What’s cracking what’s cracking what’s cracking what it do it’s your boy J Burke here with the fatherhood exclusive I got my guy Diego panz on the line what’s good brother what’s going on brother man it’s a lot going on um it’s a lot going on it’s not a lot going on I’ve
Been try still trying to see I know what they mean when they talk about how you know the transition from military service into the civilian world is it’s different and it’s challenging but I think the the most challenging part I’m having is trying to get accustomed
To focusing on me my family and not being under the uh what’s the word I want to use not being under the the hammer you know what I’m saying not some telling me what to do telling me where to be telling me what uniform to
Be in um and just being able to I wouldn’t say be free necessarily because you know responsibilities as a father right but at the same time I wake up in the morning um and I have to hold myself accountable to do everything I’m supposed to be doing whether it’s
Business related whether it’s fatherhood related whether it’s Fitness like whether it’s spiritual all this other stuff so I’m getting I’m still getting used to waking up and be like I don’t have to go nowhere today this is crazy you know what I’m saying yeah and then I wake up and it’s
Like my only real responsibility is fathering these kids making sure they eat on time making sure they brush their teeth wash their face make sure they shower make sure like all this other stuff right when it comes to fatherhood but also make sure my businesses are getting you know what I’m saying doing
What they I’m supposed to be doing in regards to that and outside of that when I’m done with my I got this little whiteboard right here hanging on the wall and I write out my agenda for the day um and so does Katie but when I have
All everything checked off I’m just like now what like do I go to sleep but sometimes I get that list checked off by noon and I’m I’m like dang I feel like I’m supposed to be doing something like I mean hey it I mean that’s that’s what’s going to put
Your your uh your um what is it called your responsibility I guess uh a test you know I mean that’s when you’re going to get test you see how how responsible and how much is your your dedication and commitment to your business going to uh
Are right so I mean it can be a sink or swim type of uh T type of situation you know I mean because now it’s all on you you don’t got nobody else telling you hey and even with the military right even if you do or don’t do that the work
That you’re told your check comes in every two weeks whereas now that you’re uh just own a business owner if you don’t work you don’t eat yeah it’s a whole different ball game and that’s that’s a part of the reason why our motto for Savage ambition clothing is you hunt you eat
Because if you’re not hunting if you’re not out there doing whatever it takes to reach your goals and get to where you want to be in life and you know it’s like okay well guess what you’re not going to eat you going and that’s metaphorically of course but it could
Also be literal you know what I’m saying family might not eat because you took a wrong step or whatever so I’m just getting accustomed to that man um that’s all that’s been really going on lately is you know U fathering the kids and make sure they they you know have uh
Whatever they need you know most of the stuff they want and just yeah being a civilian man it’s crazy it’s super crazy good happy for you yeah I do have a uh announcement though I kind of put it out there uh well I did put it out there on
The Savage ambition clothing page but we partnered uh with uh my base guide and uh we’re like an a trusted veteran own business and Military partner because uh yeah man we had a conversation about me and the the other company had a conversation about some goals that I’m
Trying to accomplish and some things I’m trying to do and some things that I’m trying to uh give back to you know our fellow veterans and military service members so um that’s a blessing man being able to do that for sure so uh excited about
That that’s good and uh yeah we going up we going up how you that’s all we can do let’s keep moving let keep moving up how you been been good uh busy uh military and obviously with the business trying to trying to find that uh that sweet spot
Um I no longer want to call it a balance um I’ve been listening to uh uh this podcast it’s called the bedro show uh bedro uh keyas or something like that um and this dude is awesome and um and he talks about like balance and you know what I
Mean and it’s there’s no such thing as like a perfect balance it’s just you just dedicate time and and you uh you make sure that you are when you’re when you’re doing something you’re present in the moment and that’s it because many you try to like find balance you’re not
Going to be able to actually focus on things because you’re trying to operate several things at one time you trying to make everybody happy whereas if you just say uh like right now this moment I am doing the podcast and I am here at the moment nothing is going to be important
Than this and then once you’re done you turn it off and then you move on to the next thing and and uh it makes things a little bit easier so um so yeah it’s it’s uh you know working on that with the military trying to stay on top of the business
The business definitely picking up a lot um so I’m very thankful to God for that stuff um and yeah uh you know see my kids grow like freaking weeds man it’s getting crazy so uh zyla who’s my three year old sorry zyla who’s my three-year-old now I sound
