All he there Good All right everybody come on in come on in Happy Thanksgiving if you celebrate we are so happy that you all are taking some time out of your evening to spend with us welcome to day 23 of our 30-day Elegance boot camp I am Maggie you may know me as Maggie The Substitute Teacher
From my cooking channel where I like to cook sugar free dairy free and glutenfree free not today though yâall I ate some of everything and I am feeling it but Iâm having a good time with family uh Iâm also um very passionate about helping feminine women attract and
Keep the masculine man of their dreams Iâm all about food and femininity Lucy and I have created the finishing school for the Modern Woman it is an eight-week private sorry yâall there a little insect itâs an eight-week privately taught uh virtual Saturday school open to women of all ages we start again in
January so if youâre interested registration is open we would love to teach you if you know anyone who wants to perfect and refine their etiquette elegance and femininity Lucy would you like to introduce yourself itâs funny because my microphones are acting up right now and
Even my my mouth M I canât get it to work the right way anyway so yes my name is Lucy I have a channel where I basically teach Spanish and some from time to time I post some topics about Elegance femininity and how uh the Western world is
Being robbed out of our um femininity women in the western world have lost that so weâre trying to get back into relearning it or reusing it refreshing it and this is this is where we are and if you hear my dog in the background I started talking and she started crying
It never fails I swear these dogs anyway so yes looking forward to todayâs topic absolutely uh Lucy and I both have a Kevin Samuels connection sheâs a moderator on his channel I booked the session with him so we um we both were f of the late great Kevin samels and Iâm
Just imagining his you know that that sound on his soundboard all right I see you all coming in come on in so what are we doing so the Elegance boot camp is a 30 for 30 uh episode we were planning on doing 30 minutes we have so much
Engagement in the chat and we love it when you all communicate with us so we are reviewing a book called The Ultimate Elegance Guy this is from vivana Bena she is also a content creator her channel is woman of Elegance and I would highly recommend that you all follow her
She is woman of Elegance on all socials uh Facebook Instagram and YouTube so sheâs written this book and it is 30 things to start doing to begin your elegance journey and I reached out to her and sheâs given us permission to teach from her book so we we cover one
Topic per day if you would like your own copy of the book the link is in the description you you can get it itâs an instant download you can use code Elegance 20 for 20% off the book so you can have your own copy however if youâre
Part of our finishing school we have a very generous sponsor Brandon ljet who has made the book available for all of our students current and future so registration is open go to teachable moments withth maggie.com we start again January 6th all right so I am going to
Bring everybody up to speed as we have been doing with what we have covered if this is your first time here welcome so letâs go through these quickly we are coming down the path all right so this is November 1 through November 30th we started with the outside in make sure
You have a signature style ladies make sure your closet viin calls it a wardrobe make sure your closet is organized make sure your shoes and accessories complement what youâre wearing make sure your makeup and hairy I donât think for seeing this live presentation you know what yeah I did
Something to my uh streamyard thank you for telling me Lucy I need to click this button okay my apologies everyone thank you I was playing around and what does that button do well now I know all right okay ladies so some of you all have already seen
This but we talked about your signature Style your closet your shoes and accessories your makeup and hair make sure youâre always neat and smelling nice your grooming your posture then we moved into conversation etiquette because how we communicate is a big part of being elegant make sure you listen more than
You speak make sure you think before you talk make sure you speak articulately when you do but donât share everything ladies an elegant woman has a little bit of mystery to her make sure you watch your body language so you donât give off any of those those nervous ticks and
Clicks make sure youâre well read so you can be versatile and smart in any environment then we moved on to the dining edette food is a big part of life clearly I like to eat when you dine with others itâs important to know your table manners make sure you use those utensils
Correctly because they do have a purpose make sure when youâre reading when youâre in a restaurant you know how to read the menu and make sure you know the protocol for what happens when you eat out with others we spent a couple days talking about afternoon tea even though
It is a British tradition we have a lot of fun fun with it here in the state so we talked about afternoon tea we are in the relationship section of the El the ultimate Elegance guide we talked about choosing your mate wisely but donât lose who you are make sure you
Are bringing something to the table ladies yes we do receive but we should also give and yesterday we talked about not acting desperate because again we canât change them a man is who he he is all right so now let me see if I can bring up vivienâs book and we
Will pick up where we left off all right letâs see if I can do this properly here and make sure I come over to share so you all can see bring that up add uh oh there we go all right so again you all can download your own copy of the book
This is the book The Ultimate Elegance guide this is Vivien and so grateful sheâs allowed us to teach from her content the ultimate Elegance guide become elegant in 30 days and Lucy and I always say ladies youâve never arrived right we can always work on our Elegance
Um but you can get better because you can a you will age but you can age gracefully and uh we are here as older women and in our 40s and 50s to make sure you have the tools all right so before we begin yes weâre up to be
Trustworthy before we begin Lucy would you like to add anything not much I just think that todayâs topic is going to bring I hope that it can bring uh some chat in the chat box and good questions as well so looking forward to it absolutely ah goodness Iâm rough
Today all right so let us begin letâs see where are we with the uh being trustworthy what does Vivian say excuse me match your words with your actions have integrity and self respect be mature and dependable all right letâs unpack this ladies because sheâs saying a lot here match your words with your
