Hey everyone my name is carrington alexis and today’s video is going to be about greek life and some tips about joining if you want to join yeah so let’s get into it i am a part of alpha kappa alpha sorority incorporated i’ve been apart for almost three years now um
I just graduated so now i am not considered undergrad anymore so it’s a little sad i am still a part of alpha kappa alpha i’m just giving some tips um about greek life and everything so um i’m gonna be looking off my laptop i wrote stuff down so i wouldn’t
Lose track of mine um first which no matter what somebody you want to be a part of or what fraternity you want to be a part of do your research research research research please research um i can’t stress this one enough because why be a part of something that you don’t have any
Knowledge about you know the research is like a very important part because why join something and you don’t even know what to uh what it’s about yeah you see us we have our letters on we stroll you see us do community service but do you actually know
What the sorority or fraternity is about you know so one do your research please it’ll help you out a lot and you know listen some people you go in you’re like oh i really want to be an aka i really want to be aka but you start doing your research
And it turns out you want to be an sgro it happens life happens when you look into research you can just see if you your values align with the values of the sorority or fraternity and um you can get a better look into you know what they the values are
What like how they came to be etc two great i can’t stress this enough please take your academic career seriously you are in college therefore that’s what you came there for you know you that’s what you came to school for you didn’t come to school to join a
Sorority just join a fraternity you came to school to get your degree therefore um you know a lot of all of the sororities and fraternities that i know of have a grade requirement so make sure you’re taking your school and academic prayers uh very seriously because that could hinder you possibly
When it comes to pledging so please please take your academic career seriously because again like i like i just stated you know you didn’t come to school to pledge you know you came to school to learn and to get your degree and to find a career you know so um not only
Have your grades in order if you’re interested in pledging but also have your grades in order for you you know because that’s very important and that’s why you’re in school so keep that up three i would say be more involved on campus um not saying that you necessarily have to be
Involved on campus me and a lot of my sisters before we even got our letters before we even pledged we were very involved on campus um you know any small organization that we felt we were a part of we were a part of and we put our all
Into that um and it shows you know it shows that we were driven to do stuff outside of just academics you know and it shows that we can handle a lot on our plate and that when we dedicate our time to something we dedicate our time to
Something so for me i was a part of um f m fashion and motion at my school uh i go to i went to sfa stephen and boston uh if anybody was wondering i sir got their heads bored at first i was head of
Makeup and i loved it so much oh my god like it was so much fun oh my gosh that organization i love to death and then my last semester at sfa i actually was president and i got to put on this great amazing fashion show i
Again thank everybody who was a part of it um yeah so i was a part of that um and it was actually really fun so yeah just getting more involved on campus um it’ll just help you branch out get to know people make more friends obviously again this
Really doesn’t pertain to greek life necessarily but um on the other hand it’s really good to just have your you know just yourself out in in involved on campus because girls like me draws on my sorority if i see a girl like doing her stuff and then
I find out she’s pledging i it’s like oh okay girl like you do this okay cool like you know i’m i’m intrigued i could see that she’s actually dedicated to doing other things than just school which is fine if you just do school that’s fine but
You know it just it’s kind of like like a little bonus like you know four go to the events that sorority that you want to join or whatever you’re interested in joining um go to the events and support it’s another thing of like research but like
How or why would you try to join something and you don’t even you don’t even go to the events that the girls are hosting just take into consideration yes i understand i was like on that side of it i was nervous to go to the events you know nervous to be
In that atmosphere with them you know nervous totally understand but now on the side of actually being in it when we host these events and girls come and they’re really enthusiastic about what we have going on or like the event that we’re hosting it makes us so happy like um
As much as you guys are nervous you know or you know we’re nervous as well you know you want to put your best foot forward so like we you know like we do and so all i have to really say on that is just like go to the events
Bring a friend go to events trust me it it’s not bad do not feel nervous because nine times out of ten we’re nervous as well yeah i feel like a lot of people you know talking to just you know girls on campus because i make it to where like you know
Just come talk to me like you know you don’t have to be too scared or whatever but a lot of the time uh some girls will be like well i’m just too nervous to go to the events like i just you know i don’t know like i don’t know what to
Do and then i’m like girl we put on these events for y’all you guys interested to get you guys involved and what we’re doing and to see that see what we’re doing really so yeah so please uh don’t be nervous to come to events please come vince it really warms our
Hearts and on top of that it gets us familiar with you you know it it gives us like okay i’ve seen so so she comes to all our events but she’s really nice you know it gives us more of a who you are time to know your personality you know us our personality
Yeah pretty much build a bond in a way i think i’m on fire getting to know the girls so every chapter is different um i don’t think any chapters just alike every chapter has different girls in it um so that saying that means like get to know
You know some of the girls individually but please be genuine because don’t just be friends because you want to i want to be a part of them so i’m just going to be there don’t do that because that that is it from from experience you know i’ve