Intelligent um she turns four in two weeks man she turns four in two weeks I have a four-year-old son uh Javon Jr who turns that’s what the J stands for people by the way uh but I don’t really go by my first name anyways uh Javon Jr
He turns five in February and then two days after he turns five my one-year-old turns two and I’m just like and granted like I have nine kids so my older kids are growing like crazy too so it’s just like I’m I look at them and I’m just like what is going on like
These are these are actual human beings that you know me and their moms created and they’re growing they’re developing and I’m blessed to have an opportunity to play a role in that that’s so crazy to me sometimes like sometimes like I just sit back and watch them you know what I
Mean like actually watch them watch what they’re doing and then I think back to when they weren’t able to do those things you ever had those moments to where I’m just like I remember you crawling Y and now you’re running and climbing fences and climbing
Trees I’m just like and a lot of people take that stuff for granted um but I’m at a point where I’m just like I I can and sometimes it makes me cry actually lowkey most of the time it makes me cry but I’m just like man I was blessed with
An opportunity to bring you in help bring you into this world develop you help you learn help you like Mentor you whatever and now you’re like Adonis he’s saying more words than he was a couple months ago he’s you know using a pot not
As often as I want him to but he’s using a pot like he’s actually asking hey I he says um he says pot pot pot and I’m just like what he’s like pot pot oh you gotta go to potty and then he runs he takes off to the
Bathroom I’m was like I thought you say he’s asking for pot I was like what oh no no no no no he’s asking to go to the and um I’m just like man dude I know right you’re one and a half like six months ago you were like oh anyways it
It it gets me emotional sometimes because I’m just just watching these these young um kids man just watching them develop and playing having an opportunity to play a role in that is like one of the best things that y i could be blessed with ever you know mean y um so I
Definitely feel you on that they’re they’re growing like crazy um man I had a I had like a a honor or dishonor I can’t remember what it was to be honest for those of you who don’t know we do a segment called honor or dishonor it’s kind of like a fair or
Foul type of thing you know we talk about stuff that’s uh that’s controversial and you know it’s like okay well is this fair or not is is it honorable or is it honorable um and you know we’re all we’re all military SL exmilitary so you know the whole honorable or dishonorable thing
Kind of hits home for us but uh I had one and I can’t remember what it was so we’re gonna move on but man we gonna talk about today there there’s a lot of stuff going on in the world and um you know honestly some of it is such a
Distraction from or its gear to be such a distraction from what’s going on right in front of you but we’re GNA talk about one of the distractions we’re going to talk about one of the serious issues that’s going on in this world and that’s people telling you how to raise your children for
One um and we G we gonna hit one of the the main points but it’s crazy how I have you have three boys right yes two boys three boys three boys right um and I have five boys um and raising Boys in this day and age is not challenging but it’s challenging
To to Mentor them the way we want to Mentor them without interference right yes and that’s one of like the top three main issues when it it comes to fatherhood that we’re running into these days um Diego you kind of want to expand on that a little bit yeah I
Mean like you said it’s not it’s not that it’s hard to um to raise your kids um or your your boys right in my situation uh but Society is starting is starting to become an obstacle on how you raise them right um and it all started with this whole censorship censor
Censorship um and and has literally has been growing more and more right we’re we started with uh you know we had to watch make sure we’re not offending people and then it moved into you know toxic masculinity and now we’re just saying you know this is the way we’re
Supposed to raise our kids right and if you don’t and if you don’t raise them the way you feel you’re you’re the right way to do uh you get tacked on right you you get you get pinpointed you get uh uh marked as you know um the bad guy just
For lack of better word right and uh it’s so upsetting because I had um an incident um last week and I was it got me so upset because I was um I was called a sexist uh just because um I believe that um although I think everybody sh as a as
A man or woman can can do certain things I don’t I don’t say uh I don’t want to assign gender roles right but there are certain things that men have to know in order to be the head of the house the provider the one that protects his
Spouse and protects your kids right that has always been that way um and if you don’t have those traits you’re going to struggle or you’re going to not be able to procreate and keep a family afloat you’re going to fail right and people are like oh you
Can’t you know I mean no you have to have those skills and um as I try to portray and teach my kids this um I get told that I’m being sexist it is super uh frustrating and irritating to hear that because I don’t believe that I am I work with females