Actions now I donât know sometimes I just feel like Iâm aging myself but but Iâm sure Lucy would agree there was a time when your words actually meant something your yes meant yes your no meant no um it just seems like it was so simple and now things have gotten so
Complicated espe especially in the relationship space thereâs so much game playing and people trying to outthink or outwit or outdo each other and I think itâs really hurt uh how wonderful relationships can be but this is something that will make you stand out and hereâs the thing ladies you donât
Have to explain why itâs a yes or why itâs a no you can just say itâs a no or itâs a yes but make sure if you do say that that you follow through we talked a little bit about this in the dining section when we were talking about RSVPs
But itâs really just when you speak your words and you speak for yourself youâre actually giving a part of who you are youâre representing who you are so your actions should actually follow that so be intentional and I think it goes back to taking some time to think before you
Give an answer and if youâre not prepared to give an answer right now you can say that you can say you know what I donât want to rush to give an answer let me sleep on it or let me get back to you or when do you need to know and then
Take the time to plan or think or ask or whatever you need to do and then give a solid response that you can stand by I think not only is it elegant but itâs just I think itâs a mature thing to do right itâs itâs young people our kids
Wereâre kind of like did you really take the cookies yâall know so be trustworthy have integrity and self-respect yes absolutely thatâs a big part of it and then be mature and dependable I know we often talk about uh in relationships because Lucy and I come from a traditional standpoint men are
The ones who lead and we are support system if you choose this type of relationship I am well aware that there are many kinds however even if you arenât leading in a relationship you should be Dependable you should be a support system if thatâs the relationship that you choose to engage
In and the man that you select and that selects you should be able to count on you following through on what you say especially ladies with men theyâre not emotional creatures like we are so when they say something or when they ask for something theyâre looking for consistent
Patterns thatâs one of the ways that they V us without saying anything theyâre watching to see how we handle Good Times bad times can we get our emotions in check are we all over the place now again yes youâre going to be a woman youâre going to be
Emotional but let your yes be yes what would you say Lucy okay Iâm muted so Iâm trying to figure out this my microphone so and another thing with with this itâs who H how I see this is that we want the same thing from our men
We want the same thing uh men to match their words with their actions have integrity and self-respect be mature independable but they we should give that as well so again thatâs where the balance in a in a in a relationship comes in because if all you expect is um
The man to match his words with his actions to have integrity and self-respect and be mature and dependable from them but do they ex do they um have the same thing from us so again just have that in your minds because we always again like weâve said before we
Watch what they do instead of what people say for the most part and when they say something we watch if what they say matches what they do so they are expecting the same thing from us as well and it goes back to consistency are you
Saying yes and it does that yes mean yes or are you saying yes maybe and that that men do not take that well they itâs either a yes or a no we women you know weâre like sailboats we go with the flow but with men you know your word is your
Word and if you say yes Iâm gonna be ready by 10 oâcl to go to dinner by 10:30 you better be ready at 10:00 because again itâs this time as well itâs just it gives them the ability to depend on you when whenever he needs
To I love that Lucy said so much there and ladies itâs so true a couple things I want to um share with you we always like to give you tangible tips that you can take um to improve if you mess up own it donât play any of these games
That women do well you know how I am or you made me or I was this no just stand on your square like the kids say keep that same energy and say you know I I know I said I would be ready I knew you
Were on your way I thought I could get this extra errand in and I was late Iâm sorry I should not have done that just own it so really plan and be considerate of their time or their money or whatever it is that theyâre giving you because
They donât have to um but yes be yeah just just I want to say just be a grown-up but that just seems like itâs over oversimplified but yes itâs really important because time is the one thing we spend and none of us are going to get
Back all right so letâs see what you all are saying in the chat and then we will continue on seeing everybody come in hello hello Happy Thanksgiving yes it was great y know family we love them but sometimes itâs a lot but I had a wonderful time hello everybody coming in
Dr Sherry says her dad said your word is all you have and thatâs so true I mean ladies I know we live in Modern Age and you know we appreciate technology weâre using technology to bring this Elegance boot camp to you but if you think about relationships that have survived for
Hundreds and thousands of years before you had all of these modern conveniences if someone said yes I will provide for your daughter that man expected him to you know make sure that his daughter was not hungry R and homeless you know destitute on the street it meant
Something so even though in modern times your word still can and should mean something because when youâre with a man you know we believe in marriage or long term you are basically the closest thing to him you have the keys to the kingdom you see everything you know where all
The bodies are buried and so a man is really looking at you like can I trust you if the worst happened and you had to continue on and make sure the family and you know where the safe is and you know all of that stuff right that we donât
Want to think about are you trustworthy that he can clear his mind he be worrying about you doing all this other stuff and you are a woman of your word and uh I I think itâs mature and I think itâs very attractive hello Happy Thanksgiving everyone Rodney says whatâs
Good for the goose is good for the gander a Shucks all right I donât know if thatâs Thanksgiving or talking about being honest uh Rodney says life love and time are a form of mutual respect and exchange yeah absolutely hello Linda we have students in the chat being trustworthy takes time yes
