yes and no only because i feel like like let’s just say i feel like people be joining just to join something like i just feel like y’all don’t even
Know the history behind why greek life started um my pleasure started a lot of people don’t know and we now don’t even know who was the first pledge class the organization that plays first in the demand and it’s just like i’ll be listening i’ll be hearing stuff like
I’ll be wanting to ask people certain questions and they don’t need knowing that you’re scared i’ll be looking slow like you know like my phone is not making me right away because i’m supposed to know this information like it’s just like i don’t know and i feel like it’s not
Social media it just brought a lot of i don’t know a lot of fraudulent yeah to like because now everything we do in real life it’s not discrete anymore it’s like it’s supposed to be the street of me because i don’t know i just feel like i don’t
Know people be knowing too much information too much information they should wait like like y’all should not know you’re not even indeed why do you know this like how do you know this like i just feel like i don’t know it’s different now absolutely okay did you ever want to
Join another organization and the only reason why i asked because like y’all know i know for girls like if a girl say oh i wanted to be uh an aka and then she ended up joining zeta and then she says that publicly a lot of people would be like oh well you
Couldn’t get in this organization so you settled yeah i definitely see a lot of that where people are like oh she said she’s exactly or like she couldn’t get in so she just joined whatever accepted her have you got not saying that you guys been in that situation but have you ever
You know like freshman year another organization may have sparked your interest or something like that but then you eventually came to the organization that you’re in now and was like no this is way better for me if not why um and if so what organization
Um so for me it was kind of like if i wasn’t going to be a delta i wasn’t going to be greek um and that’s just like with me personally i do have other groups in my family i have um two cousins that are akas but it was just for me
I just knew i wanted to be a delta um and like uh well you said you are you don’t want to join another organization so that was perfectly fine i was just wondering like if it was another organization which one because i know it was always okay like right
If it wasn’t delta then it wasn’t no other organization um but i know kyrie he had said like oh you know i went to a party and i saw the signal and i was like oh greek life and then he’s right then i saw the brothers and i’m like i wanna
You know be alpha whatever the case would be so yeah so um for me personally um i have doses in my family and i only have one instrument on my family and um it’s like i mean based on what they used to tell me and the way i
Saw for my own eyes what they did in greek life because none of them aren’t active only one of my cousins is active and she crossed 5 17. i was just like why would i want to be great and y’all not even acting like yeah i don’t even do
Anything like i mean y’all have all these problems in the shop because they call each other ls’s in other in other regions illinois we say ships so it’s like you know they also stuff they used to be like all these problems but like i don’t think i want to be greek like i
Don’t think i don’t i don’t think i’m gonna do it but when i came to niu you know and i’ve seen all the greeks you know and i was like okay let me get a little bit of research people change their opinions a lot but you know like i would never fault
Anybody for changing their mind or trying to embarrass anybody because you know maybe they didn’t do the right research because when you get on campus you come to school like i’m forgetting aka i’m going to do delta i’m going to do that i’m going to use
On campus and you meet them girls and they change your whole outlook on the whole organization it would ruin everything for you yeah there’s some people that have had negative experiences with them and they’re like you know what i don’t know i actually never man i’m cool on it like
Yeah have chosen to not go greek in general because of that or they ended up deciding to look into another org because a particular incident or running with a like a person a chapter and they’re like oh no they ain’t and that’s the man too like i don’t have
A lot of stories for guys and they was interested in one thing and they end up doing a whole nother order so i know for me like i did not have the best experience with my chapter that i crossed it but i knew that the organization was bigger than
Just that one chapter and a lot of people don’t understand that they’ll be like oh my goodness well i’m not going to do it because this person ain’t like that that person’s going to live rent free in my head and i knew like the goal was to become an aka i’m
Not going to like let that stop me because it’s sisterhood outside of just this chapter you know what i’m saying for real because like when i was joining i was literally so upset because i didn’t like anybody on my mind like i’m very public with that on my channel like
Nobody in that chapter just because it was just a whole bunch of stuff that i was like no we’re not here for this this is not what sisterhood is um and i was just like after i graduate i’m just like well everybody must be like that but then as i
Became more mature and i came across more akas i was like oh you’re not like this person how i met so i know the organization is bigger than just what it is you know so that’s even what my nana like has kind of told me too but she’s like
One thing to always remember is how your chapter is like really just like really a crumb of the whole pie when it comes to it and that was something that i also thought about too with it okay yeah um how did you okay so for girls because obviously we know everybody does
Not want to be an aka people want to be in different organizations and i’m just speaking for the aka aspect on my channel so the reason why i wanted to bring you guys is because other people want to join greek life and they want to be in your organization or your organization
What would you advice would you give the young girls who want to join your organization um especially when showing interest especially during this time you know with corona and everything like that like what is your advice and then can you touch also on how you showed interest when you were going out
For your organization um okay so one thing i will say which i mean everybody will always say it’s like do your research but like honestly research is important like you really need to do your research um i would say as far as a reaching out aspect because especially now with like colvin
Things are a little different um and i know like for me personally especially like with covid and then we talked about like social media um kind of be careful with social media and if you’re going to talk to somebody i would say like also do that discreet
Like you know you can like kind of slide in the dms but just like hey how are you and then like can can we have like a conversation like you know kind of you know don’t force it exactly be relaxed um but yeah like also always be proud with that because i had
A girl and i never like it wasn’t one of those were like i didn’t get on her ass or nothing about it but there was actually a girl who tagged me on twitter one day and said she was interested in delta and i immediately was like take this down like
And it’s like i guess some people are joking you don’t be knowing yeah people don’t know that and that’s the other thing that i also had to learn too is that certain people just really don’t know no better and because of how so much stuff is on social media or greek life now
