Hello ladies and gents today I am back with a another discussion topic for you guys this one being I love my sorority but I hate my chapter hmm that might be a interesting and yet somewhat controversial thing to say and I think controversial mainly because how
Can you love your sorority and hate your chapter your chapter is the chapter that you join yg8 the chapter if you join the chapter in the chapter it’s also part of the sorority what’s not to love well let me explain things to you first which being is not necessarily the bet that
You hate your chapter some people have really really deep love deep in their soul love for their chapter however you can have those times where you’re just like oh my god I hate this chapter let me explain why mainly because it’s not necessarily the moment that you joined
Where you start having those feelings about how you feel about your chapter it’s mostly and a bit that occurred or an interaction that occurs or a issue that occurs within the chapter or amongst your members they got you feeling some type of way after you joined and it’s completely normal we’re
Human we have those peaks and valleys where we love something and then we hate something that we love again and then we hate it and so on and so forth it’s part of life that’s part of growing up as part of working with people and communicating with people but my
Question now would be what do you do when you have those feelings well let’s see here so some of the things that I think would be the reason why people end up hating their chapter is they might have hated I’m not gonna use hate because I feel like hates a strong word
Sometimes but they sometimes they sometimes strongly dislike what occurs in the chapter and this could be someone that’s been in the chapter for a few years or newly inducted into the chapter they notice a change any of those things can happen that will change your feelings toward your chapter but you
Still have mad love for your sorority and I think sometimes when that happens is you just noticed a change in people or you notice a change in the structure I think leadership has something to do with people feeling some type of way about their chapter or the way things
Are done in terms of working behind the scenes and actual functioning within a chapter sometimes some chapters once their leaders are gone like the really strong people have graduated the people who don’t know very much end up following apart and it makes the chapter fall apart and then you have some people
That always do they’re supposed to do they always work hard they always work for the chapter work for their sorority work for their organization in general if you’re a guy and you feel like it doesn’t amount to much because you’re putting in so many hours of work and
Other people in a chapter aren’t so I think that’s part of the reason why people end up hating being in the chapter after they’ve crossed because things change and people don’t really work on fixing those issues become that before they become big issues so how do we fix that
I think this great to have a come-to-jesus moment I’ve had several come-to-jesus moments when I was in undergrad and I’ve had several coming to Jesus moments and graduate chapter and I’ve had several coming to Jesus moments with my undergrad as an advisor it’s not necessarily a bad thing
Sometimes you have to have those moments where you come together and you figure out what the problem is because you don’t want the issue to the festive you don’t want it to manifest and you don’t want it to become an even bigger issue that you can’t solve because it’s gotten
So huge and so out of control that you don’t know how to go back to the foundation of the issue and fix it so it’s good to catch these issues in the beginning and try to resolve them before it becomes a snowball and you can’t fix
It because you don’t even know where to begin so I highly recommend coming to Jesus moments just to get to the root of the problem maybe it’s something related to an issue that occurred between you and your chapter members that just wasn’t resolved which developed those feelings
Of you hating the chapter because it wasn’t resolved and I think something else to the courage with that is that when two people are disagreeing with each other people the outside people would either take fights or those shoes not to take sides and that becomes an issue because if people take sides you
Feel like you’re pairing one person against the other and then the groups are opposing each other or you feel like no one’s taking your side and no one really acknowledges your feelings I think that becomes an issue some other issues that need to be addressed we have those coming together moments would be
Functioning issues sometimes things just don’t function well maybe you had an event that you had to plan and it was a big big event maybe it was a pageant or a fundraiser and it just fell apart in the end and you ended up hating or feeling like you hate the chapter
Because of that event well I think you’d have to come together and figure out what those issues were related to the functioning of the chapter like what went wrong when you guys are planning that event – it fell apart in the end so sometimes you have to go back and
Retrace your steps to see how the issue even became an issue in the beginning kissing point say the pageant into the big reason why you ended up hating your chapter you had a horrible passion and you just thought it was just a horrible event well why was it a horrible event
Did you guys not plan it properly did you guys not have the proper support that you thought that you needed was there something wrong behind the scenes did the Graduate chapter not support you things like that so sometimes you have to come together and figure out what the issues are in
Order to know really why you feel the way that you feel so how do you move forward once you figure out what those reasons are if you don’t talk it out I don’t think you’re ever going to get past it sometimes people just don’t want to cause conflicts a little keep the
Issue to themselves and it ends up festering in their heart and their soul and it just makes them feel horrible inside and it manifests itself into like strong negativity towards that person or towards the chapter and you don’t want that because at the end of the day the
Reason why you join that organization was because you had severe love for you in the beginning you want to make a difference and you want it to impact the community or impact the world through that organization so if you end up hitting it in the end or end up hating
The chapter at the end how are you gonna be able to help the sorority as a whole so you have to address those issues and then once you’ve addressed those issues just move on from it sometimes it’s not even worth it well I won’t even say sometimes in general throughout life
It’s not worth it to hold a grudge against something because in the you’re only hurting yourself you being mad at your chapter is not gonna help the chapter move for and then sometimes you’ll end up being left behind because you’re the only one mad and everyone else is trying to move forward so
Sometimes you have to evaluate yourself to make sure that you’re not the one causing the problems as well yeah you hate your chapter but what did the chapter really do to you for you to feel the way that you’re feeling and then how can you resolve it if you can’t get past it
Maybe you need to take a step back and come back at another point in time when you think that you’re ready to move past it and actually make an impact in your chapter and make an impact in the sorority at the end so that’s basically my advice that I have for someone that
Hates their chapter it’s a touchy subject in the sense that people don’t really want to talk about what goes on inside their chapter but if this is an issue that’s internal that’s manifested in something external that everybody can see it needs to be resolved so those are
Just my points on how to move past that issue anyone else has had previous experiences please feel free to put them in the comments below I kept it pretty general because I didn’t want to like really dig into serious issues that occurs in some chapters cuz I’ve seen a
Few but I just want to get like a general kind of discussion on it but if anybody has any comments about that please put it in the comments below if you guys like this video please give me a thumbs up I hope you guys enjoyed it
And I’ll see you guys in my next video discussion bye
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