Ladies so even if you are an honest person a trustworthy person and you know yourself but that other man whoâs vetting you he doesnât know you and so expect it to take time expect him to to test you expect him to wait and see that
Who you showed up as is who you actually carry yourself out as I I do consults outside of here I do one-on ones and especially ladies who are attractive and who have had the leverage in dating where theyâre calling the shots where theyâre shooting men down where theyâre
Saying no okay you did this I donât like it on to the next one they really struggle in relationships because relationships are very different and a man is going to move at the pace that he wants to move heâs not going to let you say yeah yeah I know uhhuh but Iâm good
And Iâm ready oh youâre ready okay letâs go I got a job for you to do letâs see how you do thatâs how masculine men move and so you need to be ready to follow through with who you say you are all right so letâs see what else Vivian says uh
Oh there we go be mature and dependable donât toy with a manâs emotions yeah thatâs a game you donât want to play be serious-minded and keep the frivolities out frivolities yeah frivolous right stick to one romantic relationship at a time I love this I absolutely love this ladies I understand that the modern
Way of dating especially those of yâall that are on these apps I talked to a lady the other day who has hundreds Iâm physically exhausted even thinking about that I donât think itâs normal in the sense that we werenât built to have to remember all these nuances of multiple people at one time
Especially as women weâre built differently and we form connections and thatâs the reason why I know yesterday we talked about intimacy and you know thereâs no judgment here do what you do but I think itâs very unnatural for a woman to have a rotation you can argue
With me all you want to but I think ultimately Youâre Gonna Want Somebody more once youâve given so much of yourself youâre going to try and Patch something together so I really like that so stick to one romantic relationship at a time ladies I think when youâre dating
And for me and from me the purpose of dating is to see if there is a match for marriage or longterm I donât really see I understand that people believe in casual but if I know I want a relationship it would be a waste of time for me to entertain anything casual
Because Iâm going to be looking for something thatâs never going to be there I really think when youâre dating somebody and youâre really being vetted and heâs vetting heâs vetting you and youâre really considering him you should give it your best effort you should have your full attention and then make a
Decision exclusive to this man you shouldnât be comparing man I know weâre weâre all competing and I get that but when youâre actually in relationship with someone Iâm not talking about a coffee date but Iâm talking about when youâre really in a relationship trying to spend too many plates I think it gets
Women in trouble because you forget things you mess things up and then youâre not really fully present youâre just kind of there and then you miss things and then youâre kind of monkey branching from one to the other so what I would say make a decision if this is
The man that you want to um be in relationship with date him exclusiv exclusively hopefully it has a happy ending but if it doesnât weâve talked about ways that you can exit with Grace like Lucy said take time to heal clear things out and then try again but um I
Also think that just shows up as much more mature and trustworthy than having a lot of stuff going on at the same time what would you say Lucy so I need to have them both on okay hold on let me okay so I gotta have them both on so
Itâs a tough one um to relate to on this this uh topic the the this section about sticking to one romantic relationship at a time I think that the view about dating with intention takes care of having that roster of I donât know men uh waiting on
The sideline for when things do not work so I I think that what Maggie said when you decide to date someone itâs got to be exclusive from the beginning I know that men do it differently weâre not men women are designed differently you have been told a lie by these Western you know
Um visions and beliefs that women can do things especially when it comes to the sexual value market that you can do it like men itâs impossible we are not wired that way you can think and believe that you can do it but from what I have
Seen that the result of that is women crying getting online crying because they donât find a man that will accept them with all the baggage that they bring so I think that making the decision that youâre going to date exclusive ly from the get-go I think it will get it will keep
You away from all that trouble that you can get when you tell your potential uh person thatâs interested with you well youâre not the only one I have two or three on the sideline you know just in case itâs just not itâs not ladylike itâs just itâs itâs not
Feminine itâs not elegant and itâs just it it just you shouldnât even think about having it because once you decide that this man is the one thatâs going to be taking most of your time you shouldnât have time for anybody else no I completely agree and I I try
And give some tangible tips to you ladies I mean Lucy and I have shared we both married young and first marriages end in ended in divorce after 10 11 12 years and now weâre in our second relationships married and uh longterm so ladies if you didnât get this type of
Teaching and you were told that you should just use men for dates for experiences for food for taking you out on the town you know all of that is wrong you know Iâm a boy mom and so I feel very passionate about men being treated you know with respect uh I
Always have but Iâm even more passionate about it now but ladies you can say so and hereâs one thing that I want to say donât let someone elseâs Behavior dictate your behavior for example in this uh section weâre talking about being trustworthy you can easily say I understand you may be seeing other
People but I really like to devote my full attention to getting to know you know whoever Iâm dating so Iâm Iâm not dating anybody else as long as Iâm seeing you you can say that and to me that kind of commands a little bit of like wow okay sheâs really taking this
Seriously again we canât change man but you can ask you know now again not in the beginning when youâre just having coffee or whatnot but if this is like becoming a relationship or heâs established a relationship I think these are the conversations that need to be
Said in the beginning so youâre not in that kind of like are we are we not I think itâs confident you can be confident and stay very feminine but you can just say you know for me I only date one person at a time so before like if a