Sometimes people think that it’s okay it’s okay to just do it so i was instantly like take this out like right now and you know and i just kind of gave it a whole lot do your research look at the national website um follow our chapters pages that’s
Where we post like everything as far as like with events and things that we’re going to do with that um so yeah i think that’s kind of like the biggest ones but it’s definitely like just a different age exactly oh i feel so bad because and a lot of them
They don’t have people in their life that is in a greek organization but i think when that happens it’s like they only see the letters and they don’t try to like you know go to youtube or go to some you know what i’m saying like like they don’t try to make the relationships
Genuine either when they try to like come and talk to y’all or come and talk to us like oh like hey how do i do this or something like that like you know like i had this one girl she was just like i really want to have a mentor
Um that’s an aka but how do i go about asking her to be my mentor i’m like well you don’t know her from adam and it could come off like you only want me to be your mentor so i can ensure you a spot in my organization you know what i’m saying okay Um so one thing i tell people is to do their own research i have four different mentees who i still mentor one is alpha heaps actually on your last on your last on your last video with outfits um my other mentees none of them wouldn’t be an sgo none of
Them and i don’t have a problem with that so i’ll be telling them like do your research research all your organizations because you may think like i want to do this like i said earlier about and i’ll tell you about my experiences the way they stole you like the way they stole but
Do you know their history do you know what they say what they stand for do you know like what they do charter the child history of the chapter you’re trying to you know you’re interested in make sure you do that research and follow up and then one thing i
One thing i’ll tell a lot of people is that don’t be overly thirsty especially if especially if like you being too thirsty like that they’ll irritate them like i know mario’s got this going on like it’s this one girl she just thirsty she’s always coming up to them
It’s kobe girl like relaxed like six feet like she’s it’s not that serious like we know we see you you know i mean you know people say d9 don’t recruit now they say that nowadays but in a way we kind of do in my opinion i feel like in the way we
Kind of do because we all come to you we’ll ask you to come to like a study session we’ll ask you or we’ll stand you right here this is the flyer because i know some words do that yeah so it’s like don’t be overly thirsty just be
You know chill with it they know you’re interested you told one person in the chapter it’s going to be that bad everybody everybody don’t like it like you know yeah i don’t want to do your research and you know not being overly too thirsty and make sure you’re going to like the
Event stuff with kobe everything is virtual it’s not that hard sign up log in make yourself look presentable exactly sometimes they ain’t gonna let actually presentable and watch your shopping on social media because y’all be well sometimes i mean i do i’m in my boys now
From time to time but it’s like there are certain things where i have seen from like girls so i know their interests and it was just like one i would have never posted this when i was an interest but also and i’m like when i post this now
Or even it’s just like i don’t know it’s kind of like yeah okay how do you guys feel about white people or people who are not black joining your organization oh yeah i didn’t say nothing um okay so this one is kind of a it’s a funny one for me one
I have a white pro fight got you she’s springtime one she’s actually one of my favorite professors really like yeah she’s just one of the she’s honestly one of my favorite people just across the board not even on like just delta wise just across the board like she’s very
Um like she’s just really like in tune with herself but also like she’s very about her service she’s very um she’s very unproblematic and she’s also one of those people she does not take up space gotcha if that makes sense yeah um so it’s one of those where it’s like
These orbs were designed for black people even though it’s like no we do not discriminate but it’s like also when you have non-black people come in these orgs is kind of like okay you know it it’s one of those where i think you got to be like a little bit
More careful with them and it’s just like a natural instinct for us to be more careful like what are you really trying to black women yeah it’s like what are you really trying to come here for but it’s also just the i feel like they also need to
Know like even though you know we do not discriminate but the these orgs were still created by us for us for a reason exactly so kyrie definitely said something he was just like well you know uh one of his pro fights or his charter members actually
Was a white man yes so he was like i see it differently but you know it’s just i think it’s just how it’s being perceived yeah it’s one of those for like i definitely understand i understand the perspective of other d9 groups who are completely against it and it’s just like for me
Because of the fact of like one because my grandpa is one of kyrie’s charter members so they started this you know they started that chapter together so it’s like seeing that perspective and then having um my pro fight and then also like i’m not with my
My mother’s not black yeah so for me it’s kind of like you know i i get it gotcha so [Applause] um honestly um my opinion is like i’m not trying to be rude to any other you know because i and my organization as well
Um not trying to be rude but i just feel like um half the times i feel like these individuals are not alleys so people of color specifically black people only because i feel like they draw others that’s just to get clout because they know what type of um atmosphere
Or what type of um outlook this our organization’s friends because these organizations that should be funny y’all don’t bring them to y’all campuses like y’all don’t already be doing nothing oh and on you campus i don’t see no white organizations no greek organizations on my campus i do anything other than
Party get drunk and do this any day and um it really be the multicultural organizations and of course the dna they really be doing all the community service from what i say but that’s just niu in my yard i don’t know what anybody else do
Yeah yeah i just feel like i don’t know like we created these spaces for black people y’all didn’t want to say y’all works why are y’all trying to join our organizations that’s just how i feel not trying to be you know these are not the opinions not speaking for our organization this
Is our own opinion so please don’t yet because people people are even trying to be coming maybe they need very loud comments let me try to come for you shots fired all the time all the time oh [ __ ] i’m i don’t even know but you know what she’ll be thinking about like how
Social media can trade somehow like especially when you see like how when you especially i feel like lately with white people that have came in our organizations and when they post like certain pictures they just go viral instantly because i feel like a lot of people are so
Amazed at a white person in a historically black organization but thank you guys so much for watching this video i will have all the information down below um so you guys can go and follow them don’t forget to like comment and subscribe and i will see you guys in my next video
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