Are e e e e E H L For H H J H For For H Name H Am Than PR This H Mer H Than Can’t J You Yes S Said Ch It J For GL Welcome to the memorial for Paul Bay my name is Scott mcginness I’m the pastor here at First Presbyterian Church and Paul was baptized here after the service today we’ll have a graveside service at Greenwood Cemetery you’re welcome to follow the procession there and then there will be a reception that everyone’s invited to
It’s Sand Creek Event Center off the 50 and uh there’s dinner there would you join me in prayer oh God you give us life and time happiness and sorrow Memories We treasure and stories we remember you are there when life begins and you are near when it ends even when
We are unsure and Afraid you are present so we claim your presence this afternoon one of the great lights in our personal sky has gone out and we are afraid of the darkness do not let the darkness overwhelm us Comfort us with the light of your heaven and confirm in
Us the hope of the Resurrection in Jesus name Amen old man Wrigley lived in that white house down the street where I grew up mama used to send me over with things we struck a Friendship spent a few Long Summers out on his Old Port Swing said he was in in the war went in the Navy lost his wife lost his baby broke down and ask him one time how you keep from going Crazy he said I see my wife and son in just a little while I asked him what he meant he looked at me and smile said I raise my hand bow my head I’m finding more and more truth the words written and read and tell me that there’s more to
Life just what I can see oh I Believe few years later I was off at College talking to Mom on the phone one night getting all caught up on the gossip ins and outs of the small town life she said oh by the way son Manly later on that night I laid there thinking back thought about a couple long lost Summers I didn’t know whether to cry last there was ever anybody deserved a ticket to the other side it would be that sweet old man who look me in the eye said I raiseed my hands bow my
Head finding more and more truth in the words written and read they tell me that there’s more to life than just what I can see I can’t quote the book The chapter or the verse you can’t tell me it all ends in a slow r inse
You know I’m more and more convinced the longer that I live yeah it’s can’t be no this can’t be no this can’t be all there is Lord I raise my hand bow my head oh I’m finding more and more truth the words written in red they tell me that there’s more to
This just what I can see I Believe I Believe I Believe I Believe I believe I I High our scripture reading today is about our Good Shepherd Psalm 23 The Lord is my shepherd I shall not want he makes me lie down in Green Pastures he leads me beside Still Waters he restores my soul he leads me in Paths of righteousness for his name’s sake
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I fear no evil for thou art with me thy rod and thy staff they comfort me thou PR preparest a table before me in the presence of my enemies thou anointest my head with oil my cup overflows surely goodness and mercy
Shall follow me all the days of my life and I will dwell in the house of the Lord Forever I know your life on Earth was troubled only you you could know the pain you weren’t afraid face the devil you were no strange to rain go rest [Applause] high On you work on Earth is done go toen shout love for the father and the son oh how we cried the day you left us gathered Round your grave de G wish I could see Angels faces when they hear your sweet voice sing go rest high on the ground son you work on Earth is done go to heaven sh love for the father and Son M Go Rest High on that mountain son you on Earth is done go to love for the father father and the son go to shout love for the father and the Son we’re now going to share some stories and some uh family and friends are going to come up and share some stories with us all this says story so I’ll tell a couple of an incident that from Paul’s Early Childhood that seemed to hint at what was to happen later when he went
Out into the world um when he was almost exactly Oney old we were visiting off our families in uh the Smith side of the family in Greensburg Kansas right around Christmas Paul had only been walking for about a month and we had driven the hours or whatever to get to Greensburg
And got into the house where there were multiple families with multiple children of all ages and we’d been there about 20 minutes when the oldest daughter of the H parent that lived there who was a teenage driver coming back from her local work retail Works uh job and as
She came in the house she was holding a screaming baby dressed only in diapers and she goes does anybody know anything about this and it was Paul he had somehow escaped through an Open Door while people were going in and out and was running down the street the
Middle of the street in a cold Western Kansas December day when she was driving home and found this baby in the road and so she stopped to grab it and the only thing she could do was bring it into our house their house and as it turned out with Paul
Like we got him warmed up and went on and then about when he was about 4 or maybe even less but around 4 he uh he had a habit of just wandering off and one summer day it was dinner time and we couldn’t find him and I went
And normally he would be in like the neighbor’s yard well this time I went out looking and I found him about a block away from our house in the backyard of my neighbor’s home playing in a wood pile so I found him we start walking back and we’re walking down the street
And I remember very clearly looking at him as we’re walking back and I’m thinking what does this mean you were always going off on your own someplace what are you going to be when you grow up well I then forgot about all that later you know until I realized that he
Was on his second or third job as a traveling salesman and I realized maybe that’s was inevitable so anyway that’s my story well I meant to bring the box of Kleenex so I might have to go back to my chair um so this is this is tough uh uh our
Friend was taken too soon and uh but as we spent the last month uh at the University of Kansas hospital and two weeks at the U the hospice house in Al the we found out just how much Paul really did live uh he turned 64 in the hospice
House uh the final week of his life so in those 63 years he really did live a full life as a matter of fact as I look around there’s probably less than 10% of the people in this room that haven’t been to a concert or a Royals game or