Man asks you to be his lady before we move on you know how do you see relationships what does relationship relationship look like to you you can ask these open-ended questions and allow him to answer and then thatâs part of you getting the information that you
Need to make the best decision and not that youâre frazzled here and there and uh if he says that you know I havenât really decided yet and you want to continue to see him because you see him as husband material or long-term material you can say I understand that I
Know you know ultimately itâs your decision but Iâm not seeing anybody else so there are ways that you can absolutely show up as what uh Vivien said as serious-minded she says um be serious-minded and keep the F frivolities out if Iâm saying that correctly but yes ladies even in the
Past if you did the foodie dates or you had a rotation or whatever I wouldnât even bring that up Iâm not saying to lie if someone asks you a direct question you can give a direct answer and still be discreet could say something like you know I didnât really take relation I
Didnât really take dating um seriously in the past but I realize now that you know for me anybody that I date moving forward I see them as husband material so Iâm going to treat it as such you know you can say things like that that have that show that youâve evolved and
Youâre ready to take this uh seriously and ladies that kind of weeds out the men that donât have good intentions because they know theyâre already dealing with a woman whoâs um a serious candidate or at least thatâs how she carries herself right sheâs not here for the foolishness letâs see what you all
Are saying in the chat uh Rodney says men are always leery of situational ethics when dating men want emotional and moral consistency I love that emphasis on the consistency but yeah those situational ethics ladies you really have to know who you are what your standards are what your boundaries
Are what you will and wonât do what you will and wonât tolerate irrespective of any man in the picture you know I am who I am I was the same I mean Iâve gotten better Iâve refined but I was the same Maggie in my marriage Iâm the same like
The core of who I am does not change and if God forbid I found myself single again pray never but you know I would still be the same Maggie in any relationship cuz I know who I am so yeah thatâs situational you know I Iâll act right
For this guy but for this guy I can just use him because he doesnât matter ladies that reputation will get you in a lot of trouble Rodney says living in the moment is essential for long-term relationships leading to marriage and I think you should be really present I think itâs um
Also a sign of respect you know put the phone down stop entertaining all that I mean delete the apps if youâve got a good one give him your full attention all those other distractions will be there believe me what do you say about that Lucy yeah the the modern dating scene is
A little um strange for me itâs itâs itâs itâs hard to see young women um take their their their bodies and their emotional situation for granted in their 20s and then you see them moving in their 30s and 40s in a more of a desperate time trying to find
That right man when they could have taken it slowly on their 20s making sure that you give your you give yourself time to get to know that right man and dating him for a while Iâm telling you by the third or fourth date you would know if that man is of character you
Will know and he will tell you whether he wants to move forward into a more serious relationship this thing about um dating two or three guys at a time even though youâre dating them youâre not doing anything serious thatâs not for me thatâs not the way to do it if you dat
Man the first time first date second date third date is not giving you that um itâs you itâs not making you think that this man could be uh someone that you could be with in the future I think you could put that aside you can say you
Know itâs it was a great friendship you know where this is not what Iâm looking for and and you ended that way I donât see how as a woman you can have calendar filled with this date one date two date three date four itâs not itâs not feasible itâs not sustainable and itâs
Not mentally healthy for a woman to do dating that way I agree with you I see a question in the chat weâll answer in just a second Iâll give you all a little bit of a story time are we okay on time Lucy okay so a friend of mine um is a
Hair stylist and sheâs single but she has a fellow sheâs like a barber and stylist so she works with a lot of men in a barber shop and she has a fellow like co-worker I guess like a a barber friend that they are not together but they
Flirt at work openly for everyone to see meaning sometimes sheâs sitting in his lap you know when he comes in or she comes in she runs up she gives him air kisses like they just do all of this flirting stuff and she was like oh itâs innocent weâre not
Together and I told her I said but donât you think thatâs going to confuse men who see you acting this way with another man whoâs not yours who has told you heâs not interested he just sees you as a friend or a sister or whatever he said
And you continue to carry yourself that way ladies we show up different when we donât have a man in our life and I think itâs a good thing because and I donât really get into the energy stuff but I think you do kind of show up single and
Available but when you have a roster when you have multiple men that youâre talking to whether you realize it or not you kind of have this air about you thatâs just kind of like oh itâs fine if he doesnât call me I got my friend I got
My guy I got whatever weâll go out Iâll do whatever so this friend of mine uh was filling in at another barber shop and I canât remember if she saw somebody that she liked or someone had mentioned that she was attractive or whatnot and another Barbara was like oh yeah thatâs
So andoâs girl and she was like oh no no weâre not together we just work together and what exactly I told her happened the community saw you as giving your time and attention ion and your little flirty things that are wonderful I love doing it but save that for the man who really
Claims you and when you waste that even things that you think are innocent when you waste that you know public displays of affection and all that stuff and no youâre not intimate and know youâre not doing all this stuff but ladies remember we said men are always watching and if
They see you sitting in another manâs lap theyâre going to be like okay sheâs spoken for and on the inside your screaming signal signal your screaming single you want somebody to um you know to to call you their own but you havenât made space for that so ladies really
Watch it if marriage and family is important to you any what did Kevin used to call them beta male orbiters or whatnot Iâm not telling you youâve got to cut off your best childhood friend but I would argue if theyâre really your friend they would understand hey Iâm