They and that I get along just great uh the military is a perfect example where you can see that we have militaries in high all ranks and I respect every single one of them I’ve met some really good supervisor or females and I and I
Love work with them so at no point do I believe myself I’m I’m sexist just because I want to tell my son that uh he doesn’t need to cry for everything you know what I mean I had a um my son asked me a my oldest one asked me a
Question he says Dad do you cry and I say yes I do he’s like I’ve never seen you cry I was like that is because I choose the situation that is where I think I need to cry now I’m not saying man should cry I’m not saying we we
Don’t have uh feelings I’m not saying we’re not sensitive but there are times that we need to be tough and I told my son I was like you know what um I have cried but I’ve never cried in public because I don’t want to be portrayed as
Asking for petty um pity I don’t want to be um uh show people that I can’t handle my my emotions and can’t control myself um so and I got you guys right if I if I have if I here and cry for every single bad thing that happens to me or because I
Stub my toe on uh against the freaking leg of the couch I am not going to be able to get up and work and and provide for you guys right now I had family members pass away I’ve cried but I’ve cried by myself I don’t like be in front
Of people right um showing showing my emotions I am very private with that stuff and that makes me tougher so that way when I deal with hard situations I am able to have a clear mind and be able to continue with life right so I was
Explaining this to my son and um it is funny how they’re Society now is trying to push this thing where like oh men need to be more emotional and more attached to we’re not saying that we’re not emotional we’re just saying that as men we need to learn how to control those
Things you know exactly so yeah it’s been it’s been very very frustrating lately because it just keeps growing and growing and it’s almost like if you’re not that I’m going to lose that fight believe me in my house nobody’s going to tell me how to raise my kids
But it it is very it’s like you’re on a constant battle you’re now you know you have to wake up and you’re like all right what is my kid gonna get supposed to because I need to make sure that he doesn’t get brainwashed because the amount of people that
Insane yeah it’s getting crazy and it’s been on an uptick over the past four or five years um and we talked a little bit before the P pod about that but it’s like over the past four or five years first of all let me just put throw this
Out there and I watch I’ve researched I’ve watched you know content about it and I’ve I’ve read some stuff about it and toxic M masculinity isn’t a thing first of all let me just exactly there I’m sorry to disappoint you guys who for the listeners and the viewers toxic
Masculinity is not a thing there are toxic people for sure I used to be a toxic person and I’m not ashamed to admit that I used to be a toxic I had some growing to do some maturing to do whatever that’s besides the point but toxic people is a thing tox toxic
Masculinity isn’t a thing there are toxic people who just happen to be masculine and there are toxic people who just happen to be feminine yep right but we don’t call we don’t call it toxic femininity right we just call that person a toxic person if they’re toxic yep furthermore uh if such person
Is toxic you should just you know probably keep your distance and whatever but labeling a man um to have toxic toxic masculinity is your way of saying I’m going to and I I I I use this term in the most I don’t want to say hesitant because generally I don’t care about
What y’ opinion is of me I’m gonna live my life right but don’t victimize yourself because somebody is masculine and you have your own uh what’s the word I want to use you have your own um feelings towards yourself or your own uh you know uh what’s the word I want to
Use I’m sorry y’all but basically you have these feelings towards yourself that are negative right um or maybe you have your feelings towards yourself that are positive and you feel like masculine people are getting in the way of how you feel about yourself or they may be causing how you
Feel about yourself they are not there are toxic people that may have influenced the way you feel about yourself which I encourage you I encourage you I encourage you to go to therapy to go to counseling I’ve done it I love it and I generally definitely uh feel
Like if you’re going through something anything to where you feel like you can’t talk about it you need to seek out therapy and get your mental health right however don’t label a group of people um something in a negative format just because you have your own uh negative thoughts toward yourself right
Let me just say that first foremost secondly um Society or people in general need to realize men are historically right and biblically the head of the household if they are if they accept that role right because of course there are garbage men out there just like there are G garbage
Females out there right right um however the men that choose to step into their role and fulfill it properly and fulfill it in a way that is um right for their their families or the head of the household for a reason okay now just like Diego said we’re not