Were a Chiefs game with Paul um he he loved a full house his mission was to take you to the front of the Full House at that concert or he had the some of the best season tickets at the chief’s game uh we went to all the games
When the Royals won the the World Series all the games leading up to it um the reason that your funeral program is Paulie’s playlist is because he always tried to get the playlist off of the floor of the band that was playing and and in his man
Cave uh he has a half a dozen different playlists from uh from different concerts so we thought that’d be a good tribute uh I asked Paul what was your first concert and some of you uh Newton High people may have gone with him to this
One I don’t think I did it was Chicago at Henry levit arena in 1974 so we would have been 14 so I’m sure some of the family uh took him to that uh he and I were at the very first show at the Kansas Coliseum at the year
We graduated 1978 which was uh Steve Martin the comedian and we knew we had to go to the first concert at Intrust Bank Arena in 2010 in witto and we did and that was Brad Paisley um so it just it Paul just never slowed down he was always always always at a at
A at at some music event or sporting event um and and he was loved by everyone I’ll tell a story back when we worked at Dylan’s uh during our high school years the manager Jim Sheffer liked to hire all the sports people and cheerleaders that sort of thing and they always had
Very busy schedules and couldn’t work a lot um so the manager told Paul he liked Paul so much he told him he said why don’t you come in on Sunday you clock in when you when you can work several hours cuz that that back when Dylan’s paid time and a
Half on Sundays and he wanted um he wanted Paul to get the benefit of of the little bit of pay uh even though he was really busy with his sports schedule um he went to three different colleges he he he met close friends at each one uh he was at
Coffeeville uh Community College he had there’s there’s a picture in that reel of you know I don’t know 18 guys that that they still T stay in touch he went to U warrenburg Central Missouri State he met friends there probably the closest friends he met which you’ll hear
From a couple here soon uh was was at Emporia State because he was in the fraternity and I’ll tell you what my brother and I MIL were were lucky enough to be with Paul quite a bit in this last month and those two weeks at KU and those two weeks at the hospice
House I’ve never seen more love for one man in my life the stories that were shared it just was you know Paul kept his mental capacity all the way till the last couple days so so if you talked to if you were lucky enough to visit him in
That last month and you talked to him it was just the old Paul he was telling old stories he remembered everything stuff you didn’t remember uh so so that was real neat I’ve got one last story to tell about another person that he uh impacted in this in this last year uh
Unfortunately we went to the first he asked me to go with him to the oncologist uh doctor’s appointment we went on I believe it was January 3rd and the guy I hope he’s not in the room he had horrible bedside manner because oncologists are you know they
Don’t see people very long so their job is they have to be brutally honest and he was and Paul didn’t like that and he told us on January 3rd you will live one year on on on average you’ll live one year if you take the chemo treatment and
You’ll live 6 months without it so he of course chose he told me in the parking lot he was crying when we went out to the to the parking lot after that first appointment and he said bud I’m going to be the outlier he always used to use
Those big words and he said I’m going to be the outlier and I’m going to get five years so he died unfortunately the doctor was exactly right and he died on January 2nd which was exactly one year during that year we were required to see a pallative doctor because he was on
Narcotics and they require you once a month to to to check in with a a drug doctor palao doctor so we met this Dr G and we did it over the video um and once a month we had to meet so I would Paul didn’t have Wi-Fi even
Though he’s a big sports fan he had cable but he didn’t have Wi-Fi so my daughter lived there in Kansas city so we Paul and I would go to her apartment her house set up the Wi-Fi and so Dr G was about our age she’s an old rocker uh
She got to talking to Paul about old rock concerts and music and there towards the end towards October November she told Paul She said Paul you’re my favorite patient ever I mean this doctor seen thousands of patience you know over the course of her her
Career so uh when when we were at the hospice house uh one morning the phone my my cell phone rang and it was a 913 number so I wow somebody you know probably in the medical deal and so I answered the phone and it was Dr G and she said
Murray something’s wrong because Paul missed his appointment today you guys didn’t didn’t show up for the video and I I said oh my God you know cuz we were at the hospice house and I forgot I said oh Dr God I’m so sorry she said no no no
Don’t don’t apologize she said I know something’s wrong because Paul would have been you know uh there for the appointment so she said I’m going to do something I never do she said I’m going to come and see Paul and so I just want you to know that Paul had that kind of
Impact this was a a doctor we only saw on the video and it was basically 15 minutes once a month for that year and he made such an impact that she drove to that hospital house and and and had a had a real good uh uh last meeting with Paul
Um so back to the four weeks two weeks at KU and two weeks at the at the hospice house I just want you all to know how much love was in that room and everybody’s talked about it everybody that came and saw him and visited him they walked out and just said man
Everybody loves Paul so God bless Paul and God bless all of you for loving him because it was Mutual thank you my name is Bob fanan um Paul and I were fraternity Brothers at uh simag Gama while attending puy State University back in the early 0s we were roommates friends 40
Years he was quick to listen slow to speak and slow to anger the Bible tells us to practice these actions but Paul didn’t need the Bible to teach him these things he did these naturally he was Dependable loyal funny generous thoughtful tough these are the words that I would