Going to have to fall back for a while 2024 is going to be my year Iâm not going to go through another um holiday season single everybody is out here with their family and you go home to be with yours and Iâm just sitting here so I
Just I just wanted to share that ladies because a lot of times you carry yourself in a way and then youâre like why donât men approach okay Lo miji says do you think a man 20 years older can trust a young lady in her 20s so thereâs so much to this question
Well first of all 20 years is quite the Gap it is doable but um I think it would have to be in a very particular way for example um because my oldest is you know most likely going to go to the military letâs say thereâs a man who uh right after
High school went to the military and did his 20 years and he traveled the world and he didnât want to get married or have a family uh because he knew he was going to be Here There and Everywhere so letâs say he retired now heâs like 38
3940 and he wants a wife thatâs in her early 20s so he can now be home have multiple children he approaches her father or you know her family members to show his intention and he moves like a man that really wants to protect and provide and call her his own that can
Work I think thatâs rare but it can work but do I think a man 20 years older can trust trust in what way Iâm not sure if I understand the question but I will say this ladies when youâre in your 20s and weâve talked about this this is when you
Are in your Prime for the marketplace for selection I would say use those powers for good and not evil and fortunately unfortunately what youâre seeing today is a lot of women in their 20s who are just like Oh Iâm a queen Iâm this Iâm that and theyâre racking up
These bodies and racking up these experiences you will age and you will get to a point where youâre not prime candidate anymore youâre going to be way past the wall so hopefully you have prioritized found a you know been found by a good man be a good woman to him and
Get on down the path so Iâm not sure if Iâm understanding the context of the question but um it could be a yes or a no so I know thatâs vague how would you answer that one Lucy what did you interpret it to mean yeah I think what he the way I
Think the um heâs asking is can letâs say a 45 year old man date a a woman in her 25 a 25y old woman um it it all depends you know what is her family life like uh you know look at the parents whatâs the is there any age Gap in the
Parents the mom and dad what examples does she have that will have her act um in a respectful manner to somebody that is 20 years older than she is I think thereâs a thatâs thatâs a really big gap for for me I got to tell you um a a man
In his 40s heâs already been F heâs you already have your goals a a a a young lady in her 20s sheâs just starting sheâs just um so I donât know I think that that the Gap is is itâs pretty big um are there relationship gaps um that
Are 15 years older that have that have been successful yes but I think that the success rate is lower when the Gap is is that wide yeah so hopefully that helps Loi you can clarify if you would like uh Rodney says it appears that women have more emotional energy all day while men
Have more physical excuse me physical energy but both must be focused on exclusive in our Behavior towards each other I agree I mean if marriage and family is the goal and I keep saying that ladies I and gentlemen I realize that there are many kinds of relationships out there and not
Everybody wants marriage and relationships so I always say with a caveat thatâs what we are talking about here now Seline says until you find someone you really connect with itâs fine to date multip people but that doesnât mean you have to have casual relationships with any of them thatâs an
Option again I would I donât know if I would disagree and look Iâve been in a longterm relationship so I havenât dated but when I do date or did date I would still focus on what if I donât see I canât imagine myself dating multiple men that are all husband
Material like yeah that so that thatâs I struggle with that it would be a no for me but I I respect I respect the perspective Rodney says in my opinion dating intentionally will ATT attract a certain T um type of man or woman I agree because again Ladies If you say
These are my standards and and a man approaches you and heâs like yeah you know what donât really think Iâm interested in relationship but it was such a pleasure to meet you thereâs nothing wrong with that and you know what will happen he will leave and talk
To someone else be like you know what that one right there yeah donât step to her unless youâre serious because she told me from day one this is what sheâs looking for I donât think thereâs anything wrong with that I think it will attract the right caliber of people that
Thatâs what I would say uh Seline says I like coffee and a nice walk in the park yeah thereâs lots of different ways to to have a first date the one above all says I believe most women do not know if theyâre called to be married or single this is a good one
Yeah Iâm really processing that Iâm struggling on this one because I knew but I was raised to be a wife I come from a traditional family so for me itâs odd to be an older woman and not married this whole Iâm Iâm just going to say it
And I may offend some people and I donât mean to but I find it very strange that older women are proud to be alone I know it happens but the way that we were raised itâs almost like there was something wrong if you didnât settle down and you were like this whole like
Boss thing I would say like first world I donât I donât get it what would you how would you uh respond to that Lucy yeah I donât think that the Western world is giving examples of what it is to be um in a good marriage or a
Marriageable woman I think all they see is um women can do whatever they want and when they decide that life gets tough in the marriage they can bail out um and there are different um benefits that they get once they decide to bail out so I think the modern world is going
Through a crisis right now because we see all these older women that have either decided not to marry or decided to divorce thinking that theyâre going to get something better once they divorce the man that that they were bored with and theyâre finding themselves in a really tough spot uh
Because the world for a woman alone is tough especially when you get older so I think that we need to as a society need to start uh bringing back the beauty of a long-term relationship long-term marriage what it does for both what it does for society what it does for family
What it does for the community and unfortunately thatâs not what weâre seeing um happening right now it seems like you know we are on a you know on our way to destruction and um and I donât know if he can bring back those traditional uh values or traditional perspectives of wanting to
