Yo what’s cracking what’s cracking what’s cracking it’s your man 50 Grand J Burke here with the best uh of them all uh I got my boy Desmond on the line what up Dez yes sir Mr never basic himself and then I got Mr battlecry gear himself [ __ ] what’s up brother what’s going on
Gentlemen what’s up yeah man um welcome to another edition of the fatherhood exclusive podcast um again I’m your host Jay Burke here with the fellas uh Angelo couldn’t make it today um he’s uh out visiting some family um you know extended family I like to call it
Because it’s two guys from um our old unit um that you know uh are brothers to Brothers to me and brothers to him and um good dudes anyways he out in Tennessee so he can make it tonight um they probably ain’t got no signal anyway
They own the bunch of land and you know these guys are like you know [ __ ] riding ATVs right now shooting deer yeah probably so they’re they’re uh they’re experts behind the long gun any type of long gun um so you know they they they they do they do it you know what I’m
Saying so um shout out to the twins man Jordan and Justin anyways man uh so how y’all doing man Dez how you doing doing great doing love me you got a lot going on huh a lot going on man way to do it yeah um that’s you got
To though that’s I mean you wake up every morning that’s a blessing y you gotta go for it and you can’t you can’t be like you can’t be like no little B you just can’t can’t you can’t be a little [ __ ] man you gota be you gota be
So hard you have to mentally be hard because you have to push your [ __ ] self and you have to tell yourself hey Dam sorry about Cur I’m sorry but you I get I get hyped when I talk about it because like you have to talk to yourself and motivate yourself to get up
Every day and don’t be like well I could put up to tomorrow well I could do that because it never pans out and time it time Ain promise so I really just try to do everything you know I you know just live it bro you know facts facts yeah I
Always like to say uh I be telling people like when I go to popup shops and then think for Savage ambition I tell people all the time man hey time is the most expensive thing because that’s the only thing that you could spend and not get backo say that
Again yeah for the people in the back yeah time is the most expensive thing because it’s the only thing that you can spend and not get back so um you know treat your time wisely and man like like d said man you got to get up and get
After Diego what’s up brother man you just got through surgery yes how you feeling man um it’s been a it’s been a busy week uh weekend um good stuff bad stuff uh busy but um went to a freaking awesome uh course where because I am looking
To move the the company to the next level right and um and I know Jay is going to appreciate this but um this is one of the shirts that I did oh that’s fire so I learned how to do this stuff over the weekend um what is that called
What kind what kind of press is that it is uh it is a regular manual press the one that I have okay this is simulation process which is pretty much like a picture right so you layer you layer colors and they start mixing this is done with an automatic
Machine though uh so I went in there and and uh learned some new stuff learned what I was doing wrong with some of my printing um so it was it was awesome got a good knowledge of it and then some made some contacts for uh trying to
Potentially move up within the next year or so to the next level man I’m I’m like you say you gota you gotta stay out there hungry uh there’s no time for being a little [ __ ] and and if you don’t somebody the competitions out
There I mean I love the fact that we h i i i get a I met you guys because I am in a circle of people that Mr Jay right there right then the company itself says be a Savage right uh absolutely gring right and I love
That I love I love I mean I just got out of surgery and I’m here right I got a commitment I mean last night I I I screen printed all until midnight my surgery was this morning so like dude there’s there’s no reason Reon why we
Can’t go out there and and be what what we want so yeah I’m here excited so looking for the next thing dude that’s up that good energy going on right now absolutely I love it man I love it man y’all know I get excited man when I talk
When we talking about ambition when we talk about taking things to the next level man because it’s really on you it ain’t up to no and then I I used to say said this uh couple weeks ago I forgot who I was talking to but um somebody was
Telling me man like man I’m I’m kind of discour because you know I expected you know my family to back me up I expected you know uh you know my inner circle to support me and all stuff and while all that stuff is nice and dandy it ain’t
Nobody else responsibility but yours to make it happen it ain’t nobody else responsibility because can’t nobody else walk in your shoes can’t nobody else live your life ain’t nobody else paying your bills but you so it’s up to you to make it happen so you know of course
It’s it’s discouraging when you know you don’t get the support that you want it however there’s billions and billions of people around the world somebody gonna hop on board somebody gonna support you somebody gonna see what you’re doing yeah and all you need to do is
Um whatever list you got to check off you know what I’m saying each and every day do whatever you got to do to get close to the way you want to be it’s it’s completely up to you you know what I’m saying so man I love it so um man
Patience you gotta have patience oh yeah patience is key anybody business out there if anybody starting a business I all I can tell you is you have to be your hardest worker yep and you have to have patience it’s like a it’s like a seed what you