Use to describe him but I think um the word that fits him best is kind it’s hard for some folks to be kind you have to work at it but not Paul he was born kind he was most kind he was kind of most everyone just being around him made
You a Kinder person I guess that’s why at fraternity functions and concerts and other get togethers I always try to sit by him CU I needed his kindness to rub off me just ask some of my fraternity Brothers out there they’ll tell you Paul was a lover of sports and
Music KU basketball Chiefs Royals were his favorite teams live concerts were his passion think 70s and 80s music he loved the who but M Paul McCartney and the Rolling Stones were also favorites all bet most people here went to a concert with Paul or knew someone
Who did I know for a fact that he gifted those concert tickets to most people he expected nothing in return except for you to have good time here’s a story so uh Paul McCart was in witto a few years back we went to the concert um when it was over tried to pay
For my ticket he wouldn’t take any payment he said no Bobby it’s on me it’s an investment I was this project we had drifted apart some so I guess this was his way of uh rekindling our friendship Paul was also the forgiving type while he was at KU Med on one of my
Recent visits last month he was in a lot of pain so he wasn’t talking much out of the blue he looks up at he looks up at me Bobby you drank my Crown Royal Reserve 20 years ago I said I said um I don’t I don’t recall that but I don’t deny it
Either he said that’s okay Bobby All Is Forgiven besides I got to refri refrigerator have a deal it’s a true story that refrigerator is still over at his house here in Newton but my point is dude is on his deathbed full of cancer and he is absolving me of my
Sins when I Google the term family man you know who comes up first Paul it’s his picture guaranteed he loved his family and it was large he was a son a brother a Godfather an uncle a cousin he was a friend he had his batliner family Newton family Kansas City Family
Siga these last few months Paul heard from his National and international friends and family located all over this great country and yes even Transylvania Romania it’s true he’s got people over there see what I mean though a large family not just here but everywhere family always came first for
Paul you can always count on Paul he cared about you he loved his friends he loved his family and he loved his life he wasn’t perfect thank goodness but he was perfect for us and he made our world a much better place to live thanks for my name is Nick
Stach and I’ve had the pleasure of known Paul since the spring of 1982 we were students at Emporia State University and members of the sigma game of fraternity and I know fraternities most of the time get bad press in the media but I can tell you what I experienced and 2005 with Mark
Lloyd and now this past year with Paul Bay showed the true meaning of Brotherhood and friendship Paul was my first roommate at the fratority house he was a senior and I was a lonely lowly sophomore he had a cool cutless Supreme marom color that he was very proud of and I was Carlos
So we were a perfect match for roommates a lot of my fraternity Brothers used to kid around and say that one of my key prerequisites of a friend they had of a car but we did a lot of things together a lot of things I can’t share here in this holy Place
Sanctuary but we had a lot of fun attending fraternity priorties sority exchanges going out to the bars attending beer bus dime draws nickel pictures and even going out on dates together in fact uh my first date with my beautiful wife Julie Paul and I double dated he was
Dating a girl from Newton Cindy sangles and this is my first date with my potential girlfriend and hopefully would work into something even better we attended uh a movie at on campus Arthur with uh Dy Moore and Liza Manelli and uh cost us a whole dollar for each ticket
We were Big Spenders in college but Paul had the idea that after the concert it was a September night a beautiful night that he said he brought a blanket a bucket of ice and we went all out and got a bottle of crackling Rosé for his girlfriend and my first date with Julie
My wife was highly impressed and thought that I was going to be quite the Romantic Paul made me look good thank you Paul after college uh Paul and Ice remained very close we did a lot of things together uh back in 1989 the lyes the Harmons and Paul and I were dates um
We bought season tickets in 1989 uh when Marty shimer and Carl Peterson took over for the Kansas City Chiefs we decided why don’t we uh get season tickets and do something together each weekend and boy did we have a lot of fun the games were part of the fun but
The tailgating was Paul’s number one priority he was our social director and he made darn sure that each Sunday that we were at the Lloyd’s house ready to leave by 8:30 in the morning because we had to be at the gates when the gates open at 9:00 so we could stand there and
Freeze to death or sweat to death depending on on the season and have lots and lots of fun which we did and a lot of you guys were a part of those tailgates with the Harmons the Lloyds Paul and I and many others during the first year or two Paul
Came up with a great idea and said you know what we got to um make the last home game around Christmas even more special so he decided he would invent the merry Christmas martinis outing and I think most of us our close friends we all attended that and he went all out
And got a bottle of Rumple mist and he had to have a cherry for bonach you know for a little class because we were not highest classy people so and every uh uh uh game where the Sunday before Christmas or closest to Christmas he would give a grand toast and it was a
Big event for Paul it was very very important to him and we would all toast that uh Rumple Mist most of us dreading half and the half to drink drink it but for Paul’s sake we did it and we did this for 20 plus years I think one of
Our buddies sudsy has a shirt with the anniversary of the 20y year anniversary that’s how important it was to Paul that we attended this and had a lot of fun at the merry Christmas Martini outing uh in December we also played a lot of sports together as people have already said he
Had a love for sports and he had a love for music and we have a lot of people here played on his basketball teams his volleyball teams and especially his softball teams we played coed volleyball or excuse me coed softball we played two men’s uh double header leagues every
