Alikum YouTube Welcome to the first installment in a series of videos that I’ve been wanting to make for a very long time in fact it’s almost been a year now since I conceived this idea of making a series about the Companions and in fact I have notes from last year as
Well but I wasn’t really able to articulate my thoughts as effectively as I can now and even now my my articulation is very poor but uh I still have a lot of thoughts that I want to share regarding this so what is the companion series what is the be likee
Companion series why am I why am I making this and why am I making this right now well the purpose of this series is basically to dissect deconstruct and uh explain to you some of the characteristics and the traits of the Great Men of the past most notably the
Companions the companions of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam and the reason why I want to do this is because as you know in the modern world we’re battling many enemies we’re battling many ideologies like Hedonism degeneracy and many most most modern young men have fallen victim to these
Things and I believe that in order to become a proper man you need to espouse the qualities that the companions used to espouse because they were true masculine men and they embodied the pro the prophet the proper Islamic masculinity right and obviously the greatest ran for us is sallam but the
Reason why I’m not making a video on him is because that would be too extensive right and also all of the companions you’ll note in subsequent videos as well all of the companions are very unique right there’s not two companions that are exactly the same or and all of them
Have very very different qualities and and all of them have some qualities that are more striking than the others and I want to discuss those in kind and I will right and I believe these qualities are especially necessary to have as a man it’s imperative right and
If you’re if you’re a young man you’re looking for direction and you don’t know what to do and you don’t have a role model right most it’s it’s saddening to admit but a lot of a lot of modern fathers are not as good as Role Models as they could be
Or as they should be right they’re not good Role Models so who do you turn to then you can’t turn to people online you can’t turn to uh online gurus because you can’t trust any of them you can trust history however you can trust the companions because the
Companions were not W weren’t anything without s alai wasallam and all of us 1,400 years later we’re nothing without the companions right it’s the companions it’s their it’s their struggle and the way they strived because of which that we are Muslims today so we owe a lot to
Them and even now I am benefiting from them by studying their lives right now I want to make clear this is not going to be a sermon there’s not going to be a of any sorts because I’m not a Sheikh I’m not an IM I’m not a scholar or anything
Uh this is not going to be a history lesson either right I will not be discussing the lives of these companions in depth which sounds counterintuitive how can I be making a video about the Companions and I’m not going to be even discussing the lives of these people
Well the reason is simple you already know the lives of the Companions and you already know them because you’ve studied the lives and you’ve heard the stories when you grow up right you all know about Abu Bak you all know about and you know about the qualities of these Great
Men uh you know you know about them right my purpose here is to single out those qualities right and understand how these people responded to certain situations that arised in their lives and how you can apply these qualities in order to become a better man and it’s
Not necessary for me to go to history for that right I will be mentioning a Hadith uh when relevant but I will not be going into into indepth detail as to what specifically happened the specific events that happened and you’ll understand as I go on these videos are
Going to be a bit long they’re probably going to exceed 10 minutes right so if you have uh if you have a problem with your attention span I suggest you get that fixed first because uh the videos will be dry but they’re going to be very beneficial for you right because I
Believe these points are very nuanced and they’re very complex and I can’t shorten them cuz then I leave so much treasury of knowledge so why did I choose Abu Bak that’s the first question well obviously not only was he the first khif but the argument can be made in my
Opinion he was the first companion uh of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam right it’s only fitting that if I’m going to make a video about if I’m going to make a series about the companions right then it’s only fitting that I should start with one trait that I believe
Every man should have which is the ability to be a good companion the ability to be a good friend to other people just the way Abu Bak was to the prophet Muhammad wasallam and to the other Companions and it’s very important for us to know this because companionship
And Brotherhood is something that’s lost in the um right it’s very scattered right because because we’ve it’s like we’ve globalized so much that we’ve gotten really close but at the same time we’ve got really far away on a micro level right and especially you see this
When you go to universities or if you go to schools or colleges what whatever you’ll notice that there’s there isn’t that Brotherhood you don’t feel that Brotherhood for your friends anymore and I want to revive that and it’s very important to uh revive that because as
You know the enemies of Islam they want us to be disunited they don’t want us to be to have this Brotherhood this Unity among us and it and it’s sad because we hate each other it’s it’s very clearcut we are suspicious of one another and I
Want to remove that right at least I want to attempt to remove that may Allah help me so how can you be a good companion right how can you what are the qualities that you should have in yourself that would make you a good comp companion that would be that would make
