Uh praise the Lord welcome to n KO Church uh we’re glad that you’re here uh and we’re in a series this is part two of a series called overflow relationships we’re believing God that this year the theme that God has given us prophetically is Overflow that our
Lives would overflow with the glory and the power of God and I believe that overflow can happen if it doesn’t have happen in your relationships first so I’m going to read you a passage of scripture uh but I want you to turn with me if you have a Bible if you don’t
They’ll put the scriptures on the screens but this is the year get a paper Bible amen uh in fact all of my my my my my nio folk uh if you you’re going to be discipled by God you need to have a paper Bible a notebook and a pen I’m not
Oppos to you taking notes on your phone the only problem with that is you get notifications while you’re taking notes and there’s something about focusing and prioritizing God come on Mary folk the law priority anybody who was at our marriage conference online or in the room would you shout come on
Hallelujah we had almost 250 people who participated in person and we had people all over the country who streamed our marriage conference Friday Saturday and God did amazing amazing things in the hearts We Believe generational Bloodlines were changed that marriages are strengthened we believe that reconciliation and healing happened and
And we’re honored that God would show up we had people drive from out of state multiple places just to receive and be it nio to receive uh from the marriage conference and we’re honored and with that I’m going to kind of continue uh not just on marriage but under the
Principle uh that marriage is established on today so I want you to turn me into to to 1st Samuel chapter 18 1 Samuel chapter 18 that’s in the Old Testament of your Bible some of you just scrolling down praise the Lord hallelujah uh 1st Samuel 18 but as you
Do I’m going to read you a passage that many of you have heard before but you probably only heard it at weddings or on Val Valentine’s Day but I want to challenge you that when you read the scripture you can’t just read the scripture you have to read
The context of the scripture because any text out of context is a con oh y’all y’all still y’all still in your dance I need you to get in your mind now listen the First Corinthians 13 love chapter when you stand at the altar come on you look real cute you was 50
Lbs ago praise the Lord oh that was me Hallelujah and and you had your whole John B uh come on do you have the wedding photo of me praise the Lord I I I said put the put the before and after up cuz I said babe we still got it girl
We still got it amen anybody y’all still got it come on ain’t gonna get me all right here we go the The First Corinthians 13 love chapter that we have made all about romantic love is actually in the context of the Apostle Paul through the Holy Spirit writing to the
Church so what he’s actually referring to is that the love of God is supposed to be in the love of the church he wasn’t even talking about your girlfriend your boyfriend the one you shacking up with or your or your marriage he was talking about how we
Love in the context of church he was talking about that you speak in tongues but you don’t love the person you speaking about he’s talking about that if I’m going to use gifts if I’m going to lead worship I need to do it in a way that’s loving it’s amazing to me that
The first place we see the Apostle address heavily love between people is in the context of the church and so in 1 Corinthians 13 I’m going to read you this out of the Amplified version of the Bible what is the Amplified translation the Amplified translation is a translation that has
Parentheses added where parenthetical references are put in to further explain the original language and the intended meaning of the passage so if you’re ever a little bit unsure about what you’re reading the Amplified could be a good way to bring out additional meaning amen y’all here I don’t just want to shout
You and help you help you be hype I want you to have the word of God that is the truth that set you free amen okay if you just want to shout in a church and and stay stuck where you are then then praise the Lord there’s another one all
Right here we go 1 Corinthians 13:4 love endures with patience and serenity peace so in other words I’m not just patient I’m peaceful why I wait I don’t wait with an attitude oh my God I’m preaching already love is kind and thoughtful I love you but I haven’t thought about
You love is not jealous or envious love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant in other words when I love you it’s love for you not for me okay my God verse five love is not rude it is not self-seeking it is not provoked listen to the parenthetical reference and the
Amplified nor overly sensitive or easily angered where would the body of Christ be if we stop being so sensitive uhoh it does not take into account a wrong endured it does not rejoice at Injustice where would the body of Christ be if the world knew that we wouldn’t take Injustice oh
But rejoices with the truth even the truth that hurts us I knew I wouldn’t get an amen right there when right and Truth Prevail verse seven love bears all things regardless of what comes love believes all things looking for the best in each one can I just help you real quick Godly love
Agape love doesn’t ascribe intention and motive married couples this is session six but it looks for the best in each one it hopes all things remaining steadfast dur during difficult times can I read that again it hopes all things remaining steadfast in difficult times it endures all things without weakening love never
Fails 1 Samuel chapter 18 beginning in verse one this is the story of David after he has slayed Goliath where he begins to come into the Palace of Saul and we begin to see this Covenant relationship of love brotherly love spiritual family Covenant love that is made between
Saul’s son Jonathan and David and we’re going to look at the context of these three chapters of 1st Samuel 181 19- 20 so we’re going to look around uh at this at this passage today and we’re going to bring out some Concepts that are loving Concepts that are proven through
Scripture that we just read in 1 Corinthians 13 so in 1st Samuel 18 after David had finished talking with Saul Jonathan became one in spirit with David he made a bond with David one translation says and listen to this phrase he loved him as himself and does
That ring a bell for anybody in the New Testament where Jesus said love the Lord your God with all your heart with all your mind with all your soul with all your strength and love your neighbor as you love yourself so right here in the Old Testament we have a picture of the
God kind of agape love and listen to me in every passage of the Old Testament on every page you can find the Messiah you can find Jesus you can find the Christ and as you look through this story I don’t just want you to look through the lens of Human Relationships
Which we are going to talk about but I want you to find the concept of how Christ has loved you in Covenant through what you see in the passage are y’all here y’all are still out of breath from your aerobic worship exercise some of you we made you nervous because you you
Come on you were like man what let’s where what church did I come into they didn’t used to do that here all right here we go real quick in verse number three and Jonathan made a covenant with David did I why did he make a covenant because he