Week so we were playing Five League games every week and we had a lot of fun and and we played softball together for over 20 years and the core players like Mr Lloyd I bless you buddy Mike Harman Terry leapor Tim Carter Steve Hill Brad coins not only were teammates but became dear
Friends of Paul’s a lot of them are here today and then he had other teammates that joined in like Jim mlen the Brown Brothers the poorest Brothers sudy Pat Brown Brian Schmidt Mark Shader and others too many to name but we became teammates and brothers and we had a lot
Of success believe it or not and after the games again Paul’s uh doing that we had to do a tailgate after every game even if we had the 8:30 9:30 game the game got over at 10:30 we’d stay out there for hour and a half two hours in
The parking lot drinking Coke Diet Coke and Sprite and telling stories and if you made any mistakes and I had plenty of mistakes as a softball player right Steve and Brad uh they made a lot of fun of each other we made a lot of fun of each other we had a
Lot of fun together and that became equally as important if not more important than the softball games and man as Steve Hill said these were some of the best memories of Our Lives tailgating after the softball games then finally the concerts and I know most of us his good
Friends and co-workers we went to a lot of concerts at Paul to many need to name but a couple that were important to me my wife accused me of going through a midlife crisis in 1994 cuz Paul talked me into going to see Alison chaines and kiss in in their costume farewell tour
In 1994 and I think they’re still touring today but uh we went and did that uh we went uh and saw lots of concerts and probably the uh concerts that we saw the most with Paul there’s so many of them but Billy Joel probably was number one uh certainly sticks and
Journey and forigner and others and unfortunately fortunately uh John gagnet and I had the dubious honor being able to attend Paul’s last concert together it was a Billy Joel concert uh with Stevie Nicks at Arrowhead Stadium on August 19th with the heat index of 1105 whatever I was praying to the God
Above the night before that Paul would bail out because he was fighting stage four pancreatic cancer and he was going through lots of chemo and he was just not as strong he didn’t have the stamina so I was praying that he would say guys it’s just going to be too hot let’s not
Do this and I would have been all in but that son of a gun he talked to his col of care doctor and she said Paul you got to go you got to go so I called and said is are we is this going to happen and he
Said absolutely why wouldn’t it neck and I said okay so we went out there and we tailgated and of course Paul was very regimented in his outings if it was you know Chief’s tailgate or if was after a softball game and certainly before a
Concert that we had to do it his way his playlist with the artist a few beverages of coke di of Coke and Sprite and others and uh and just had a lot of fun but it was so so hot that day and that guy again because he was a warrior he he
Fought a valiant fight against this horrible disease he stayed to the very end and we were out there for probably eight hours from the time we tailgated to the concert until the time we could get out of there and I’m so blessed that John gagnet had the vision to to buy
Shirts for Paul myself and John so something we could always remember attending our last concert with Mr Paul Bas it was just unbelievable and then finally I can’t ignore my uh second family the people here for bat line of paper Paul started working for us in
July of 1995 he was in between jobs he heard that we had an opening he called me and asked if there was any chance I looked at Paul once I looked around I said Paul you’re a pretty good salesperson we’re not selling Rocket Fuel here we’re buying scrap paper as
Long as you put forth the effort like he did at No Nonsense Gillette you’ll be a success and he was immediately he became the king of cardboard recycling he really thrived on grocery stores and I think it was because of his days at No Nonsense and Jette working with him so
He had kind of a comfort level a familiarity and he just killed it he just was outstanding and then he also had a lot of success in small town America uh and I think it’s because of his roots here in Newton that he felt so comfortable with small town America and
He just rocked it for us and and he was just a great employee a great friend and and that’s why we have a number of people here because they cared about Paul they loved Paul he he was a great coworker but he also did a lot of things with
These guys they went to Chiefs games they went to concerts together he just was an unbelievable person and a great coworker and he came to me in December of 22 which was a year ago December and said Nick he said’ I think I’m ready to retire I said’ really he said I think
I’m going to retire the end of December of 2023 I have my finances in order I own my house I’m counting on my dear brother Murray Anderson to let me work at the liquor store uh part-time to stay busy and he said I want to do this and I
Said Paul I’m so proud of you man you’ve been it’s been a great run you deserve this 6 weeks later he finds out not only does he have pancreatic cancer he has freaking stage four pancre cancer so he knew this last year his main focus was trying to fight this horrible disease
And he fought It Like a Warrior but the sad thing is and the frustrating part and it’s hard to understand he didn’t get to spend one dime of his retirement and then finally I don’t B you talked a lot about this just a couple quick things and I’m out of
Here last month December I got the pleasure to get to know Milt Murray your kids people from Newton and then certainly the people in Kansas City we spent a lot of time together sharing stories and as Mor said he was so witty and and and had his uh his uh faculties
In his mind his memory it was perfect and so we just relive stories maybe embellish them a little bit because you can do that and and so we had a lot of fun together the people at KU Med Center who worked there and the people at the
Le ala hosp house quote stated many of times they couldn’t believe how many people were in his room each and every night there were times I was in a room with nine other people in not County Paul Bay I mean there was only a couple