Had girls come up to me and try to befriend me and i’m thinking like oh my gosh you’re really cool and then like people will come up to me and be like oh yeah so she said she’s gonna do that because she really wants to be an aka and i’m like oh
So we just we just try to fake be friends don’t do that that’s that’s not good don’t just do that in general because that’s rude so um i would say genuinely get to know the girls because you want to know who you’re if you know you decide to pledge and
Everything and unless they get in you want to know who you’re going to be sisters um you want to know what their personalities are you want to know if you guys mesh really well if you don’t you know you want to know you want to you want to
Um understand them understand how they are as a person understand you know why they do what they do you know you want to befriend them like any other friend you want you know so um i find that a lot with not a lot but uh for example some of the some of my
Neos love my neos and yes if you’re watching um some of them i didn’t know at all at all that didn’t hinder their chances or anything but it would have been nice to know them because we would have been a little bit more like hey girl you know um
And it’s not difficult to you know get to know people when they already crossed or whatever it’s even more of a chance to get to know because you guys are always going to hang out together um but uh yeah you you kind of want to already have a bond with people because it’s
Just because when you do cross it’s just like that ah like girl you know i’ve been i’ve been waiting for you type you know it’s just like it’s a different feeling i guess because uh some of my needles i’m really close with and when they cross oh my heart y’all i was like
Yes my babies love my babies and i felt like that for all of them but again with having a closer bond with um some of them because i knew some of them before um it just hit different and it’s just like ah like ah that’s how it felt so sorry if that
Until i’m weird but personally for me i feel like if you get to know um and create like a good friendship before the letters before pledging it just hits different and i feel like a lot of people can uh say the same i think six now i’m not sure six uh be
Aware of how you look on social media um meaning that i feel like that’s self-explanatory make sure you you have like a really good image in the way of um your profiles clean nothing inappropriate really uh but that i mean i feel like that goes without even
Saying uh being a part of a sorority especially um if you look at their values and stuff you high scholastic and ethical standards you know so just if you’re going to be a part of something make sure you do your research and make sure you want to put your best foot
Forward your best self forward because um hey college you want to have fun no problem with that but as far as holding yourself to a higher standard do that you know you can have your fun but also be careful of where you have your fun who you have your fun with because again
Not everybody’s gonna have your best interest um and if you offer it can can show that you a high standard that you carry yourself that is a really good thing that we look for you know pictures that aren’t appropriate maybe showing too much revealing like let’s
Say you have your your booty out or something that’s not something that you know aka is about stands for whatever so it’s kind of like Watch what you post this um uh same as uh the way you talk on social media um you just watch how you talk again with the inappropriate vulgar language again you are your own person you can do what you want but at the same time make sure you’re holding yourself to a high
Standard when you think of an alpha woman when you think of any of the other sororities do you think that like oh yeah they they would say this and they would be okay with me saying this you know just again you’re your own person but just watch how you perceive yourself on
Social media because again that is um that’s that’s a big thing it’s a big thing so just be careful of how you’re how you um you know portray yourself seven i would say discretion being in a denying sorority or fraternity but especially we really go hard about discretion you know not everybody
Should know that you want to pledge not everybody should know about it not everybody should know um not everybody should know what you’re doing not everybody should know you know xyz so um and i say that because not everybody has your best interests so meaning um let’s say
You are in a friend group of four you know you and three other girls right this is you this is your three other friends you and your three other friends are interested in pledging you know but all of a sudden friend number two and you fall out so they’re gone y’all
Fall out nine times out of ten depending on who the person is and how they you know are i don’t know like you know just them morally um they’re gonna go and tell your business you know it is plain and simple i’ve seen it
Happen so many times it is what it is i don’t know i mean you can’t really not have that happen i don’t know how to explain it like you the only way to prevent it is to keep yourself to yourself you know and i get it like you know you guys
Want to tell everybody everything but again like i said not everybody has your best interest and it’s it sucks and i hate that um i wish that that stuff didn’t happen but um you know people will try to ruin your chances i i it’s plain and simple so my
Best advice for that is to be discreet don’t go around telling people how would i be yeah yeah i want to be this i want to be that because again somebody will hear that somebody might may not like you and it could go south seen it happen um
And it sucks and i hate that you know that happens to people but you know you just got to be more careful and also you know be serious when it comes to this this is not fun and games you know pledging is not or or being a part of sorority and fraternity isn’t
Just for strolling it’s not just for looks it’s not just to wear the letters it’s not to be like oh i could do this i could do that no that’s not you didn’t do your research if that’s what you think you know so thinking about being discreet and
Everything you want to be serious you know this is very serious this is this is a serious matter okay you have to be serious you know you have to take it like you know you mean it because you shouldn’t mean it there’s people i know around the world or just
In general who have joined greek life and and you know sororities and fraternities just for the letters i’m sorry why would you do that like why would you join just for the letters like like come on like if you’re going to dedicate your time to being in a sorority or a fraternity of