Loved him as himself and listen to verse four Jonathan took off the robe that he was wearing gave it to David along with his tunic and even his sword his bow and his belt I need to give you some context and then we’re going to get into the passage
You do realize that in the um high hierarchal order of the kingship johathan the eldest son of David would have been in line to be the next king of Israel according to family lineage and in that day the outer garment you wore is what represented your stature and
Position in culture so when we see in the New Testament that the blind Bemus he threw off his coat what he was saying is I’m no longer a beggar I’m no longer just a sinner who needs to sit by the road I’ve been called by Jesus and some
Of you you never took off your coat although God called you but it’s interesting here that the next king of Israel according to human wisdom takes off his kingly garment and ex equipment and hands it to another be because there was Covenant cut and so I
Want to I want to teach you from the next 30 minutes from the title keeping Covenant keeping Covenant somebody say Covenant and y’all may know that because we sing the song Shay sings it so beautifully here you Covenant keeping God you are a covenant keeping God he’s
A covenant keeping God but I wonder if his people are Covenant keeping people so let’s pray father we love you we thank you we ask you to open our hearts open our eyes God God speak just now powerfully prophetically and accurately we bind every distraction we
Bind the spirit of offense God we ask for the Agape kind of love the god kind of love to flow through noo Church through every relationship established in it and God we pray as we teach about the principles of relationship through the scripture not through the wisdom of
Man or the opinion of man but the wisdom of the god of the universe we pray that our relationships would overflow with love oh God may love Yeah peace a married couple God’s not done the altar was the beginning not the ending single FK there’s love hey young
Lady that’s suicidal right now online you’re like I don’t know God loves you and he’s about to overflow his love to you because his love for you is not based on your circumstance right now it’s based on the Covenant that he made with you so father speak powerfully
Prophetic and accurately because we are your servants your sons and daughters and we believe that you will speak in Jesus name we all say together come on Amen we all said together amen keeping Covenant the problem with you hear the word covenant is Covenant is a word in
Our society we do not understand and if we are familiar with what we know the word to be we’re often misinterpreting the definition of what God intended with Covenant because Covenant in our current Society is actually just a contract that is beneficial and when we don’t like the
Benefit or we don’t get the benefit we break the contract and we’ve called it Covenant but Old Testament Covenant biblical Covenant of which we know that God is a God who keeps his Covenant of Love to a thousand Generations biblical Covenant in the Old Testament was such a binding agreement
That it went beyond contractual terms it was Covenant based on relationship sacrifice and something that could not be easily broken or dissolved it was eternal so much so that depending upon how you or what Covenant you read in the scripture you find that there were different ways that people would cut
Covenant uh anybody remember back in in the day oh let me see your age but back in the day you remember Blood Brothers you’d spit on your hand it’s nasty and you rub your spit together now you won’t do that cuz Co and hand sanitizer like
Don’t anyway but you would do that but that’s a picture in the old Covenant people would cut their hands and coix their blood together with right hand and what they were saying is we are in blood Covenant together and what would happen is if we join hands in Covenant whatever
I had you had access to and whatever you had I had access to so if my donkey or oxen I didn’t have it or needed it to sacrifice to God I could go in your backyard without asking because there was an understood Covenant that you’re not stingy with me you have agreed that
We are in this together oh I’m talking to some people already there were other times that we see that when Covenant was cut in order to cut Covenant even with God something would have to die an animal a sacrifice would have to be cut and blood had to be
Shed I don’t know if you’re about to catch this yet I’m praying your spirit man is alive Covenant always requires blood you do realize that that’s why in the marital Covenant your DNA gets passed in one now to your children and what’s greater is first of
All I need to remind you that there was an ultimate Covenant that’s been shed and cut for you and it’s based on the shed blood of Jesus that his blood was shed once and for all so that according to Hebrews you would have a better Covenant established
On better promises that that Covenant he made with you is a Everlasting Covenant that it’s not based on what you do but it’s based on what he’s done and that you have a Covenant of Grace by faith that’s based on love are you yall here all right so let me get
You let me let me get you somewhere real quick for you Bible study Scholars you can write this down but there are primarily um you can make it seven but there’s there there’s there some people say seven uh biblical covenants some people say five I’m going to give you
Five today for the sake of time but there are different covenants that God makes with his people but listen to me God has always had a covenant with his people and he still does number one if you look at the Old Testament there’s the noic Covenant the Covenant that God made with
Noah Covenant rainbow I’m not going to I’m not going to kill I’m not I won’t Wipe Out the Earth again I got a covenant with y’all and I’m not trying to get canceled but isn’t it interesting that the same inst instrument that God used to speak a covenant with his people
His Covenant of Love is the same thing that Satan who is a counterfeit and a perverter would take and make the pride Flag and if you really want to get technical start counting the number of colors in a rainbow I’m not here to offend you I’m just here to teach you the agenda of the Demonic realm the pride flag The Pride symbol of rainbow that rainbow has six
Colors cuz six is the number of man in scripture but God’s covenant rainbow see I don’t God’s you don’t like this teaching but I’m trying to help you God’s covenant rainbow has seven because Seven’s God’s completion the Earth was completed in seven days it was perfect
Okay so let me just throw that out there is the noic Covenant okay then you have some of y’all like I didn’t even know this in the Bible you have the abrahamic Covenant that is a covenant established by righteousness uh through faith right go Abraham God of Abraham Isaac
And Jacob I’m G give you this Promised Land then there’s the Mosaic Covenant which is the Covenant of law Mosaic right God gives Mosaic the 10 the Ten Commandments y’all hear y’all it’s okay if you never read your Bible it’s all right and then there’s the davidic
Covenant so the davidic Covenant was God told David there will always be a king on this Throne out of your lineage of which we know when we read the genealogy of Matthew come on I’m talking to the Bible scholars out the genealogy of Matthew that’s why we know that David