Times that I went up there that he was by himself for a small period of time and one of those times was December 12th at KU Med Center he had received the bad news from the the doctors that he was not going to be released from KU Med
Center he was never going home to his apartment in in over on Park he was never going home to his house in Newton and that was hard for him it was a very emotional day and he looked at me when we had maybe 15 minutes of time together
Just he and I and he said you know Nick he said I’m not ready to throw in the towel right now he said my birthday is next week I want to live till I’m 64 he goes it’s the holidays and I don’t want to pass during the holidays and bring
People down I want to stick it out and tough it out and I said Paul that’s between you and God I said you fought a great fight but at the time it comes where you’re tired and you just can’t give anymore it’s okay to let go cuz
You’ve been a warrior buddy and I can only hope when it’s my time that I can maintain the class and dignity that Paul did to the very end and then speaking of the very end Murray and Milt and I were sitting there on Saturday afternoon he
Had a lot of visitors from Newton had come up to see him he was tired and a little bit worn out I could tell that this time but U we sat there and talked for a little bit and he stated this and I don’t know if he knew this was going
To be his last quote or not cuz I didn’t know he told us how proud he was um and and how blessed he was to have all the love and support that he had received this past year from his family his friends his co-workers that he was truly
Blessed and I told Paul at that time I said Paul you earned that puty you’ve been a great friend and a great coworker and we’re just doing the right thing and supporting you and showing you your love and he said I’m so blessed 10 minutes later he fell asleep I did not realized
That was going to be the last time he would be awake to be able to talk to us he was unconscious and unresponsive for the next 3 or 4 days and passed peacefully on Tuesday January 2nd around 3:30 in the afternoon and now he’s up in God’s kingdom where he’s reunited with
His mom and dad his his brother David uh some of our fraternity brothers and friends like Mark Lloyd mark bieberstein my own brother Mike who died last year in a car accident and uh I’m just proud to know that Paul baz was not only a great coworker for batliner
Paper for 28 and a half years but he also was a great friend to me and a dear brother and I’m proud to know Paul Bas as my friend and brother rest in peace Paul I love you brother I’m John gagnet and I’m proud to say that I met Paulie through sigat
Fraternity at Emporia State in 1982 as he was transferring from Central Missouri State at the time uh of course we welcomed Paul in with open arms Paul’s a great guy and a wonderful fraternity brother when I was the second vice president of the house in charge of
Social events Paul was my little sis chairman of course Paul hated that being around the girls all the time I remember him sitting in the meetings with the little sisters hanging on every word that they said we had a great program and I knew Paul would give
It his all the girls loved him too which was an added bonus you couldn’t not like Paul if someone didn’t like him then there was something wrong with that person and if Paul ever didn’t like some person you know there was definitely something wrong with
Them well all born we are all born into a family Paul’s family extended to his friends from Newton his co-workers his softball teammates his Chiefs tailgate friends and his fraternity Brothers when Paul needed help everyone rallied together to help Paul with whatever he needed I’m proud to have met some of the
Greatest people in my life um I also want to give a shout out to the Andersons you guys are amazing I hope when my time comes I hope there’s somebody around like you everybody needs some Andersons in their life I remember going to the intermal basketball games
At ESU just to watch Paul he was all over the court and when an opponent was get ready to take their shot Paul would jump up in front of him as high as he could and go hey and just run his arm down their face never touching him but
He was doing everything to uh catch him catch him off guard I I laugh so many times at that I still remember the text message I got from Bob Fon canon in febru on February 10th last year that’s when I learned that Paul was sick I contacted Paul as soon as I read
The text I’m a real estate agent so I can plan my own schedule I told Paul if there’s anything he needed I’d be happy to help and I could also be back up in case something came up with one of the other proud members of Paul’s Army I took him
To a couple of appointments into the grocery stores Paul went through the first two rounds of treatment like a champ he never lost his hair he never got sick and he actually gained weight Paul never ever lost his positive attitude and his sense of humor people
Would ask how he was doing I would tell them that if you didn’t know Paul was sick you could never tell towards the end when he did lose his hair and I would say he looks different on the outside but it’s the same pully on the
Inside and with Paul’s Army he never you wanted to use any of the volunteers more than once in a week and as time went on Paul got weaker and tired out easily he but he had things all lined out as far as who was going to take him
To what appointment on what day who was going to drop him off who was going to pick him up he had it all lined out he was very organized um I was his personal shopper at Costco and the hiy at 95th in Antioch in Overland Park I would go to his apartment on
Thursdays about 1:00 I’d get his list his credit card and his hiy rewards card and his list was incredibly easy to follow it was laid out by Department it was also organized by how the Department’s laid out in the store D Derry was always asked cuz I was in
The far back corner of the store um he always wanted five or six bananas um and he wanted bananas that weren’t too green but that would last him until the next week and sometimes I’d bring back five individual bananas so make sure he had one for every day of the
Week one time I took a little bit longer than normal because I went to Dairy Queen and got one of his favorite things a dark chocolate dipped strawberry blizzard I got one too and it was amazing and I’ll never forget the look on Paul’s face when I handed it to him