Today is what you gonna get next next next six months okay absolutely you know mean so you can’t just think you g to pop out there and be and maybe even longer y’all maybe but it’s what you do it’s the work you put in is what you gonna get out and
You know down the line so and and I I when you said that I I I felt some type of way because I remember those days when I was so mad that my family wasn’t supporting me and like nobody was man I can’t even get people to share nothing
Yo you know what I’m saying so that used to really bother me so bad and then I just had to realize like man you need to not worry about family and friends you need to go out you a business the world need to know you don’t worry about your
Family and friends if they don’t they not gonna buy go get the world that’s who you that’s your target that’s your Market I mean of course you down but you know I’m trying to say so yeah I felt that Diego what you say you said character character did I I mean
Character uh patience and and and consistency going hand in hand dude U what your the person you were talking to about uh this is the chance where you test your character right um you’re not always going to have a pad in the back right so you just got to go over there
And not care about nobody I maybe because I’m getting older I really don’t care whether people like my product or not but did I I do because that is that’s who I am and uh and you know and this is the the times like this where you’re barely starting or when you’re
Going against screen is where you’re going to test your character and you’re going to see like if you’re really meant for this stuff uh no you know they say that they say that that uh everything gets tested when the lights are off right you when you’re not in social
Media and people are not looking at you it’s what you do when those when when you’re behind the curtains that matters you know I mean getting up in the morning when nobody’s looking at you and put in the put in the grind that’s what that’s what builds your character and
Build your confidence there’s times where I’m like I push stuff to the side because I’m scared and I’m like I’m G to mess up but you know what that does it puts my confidence down and I get kept more scared but the minute I just go in
There even if I mess up I’m like oh shoot I just figured that out and now I’m more confident about doing more crazy stuff you know what I mean so yeah man it’s it’s it’s a it’s an awesome feeling when you’re doing it and but you
Don’t you have to just cut that thing about um caring about what people say whether they support you now that’s why they say like when you want when you’re really wanting to move to the next level it is up to you to detach from the people that that uh they’re holding you
Back there’s a there’s an awesome uh image analogy of of this guy trying to make it to the next level and he’s got all these rubber bands tied to him right and the rubber bands represent your friends your family all the people that do not support you they’re just trying
To hold you back because they’re scared to next move to so they don’t want you to step away from what they’re comfortable so they want to keep you in their room that’s impossible dude you’re not going to be able to do that honestly I honestly believe when I
Started my businesses is when I became more to myself because I I saw how being close to people would hurt you and not make you prosper because you’re worried about what they’re thinking you’re listening to what they thinking so I became a person where I just I’m to
Myself if I’m like I’m a people’s person I can talk to anybody when I’m out there I can politic I can Network I can do it I’m a nice person but because I don’t want no ties to what people may think or what they might say if I don’t kick it
With you if I’m not with you if I don’t talk to you if I don’t really be around you then I really don’t care about what your opinion may be so therefore that that you know and then I pick and choose who I allow around me and only people I
Allow around me is people that’s getting it like like me and they understand the hustle where they know they not talk down they gonna try to help me so that’s why like you guys I let y’all in you know I don’t really hang out with nobody
I’m always so you look at my stories I’m always by myself I go to an event meet up but I’m by myself because you know in this world it’s so sad you just don’t want to be close to people because people are just not the same as they
Used to be a decade ago man not even 15 years ago I remember people used to be so different this world I don’t even recognize it so I just to myself make my moves and give don’t care about what people think or say because that can ENT
Trap you it can hold you back and that’s that’s how you gota be too go ahead Diego yeah they they say that uh if if you hang out with three losers you’ll be the fourth one but if you hang out with three millionaires you will be the
Fourth one dude I love I go by that man I go by that I people that not out there grinding no not yeah I’m too about to say yeah I was about to say like uh so you know they say you know not just the entrepreneur but the life of someone
Who’s uh chasing success or hunting success is a lonely one and people have people have this stigma or this idea about that that phrase that it means people are going to leave you behind or people are going to decide not to mess with you that’s not what it means what