Says he said to my Lord sit on the throne my lord said to my Lord David was prophesying about the Messiah who would be his Lord although David was the current King okay so there’s the davidic Covenant and now we live under What’s called the New Covenant Jesus said that
This is a new covenant of my blood when he gave us communion he gave his disciples communion we live under the New Covenant which doesn’t require law it doesn’t require us to keep those all those commands and if we miss one we broken all of them it’s grace through
Faith and thanks be to God this would be a great place to shout more than your new house more than your finances turning around that through the New Covenant you don’t have to get it all right that on my worst day day God still gave me his best love that on my worst
Mess up in my most messed up State while I was yet a sinner Christ demonstrated his love through Covenant that he died for me and shed his blood for me that when I miss it he doesn’t withhold anything from me now there’s five in the old if some
Of you like well what’s the seven one I’ll just throw it out for you biblical Scholars a lot of people would try to say there’s an adamic Covenant that God made a covenant with Adam and that’s true and then there’s also you would say the seventh you would tag on the in an
Everlasting Covenant that there’s a there’s a new there will be a new Heaven and a new Earth that when this Earth passes away some of Y like this has got deep real fast let me come back to help your relationship real quick okay but I want to talk to you from those five
Because I believe there’s five human Covenant relationships that are modeled through the other covenants so number one we have Covenant relationship or supposed to have Covenant relationship with God through Jesus God Pastor you like I don’t understand this okay god let’s let’s get it out number two
Marriage marriage is supposed to be a covenant agreement not a living Arrangement shots fired okay number three and we don’t think about this Covenant relationship number three is church the body of Christ Church is not a place you come to it’s a place you Covenant
At church is not a place you come it’s a people you Covenant with how do I know Ephesians 5 when referencing the marriage covenant Ephesians 5 says that Paul is talking about a profound mystery which was in instituted like we read last week in Genesis chapter 3 or excuse me two that
For this reason a man would leave his father and mother and two would be United they would cleave together and they would be one flesh and then your country folk the man they were both naked come on Country folk naked and they were without shame that’s how you know where you was
Raised naked or naked okay and so Paul says this this thing that was reference in Genesis that Jesus affirmed that thing right there where Jesus said let not man put it aunder that I hate divor and I’ve instituted the Covenant of marriage that same Covenant is a picture of the Covenant that Jesus
Christ has with his bride the church number four we have Covenant in family number five and we see it in 1st Samuel 18 specifically we have Covenant friendships but in the Covenant friendships that we see in 1st Samuel 181 1920 that we’re going to bring out we also see modeled
What Covenant of all relationships is supposed to look like Malia am I making sense you’re you a Carolina Taro so you brilliant let me talk to a Duke person is this make sense I’m sorry my bad sorry Aaron sorry Aaron any Tar Hill fans any Duke any Duke fans the door’s
Right there Hallelujah I’m just kidding don’t leave don’t leave it’s okay but the Bible did say resist the devil he Le from you okay anyway let let me let me start right here okay part of why I’m saying all this is is this and you’re like Pastor I thought we were talking about
Confrontation we were going to bring confrontation back together yes here’s what God showed me a lot of our issues with confrontation is that our relationships aren’t based on Covenant so the moment our relationships our connections face confrontation we automatically assume disconnection so our attachment issues with people is rooted in our lack of
Commitment issue to that people let me make it plain for all the folk if you are married with divorce as an option because you don’t understand Covenant you might not approach that topic as clearly out of fear that if I disrupt the issue I’ll lose the marriage
Some of you have friendships that you’re not happy in but you’re pleasing them because you’re afraid if I confront it it will Lo I’ll lose the benefit of it some of us can’t have a church that is ready to win the World Minister Mike because we don’t have an army we have a
Fragmented group of people who aren’t Covenant to together because the moment somebody does or says something they don’t like they go to the next church so because we don’t understand Covenant we can’t confront and the god the Lord told me son before you even teach them how to
Confront deal with their issue with Covenant and let me teach you real quick three things that Covenant goes beyond number one Covenant goes beyond convenience there can be no Covenant where there is no sacrifice if you are in Covenant if you’re a husband you are supposed to lay
Down your life as Christ loves the church and sometimes that genuinely means laying it down other times Minister Chris it’s like when I get all good in the bed lights off everything plugged up ready to go to bed and Pastor Tama says honey I’m cold could you
Please turn up the heat girl you saw me walking over any brothers in the room oh my Lord sometimes laying down your life means stop arguing over the covers Pastor tamaa I’ll let you have them I’ll just sleep over here cold I’ll take the dog come on Brothers sometimes Covenant
Looks like you you had a whole list at the grocery store and I got to go back cuz you forgot the one thing that we actually needed to cook y’all brothers we had the marriage conference don’t be scared we good we got Covenant yeah we left yesterday y’all got scared okay my point
Is there there’s Covenant there I’m supposed to sacrifice if you go to a any family members in this room if you’re a parent you don’t parent for convenience you don’t go to church let me help you for convenience and what we don’t even realize is that our consumeristic
Ideology of the world has crept into our covenant theology in the church let me say it again our consumeristic ideology has crept in to our covenant theology in the church so that listen to me you don’t even get married with the idea that I’m here to out serve them
You get married to get your needs met so your marriage is based on a foundation not of Covenant but on a selfish contract to get you blessed dude if the only reason you marrying her is so you can sleep with her without being in sin you are out of
Covenant sleeping with her is a covenant benefit not the Covenant motive I’m helping marriages still if you come to church as a consumer and only try to find the church that meets your needs you don’t understand that you are a part of the body of Christ and you have been given a
Gift of which you are supposed to be using that gift that so that every joint be supplied in the body so that the body of Christ can take over the world for the Kingdom so the church could be lacking cuz you’re not covenanted using your gifting this church lacks Administration but yet an