Paul liked the way I shot because I it became a game of what is the longest Best Buy Date I could find i’ dig around the bags of salad or bread to see which one had the longest shelf life I’d reach behind the jugs of milk and get him a
Couple extra days and when I got back and unloaded the things he would go over his receipt and usually had a pretty close idea of what the bill would come to and I enjoyed doing this and I really miss this now this part is important later in my
Speech Paul always liked the hiy deli calzones but he always wanted an extra sauce container so he could make two meals out of one order he would call the store and spoke to a gentleman named Jesse at the deli and plac his order after a couple of times going in
There Jesse would see me walk in the door go to the warmer pull out the calzones usually it was one cheese and two hamburger and without fail there were always two sauce containers with each calone one time I shared with Jesse what Paul was going through and how much he
Appreciated the extra customer service that he got the week before Thanksgiving was my last trip to Hive for Paul he asked me to take his car because it needed gas and he had about 11 million highy rewards points he had almost as many as his holiday in
Points I I think after the discounts the gas was a little over a dollar a gallon that day on the morning of Monday December 4th Paul called and texted me to see if I could bring him some watermelon and some grapes so he could have some moisture in
His mouth I called him and he told me about not being able to keep anything down and being sick all weekend after talking to Murray who in turn called his nurse and his doctor friend sudy a decision was made that he needed to go to the hospital when I went to Paul’s
Place he was resistant at first but when I said sui said he needed to be in the hospital he agreed to go he was a k mid for two weeks and it was a revolving door of visitors and one nurse said she didn’t think she’d ever seen a patient who got more visitors
Than Paul even his Pala of care doctor as Murray mentioned came to see him and she um was tearing up and cried as she was I was leaving the room and Paul really made an impression on people right before moving from K to the L the Hospice House a gigantic beautiful poinsetta
Arrived the card said it was from your friends at the 95th Street High ve I guess since Jesse hadn’t talked to Paul in a couple weeks and he hadn’t seen me pick up his calzones he feared the worst the only thing I can figure is that Jesse used Paul’s phone number and
His hiy card to find out his full name and then after several calls to hospitals find out what Paul was everyone who came in the room to visit commented on the plant we were sure to tell them that it came from his grocery store now how many people can say
That the staff at the OA Hospice House were amazing to Paul when he got to the Hospice House Paul actually started eating again the nurses even made him special order grilled cheese sandwiches and again there was another revolving door visitors it’s no secret that Paul like
To have a good time and he also love to see those around him have a good time a lot of us were fortunate to have attended a concert or Chiefs game with Paul as Nick said in August um Paul took Nick and his son Brett and my wife and I
To see the Billy Joel Stevie Nicks concert at arrowead even though it was about 140 degre down on the field it was beyond amazing and Paul was a trooper he kept hydrated and enjoyed the concert and we enjoyed and enjoyed seeing all of us enjoy it he knew how how to show people
A good time uh that night when we walked into Arrowhead if this is Arrowhead Stadium we Paul had a handicap permit we got there early thinking we get a close spot so we parked here and we walked all the way around the stadium to here to
Enter so it was a real short walk to the car when we left and I brought along a walker that was my mother’s just in case Paul needed I said if you want me to I’ll walk in with it if you think you’re going to
Need it in the stadium no no no I’ll be okay I’ll be okay so um you’re with me just a second here and as Nick mentioned um I recently learned the story of the Christmas Martini that Paul concocted and Stan Morris it’s okay for you to start laughing
Now someone it was it was a shot of rum min’s 100 Proof peppermint schnaps with a marcino cherry and I love to hear Paul say this the Marino of cherry was for panach and just the way he said it was a crack up and someone brought a bottle of
Rumman to and cherries to his room a k Med I had to try it Paul said the stuff would warm up your toenails he was not kidding I think it even took some of the enamel off my teeth I’ll never pass a Dairy Queen or hiy without thinking about
Paul I’ll thank him him every time I hear Stevie Nick Landslide on January 2nd when we got the call Paul’s passing we were of course sad but also glad that he was in a wonderful place where he was no longer in pain although it’s difficult at a time
Like this as we say goodby to our dear friend Paul I’m going to close with a quote from Dr Seuss don’t cry because it’s over smile because it happened we love you paully God speed Beautiful Beautiful Stories beautiful life if you want to hear those stories
Again we will have this on our Church’s YouTube page look for First Presbyterian Church of Newton Kansas not Newton Massachusetts and I’ll invite Mitch baz up to share message well good afternoon and I’m going to tell you it is a good afternoon because I know where Paul is I firmly
Believe that I’m naive enough to believe everything in this book is true and it’s real and that’s what I want to talk about um I’m going to try to channel probably the best funeral message I ever heard and that was from my cousin Paul for his special brother and Jody’s
Brother David um he wore a beetle shirt if I remember and played hey hey we’re the monkeys that’s what that’s what Davey loved Davey was just great and he gets to be with him now now so um you know I know a lot of you wearing Chiefs
And here I’m wearing Royals not a lot of Royals but there’s a reason behind that it’s because um you know I was one of those lucky people that got to go with Paul to a game it was 2014 one of the last regular season games of the year um against the Giants
Madison Bumgarner was pitching that night and we hammered him I mean we beat him 14 to1 and I still don’t know to this day how they beat us twice in the World Series in 2014 this just crazy so my brothers got to go um to the some of