Saying that men shouldn’t cry we’re not saying because I cry on a weekly basis for different reases for different topics for different whatever we just talking about it um you know a few minutes ago how I Cry Sometimes when I just look at my kids I’m just like man
They’re growing up so fast and yes I cry in front of them sometimes do they have a problem with it no because they’re used to seeing it they’re used to seeing me exercise my emotions but they’re also used to seeing me exercise my strength my ability my mentorship they’re uh they
They’re used to seeing me exercise my leadership in the household so what I’m saying is we have to understand that being masculine doesn’t mean being negative doesn’t mean talking down to people doesn’t mean overpowering people or being what they call a dictator in the household being masculine means
Being a person of leadership being a person of strength now while there are females in leadership in the household and in the family it is primarily the male’s job to lead the household and my personal opinion and my personal belief nobody outside of this household will tell me
Any different and have any effect on me I promise you that nobody in this household will tell me any different and have any effect on how I believe that right because everybody in this household is under my umbrella under my protection and they understand how I lead and why I
Lead so other stuff is is fuzzy to be you know what I mean yeah go ahead yeah I think you hit the the uh when you say that that uh that you’re the head of the household right A lot of people misconstrue this and they take it as oh
Why is he trying to be the person in charge why can’t I why can I be in charge um and it’s it’s it’s not that it’s it is not that uh the the male has has for centuries have taken this role of head of the house not because he
Wants to be the person in charge but I think because he wants to be the protector right uh if something bad happens to my house um let’s say my example my my house is on fire right and one of my children are in there I’m not
Going to send my wife to go over there and go save them while I say out here no I’m G to say I’m the man of the household I am here to protect you right you stay out here I’m going inside and I’m going to get whoever in there right
Um I’m going to be the one that no matter what it takes uh make sure that that I can provide food clothing and a roof over your head now I’m not saying oh because you’re my spouse you don’t get to work or have a profession no
Please let’s work as a team and and you can have your profession as well but if something goes wrong it is my job to make sure I take one two three four jobs work in graveyard day shift whatever it takes to make sure that that you’re
Taken care of I’m not going to expect that out of you because I need you as a mom to be able to give the the the nurturing and the you just said it yes man we are are are we’re built different right humanly we’re built different we’re right kids
Need that nurturing that that mother instinct in order to to be safe feel feel good home right so it’s our job to to know how to do that as men right but now it’s like everybody gets so caught up on this oh you know you’re just
Trying to be the better than than than the female you always trying to be uh uh the person in charge so therefore you’re being toxic and you being the whole tox masculinity comes up again it’s like no I no point am I doing that not at all
Not once you I mean it’s I don’t I don’t get it and here’s the thing the the thing is um male and female again according to my belief which nobody can tell me different and convince me different right you could tell me different but you won’t be able to convince me
Different male and female are meant to be well in the same household are meant to be like you said a team right and in a team each person in the team has different I wouldn’t say rool to fill but different obligations right different responsibilities right so it’s not like we’re
Saying uh you need to play your role because first of all I feel like that’s a rude thing to say and you know things like that need to be dealt with accordingly right however what I’m saying is I understand that I have a responsibility to this family to be a
Mentor to be a leader which Katie is a leader too right as a mother of this household she’s a leader too but in different aspect and then um to be someone who teaches and shows strength that shows uh strategic Wellness right and I’ll explain that in a second and then to to
Show I don’t know what to call it but there’s something and you spoke on it earli a little bit but there’s something about men the way we think right and you can you can look this up on YouTube or whatever the different ways our our brains work vers when it’s male versus
Female right but the male specifically we think more strategically planning and whatever right versus females when they their first inner thought is how do I feel about this the male thinks what’s the plan what’s the goal right and that’s just fact right but what I’m saying is
Uh as a male in the household right it’s our job to show that okay well this might happen right and it’s okay to cry about it if it hurts you it’s okay to cry about it if you need to uh you know uh express your your emotion and express your your
Your feelings about it however life goes on with or without yes right that’s the way we think that’s the way we’re programmed I’m sorry but I’m not sorry that’s so when when Diego says oh well you know um you know I don’t cry in this moment there’s a there’s a