Administrator I didn’t really like the worship today but you sing I don’t I this church is I the structure I don’t know but you are a gifted Joseph and Daniel but you’re not covenanted you just come to get what you want I’m not fussing at you I’m cool we
Good we good the KO good we good but if you only shop for a church that meets your needs you violate Hebrews which says that when you for forsake the assembling of yourselves that you literally the the he the the Greek there the picture is you leave one another in a
Lurch there there’s a covenant that I have to not just search for the church that meets my needs but the church that’s lacking my gifting a and family if we don’t understand Covenant we won’t do family well we’ll be rude and nasty and we’ll just completely ignore the scripture
Says that if a man doesn’t take care of his own family he’s worse than an unbeliever you know why a father can completely disconnect from his son because he doesn’t like his baby’s mama because he doesn’t understand Covenant because it is an inconvenience to have to deal with the angry attitudy
Sometimey Baby Mama but if I Covenant to my child I will be willing to go beyond the convenience of their mother uh I don’t want to be fussy here or or messy or go to Medlin but hey young mama if you stop trying to use your child as bait to get him
Back okay thank you for all the the real folk who said amen and stop dogging him out to his child because if you understood Covenant you wouldn’t dishonor the the man that unfortunately you cut physical Covenant with and your son carries that DNA of the man you
Chose so you don’t got to like them but that don’t mean you can dog them out and then wonder why they don’t have a good relationship and then at the same time you dog him and criticize him you plain that he doesn’t want anything to do with
Your child no he doesn’t want anything to do with you do you hear that this is the Bible not my opinion oh okay okay and lastly Covenant friendships listen to me because we don’t understand Covenant and that they go beyond convenience we just change friendships whenever we don’t like
Them or we have all friendships in the same category I’m g go here in a second but let me get my C’s out so I can get to the next Point number one Covenant goes beyond convenience because Tyler every good preacher has stuff that either alliterates or has the same
Letter Covenant goes beyond con convenience Covenant goes beyond y’all here y y’all had coffee convenience number two Covenant goes beyond Comfort a lot of us can determine where our love starts and stops by what we’re not willing to endure if the moment your wife can no longer give you physical intimacy
Because of a health issue you don’t love her anymore you’re not in Covenant if the moment a church changes in a way that you don’t like and it’s just it’s uncomfortable for you you didn’t like the preacher that day you didn’t like the screen you didn’t like
The the the expansion to the other campus or the new service times the moment it messes with your comfort I got to get up earlier to make room for people on Easter who don’t know Jesus you’re not in Covenant with our church you’re a consumer at it
Can I even help you the moment God says don’t eat from that tree and you don’t feel comfortable with that and you do it anyway you’re not in Covenant with God you’re in contract with a genie that wants to bless you that you want to
Bless you when you don’t want to be in Covenant when it doesn’t fit your comfort nor convenience are y’all here loving your family I don’t even need to talk about Comfort there if you going to love anybody in your family mama and them that’s all I got to say praise the
Lord number three so Covenant has to go beyond convenience number two it’s got to go beyond Comfort number three Covenant goes beyond confrontation because a lot of us say we have Covenant but the moment we face confrontation we express disconnection so the moment God calls you through
Condemnation we do what Adam did and hide in disconnection in our marriages the moment you hear those Dreadful words my brother we need to talk no man that you might as well just told me that we need to talk no we don’t need to talk you need to talk and I
Don’t really want to the moment confrontation hey can I help you listen if I’m your pastor but I can only encourage you and inspire you with the word but I can’t rebuke you or correct you in the word we’re not in Covenant I’m just your cheerleader and your motivational Speaker the moment you don’t get to do what you want at the church because there’s pride in your heart and if I let you be in that position you’re not purely loving the Saints because you’re using what you do to get affirmation so when I say hey pride comes before a
Fall the leader over you is trying to say there’s a spirit of Pride on you and we we know you’re gifted but and we know you’re anointed Saul but you may not be appointed for this season no they don’t use my gift and I’m going to go find
Somebody who will and then you wreck their church and then they eventually find the same thing in you call it out and then you call the church hurt but it couldn’t be that the church don’t hurt it’s that the church has broken people that don’t want to be
Helped is this too real for us today if your if your teenager that you rais only likes you to tell them what they can do we may not be in Covenant which means the Verizon contract gets cut Miranda no I have amazing children amen hallelujah but I don’t got to spank you
I just I know what gets to your heart is text message and Instagram are y’all here all right so now really quickly let me show you out of the scripture some of the things I just said but and I as I do this here’s what I want to do real quick I’m I’m
Telling you and okay now yeah let me get to that Lord I hear you here here here’s what I’m about to share with you so not only our relationships can’t stand confrontation because we don’t understand Covenant that if I am committed and divorce is a cuss word in my marriage
That I quit is not an option it changes my willingness to go through difficult times if we’re in a in a in a church relationship when stuff gets funny when stuff gets tight when the enemy comes in because A house divided against itself cannot stand because you do realize I
Taught you last week if you weren’t here that the first time we see the devil written about expressed in Scripture clearly and speaking is when Covenant relationship was formed between a man and a woman and that’s why the that’s why the Lord says I hate divorce because
The enem is after the family through the marriage and if church is a picture of marriage do you wonder why the enemy is so after the church you wonder why he’s so after leaders in the Pulpit because if you smite the shepherd you scatter the Sheep it’s not just people it’s the
Enemy and if we don’t understand that Covenant then we will wreck through the people or the the moment we don’t like the convenience the Comfort or the confrontation we disconnect when we’re supposed to stick it out in Covenant because that love endures it’s patient with Serenity and
Peace okay but here’s the issue a lot of us you hear me Teach that but here’s the problem you looking at your relationships but you have them in the wrong categories because not every relationship you have is Covenant and if you try to put Covenant principle on casual Partners you will be severely
Disappointed and if you put casual partner principles upon Covenant people you will not have Covenant promise can I make it plain everybody you call your bro and sis is not your bro and sis just CU we’re in the same fraternity and have the same letters don’t mean