The playoff games so just a great memory and the other thing is you know being bases and and having you know my dad was Brothers with Paul’s dad Paul and and there were eight other siblings and there was you know cousins and uncles and every Sunday at Washington school
There was baseball you know it was softball really but it was baseball so you know um that that’s our life and I’ve coached High School baseball for 30 years so I thought you know I need to wear that and this is just real briefly some things about Paul you’ve heard how
Good he was but you know so I coached High School baseball I’ve been lucky enough to coach High School baseball 30 years and uh I got named as a head coach for holstead high school and and so I brought paully a hat um after he gotten
Sick and he was home and wanted us over so I brought him a a holstead high school baseball hat so you know what does Paul do so every time um somebody new walks in at at the Le or wherever he’s like hey this is my oldest cousin Mitch and and he coaches baseball
Holstead high school and I feel like man it’s a Podunk 3A school I mean apologies apologies to my brother Tim and and Julie who’s got kiddos there but you know it’s like it’s not a big deal but to Paul it was that’s who he was so um
And um allow me this because this is like a poll thing you know I’m going to take this off just to show you so there’s there’s a story behind this shirt I I don’t know if you can see it but down at the bottom you know it says
Be bold be brave be Berry and then below that Paul bought these shirts when Eric Barry uh was playing for the Chiefs he got diagnosed with non hodam lymphoma well my mom had leukemia and was in the hospital in a bad way and so what does
Paul do this is not his mom you know this is an aunt he goes and buys these shirts and below it he puts B Maryland and I don’t know if you saw the picture um if you didn’t I will show you I’m sure my brothers will show you too of U
Paul coming to the hospital with h three of my brothers my twin brother couldn’t make it but you know we’re all wearing these shirts and my mom wears wearing this shirt and that’s just who he was so you know this is how much better he was
Than me you know after I saw him early December I thought I need to get Paul shirts like that and I didn’t get to it before it got too late and so in my pathetic way I wrote B Paul down below that because that’s who he was that’s
The kind of guy person he was so you know he went to be with his his brother uh Davey and with um his dad and mom and so many other aunts and uncles um January 2nd and and my brothers and I got to see him that one last time that
Saturday morning um and then he died on Tuesday and you know what maray and and other said is true you know he um we left about 1:30 I think that afternoon and by 2:30 and Murray had told me that he told Paul you know it’s time to go
See Davey and that’s when he said I’m so blessed who can say that who can say that’s that’s like a lug garig moment that’s like you know when Lugar is diagnosed with the disease that bears his name he says I consider myself the luckiest man alive you know who can say
That somebody who knows where he’s going Paul is in the kingdom and the reason why is because he knew who his Lord was so we’re grieving the loss of Paul and and it’s okay to grieve that it’s important to grieve that we’re going to miss him the rest of our lives but the
Truth is that deep in our hearts if we truly examine our own lives we know something is missing there’s a god-shaped hole in our hearts that nothing in this world can fill a famous worship leader I love quotes and this is one of my quotes that just sticks in my
Head she said you know all the world would have to offer you is just death wrapped in a bow and that doesn’t mean there’s that all the world has bad stuff it just means there’s not any everlasting life to it there’s only one thing that has everlasting life and that’s in belief on
The Lord Jesus Christ and so this message is for those who still might have that whole deep down we can sense and we know that this world is not all there is and it’s not enough there’s got to be more and it’s Jesus you we were made for relationships and Paul would be
The first to tell you that right and you’ve heard how good he was I’ll tell you this too being good is not good enough I will never measure up up to how good Paul was but Paul himself knew that being good does not get you a ticket
It’s knowing Jesus now a lot of religions will tell you that you can have peace in this world you know if if you just do this or do that you can reach your God or you know if you just take care of that and the problem is it’s not true you
Cannot lift yourself up by your own bootstraps because all the good we do cannot make up for a fallen world and the fact that we are fallen in it it’s fact it’s it’s not even a balance you can’t measure up at all so you know what God did he took his
Only son and he said you’re that good if you believe on the Lord Jesus Christ you’re that good he took his punishment for us because we messed up not him but here’s the catch you don’t have to do anything for it except confess your inform Perfection and come to him
Surrendered that sounds really easy but that I’ll tell you that last part is the hard part to surrender the famous Christian Author CS Lewis once said this that Fallen man is not I told you I like quotes right sorry Fallen man is not simply an imperfect creature who needs Improvement he is a
Rebel who must lay down his arms meaning that you cannot get to heaven just by being good doing good works and improving yourself the truth is you can’t do a thing on your own to get there the good news the great news is Jesus did it for you so you know here’s
The great I call this inoculated Christianity in this Western culture he said oh you know you just have to accept Jesus you just have to believe in Jesus I get a chuckle out of that you know they said you just got to get right with the man
Upstairs acting like you know he’s a man just like you and God himself says you thought I was altogether like you but he’s holy and you’re not he also said I’m not a man that I should lie and what’s that tell you about our state that we we can’t measure up we
Cannot at all so many good believing Christians they say you know just believe in Jesus you know just like saying to a child just believe in Santa Claus he’ll bring you presence just believe in the tooth fairy he’ll bring you money right so the problem is there’s no relationship in