It means is you got to make the decision to leave them behind yeah you got to make those choices oh and we call it selfish whatever call it whatever you want you got to make those selfish decisions to focus on your goals your Ambitions your dreams your family your
Livelihood your well-being your mental health all those things that’s why it’s a lonely road because when you mature to a point where you focus on you and your well-being and your happiness you know you got to let those people go and and that don’t mean like in a
Negative way like let them go but it means let go of their idea of what your best interest is and focus on what your idea of your best interest is yeah so that’s why they say it’s a Lon Road and a lot of a lot of people a lot of people don’t even
Understand you because there there used to be so many people like oh my God you’re doing so much or you doing too much they trying to tell me that I’m doing too much I’m like not do enough how how you for real like you think this start there’s people that doing it
Two three times more I swear they used to tell me and I used to be like no like get away from me you’re lazy as [ __ ] you know so like um you gotta like you just gota you know you it’s almost like you it’s like if you’re a king you got to go
And make your own path and then you know you if somebody’s walking next to to you and you know they doing their thing you doing your thing but they they walking with you you can you can holl at them sometimes like hey what’s upo but I
Don’t got time to be chilling with you if you’re not you need to be doing something too we shouldn’t have no time to just chill and kicking and drink some beers all the time and all that every now and then yeah we but but 90% of the
Time hey what you doing oh I’m doing this oh you too all right keep it pushing King you good you know boom boom boom boom boom that that’s type of hanging out like I like to do so um that’s just how you got to be especially as an entrepreneur this whole segment into
Like business that’s what’s up smart too before we go into this subject I’m G say this last thing um dang see man I’m horrible with you know names or whatever but uh one of my homeboy told me um cuz he got tired of people like complaining about struggling
And first of all we already talked about last week I don’t like the word struggle I like the word challenge because it’s a positive spin on it right and so um you know what I’m saying my homeboy was like hey man I’m getting tired of these people complaining about you know being
From the hood and you know trying to get out the hood but they still stuck in it you know what I’m saying and he was telling them he was like man y’all got too much time to be complaining if you got all this time to complain complain
Complain you’re not doing enough um he was like cuz I don’t got time for I don’t got time to sit here and complain about it cuz I’m out here actively working and doing something to change my situation and um so anyways we we all around the topic but man today uh we
Gonna talk about something that’s very um I I like to say uh what’s the word u how I say I like to say and don’t even remember the word controversial controversial um and also Timely because this is always happening um this is always a factor this is always
Something that people are dealing with um kids young adults even adults and different aspects are dealing with uh bullying um in different ways especially now that social media is all you know ramping or whatever like that online bullying whatever um but I have something to say about that too because
It was your choice to get on you know social media your choice to respond on those people your choice to deal with those people that are uh how do I say it online bullying you so hey you know made you B sleep knowl yeah but um but we GNA talk about
How how to how we personally uh teach our kids to deal with bullying because bullying is something first of all I got bullied you know all throughout Elementary School Middle School until I start hanging around certain people I start doing certain things I started learning self-defense I started
Paret Kung through all this other stuff right and I became somebody that you don’t generally want to mess with but before that it was all oh that’s the quiet you know smart dude let’s go pick with him because you know he gave him good grades and we can’t understand why
And um you know the statistics say that thousands and thousands and thousands I don’t have the exact number right now in front of me but thousands and thousands thousands of children don’t want to go to school um to educate themselves because of bully um and it it’s going into you know
Putting young young young kids into anxiety depression all type of stuff um at a very very very like these kids shouldn’t even these kids don’t even know how to spell depression but they’re in depression they’re they’re having anxiety whatever because of bullies because of people people treat him wrong
Because of people beating on him you know what I’m saying they they scared to go out the house sometimes um and and it’s a problem it’s always been a problem and I think it’s always going to be a problem but it’s up to us um as fathers especially to teach our kids how
To handle the situations how to deal with them um and how to be persons of character but also be persons of character to where you’re not going to just let people trample over you so um let’s talk about it fellas what what are some of your things Diego we going to
Start with you because you know um you had some situations going on recently um so let’s talk about it yes um thank you thank you uh bowling man um very very um controversial I’ll say subject nowadays because of society how they perceive bullying and how they want us to handle