Like that’s d9 like this is a big deal like why join and your intentions are pure you know it’s just this makes sense to me i don’t i don’t understand why people do it because because in the long run are you going to do is hurt your hurt yourself
Um not physically or anything but like you’re just gonna it’s not it’s gonna read you know if your intentions are appear it’s going to read everybody’s going to see it um and you don’t want that you know there’s no reason why you know you cross and that’s when the real work work
Begins you know you’re doing all these events you’re doing community service you’re spending time with your sisters you’re getting to know your sisters you’re um having meetings etc and it’s going to show you know oh why is it little susie doing what they need to do but little susie over there and her
Letters at a party what little susie like no you know that’s not what you joined you know that’s not why you’re doing that’s not what you told everybody that’s why you wanted to join you know so please please please please please please please please discretion and have pure intentions when pledging police
That’s all i ask baby that’s all i ask because again it will read you know you don’t just join just to look cute you don’t just join just to to do the little strolls you know you join because you love it you join because your mat your values match with theirs
You join it because it’s a sisterhood or a brotherhood you know you have to look at yourself and that goes into my next thing um why do you want to join um this is a question you should be reflecting on right now um why do you want to join
I can’t hear you but you have to think about that you know if you’re sitting here and it’s like oh i want to join because like they’re colors i love pink i love green um no and that’s one of your reasons no oh my god no please don’t try like
And that goes to any other sorority you just like it because all their colors are cute oh they do these cute little hand signals and i just really wanna i just really wanna throw a pinky up i just really want to look at a mirror no oh my gosh no
No don’t do that um but if you want to join because you’ve read and done your research and you 100 align with that you know you want to join because oh i love my community i want to give back to my community and i want my sisterhood i
Want to be a part of a sisterhood that contributes their time because why we are service to what all mankind okay all right so again joke aside think about why you want to join because that is going to be a question that a lot of people are going to ask you
Your family might ask you and you want to have pure intentions again like you want to genuinely be a part of something that’s bigger than you and that you can all be a part of it’s a sisterhood lastly i would say is um like look at
Yourself right now do you or would you i’m gonna say would you if you were put in a sorority right now d9 sorority um would you yourself like right now uphold their values uphold what an alpha woman is uphold what the other sororities are would you as uh you know a woman
Uphold them would you take a look at yourself um and not to say again you can have your fun go out have fun you’re in college do what you do what you want to do you know not everybody’s perfect i’m not sitting here saying you have to be
Tip top perfect haven’t done nothing you’re look clean on social media that i’m not saying that i’m saying when it comes down to it do you hold yourself up to the standard that the sorority holds itself up to when you see the girls that are part of the that sorority um
Would you be like yeah they would be fine with this or would you be like oh i never seen so-and-so do this so i don’t know how they would feel they see me do it you know just make sure you you’re holding yourself up you know to
That standard to that to what you think is um the standard you know and again i can only go off my sorority but um a lot of things my pros would say even my sisters um we would have discussions and it’s like write down like three words that you
Think an alpha woman is write down three words like what you what you think you know and do you align with that are you trying to to be that if you are come on in you know not the money but you know if you align with that
Perfect you know if you want to be that perfect like cool but if you don’t ever want to be anything that you think that they are then it’s not for you and that’s okay great life is not for everybody and that’s totally fine that’s totally fine and just because
Let’s say your friends are trying to but you’re not don’t let that make you feel like you have to just don’t because not everybody is not meant for everybody because if it wasn’t meant for everybody everybody would be in but it’s not and that’s cool but um if you’re really serious about
Joining or you’re really serious about being a part of something bigger than you and something that will be a sisterhood for the rest of your life you know look into it look into their values research do everything you know go through the events everything i said in this video do it you know
And um yeah i feel like it’s it’ll be just a great experience you know so i have had a great experience with my sisters my profits my neos but yes that is my video on some greek tips um and i hope this helped
Um i know um this is kind of i feel like this is good information again i can’t sit here and and just go dive deep in because that’s just not my place um but if i could you know help girls or anybody uh kind of have a right path
I would want to do that you know because it wasn’t given to me um it wasn’t given to any of my sisters um we kind of had to to learn you know um and like i’m saying people make mistakes all the time and that’s fine that is okay um
But if you want to do better do better if you if this is or if you’re serious about this be serious you know this is not just like oh i’m in that’s it no like you’re in you’re in it for life it’s a sisterhood you know so take it
Don’t take it lightly you know um especially um getting to know the grad chapter that was over um our undergrad chapter love them oh my gosh i have their numbers we still communicate and again bring like it’s not for everybody is fine it’s fine so don’t feel pressured into it okay so yeah
I hope this video helps if you guys have any questions um you could obviously dm me on my instagram i’ll have it right here if i can learn how to do that i’ll have it right here um but yeah i hope this video helped and i’ll see y’all next time thank you
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