We’re going to be in Covenant because we all don’t carry the brand of the blood of Jesus uh oh I just lost half the church just cuz we went to the same middle school doesn’t mean we’re going to let you help me through on my marriage
Issue can I even help you further just cuz we have the same last name does doesn’t mean that we’re in Covenant uh-oh some of y’all got real nervous but let me I’ll give you the scripture so before you leave and write me a bad email if you want to email me
Email Dr Charles he’ll he’ll he’ll respond he’s smart Jesus own mama and them Kim comes to the temple not to see him cuz they needed something in fact when the first miracle happened Jesus would being be to his mama even though his mama was out of time
He said my time is not come so she put a demand on Jesus that was for her own benefit she was actually showing her son off but Jesus didn’t dishonor her but at the same time when you see him in the temple and they says the Bible says that they were offended with
Him so they marched their little happy family hips up there oh you ain’t come to the family reunion we you think you too good there that n marriage conference and you can’t stum see us and you up there speaking in tongu shouting at all them people giving all your money
To the church and you can’t help me with the bill yeah I would help you with the bill but you don’t have a job and that’s cool that you don’t have one but you ain’t look for one in six months and you want me to take my tithe
Out of the idea of our same last name and here’s what I’m trying to say Jesus said when they come they say hey Jesus not not not not not your mama and your brothers in them out there they got their whole Jesus Christ Family Reunion t-shirt on and it’s all purple and and
They they waiting on you for the Instagram photo so that we can look like our family’s perfect and Jesus says who are my mother brother father and sisters him who does the will of him who sent me can I just help you real quick spiritual family is actually supposed to
Have greater Covenant than natural family I just mess Blood Thicker Than Water Pastor Blood Thicker Than Water Blood Thicker Than Water but the blood of Jesus it’s thicker than the blood of your mama that’s why it can be in Mama but if mama is not going want to be with
Me the right way then baby you got to love me from over there uh oh yeah I lost y’all cuz like that’s my mama that’s my mama yeah but listen to me I’m going to show you in a minute there are times when we have to understand the
Significance of Covenant but we also also have to understand that the god of Covenant understands that he’s always in Covenant but the Covenant can change based on someone’s commitment to it if you broke the Mosaic law God no longer required was required to give you the benefit of the Covenant that was
Based on you keeping the Covenant married people look into my eyes God does make room for divorce he does he actually says if there is adultery or infidelity you have grounds to break the marital Covenant so listen to me real quick before I go any further if you’re here
And you are being abused you’re being violated your personhood is being taken advantage of you are being raped you’re being molested out of the terms of Covenant that’s not Covenant that’s abuse and God makes complete reason and license for you to end that Covenant because listen to me and look
In my eyes because somebody’s your life is on the line right now no human Covenant no matter how close Mama marriage or otherwise gives license for a person to violate my God Covenant that’s my pastor but he told me to hide the fact that he was sleeping with
Somebody I don’t want to violate the Covenant God Covenant let me get you the scripture because y’all I’ve lost you David kills Goliath and John Saul says hey man let me help you this way okay let me go back because then I’ll get you I’ll get you back and then I
Gotta get out of here to go to North real quick everybody’s not a covenant friend if your mama and them for the sake of their dysfunction demand something of you that is not of God you do even know that the Bible says that my Covenant with God trumps even my
Relation because if it says if an unbeliever wants to let wants to leave the marriage Paul says let them leave so in other words disconnect the Covenant because my Covenant with God if you have friendships right now teenagers college students if you have friendships that don’t push you towards God those aren’t Covenant
Friendships because the Apostle Paul says I know you don’t like to think about this and we all bind and loose Mike we bind and loose we bind and loose we bind and loose the devil the devil we bind and L whatever you B on Earth loose
In heaven oh yeah but you know what Paul was you know what the the the um Jesus was actually talking about in the context of that scripture he was referring to the devil but more than the devil he was actually referring to an expelling an immoral brethren in the
Body he says hey if somebody sins against you you go to them one-on-one then if they don’t listen or repent and they’re determined to be hellbent on wrong you bring an elder with you so out of the mouth of two or three Witnesses let every matter be established and if
They still refuse to repent Jesus teaches that in his church listen we don’t teach this you expel the immoral Brethren and it actually says treat them as a tax collector how could love sweet sweet Jesus Sweet Jesus Sweet Jesus come by here no sweet Jesus you go over there to
The people but I’m going stay right here because you call you’re their savior not me see this is so counterculture but it’s not counter biblical so somebody who was once in fellowship with you can be discoved with you based on their refusal to follow the
Covenant with God okay let me show it to you because here’s what I’m going to show you here’s what I’m going to show you I’m going to show you real quick distinguishing marks of Covenant so that you can put your relationships in the right way before I do that look at me
Real quick I’m all over the place y’all just pray for me I preach like 18 times this weekend y’all pray for me all right if if if you number one you got to be careful to just quickly Define all relationships as Covenant I think we too quickly Define them just because you
Know somebody or you go to the same job or you work just because you go to lunch with somebody don’t mean that’s your your Covenant some just cuz you’re in a church with somebody stop calling everybody because listen what you label you create expectation with I’m a spiritual father too many of
You those of you even distance and watch me but I don’t walk around ask you to call me daddy you know why because it’s unhealthy because a real spiritual father doesn’t need you to follow them to make them feel good but what’s more is with the term
Dad comes your broken definition of what what a dad should be so when I don’t meet your definition of dad you’re offended with me so if I call you bro and I’m expecting a certain level of Brotherhood from you based out of my family of origin and I expect the Bro to
Be this we’re in not in Covenant we’re on a contract based on our wrong definition of what we both think bro should be and if you really are my brother how did everybody be your bro that’s even my issue with Facebook I’m not on it so don’t think I blocked