There’s a time you know and a place to cry right so when when Diego says well I’m not going to cry right now or I’m not going to cry in this instance In This Moment it’s because Diego realizes hey life is still going on around you yep right so
While while you know other people might be breaking down crying or whatever we realize that time has gone past since whatever happened happened and you can call that a positive or A negative generally don’t care but that’s how we operate now a woman resp respectfully she operates in the
Opposite typically like that that’s how the brain works right the woman will rather break out either crying or you know uh display whatever emotion is connected to any they’re more they’re more emotional they’re more emotional and that’s the way it is yeah and that’s not yeah and and that’s not a bad thing
No right it’s not because in the household there there should be and we just finished talking about this but there should be somewhat of a balance right and I talked to Katie about this uh I talked to Katie about it last week right um just as much as I get on the
Kids and tell them hey this is the rules this is what you shouldn’t be doing you shouldn’t be back flipping off the back of the couch um you know uh zyla and Junior should be back flipping off the back of the couch cuz this is a rule why because strategically I’m thinking
Somebody’s going to get hurt we’re GNA have to go to the hospital how many hours are gonna we’re going to spend in the emergency room blah blah blah blah blah and then our whole day is ruined or whatever right and plus you’re going to be crying and hurting and that hurts me
That you hurt right however Katie will sit them down on a different aspect and emotionally connect with them to get them to understand why right so we we play our and like I said I hate to say roles but we play our parts and responsibilities and that’s all it
Is but people have turned it into well you think you’re better than us you think you’re it’s not that at all yeah it’s turned out into a competition right and I mean you you said it yourself is like um it’s the word emotional all of a sudden
Now it’s it’s sticking out of context and it’s making why the women go to be that word emotional that doesn’t mean that the per that the woman is weak you know what I mean just the way that they’re they’re because they’re moms they they gave birth they’re going to have that more
Emotion uh towards their kids towards anything before they make commitment because they they that’s the way it operates man we’re more more uh how do I say like Stone Age type of thing right we just go over there and we just get the stuff done we go over there we’re
Not so attached to emotion right so that doesn’t make us bad either that doesn’t make us toxic it just yeah is that we just have to know how how to control that those emotions in order to be able to continue to provide for my you know
I’ll give you a perfect example you know my my uncle who pretty much raised me as a kid passed away while I was in training right I got the bad uh the bad news over the phone and I was in the middle of training I didn’t sit there
And start crying right even though it hurt me it hurt uh to lose somebody uh that was important in my life I was in the middle of training I had to get get stuff done so I finished my day went back to my hotel
And let it out let it out I got it I was there for you know three four hours just getting everything out of my system and then when it was uh time for me to go dinner they came knock knock on my door like Hey we’re ready for dinner you want
To go yep went into the bathroom wash off and I came out and nobody knew anything right not because I’m not trying I’m asham or I’m embarrassed no it’s because I still have a duty to keep going if I break down and I can’t do nothing about it what’s it going to say
It’s gonna be like the Inu instructor gonna be like oh you know what you’re emotionally broke broken down uh guess what you’re going to go home you don’t get to finish your training and then I just go home and wasted all this time now I’m not saying my uncle wasn’t worth
It right but like you said life still goes on I still got to keep moving forward I still still gotta keep growing as a as a person a provide my my kids with everything so I can’t sit there and just crumble in in the middle of nowhere
Uh just so that because something hurt or or you know I mean so I I learn to control my emotions I learn to follow them in and I and I find my spot when I think is is the right place to to open up and and and get them out and then
Life goes on and I explained that to my sons um and it’s it’s just very frustrating when um now my kids are super smart and they hear all the stuff and and they uh they come back with you with the stuff that’s going on outside the world and it’s like man I didn’t
Even hear this stuff right because I’m so closed and focused on what I gotta do that I don’t even pay attention sometimes to what’s going on and then I hear these new things coming out to my kids and it’s like what no that is not the way it’s supposed to be we’re not
Doing that here you know what I mean so yeah um but they’re like well this happening I like I understand that we’re not going to operate this this is the way um I want you guys to grow up to be good men respectful men um but I also want
You to be tough you know I mean I want you to be able to be able to you know like what say grab a bowl by the horns and be able to tackle whatever obstacle you got in life and not sit there and crumble every time something doesn’t go