Have that relationship from beginning to end of life yeah I agree with you thank you so much for this one the one above all I would just say and I donât disagree with you I would just say ladies and weâve talked about this before love is really
A decision so I would just say you know I donât know if itâs called to be married or single with this being said I know marriage isnât for everyone I know parenting is not for everyone I get it but I would just say ladies it is a
Decision that you need to make and and I would say make it sooner than later CU what Iâm seeing and what most of us are seeing is women who started down One path either because they were sold a lie or thought oh yeah Iâll take care of
That thing later and kept kicking down kicking the can down the road then they get to these 30s and 40s and their hair is on fire and theyâre panicking so if you have anything in you that wants marriage and family prioritize it because it does take work I think thatâs
Another thing have to be difficult but I think thatâs another thing a lot of a lot of modern women Miss they think itâs just going to happen itâs just going to fall into your lap no you have to work on it I have to work on it every day I
Think itâs beautiful and this time of year you know especially I was talking to my man earlier you know with both of us have kids in the teenage years almost up and out and itâs just like man the holidays are going to be really quiet when theyâre gone thank God but you know
Use this time to really self-reflect ladies and if youâre happy God God bless you I mean and I mean that honestly just make sure you can you know keep it all the way to 65 all right so the last thing that viven says after stick to one romantic
Relationship at a time remember that insecurity shouldnât push you into having multiple men at a time yeah weâve talked a lot about that I just donât think weâre built for it I donât think it helps with this being said ladies you absolutely should be social right you
Shouldnât stay at home this could be Iâm making it up Church groups volunteering sororities uh fraternities uh work events networking take up a an activity Pottery travel cooking whatever it is you definitely want to mingle with people okay so please donât confuse this is specific about having more than one
Romantic relationship but I think that network is really important because people people who talk anyway shout out to my friend who got mistaken for being in a relationship when she was just flirting and she thought it was innocent so you know people are already talking about you shout out to Bonnie R give
Them something good to talk about give them something to talk about thatâs going to help you make your goals um letâs see what else you all are saying porceline says modern dating is disastrous I donât disagree Rodney says men view respect as a sign of Love they sure do ladies signs
Of disrespect turn men off and causes them to move away from women yeah and ladies youâre not going to have too many times to um take a lap around that mountain after you know once twice thatâs just who you are Circle back to what I said earlier about owning your
Mistakes and taking that feedback and if he says look I made plans so we could go to The Cheesecake Factory or whatever it is at a certain time and you are not ready own that and donât try to you know wiggle your way out of it Seline says sometimes I feel as
Though modern Avenue of dating apps can give you an overload yeah I mean I understand thereâs dating apps Iâm not a huge fan of them and I know I sound outdated here but if you are going to do the dating apps like we heard Kevin say
Do them in addition to being out in the real world okay this thing where you just stay all day and youâre scrolling and swiping I donât think thatâs normal you need to be out you need to talk to people and then your network you know I would let people know you know Iâm
Currently on the market Iâm looking for this type of relationship if you know anyone please make an introduction thereâs nothing wrong with that you know do the dating apps too if you must but I wouldnât say I would say donât do that exclusively what would you say to that
Lucy yes and I hear that um unfortunately the newer generation has very um underwhelming social skills and I think that social media and uh technology has kept them in a world where you really donât have to interact oneon-one look at you know verbal cues look at phas cues look at just itâs so
Good to have a coffee with somebody that you donât know expecting that youâre going to make it maybe uh make new friends go out there without any expectations and if it works great and if not then you earned a new friend but you need to get out there and learn
How to flirt how to take you know give that look of interest just I donât know for men to appreciate you as the woman that you are but you need to get out there and network and go into different places volunteering is a great opportunity to meet a person that has
Your same values go to places that are wholesome to go to clubs to go to drinking no go to places where you can meet a person on you know their own uh complete faculties uh no no more distraction and thatâs those places here in the United States weâre so lucky to
Have them because you can go anywhere and meet the right person if you have the um appropriate perspective and and you look at uh meeting people as something beautiful to do something great to do I love that shout out to the extroverts but I love that coming from
Lucy but ladies it is important you know Iâve Shar Iâm 47 Iâll be 48 Wednesday you know Lucy has shared that sheâs 57 but especially if you want to date older men or even if theyâre not older masculine men men who have made themselves have had to be able to
Communicate their goals to whoever they are you know this is who they are so youâre really going to struggle ladies if youâre not if you havenât sharpened that skill and it is a skill and then youâre just out here dating for fun and then you really meet someone whoâs like
A man on a on his purpose and who has a plan he is going to be very direct heâs not going to mince words with you he will pick up the phone and call you and he would say I would like to see you are you available like itâs not difficult
But if you look like a deer in the headlights because you havenât practiced this skill another reason why wasting your time dating other you know types of men it just doesnât help you I love that especially if you take time to only date the caliber of men that you could see
Developing into a relationship even if it doesnât work out like Lucy says it makes you better in the end you can exit with Grace okay Iâm so sorry it wasnât a match for me but I wish you all of the best but at least you have practiced those relationship skills you know how