That whatsoever you know just believe in you don’t know him you don’t know Santa you don’t know the Tooth Fairy well if you don’t know Jesus then you don’t know the kingdom either you know it’s almost a type of Pride too because there’s no dependence
There he saying I can do whatever I want I just believe this right well you know James the Apostle says that you know even the demons believe that one of my favorite qu uh scripture quotes and it kind of gets messed up in our Western culture culture was the
Apostle Paul who my cousin I’m sure was named after and after his dad he was in the jail with Silas and you know God breaks the the chains and the Jailer is going to kill himself and Paul says no no wait we’re all here and
The guy is so amazed he goes what do I have to do to be saved and in our Western culture we say well just believe in Jesus no no that’s not the actual scripture the actual scripture says believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved
To me that’s a huge difference believe in is like the Tooth Fairy right oh yeah okay I believe and do whatever believe on that means I throw myself at your mercy and I give utter dependence and I Surrender my life to you Lord I think one of the scariest things in scripture
Is when Jesus himself says many will come to me on that day and say Lord Lord and he’ll say depart from me I never knew you Paul knew Jesus yeah he wasn’t perfect none of us are he might have done some heinous things I
Don’t know I mean you know I have but I know this that if I throw myself at Jesus he takes me now I know what some of you are thinking if you don’t believe this you say well jesz if I give this up you know
I I I I give up all rights to myself you’re right but you know what you haven’t been listening by surrendering you are set free Paul and letter to the church in galatia tells him it is for Freedom Christ has Set Me Free you know the Bible’s got more good
Quotes than anything it is for the fact of Freedom that you are set free with Jesus free from the slavery of sin free from feeling you have to perform now does that mean you don’t sin anymore oh God no CU I know I still do but I don’t want to and that’s the
Trick is to surrender and give your heart and Life to him then he starts to fill you with his goodness you’re free to operate in his love like Paul did you’re free from The Sting of death and the best way I’ve ever heard of that if you’re worried and
Scared about death there was a pastor once that had his kids in the car and he’d been talking about death with them because a close member had died and the kid was like daddy I’m scared to death and just then a truck passed by and it
Was daytime in the shadow of the truck went and he goes you know that truck if it hit us would be kind of scary right kid went yeah and he goes well the shadow just passed us were you scared of that no daddy that’s the difference if
You know Jesus you don’t have to be any scared of any old Shadow you’re free from The Sting of death Jesus himself tells us come to me all who are weak and weary Laden and I will give you rest for my yoke is easy and my burden is light
Jesus has already taken away your sin and credit you and me undeservedly I might add with righteousness now that’s the trick you know Jesus came to take away the sin of the world John the Baptist said behold the lamb who takes away the sin of the world your sins
Already taken away all you have to do is accept that and surrender to him because the problem is you don’t have any righteousness neither do I but Jesus does and he gives it to you if you believe the choice is then is will you lay down your arms and accept it Paul
Did I know he did cuz I talked to him I heard his fraternity tub Brothers talk to him he knew where he was going and he was a good man but being good like I said is not good enough as soon as I heard from Murray
That he was gone I thought of that joyful reunion he was having with Davy and where they were running because you know Paul like to run and Davey did too they’re running on these streets of gold you know and I thought of that song you that you two wrote where the streets
Have no name and and I know that wasn’t the original intention maybe of their song but you know I bet in heaven the streets don’t have any name cuz you know where you’re at you know where you’re going all the time in heaven and know one of the most poignant things I ever
Remember was you two playing in 2002 the Super Bowl which Paul I bet would have remembered right after 911 and and as they’re playing where the streets have no name the names of all the 9911 victims are rolling through but the sad truth is probably
Not all of them made it it because they didn’t believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and be saved now look I I don’t mean to be on a soap box we’re going to have a big party tonight we’re going to celebrate I’m going to celebrate with you it’s not
Lost on me the fact that Jesus turned about a 100 gallons of water into wine right so I’m there with you but just remember that whatever the world has to offer it doesn’t provve Everlasting ing life only Jesus does that you know the Bible says don’t be drunk with wine but
Be drunk with the Holy Spirit enjoy it but believe on Jesus let’s pray Lord Jesus when I considered that the hands of the feet of the baby born in the manger came to be the same hands and feet that were pierced for me oh Lord I
Can barely take that in but Jesus you came to take away my sin so this poor Caged Bird would sing again oh Lord I hope this poem does not offend that everyone here their own knee would bend because Lord your word says for one day every knee will bow and
Every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord amen thank you Grace how sweet the sound that save a rich like me I want was lost but now I’m found was blind but now I see was Grace that My Heart To Fear and Grace my Fears how preious de that Grace Of the are i f feeling Through D to and S we Have was gra that us and gra us when We [Applause] Years We PR Christ Amazing Grace Like I was but now found was but now I See beautiful would you please stand for the benediction if you’re willing would you hold the hand of your friends and family may the Lord bless you and keep you may the Lord make his face to shine on you and be gracious to you may the Lord lift up his countenance on you and
Give you peace amen For for The Yeah you That I
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