Bullying versus when I was growing up right um yeah so I think uh bowling is not going to go away I think bowling has been around for decades I mean and it is it’s only been able to stop depending on how you handle it um I was raised the old school way
Where you know I got bullied in middle school and I got to the point I just got tired of being made fun of and where everybody’s pointing the finger and I just went up to the dude and I just headbutted him knock knock his teeth out
And the bowling stopped right and all of a sudden you know the the the the the cool kid on the Block because this guy wasn’t even big right but he thought he was funny he was the clown of the of the class uh picking on on this new kid who
Barely spoke English um thought he was being funny and everybody thought he was a cool guy until I got fed up with it um and and I just sna right um now I’m not saying go over there and and bottle it up and snap of it but you definitely
Have to take action um and that is the only way you’re going to to put the bowling to a stop now there’s there’s going to be a lot of other people that say the other the ways but to me that is the way it happens and I that is the way
That I’m teaching my kids um and I am going to be 100% backing them up if I know that my son any of my sons um did the right thing by just responding and making sure that you know that that this stops right they’re not out there looking for trouble they’re very
Respectful kids but if somebody’s going to come out and start you know messing with them they have the right to defend themselves uh perfect example was my son um two weeks ago um went to school and he was telling me story about this kid was uh messing with uh with all the kids
In class touching them and slapping them so my son is 12 years old he went in there and he got in the middle of it and he told him hey you need to stop and he kind of pushed the kid away right because he felt that all I know the kid
Was just getting hit it couldn’t control it right and I’ve T my kids always to you know watch out for friends or family and always get their back for the week right because not everybody can defend themselves and uh so when he push this other kid away from it um it it stopped
The conflict between the bully and this other kid but and and doing that it it earned him the the the the Highlight spot from the bully right so um out of nowhere when they were by themselves on the hallway going changing classes I think uh this kid come from the side and
Just hit him in the face knock his glasses out and uh the teacher happened to be in the in the in the area so right away they they uh pulled them to the office right my son didn’t get didn’t have a time to uh to react or anything
Like that so he got pulled off saying hey you guys need to you guys can be fighting whatever my son said hey this kid has been hitting everybody so all I did was just tell him to stop and move him out of the way and then now he hit
Me so he didn’t get in any trouble because my son didn’t respond to it but he was as he was telling me the story I was like so what did you do he’s like nothing um actually it didn’t it didn’t really hurt uh I was like okay but you
Didn’t do nothing back and he’s like no um he just knocked my glasses off my face and I was like dude that is the last time you will allow somebody to touch your face and not do anything about it uh because the minute that you open that
That door to let this kid touch you and you not respond back he has the upper hand and says okay Ian is not going to um do nothing uh every time I push him or every time because he he just kind of held himself back but if Ian would have
Pushed him back or would have hit him back that bully was going to be oh I’m not going to mess with Ian because Ian’s is going to hit me right and uh I told my son I like because the school the schools uh tells you no fighting AOW
Right no you’re not supposed to be fighting you’re supposed to tell the teacher but there are times and there’s going to be situations where you’re not going to have the teacher in there you’re not gonna have the cop in there you have to react and it is those it is
Those seconds that that that that you that you have to put this person in place to save somebody from danger right so you have be quick to you can’t be freezing so I told my son I was like look this is the last time this happens if somebody touches your face you at
Least need to break contact push him off the off uh out of your out of your weight and then if he comes back at you at least he gives you enough room to prepare yourself or two just straight up pop him in his mouth I can guarantee you
He’s not gonna touch you um Y and I like and you’re not going to get in trouble if the principal calls me because you punch some kid in the face after he hit you you will be 100% sure that uh that you’re not going to get in trouble and
Uh so you’re like okay that and I like I want you to promise me that and I want him to to feel comfortable that it is okay to defend himself because kids are scared now they don’t want to get suspended you know they take their Reeses away which to a 12-y old that’s
Big right um so he’s like I don’t want to get in trouble you know I like no dude you’re you’re fine you’re you will be totally fine I have your back 100 per. yeah absolutely absolutely so yeah so that’s how I think um we can we can get rid of bowling I
Mean like I said buling has been for a long time I think we as parents in society have made have given given bowling so much attention that it’s not this huge thing this huge monster then that all kids are afraid of when it all it takes is somebody just standing up to