To have a conversation you know how to mingle at his social groups you know how to interact you know if he brought you home for the holidays or whatnot so many women think itâs just okay I put on this dress and I look amazing but you canât
Speak you canât um you know have a conversation you canât relax and have fun youâre always checking yourself to make sure your picture perfect when people really just want to get to know who you are you got to be able to roll with the punches and be um comfortable
In your own skin so yes the dating apps are there but you will find yourself you know lost and confused if you canât have uh a conversation with a man and and theyâre different theyâre theyâre amazing but theyâre theyâre different ladies they get right to it we got Haley
Well saying hi youâre so pretty Lucy is pretty sheâs beautiful thank you for for the compliments Rodney says men are simple human beings absolutely you means two not only one itâs both of us stop it okay well thank you thank you kindly for the compliment let me show you all how
To graciously accept a compliment thank you thatâs very nice of you to say uh good evening Mr he said SOI says good point Miss Maggie I forgot it already but Iâm glad itâs helpful Rodney says things or behavior that are refusing to men make us run yes ladies the way men think theyâre
Very logical you can think itâs mean you can think itâs oh you were so short with me but men operate like they donât have a lot of time to waste especially when itâs a man whoâs on his purpose because you know again like Kevin Samuel said we
Really donât take the time to know and understand men the reason why they need those 10 years to kind of eat you know what and just kind of become the man that they are men develop later it takes them time believe me as a mom to two teenage boys yâall after Thanksgiving
Today like why do they have to wrestle why do you have to like play like ah and ah like ah and then youâre laughing like why do you have to do that sounds like two Wilder beasts upstairs but thatâs who they are so men spend a lot of time
In the early years ladies when youâre shooting them down and calling them lame and calling them stupid and all of that but then something happens they wake up one day and theyâre like okay you know what put the the boyish things behind now Iâm going out here to slay the
Dragons and if you have not been prepared on how to come alongside with a man that that has a plan and can communicate what that is and says I need a woman to do this this and this and youâre like all right ready letâs go if
Youâre just you know kind of like uh you get left behind and they will find someone who is ready so just it is what it is ladies SOI says presentation creates perception oh how we show up right about U how we date or youâre nodding Lucy
What would you say to this one that was the your Barber Shop friend how she was presenting herself and then it created the perception to everybody else that she was in a committed relationship yes ladies so just you know all of the guy friends and all that stuff that you have
Just really think about how it makes you look from the outside looking in okay donât be so shortsighted to just say oh I just love his hugs he just gives these Great Big Bear Hugs okay but those big bear hugs are not yours they donât
Belong to you you donât belong to him so keep that in mind yeah and I wouldnât be surprised that she has something feelings towards that person and she was trying to just put it off as itâs itâs really nothing uh so I because we women
Do not show at least not me I will not show affection to a man that I really donât care for so Iâm thinking that that was her coping mechanism I think in a way kind of like haha weâre playing but you know if it happens it happens you are absolutely right man
Lucyâs got such a good intuition youâre spot on she wanted more but hereâs the thing and weâve talked about this ladies he said I see you as a sister so heâs flat out told you not in a mean way and again ladies it doesnât make them a bad
Person but you have to really slow down and listen to men heâs being nice and telling you oh Iâm flattered but I donât see you in that same way so once a man has told you that and then you continue to do all these things heâs kind of like
Well I told her I was honest theyâre not going to say oh no no no no um theyâre going to continue to allow you to give of yourself I mean itâs just human nature you know let letâs not put it all on the men but youâre absolutely
Right uh she wanted more he told her there wasnât more and instead of saying okay lesson learn I need to find someone that does see me as you know a woman and not like you know just a family member she continued to do all this flirtatious
Behavior and now other men and I think the bar shop could be a great ladies you know Iâm not a Matchmaker but I think the barber shop could be a great where um way not to meet men but to network because Iâm just thinking about The Barbers who have how many clients who
Come in 10 or more a day so theyâre theyâre talking to to men that you know are in all kinds of different fields because thatâs something we all have in common right you all everybody needs to get a haircut or some type of grooming or whatnot and if you show up as single
And available fit feminine friendly all of that it wonât take long especially youâre a woman in a barber shop youâre G to stand out but you want to stand out for the right reasons and someone might be like hey whatâs up with so and so imagine how that could have been
Different like yeah sheâs a good one but you know sheâs sheâs waiting for something serious but yeah sheâs yeah man that one right there sheâs a good one as opposed to oh thatâs so and soâs girl onto the game onto the whatnot so yeah absolutely thank you so much for
That Seline is fine with the age Gap dating I hear you I I hear you you know it works for a lot of people Rodney says maturity is always an issue between two individuals with significant age gaps Iâll just say this I mean my ex-husband was seven years older than me my current
Man is um weâre in the same age but it took him a while to get here because men need that time and I had to allow him that time so I know thereâs different kind of relationships but just sharing okay I understand you guys have some comments letâs see if thereâs any
Questions in here work from home wife says you have a 10year age Gap yeah I have seen you know I have heard of lots of different things Rodney says is marriage a calling again Iâm trying to answer for my own I wouldnât say
H and I hate to give those yes and no it depends but I think thereâs a part of it thatâs naturally in you I think itâs two components you know what they say nature and nurture right I think the nature part of us I think people can say what
They want to but I think it is normal and natural to not want to do this thing called life alone I think that it is normal and natural for a woman to want a man and a man to want a woman maybe in different points of their life and in