You I just I haven’t been on Facebook for three years the Lord told me to get off cuz I got tired of arguing with fools sorry that’s a word for somebody don’t throw your pearls before swne um but I’m I didn’t block you but here’s my problem you got 5,27 Facebook
Friends but when you go through something you don’t have anybody you could call because we’ve dumped it all with the same term okay and let me just help you real quick give it a longer Runway Covenant relationship should take a longer Runway people that come to Deco
One time and they’re like this is my church I’m like whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa come at least three times one for the father one for the son one for the holy spirit it’s not that I don’t want you here it’s that I want you
Where God has for you to be here and sometimes our emotions sometimes our our Feelgood and God could be leading you before you just say this is the one this is the one you you better make sure the one has approved that one no they’re the one they the one they
The one they the one they the one they the one they the one no they’re not the one they just slept with you and you haven’t been with anybody for a year and it could have been you could have been oh God Chris your parents are here so I
Don’t want to be offensive but you’re so dry okay let me just leave that might not that not that’s not even Boaz you you hyped up about that’s a broke dude who said you look pretty and you’re so dry in your security and affirmation that you claiming him as your
Man and you don’t have a covenant you have a bond with insecurity okay let me get to the Bible okay sorry my bad my bad distinguishing marks of Covenant all right the Bible is right here okay number one a covenant relationship must have intentional investment noo is my church but you
Haven’t given in four years I’m not trying to offend you I’m just saying everybody around you is paying for the meals you eat every week uhoh I want to I want to I want to I want to be with you that man man that you’re that you’re living with right now
He has no intentional investment but he gets all the full-time benefit Jonathan had to give him his stuff there was an intentional investment in the relationship as Covenant was cut y’all cool with that Romans 5’8 God demonstrated his own love for us he didn’t just say I love you he
Showed it dudes like I love you I love you then invest your time and energy okay number two willing to sacrifice willing to sacrifice Pastor what do you mean well we know that throughout scripture there had to be sacrifice to cut Covenant but when he gave him his stuff listen he wasn’t just
Giving him a Christmas present mother you know what he was saying he was saying that I’m going to sacrifice my right to the kingdom for what God has on your life do you know what kind of sacrificial heart it has and that’s what you don’t you just
You missed the whole Gospel of what I just said Kim Jonathan gave up his position to the throne for a fugitive Jesus although equal with God did not consider Philippians 2 equality with God something to be grasped but humbled himself took on the form of a man
Kosis came to the Earth gave up his throne for fugitives okay y’all I’mma let y’all just go cuz y’all I’ll try this at North willing a sacrifice number two able to withstand distance and difficulty what do you mean Pastor well I read you this this this first part
About Covenant to set it up uh but I’m can I can we just read for a second y’all okay y’all can you give me five more minutes some of Y like no okay you can leave no it’s it’s cool look look so Jonathan did that verse five whatever
Mission saw cinemon David was so successful that Saul gave him the troops gave him a high rank in the Army this pleased all the troops and Saul’s officers as well when the men were returning home after David killed the Philistine the women came out come on
Praise the Lord from all the towns of Israel to meet King Saul with singing and dancing they came to meet King Saul with songs and timberl and they danced but they sang Saul has slain his thousands David his tens of thousands Saul was very angry this refrain displeased him
Greatly verse n and from that time on Saul kept a close eye on David I’m GNA skip my little notes Here Taylor whoever’s in production I’m just gonna preach these P this passage because I’m going to help you not everybody close to you is for you and there’s nothing worse than
Having a covenant relationship that you think’s Covenant but that somebody is trying to keep an eye on you because the world says keep your friends close and your enemies closer so you could be cut in Covenant with somebody who has a worldly theology that a worldly ideology
Says I don’t really like them and so to keep them where I want them I’m going to be close to them but because you’re pure-hearted you in Coven you you in Covenant that’s why you have to have wisdom and discernment oh I’m going help you I
Promise I’m going help you so then an evil spirit comes forcibly on Saul verse 10 and he and he was prophesying in his house you do realize that you could be prophesying and prophal lying listen to what happens while David was playing the the harp the Lear as he
Usually did Saul had a spear in his hand and he hurled it saying to himself I’ll pin David to the wall but David eluded him twice how many times twice here’s what’s crazy check it come on please stay with me this it’s about to get real
Good I know that may not mess with you it’s about to get real good in 1st Samuel 16:23 we read that when Saul was tormented by an evil spirit he would call David to play the harp and David’s playing the harp would give him peace and
Relief so now the same thing that used to bring him relief now agitates him what’s the difference and some of you like I thought we were cool what happened I didn’t change our relationship didn’t what something in them had shifted because what happened was what gave him peace before the jealousy in
His own heart because where there’s jealousy envy and factions there’s every evil Discord now it the same thing the same presence of God that would bring him peace is now the same pres that agitates him and he tries to hurt somebody can I make it real plain some of you
Don’t even like to be here for worship because the presence doesn’t bring you peace it rubs the wrong and the sin that you haven’t dealt with so when the altar call starts flowing and deliverance starts to happen you get up and leave or get coffee or
Got to go to the bathroom you get fidgety you get antsy why because the spirit of God is trying to expose the wrong Spirit attacking you and can I also help you very plainly there are some people who may not be throwing a physical spear at you Lynn
But they’re trying to pin you on the wall they’re trying to put you in your place they’re trying to say if I could just keep them right there I don’t want to kill them because if I kill them I lose the benefit of them but if I can keep them where I want
Them on that level of the wall then I can control [Applause] them some of you your pastor didn’t want to develop you he just wanted to keep you right right there to serve you and notice that he did it twice which means David had enough Covenant with
God to not just let the first wrong make him run he had enough Covenant and what’s crazy listen to me you can disconnect without disrespect that’s good because what we do is we demonize the other party to make us justified in what we do rather than rather than own our