You more like companions themselves right uh I have made a list of five qualities that I believe are very important and the the way this works is I think it’s five or six right I I’ve written five but there’s many points that are within those five so it’s
Probably more than five but uh the way this works is you first espouse espouse means to apply apply these qualities in your own self right and uh when you embody these qualities when you’ve embodied them then you seek out companions or you filter your own friends using these qualities as
Criteria right so you seek out other people who also have these qualities and you make them and you become friends with them that’s how friendships work and these are the friends that will benefit you the most right so the First Quality in a good companion is number one his presence reminds you
Of Allah and his demean or guides you to Allah right so if you’re the type of person who is more religious than your friends right because there’s always that one friend in a friend Circle that’s more religious right he he has a beard he regularly goes to uh the mosque
To pray right so that’s the kind of person that you want to be in your friend Circle you always want to uplift other people and you always want to guide your friends to the right path and the problem with this is that this can go two ways right number one you can
Become Arrogant with this which is the greatest risk right you don’t want to become what I like to call religiously arrogant in which you start to think that you’re better than others because you you may it it’s apparent that you pray more than them it’s apparent that
You give more s than them or that you’re you’re more righteous and you have more knowledge and it’s very very dangerous to become Arrogant with that sort of mindset and you probably might have noticed I’ve noticed a lot in my college that these so-called people they when
When it’s time for Salah they’ll be they’ll be yelling in the college it’s Salah time what are you guys doing that’s uh you’re supposed to come to Salah and there’s yelling all over the college right and the entire College knows it’s a time and you don’t want to
Be that kind of religious person in your friend Circle in fact your demeanor should guide other people and not your words right so don’t so my advice to people would be to not push their Dean onto others don’t push the religion onto other people because then you’ll just
Drive them away from it so the second quality is that his speech increases your knowledge right a a companion a good companion his speech should increase the knowledge of others right and I’ve noticed this a lot in most friend circles we speak too much right and we speak unnecessarily right and silence keep
Being silent is another quality that I will be expanding upon in future videos as well it’s a very important quality to have especially in Social settings because we burden other people with our speech right and if it’s not of use then you’re just wasting other people’s time
And this goes for joking as well right and I’ll be honest with you the reason why we have friends in the first place is so that we can joke around with them right we want to have a good time with our friends but the thing is when the prophet sallu Ali wasallam
When he sat with the companions right abaki he he didn’t joke around with them all the time can you imagine that can you imagine the companions Gathering under a tree and just cracking jokes all day I don’t think that’s the way Brotherhood should be you shouldn’t
Be tricksters you shouldn’t be a gang of of comedians right you should benefit others with your speech right so when you speak make sure that it benefits other people otherwise keep silent this is another saying of scholar that you should keep silent unless your speech benefits on the people otherwise you’re just wasting
Everybody’s time right the third quality if he sees you being neglectful he reminds you if he sees you remembering Allah he assists you right so when you see your friend right when you see your companion right he’s being neglectful he’s not praying he’s being stingy he’s not giving Sak he uses
Vulgar language don’t put him down right and most especially don’t mention his sins in front of others this is another important thing remind him of course you’re supposed to remind your friends about uh about regarding good deeds and regarding leaving off bad s but you’re not supposed to point that out in front
Of other people because that’s not the prophetic way because then you’re just going to make them feel bad and then they’re not your friend anymore right so so don’t put them down but do remind them and if you see them uh doing Sal if you see them attending their prayers
Regularly don’t put them down by saying oh but but you’re also committing this sin alongside it so it doesn’t matter it cancels it out don’t say that right in in fact help them praise your friends when they do something good that’s very important right praising your friends expressing your love for your friends
This is another point that I wanted to mention separately but I’ll just mention it here you need to express your love for your friends right right now this is probably the most suspicious part of the video but hear me out it’s okay to say to your friend I love you right but just
Make sure to add I love you for the sake of Allah right how difficult it is for you to look your friend in the eye and say I love you for the for sake of Allah right it’s not that difficult try it sometimes in fact you should try it
Every day and don’t just say it but here’s another thing it’s it’s something it’s very weird we want humans we want to hug each other we want to shake hands there’s a reason why human contact human physical contact is such a huge thing right and it’s so sacred in our religion
So when you’re with your friends hug them right and don’t just do that you know that side weird side hug thing that you do with your father right because it’s awkward to hug your father I get that but with your friends you can give them a bare hug and you should give them
A be hug right give your friends be hug and tell them that you love them for the sake of Allah because this is so important in fostering that Brotherhood this is so important in expressing your love for your friends because that’s how you grow as men that’s how you grow and