For different reasons but I think there is something in us that does feel like something is missing when we donât have that one thatâs the first thing thatâs the nature part the nurture part of it I think you can be raised to be a wife or raised to appreciate marriage and family
Or you can be raised to be like girl go get that back you know the men will come or forget these men or whatnot so I donât know if I would say itâs a calling I think it has two components but I do believe itâs a decision what would you say
Lucy yeah Iâm not Iâm not sure if if um if I understand the definition of calling um but I do think that you either make a decision to be one with one person with all the good the bad the ugly the uneventful um or you donât so I think
Itâs more of a choice than a calling I agree we got Uncle Stu in the House Uncle Stu the old man on the Block forgive me yâall please check him out also a content creator actually did my first interview with Uncle Stu he says Happy Thanksgiving to both of you young
Mothers and Ladies of Elegance thank you and Dr Sherry says based on your research in your dissertation wow those older women are lying due to Pride yeah what do we say we make the bed and we sleep in it thatâs true so I just tell
This is what I tell the women that I consult with whether itâs your friends or your mothers or your aunties or whatnot the women even me that are giving you advice look at the relationships that they have and if it is the relationship that you would like
To have consider the source ladies we got a lot of what did Kevin Samuel say single women keeping womenâs single Rodney says good social skills require meaningful one-on-one human interaction absolutely thereâs no way there is no way to bypass that you have to talk to people and be easy on
Yourself thatâs why I say volunteering or being these in these social groups where you already have something in common because youâre doing something that you are interested in is a great start boy and you know what it and itâs funny because believe it or not if a man
Has has asked you to go on a date with him he already likes you so as a woman all you need to be is feminine show your feminine side be beautiful be the beautiful woman that you are and and then things will move along or they will
Not but you just have to get out there I agree so weâve covered everything that Vivien said uh the one above all says a man whoâs mission-minded and in his person purpose will Will Not Waste his time with uncertainty and someone whoâs messy I love that so ladies yeah you have time
But I would say use that time wisely because a lot of women get B blindsided because they meet a man and he just blows past them because heâs ready and like my man said you got to be ready right now like theyâre not here to try
And train you and so what they just do is they move on and then youâre like but but but no cuz he was ready and you still thought we were playing games and it is not a game to men they take this very seriously Lely says Happy Thanksgiving we got killis watching in
The house lelyâs husband is older acting like an old man old married couple 26 and 27 I love it yes yâall got a lot of names for me and Lucy I think uh killis yesterday said eventually weâll turn into the old couple you may know us as
Maggie and Lucy Lam and Shirley shout out to zoom to Thailand he calls us salt and pepper yâall call us Maggie Lou Kid and Play thereâs so many yeah 30-year age Gap married absolutely all right yeah marriage is a choice I agree and look life is a choice
All right I mean what you do in life we are just here for those ladies who are interested in marriage and long term and maybe didnât get this teaching we are here so we have courses we have um I do individual coaching the uh finishing school for the Modern Woman is our
Flagship we start again in January um there was a post I made about a Black Friday special if you ladies are interested you can use Code Black Friday all one word for a very special discount all right I think thatâs it so um are we live tomorrow Lucy
Or well I donât know I I mean we can have one live and then okay do the rest okay because someone committed herself to 30 days 30 minutes 30 days but they have a cruise to go to for what is it seven days what a life seven days five
Days so yes you all just to be very transparent with you all I got this idea that we would do this 30 for 30 and here we are on day 23 so we will be back tomorrow for our standard let me check the time 900 p.m. Eastern 6:00 p.m.
Pacific live but just so you all know we are going to have to pre-record some for the last week of November um if you all have been rocking with me on my channel you know weâre doing a Maggie Meetup cruise and weâre actually flying out uh Monday some of yâall are flying
Out Sunday so itâll be me itâll be AV itâll be the lead attorney itâll be uh several other Scholars so Iâm going to be in the Bahamas but of course I will be um making content for you all and going live when I can I got the internet package but I didnât know
How this was going to uh play out so um we will pre-record some but I will still be in the chat Lucy and I will be in the chat to engage with you all uh so if you want to catch the lives you have um maybe just maybe today and SU day weâll
Figure it out ah K says we got to talk to people Maggie dog G it I know uh L miji says what can we use the code for itâs 50% off the uh courses and um consults with me so the code is Black Friday the link is in the
Description all right five days we going to the Bahamas while flying out from Orlando yes Lucy has jokes yes weâre gonna have an amazing aming time so we are planning Iâll go ahead and announce it here so uh some of yâall donât want to cruise and thatâs totally fine but we are planning
Um a Meetup next April um weâre going to have our graduation party for our students so those who are interested in the finishing school you will get your digital certificates but we have another generous sponsor whoâs going to provide plaques and Lucy and I are planning on
Covering the um dinner for our uh finishing school graduates um but weâre also planning a meet up for everybody else if you want to come to Atlanta and have um you know dinner and drinks and just have a good time weâre planning that as well oh yeah the Bahamas looks beautiful
I donât know stari and Hut is that another is that another name for us yes I think they were cops werenât they did they have it was like in the I want to say either 80s starski and Hutch Iâve heard yeah anyway I gotta get going gotta cook dinner for the husband all
Right everybody we will see you all tomorrow thank you all so much for being here we enjoy doing these with you tell a friend and until next time enjoy your evening and happy thanks everyone
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