Decision we demonize them you can leave noo without dogging it because just because it didn’t work for you doesn’t mean it doesn’t work for the other people that you’ve been praying for you don’t hear me talk about other churches you don’t hear me talk about other pastors unless I think they are
Harm to you and they’re false prophets or they are preaching false theology that is my job to call I have to protect you as a Shepherd but I’m not up here here commenting on everything everybody says or does because what’s the point because I can disconnect without
Disrespect a lot of folk in the body I don’t rock with why because behind the scenes I know how you live but listen that’s not cuz I heard something one time it’s because out of the mouth of twice two or three Witnesses let every matter be established listen to me listen to me
Listen to me I’m about to help your relationships if there is not one time a problem but listen if there’s a pattern of behavior God is showing you a pattern to reveal and protect you but here’s where we miss it we see the pattern but we see
It happen to others so we think it won’t happen to us let me help you I’m about to can anybody just see that the Bible is the ultimate book on life cuz Watch What Happens you stayed at the job after you knew your boss did them completely dirty you are in
Covenant friendship with people who are dogging other people to you and you’re like well that won’t come at me because we’re close and you actually bit the Demonic lie the morsel of the Choice chocolate morsel of Gossip that gives you a sugar rush like yeah your spirit man is like warning warning
Warning but your flesh is like we must be close because they trust me with secrecy but check what’s crazy the same Spears that came at David who was not his son by birth look at the Bible here we go ready check this out I’mma help you ver verse 20 excuse me ver 1st
Samuel 19 and verse n Saul does it again to David So now there’s a third time y’all okay now is the third time now is the third time and then in 1st Samuel 20 okay we’re going to skip around I need to show it to you
I want to find it so I show it in verse 30 of 1 Samuel 20 Jonathan defends David’s innocence to his dad verse 30 Saul’s anger flared up at Jonathan and said to him you son of a perverse and rebellious woman the Matthew Henry commentary I’m not trying to violate that cover that
Young man’s ears I’m not trying to violate cover his ears just for a second I’m not trying to violate you but the Matthew Henry commentary the Bible says that the Hebrew right here what that just says basically Saul just said he called him a bastard he disowned him as his
Son because Jonathan was honoring God can I tell you that sometimes honoring God will get you disconnected from the people you thought you had Covenant with but check out what he did he goes on to fuss him out and verse 32 Jonathan says why should he be put to death what
Has he done but Saul hurled his spear at Jonathan to kill him you think it won’t come at you because of your proximity and relationship title but if they have a pattern of doing it to them it’ll happen to you do you know why we background check people
At here not because don’t believe in Redemption but because studies show that 96% of sexual abusers are repeat offenders so we have a whole lot of kids in each location I’m not saying that you can’t be delivered but I’m saying that we going to know your path to try to boundary and protect
Them if they listen to and dating people look at me if he cheats on you while you’re dating don’t be surprised when he cheats on you after he gives you a diamond no it won’t happen to me you missed the pattern because there was no distinguishing Mark of Covenant
About the willing to sacrifice and the ability to withstand listen withstand distance and difficulty so do you realize the difficulty that Jonathan had to place himself under to be submitted to his father but yet in Covenant with David and throughout this passage Jonathan has to help David and and help
David stay free because he recognized the anointing on David’s life and let me make it plain there comes a point and I’m going to read it uh very carefully verse 42 of 1st Samuel 20 that this happens and we now know that that Saul has not repented okay he’s refused to
Repent and they get to a place where they know in verse 41 they know that for this to work and David to go into his future they’re going to have to disconnect and so verse 41 then they kissed each other which was was custom
For men of you ever see people in the in the in the in the Eastern culture they men will kiss on the cheek so don’t dudes are like what happened in the Bible no all right that’s custom and they wept together but David wept the most Jonathan said to David go in peace
Can I just tell you if your friendship doesn’t give you peace I know they’re your mama your brother but if they don’t give you peace that don’t mean you got to call them every day for we have sworn friendship with each other not in our feelings but in the name of the
Lord the Lord is a witness between you and me and between your descendants and my descendants forever then David left where’ he go he went into the field on the run and Jonathan went back to the town and the palace their sworn friendship their Covenant Chelsea allowed them to have physical distance
An emotional distance without a disconnection because real Covenant can stand the test of time and difficulty you know those real friends the real ones you like you just pick up after they’re not like you haven’t called me in three weeks you ain’t called me you ain’t called me or
Didn’t they do you call them because you need something well you ain’t called me in three that’s not Covenant it’s not Covenant Behavior are y’all here you see what Elsie did Covenant relationships will point you back to God oh Jesus they will point you back to God 1 Corinthians 15:33 do not be
Deceived Bad Company corrupts good character well I’m strong I’m strong you stay around that alcohol party long enough even though you don’t drink you might start to sip okay cool do it keep doing it there’s a real Covenant relationship points you back to God he said the name
Of the Lord we have a covenant can I also help you Covenant relationship ship need to be made not just based on your on you and your benefit but on generational effects I’m gonna I’m gonna be quiet but I’m going to go home well I’m going to
Go to North y’all gonna go to lunch listen Saul what he did excuse me what what what Jonathan did to cut Covenant with David Jerome wasn’t just for him it was for the generations following him because if he didn’t make a covenant with David David who was going to take the throne
Would be at enity with Saul’s house therefore Jonathan and all his children so while Saul’s trying to crucify David Jonathan’s trying to secure the future of their lineage can I make it real plain who you sleep with and cut Covenant with can determine the welfare of the generations following
You can I even help you the church you go to well I’m in Covenant that’s the church I grew up in but yet your youth are dying in it your kids receive nothing but you are a deacon and you’re so empowered by your white gloves and communion that you’d
Rather be a deacon in your old Covenant Church than to be a doorkeeper and the house of the Lord that is for generations to come if you wouldn’t want their life why would you take their advice you’re in Covenant listen to me can I even help you you’re in Covenant even with business