Say you don’t have to fight you don’t have to actually throw punches it’s just that kid Having the courage to step up and be like dude do that again and it’s just that tone of voice you’re like oh and that it’s going to throw that other
Kid out be like oh do I really want to take my chances you know what I mean so it I think I think we we we have created this monster and it is up to us as parents to make sure that we teach our kids that that it’s okay to defend
Yourself it is not bad it’s not a bad thing you know I mean the world is full of full of ugliness and you have to be able to stand up to it you know what I mean so absolutely absolutely and and here’s the thing this we’re not not necessarily preaching violence but what
We’re preaching is being able to be violent or am I’m saying that right being able to be such a beast of a person to yep to not just let people walk all over you because here’s what happens right we teach our kids nowadays or other people
Teach their kids nowadays oh you know if like you said if if you get hit or if you do whatever make sure you run and go tell the teacher first of all well TJ angle Drew Jack squat except tell other kids parents nine times out of 10 the
Other kids parents know what type of kid that they’re they have right and knows that they’re doing it right Y and that doesn’t change the behavior of the child because a child is a child right um and even an adult an adult and as adult so
What happens is if if we’re running to tell a teacher I get it right because you want you want the people that are in charge of the SA keeping of the children to be aware of what’s going on however comma if somebody’s putting their hands
On you need to be able to respond defend yourself and like Diego’s son be able to Def uh to defend other people if they are not in a position to defend themselves like like we said earlier not not all heroes wear cakes right you know what I’m saying and you know maybe this
Is no I don’t want to use the excuse that we’re all military but because we come from a military background it also gives us a sense of you know uh urgency when it comes to teaching our kids courage and the ability to stand up for not only
Yourself but other people but if you have this mentality where oh I’m I’m getting attacked I have to go run and go get help rather than be in a position to help yourself or help somebody somebody else then you’re not doing yourself any justice and and and we don’t want our
Kids to be in that position to feel not only you know uh be hit or talked about or whatever the case is going on but to feel belittled because that does long-term damage yeah that I promise you that does long-term damage if if I would have
Not turned the tables on some of the stuff that I was going through when I was younger I would not be the person that I am today I would not be the leader that I am today I would not be the uh the extrovert or the strong
Um uh how do I want to say it chest poked out you know what I’m saying type of individual that I am because I will not let anybody just run over me or my family I promise you you do not want to do it and we have to instill those type
Of things into our kids because when they grow up there’s like d said there’s a whole world out there that presents danger and you have to be you our kids need to be in position um to be able to take on those challenges when those challenges come if
We’re baby hey go tell the teacher go tell a teacher go what happens when there’s no teacher what happens when there nobody else to defend you what happens when they know there’s nobody else to defend somebody else and you’re the only one standing right there what happens when freaking you know
There’s a uh you you see some kid you know walking into school with a weapon and you’re the first one to see it but you want to go run until next thing you know people are getting shock and I hate to say that but it’s a
Reality it’s it’s what’s going on in the world right now what happens when you see it and you’re not a position to to do anything about it um or if you’re not thinking about doing anything about you know what I’m trying to say it’s like there’s a there’s a a
Characteristic um that we have to instill in our children to make them people who um just are about you know their own well-being and if if we’re teaching them to you know run away in a sense then I I don’t think it helps them long term Dez what are your
Thoughts um first thing the first thing I I wanted to say is I think bullying is just an animal Instinct I think that just go back to like us being um like animals like you know what I mean I think you know I see dogs trying to bully other dogs or take
From other dogs all the time you see that I think that’s just a Instinct right but at the same time it’s an instinct but the the other Instinct have to be to show toughness you know I mean it’s it’s it’s almost like a battle you
Know I mean if if somebody know they can overtake you they just gonna keep messing with you because you’re not showing no signs of of of of of threat right yeah so it becomes a mental thing I’m thinking now Okay cool so same thing like maybe like four months ago when we
First got here my son new school new people he was going through that he was like man DD this dude at school keep um it keep bullying me and I said listen listen I said tomorrow I want you to go to him first thing I I want you to get all in his
Face and I want you to tell them hey stop messing with me stop messing with me I’mma punch you in your face I want you to tell him that and tell him loud so everybody hear you because he not gonna do nothing once he get put on the