Your way you know so yeah and you would think people would want us as men to and as fathers I should say to teach our sons how to operate in that manner because that’s what helps build generations of strong healthy non-toxic men right because if we raise men
And here’s the thing right I’m I’mma go back to the teamwork thing because I I firmly believe Teamworks make a dream Teamwork Makes a dream work right so here’s where the mother’s role or the mother’s responsibility comes into play even more so because while we’re teaching them to be
Strong and and Hardy and uh protectors and all this other stuff right the the mother has just as much responsibility to teach them how to be soft and kind and nurturing compassion you know whatever so why is there so much energy toward tearing down uh the the teachings of you know uh Man
Versus just being proud of the the ability women have to teach that nurturing spirit like why does it have to be a division it’s supposed to be a team whether or not you’re together if you’re a mother and you’re a father it’s still a team it y you know what I’m saying
So why is there so much energy these days spent towards tearing down masculinity quote unquote versus the pride of being feminine the pride of being emotional the pride of being in connection with your emotions because guess what it took me so long to connect with my emotions like I didn’t I didn’t really
Get a handle on it watch this watch this it’s gonna blow y’all Minds I didn’t really get a handle on my emotions into understand what I’m feeling until I stopped getting a male therapist or counselor and got a female therapist right and she was able to
Teach me as a grown man how to understand what I was feeling so there is responsibility to women to do that it’s called that nurturing spirit like you said just like there’s a responsibility for a man to teach that hunting that that uh Savage Spirit if you will right just
To be strategic and go get it and Lead lead the pack if you will so I don’t know what’s up with all the division what’s up with all the hate and the anger and the like it’s it’s such a distraction from what what you really need to be focused on what you need
Focused on is the wellbe of your household how about that how about you just focus on that you know what I’m saying like there’s so much division going on in around the world already we don’t need division in each and every single house household right and even if you’re
Separated like you don’t need division between how you raise your children or what you can teach your children because guess what it’s still the same you still got to be a team you still got to raise these kids you still got to make sure that they uh what’s best for them is
Happening you know what I’m saying and you can’t do that if you’re so focused on I don’t want my sons to be taught uh how to be strong or how to uh table their emotions and when I say table that’s a military term how to uh delay
Their emotions to focus on the task at hand in the moment you know what I mean if you’re so focus on that you you missed the point you missed the mark so how about we focus on being a team I play I do my responsibility as a
Man as a leader of the household we do your responsibility because in all honesty and I told this to Katie as well I am so happy and so proud that she’s in my life again and she’s able to do what she does because my kids need that and I
Understand that as a man I understand that I can’t do everything yeah and being a leader doesn’t mean being a dictator being a leader doesn’t and being head of the household doesn’t mean our run everything no that’s absolutely false that doesn’t mean we’re better than anybody that doesn’t mean we run things
That just means we are just that the leader and the head of the household we have that responsibility women have the responsibility to support that right and to support the family in a way that a man can’t there should be a pride there should be overwhelming Pride for a woman
About how they can help the family and their responsibility for the family in the ways that a man can come nowhere close to doing exactly exactly and that’s the problem that’s where Society comes in and you know manipulates our mind you know because of all the whatever the heck is going on in
The world to say oh well we we need to tear down masc go dead yeah and I think that’s what that’s exactly what’s happening right I think they’re they’re poisoning people’s minds and they’re keeping them keeping them busy um yeah but you don’t focus on actual what’s actually really happened out there you
Know what I mean so everybody’s biggering with other about you know gender roles and and uh males versus females and all this stuff instead of like actually focusing on what’s really out there which is you know there I’m not even going to get into into that topic but
Um it’s it is not that is not the problem right now you know I mean we everybody need to go back where where we used to be back in you know the early early 90s late 90s where you know people understood that uh and was
Took pride like you said on on on the on the stuff that that they were the roles that they were Pro able to provide to their to their families and kids so yeah I don’t know we’re going backwards the more the more uh we get Advanced with
Technology and the more that we grow a as a society but but as as human beings we’re just going literally going to the I feel like we’re going to cman status where like people not making any sense they just figuring and fighting for dumb stuff so I don’t know yeah they’re just