Relationships I’m not talking about a contract but you starting a business with somebody that’s not even saved you do realize what the Christ and be will have together where they got good business practices and they got the skills I need y’all don’t have the same value systems eventually that’s going to crush
And fail you know why because the generations following you will be affected by your decision in the now I’m oh God and then I got I gotta I gotta go I I got I’m just gonna be quiet Covenant relationships distinguishing marks there’s Mutual benefit So Not only was Jonathan going
To get blessed by David in the future David was kept Alive by Jonathan a lot of us think we have Covenant but it’s only one-sided you don’t get married can I even help a parent you don’t have kids because you desire to have children you have kids because you desire to raise them
Godly I’mma let y’all go cuz y’all like Pastor just shut up no I know I I’m just trying to help you because what I just exposed is I just exposed the selfishness in all of our Humanity but Romans 12 says fight to out honor one
Another I was in a text message with a young man from our church this morning one of the young ministers and he was like Pastor thank you so much for for the marriage conference and for pouring your life out and and the authenticity of you and your wife blah blah blah I’m
Praying for you today that the Lord would refresh your and strength I text him back man I’m proud of you I’m praying for you you love your wife and so he’s praying for me and I’m pouring into him we’re fighting to out honor one another
Cuz you don’t come to church to serve me but at the same time I don’t give my life to you and you don’t give nothing to the thing we’re trying to do we fight to out honor one another you want your marriage to work wake up and
Ask each other how can I serve you today because the world says the greatest among you get served but Jesus said let me take off my kingly garment put on a towel in the form of a servant and the greatest among you must be your servant so I wash feet
Listen to me mother even of Judas oh my goodness so we love but we don’t love God enough in Covenant to love the people that even hate us I’m done last Point Covenant relationships distinguishing Mark they have the ability to see support and celebrate your elevation success and growth even at their own
Expense they have the ability to celebrate see and go man you go right on ahead even at their own expense can I say it to you this way if your elevation causes them agitation it might be a sign that there needs to be disconnection Uh Oh I thought I’d get
Four amens but listen every time God began to work and Elevate David Saul who was supposed to be in Covenant to train him needed to keep him down and it actually says in the first verse think about it as 1 Samuel 18 after he slayed Goliath he brought him
Close and then I got a can I can I give you this last thing real quick because I know the Lord said to say Lynn they be mad they’re gonna be mad at you all right Saul brings them close in other words sometimes the enemy will want you
To come closer although he’s not for you but listen here’s what Saul says go read it on your own in 1st Samuel 18 Saul says you know what I’m gonna try to get David to marry my daughter and then he says he literally says because then I won’t have to kill
Him the Philistines will do it for me listen then He he tricks him and he gives his daughter to a heathen yet David did what was required for a relationship he never got then Saul says again read verse 20 of 1st Samuel 18 he says I know what I’ll do Michael loves
Him I’ll go to him again and then he gets gossip involved he tells his servants go convince David to become my son-in-law because if I become your son if he becomes my son-in-law it actually says then I’ll go get him to kill 100 Philistine for 100 Philistines and get
Their forkins come on Brothers got nervous he he’ll do that I’m going to go I’m going to go I’m going give this last point he’ll do that and then they’ll kill him what I just said to some of you is that the enemy listen to me I know I’m
Over time look at my face because I want to help you Fe be delivered for this is your destiny moment right here listen to me Saul sent two Covenant relationship packages to try to cancel the Destiny on David’s life little girl young woman every dude that says they like
You could not be from God but could be an assassination attempt on the calling on your life and I’m going to say it this way and rub all the feminism wrong you can’t ever outgrow your head you will never be taller than your head if you get measured at the doctor
Your head is the the height and if when you get in Covenant with someone you as a woman you are covenanting to God to be a part of the body under the head I’m not saying that God God can’t take you higher but I’m saying that who you Covenant with can limit
You and please don’t let your I no no no please don’t let that Rob you of the principle of the Kingdom because Saul was trying to get David to make a marital Arrangement that would keep him from the future and some of you don’t even realize that the position that the enemy
Sent not all elevations from God you got a job offer but it takes you away from church so oh I get more money they must want to bless me it’s going to kill you you’re going to travel and your marriage is going to die and you’re
Going to look back and say what does it for what does it gain a man to win the world but forfeit my kids and my wife and my family but meanwhile there’s this dude named Jonathan who’s like hey you go to the throne even if it means I got to leave
It and I’m done but thanks be to God that in spite of all of our human frailties and any Covenant or any casual relationship you have there’s one friend that sticks closer than a brother come Gabe who will never leave you who will never forsake you who is for me come on somebody’s
Catching it and not against me God didn’t send us a Jonathan he sent us Jesus he sent us a Jehovah to say you know what I know you didn’t do it right I know you broke your Covenant but I’m going to make a covenant with you that’s
So great that I’m going to bless you in spite of you I’m going to love you in spite of you I’m going to forgive you in spite of you and I’m going to leave my Throne so that you can go to yours I’m going to give you the gift of the holy
Spirit that I walk with to put in you to empower you so that I might be the firstborn among many brothers so that many who are called would be called and Justified and Justified and glorified so I’ll do what you couldn’t do because I have a perfect Covenant with
You somebody thank God for Jesus come on Clap Your Hands for Jesus on y’all give it up for our senior pastor Pastor Brian douly such an amazing word so so good look thank you guys for joining us today Global online we bless you we thank you everybody
Stand up I’m going to go ahead and give you guys the benediction um if you are looking for next steps we have fresh start today right in the back in our next steps classroom we’re going to have fresh start Tau by Minister Kevin and it’s going to be an amazing time so if
You’re looking for that it’s going to be back there but let me pray a blessing going to be may the Lord keep you may the Lord um make his face shine upon you be gracious to you lift up his countenance to you and give you peace we
Pray that you guys have an amazing week our prayer team will be here for anybody that needs prayer and have a great week ni
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