To all of my friends that are watching this I just want to say I love you for the sake of Allah guys the fourth quality is that he should be a person of intellect and he should have good character guys it’s very simple just don’t befriend idiots all right don’t
Befriend losers right and a lot of people they don’t understand this right and I’m not trying to be rude or anything but there are many people in this world that are generally losers right and it’s perhaps their fault their own fault or it could be the fault of society itself doesn’t really matter
Right and usually you find is that most of your friends are very immature as well right because most modern young men are immature and you don’t want to be friends with an immature person and you don’t want to be immature yourself and the reason why it’s bad to have immature
Friends is because number one they’re irresponsible they’re also lazy they’re unambitious right so when you try to go for when you try to shoot for the stars they’re going to they’re going to cling at you you know like crabs in a bucket they they’re they don’t want you to get
Out of the bucket right they’re going to pull you down and you don’t want friends like that you want friends who challenge you who who compete with you right and immature friends they don’t do that now there’s two solutions to this either you can try and help them right or you can
Just leave them right and I know most of you will go for the former option which is to help your friends and that’s a good thing but you have to understand that you can only help those who want to be helped and who want to help themselves right A lot of people when
You when you start giving them advice they get very defensive and even if you give them advice in like in a good gesture they’re going to be like they’re going to brush it off and you can’t help them and they’re going to wallow in Despair and these people you have to understand
Misery spreads faster than positivity right so even if you’re the most positive person you can be if your friends are miserable they’re going to spread that to you and you don’t want that right and it’s probably going to be painful letting go of some of the people
That you’ve shared memories with but if they’re not conducive to your own growth then you should leave them you should leave them it’s not that complicated right and the fifth and last one the good companion should not chase after the dun or the worldly life and this is
Most true especially for women as well because most because I believe we can all agree women are generally more consumer istic than men are even though men are men are consumeristic as well but women to a higher extent especially in in where I live in Pakistan where the
Malls are teaming with no other populace other than women that was a weird sentence but the malls are like teaming with women right and especially when when Black Friday or something or when there’s a huge sale you see women they’re just rushing in into the stores and they’re very consumeristic it’s like
I’m I’m seeing I’m seeing the jaws of capitalism just just clutch around the necks of these women and it’s sad right so if for the Sisters out there if you have friends that are very consumeristic they go to restaurants all the time right they go they go out too much and
They want to get and for the boys it’s like if your friends are uh inviting you to places like shisha lounges or vape hangouts or if you’re going to those places very often and you know that this lifestyle it’s hedonistic so you should avoid this at all costs you shouldn’t be friends with
Someone who chases after the L because then they’re going to drag you down a path of degeneracy it’s as simple as that now I’m not saying don’t meet up once in a while it’s always good to meet up but do so in a manner that’s conducive to everyone’s growth right so
For example me and the boys when we meet up we don’t just we don’t go to like barbecues and stuff stuff very often we do go to barbecues a barbecue once in a while is great but usually We Gather at the park we exercise we do some martial
Arts it’s really great and it and this type of stuff really helps in fostering the Brotherhood as well and fostering the Brotherhood is something I’ve repeated probably 10 times in this video but it’s very important right you need to be United with your friends you need to be a good companion and you’re
Probably wondering at the end of all this well where does Abu Bak come into this I haven’t mentioned him at all and the thing is I don’t even need to mention the qualities of that great companion may Allah be pleased with him because he already espouses all of these
Qualities right and all of the companions espouse this quality they were all great Companions and sure they’re they got into fights with each other right they got into disagreements I wouldn’t say fights they got into disagreements and uh even during the prophets Lifetime right but they were
United in a common cause right just like you you may argue with your friends right it’s you may disagree with them don’t cut off that friendship just because of an argument right right learn to forgive your friends as well that’s very important you should have good character and that sort of stuff builds
Character as well and don’t be hesitant to do acts of goodness in front of your friends as well if you’re embarrassed to do righteous acts in front of your friends then there’s something wrong with your friend Circle and uh that’s basically all all for this video I hope you benefited from
This do share it with your friends and uh you can you can be expecting other subsequent videos as well on all the companions I will be discussing so many more qualities that we as men should have and that’s not going to be the only part of this channel but the purpose is
To make a sort of a library of videos that you can you know like you can pull out of the shelf and just watch and benefit from that’s basically going to be the purpose of this Channel and um as for the audio quality if it’s bad don’t
Worry about it the thing is I have a mic but I can’t get it to work so I’m going to fix that by the next video inshallah and uh have a nice dayam alaykum
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