Spot like that he gonna leave you alone because you shown him that it’s a threat now you know what I mean so I I try to tell him goe psychologically first I say but now if he cometh to you again he can just show Threat by talking
To you wrong I want you to knock fire from his face I want you to hit him so hard that he’ll never talk to you again and again everybody gonna see those actions and they never gonna mess with you you gota do I said you got to do
Everybody like that you either go to them first and show them that you’re a threat or you show them by you physic getting them first period if you feel like you’re threatened and that’s what you feel like CU you’re telling me this okay and guess what I know you’re not a
Bad child I know you don’t mean no harm to nobody but in this particular instance I want you to know that I will not be mad now I’ll be mad if you come home beat up though I’m come tell me this again if I if I have to hear you
Tell me about this bully again I’mma Be I’m I’m G feel some type of way yep sure am because I’m telling you now you have full range to just go off on this dude and he GNA leave you alone so pretty much basically same thing with Diego
Said it’s funny because we went through the same thing but I was just like listen man you gotta go get you gotta go to him first you it’s a publicity stuff show you gotta show you a threat once to show you a threat nobody gon mess with
You no more just like Diego said yeah yeah you don’t even have to and you don’t even have to win the fight right uh you can go ahead and I’ve gotten beat up I told him that Too I don’t even care yeah I mean you you take a punch in the face and and uh and then you respond back and then the dude comes at you and just Boom Boom Boom Beats you up two lessons two things happen there one that dude knows that
You’re not going to back down right you got the heart to go out there even if you come out beat up and then two now you know what it feels to get punched guess what next time you ain’t gonna let him get punch face like that hurt GNA
Learn right so it’s it’s a win-win situation you know what I mean um and and and and it’s just like any other thing like kids gota Gotta Lose That fear of just getting messed with um my son my middle one is uh he just going went into wrestling and uh dude that
Dude is is a is a tough kid man uh we were just messing around and and I freaking punched him and I kind of I didn’t punch him really hard but I think I overdid it and he looked at me and he was like all right you’re opening this
Right so we’re just kind of like messing around and he he went full on he almost had me on the ground where he was like oh I’m sorry that and I was like no it’s all good man we’re I opened that door for me to you kind of you know Rumble a
Little bit but I was like at least you didn’t buck up and like oh I don’t want to play no more um so as a father I love I’m not saying I love uh violence but I love that my sons are not afraid of it like Jay say is all
About being able to be a beast and controlling it that’s What Makes You stoic right be a beast 100% but know how to control it you know I want my kids to go over there and be all crazy and stuff but I want them to know that they they have that beast in
Them and it’s going they’re going to unleash it when it’s the right time you know what I mean and and it builds so it builds confidence it builds you know so many so many things long term like I said earlier um that goes into effect here and and like like Dez was saying
Like bullies once you show in front of everybody like then they got a problem because it’s just a publicity stunt bullies are bullies because either one they’re not getting the love that they need at home or elsewhere right two they’re dealing with something internal that they haven’t uh figured out how to
Deal with um and when we’re when we’re talking about bullies we’re talking about like from kids all the way to adults because there are adults that are still bullies right um and so you know they’re dealing with something that that and and what they want to do is Project
It onto you that that’s their that’s their M Mo and so once they get put on the spot you know what I’m saying they like oh yeah I can’t do that no more because because now everybody’s watching for one I’m I might get showed up for
Two and you know this this guy is GNA keep or this guy or girl isn’t going to freaking keep taking me um de doing whatever I want to do to him like that so you know um I like to I want to quote 50 Cent here he did an interview and he
Was like uh he was like I don’t go look up for trouble I don’t I don’t go look up for problems he said but when somebody approaching me with a problem I say no problem he said I looking for problems like but when you come to me with a
Problem I say no problem and that’s that’s how we got to teach our kids man and I think like like we said earlier man we got to get away from this culture of you know oh don’t do anything B you know we don’t want you to get in trouble
Bump that man your your well-being is more important than you getting called to the to the principal’s office and if the principal is any type of um person of understanding they will understand you defending yourself like I said we’re we’re not teaching the kids to to go you
Know start in trouble but hey like 50 said hey if you come in with a problem no problem we we’ll we’ll get down all right but we’re not gonna keep you know allowing you to to deal with us in this manner so um man we we got to get away
From the whole culture of you know oh shy away shy away shy away no no no because then they’re gonna keep coming at you they gonna keep coming at your kids and and then we got an even bigger problem on our hand then we got low self-esteem problems then we got you