They’re just picking and playing arguments and like you said it’s like back in the day like there was there was a time where women laughed at men because they weren’t emotionally connected right there was a time that women laughed at men because we were you know whatever
And because they took pride in who they were and they took they took pride in their whether it was basket weaving whether it was you know whatever around the house to still to this day like I typically except when I’m just trying to help out and I you know sometimes I get
Told I’m doing it wrong but here’s here’s a simple you know uh here’s a simple analogy right or a simple example I should say I still get like talked to about how to fold laundry right because Katie has a pride about doing it a certain way and
She knows she can do it in a way that I can’t yeah and that’s typically a typically a female trait like they know how to do certain stuff around the house that men are just like not up to par with but she has a pride about it and
She’s fine with that right she submits to here here I’ll say this she submits to my leadership but she’s one of the if not the strongest woman I know yeah right and she’s been through things that I can’t imagine having to go through right so she understands her responsibility I understand my
Responsibility and we come together in such a way that is just artistically beautiful and I think people are so distracted about you know oh uh I want people to think of me a certain way versus just living your life and doing what’s best for your kids doing what’s
Best for your family and not worried about all the things that are going on around you and I’m not saying don’t be aware but I’m saying understand that your life is your life nobody else can live your life for you nobody else can walk in your shoes you know what I’m
Saying saying yeah so for y’all for people to I want to say y’all but for people to try to say hey this is how you should you know raise your kids this is how you and for you know we aren’t trying to tell you how to raise your kids we’re
Just telling you how we are going to raise ours we’re telling you our experiences and that’s it’s going to be what it is we don’t care who we offend if y’all want to comment about hey send us an email the fatherhood is exclusive gmail.com send us an email
Send us your complaints and gripes or whatever guess what we’re going to have a conversation with you to understand or to gain perspective to give you perspective and that’s We’re Not Gonna argue with you we not none of that because we’re gonna do what we’re gonna do regardless yep
Exactly that’s just what it is um you got any any closing remarks no um I think I’ve got everything out out that I need to get out um yeah it’s a just a crazy world out there and I think uh you know um we just got to be very VI Vigilant with our
Kids and how we raise them and make sure that you know we teach them the good from bad and and then everything else will fall into place you know me absolutely absolutely and for those fathers out there who may be thinking or maybe feeling the pressure of you know
Society to to raise your kids a certain way to uh talk to your kids a certain man do your thing as a father as long as it’s in the in the best interest of the child or the children do what you got to do bro do what you got to do because
Guess what everybody else ain’t raising your kids they’re not spending time with them they’re not paying for whatever they’re not none of that so focus on you and your household and then if you can hey take a minute to to pick up another child out of your household and Mentor
Them because guess what it gives them exposure and it gives them perspective y you know what I’m saying I’mma quote Jamal King right one of my mentors your level of exposure will determine your level of success so everywhere you go understand that somebody’s watching you and you can
Have a positive effect on somebody if you’re living in a positive way so be a mentor to somebody if you don’t have kids guess what you’re always a father or a father figure to somebody somebody’s watching you whether you know it or not you know what I’m saying
Somebody’s somebody got that a on you whether some either some neighborhood kid some kid at the place you know you work if you’re working in schools you know your co-worker son or daughter Somebody’s Watching You and somebody will be affected on how you live so
We’ll leave you with that man uh if you got any questions comments or concerns you can email us like I said at thehead exclusive gmail.com you can comment below on whatever platform you’re watching this on or listening this on and uh yeah this definitely needs to be
A conversation that needs to be in circulation because men need to know that you know it’s up to you to make the decision on how you you raise your kids like it’s up to you need to have a conversation with the mother if your if you’re a
Mother that’s listening hey you need to have a conversation with the father and y’all need to have a discussion on how you’re gonna raise your kids that’s what it’s come down to not everybody else it’s nobody else’s responsibility but yours you dig so hey this is J Burke man
Diego um I’m so happy we had this conversation um it’s one that’s been needed to be had and uh we can’t wait to talk more so we’ll uh see y’all next week you dig yeah take care brother yeah yeah
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