Know what I’m saying like there’s things that stem from that that is no good and um you know we don’t want our kids to be in that position you know what I’m saying um yeah what what are y’all thoughts you know what I’m saying so we’re gonna post this up right maybe
I’ll do a poll or something a matter of fact send an email send an email to the fatherhood exclusive at gmail.com and tell us what are your thoughts on how you teach your kids or how you think people should teach their kids to deal with bullying because again it’s it’s
One of those Timeless things because they’re never going to go away because de like de said it’s just it’s just a part of it’s like that animal Instinct right now I do want to say this there’s a way right hear me out there’s a way to transform that
Energy okay there’s a way to transform their energy and we talked about it when we’re talking about business at the beginning of this episode right you need to be just as Savage about what you’re trying to do in life than this situation right here right because we’re talking about
Bullying right but hey when I’m telling you you need to be able to be a beast right and like [ __ ] said control it you need to put that that same energy into getting what you want out the life all right yeah that’s one of those long-term things that you learn from defending
Yourself right from uh from uh courage right from tenacity right from uh diligence all of those things that you learn from dealing with challenges like being bullied dealing with defending yourself dealing with defending other people when you learn these these these moral codes right start to change that
Or start to apply that to other areas of your life and teach your kids to apply that into other areas of of their life and then boom we got we got Bloss you plant those seeds right you plant those seeds and boom they blossom so Y Man any last words you
Guys um one last thing that I wanted to touch is and you mentioned it um is confidence confidence is huge here right um one thing that that bully has is confidence he’s got confidence in himself almost too much confidence would be comes arrogance right and that’s why
He thinks he’s got the right to go pick on people right yeah but if we teach our kids to step up with that we’re going to be able to help them build their confidence to where like you’re not going to have all these kids they have um they’re they’re scared they have the
Depression that they they don’t know how to make friends right because they’re building on that confidence the minute they step up and they squash that thing they’re G to be they’re going to feel that they can take on anything now right so although and that’s exactly what I
Was saying y not to cut you off that’s exactly what I say yeah although budism is not the the the the the main problem on on on on a lot of kids having you know depression and and low self-esteem someone do experience that and and we can we can fix those problems by
Teaching our kids to be able to step up to to that stuff because it’ll it’ll booster comp it’ll it’ll make them feel better about themselves to where like now they’re able to tackle anything they’re able to to tackle the the scary thing that they they they have to face
Every day when they go to school they say okay I can do this man it’s it’s up uphill by now but it’s it all it takes is just us to be able to freaking say it’s okay to [ __ ] defend themselves you know I mean so yeah and I piggy back
Off of what you just said so that’s exactly I probably was all slapping when I said it but here here’s what it is right just like you just say it other challenges that come in life right when you teaching your kids how to handle bullies and how to take them on
Right these other things that happen in life whether it be uh you know trying to get a promotion or dealing with other challenges in life like Financial uh challenges you know or whatever those are bullies quote unquote those are bullies in your life so you know when
You when your kids become an adult paint this picture right you teach your your your son or daughter how to defend themselves against the biggest kid in the school that’s picking them let’s say they become I don’t know a lawyer let’s say they become a doctor police officer whatever right and
They’re dealing with this issue or if they’re dealing with one of the biggest uh you know challenges in life when it comes to mental health that that can be a bully quote unquote you know saying but teaching them to deal with the biggest kid in school right or their
Biggest you know challenge in school translates to okay I got this issue in front of me how am I going to take it on am I gonna cow away and you know run to the teacher quote unquote or am I gonna take this challenge head on you know
What I’m saying so that’s what we’re that’s what when we talk to say longterm it has longterm effects that’s what we’re talking about um so I’m glad you clarified that cuz I I think I was all over the place when I was trying to say
It but you know what I’m saying hey uh de you got anything yeah I’m about to be a bully over here you don’t H and go to bed he’s getting confident over there go man absolutely hey man hey we appreciate y’all for listening I put it
On mute man because I was about to I saw you put it on me I was like uh oh yeah hey man we appreciate y’all for listen me go let me go take care of this yeah go do what you gotta do brother U we appreciate y’all for listening in we
Love y’all um we’ll see y’all next week all right get some rest Diego be good boy all right
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