Hey guys welcome back to my channel so if you are new here hit the subscribe button because i post college and lifestyle videos all the time um but today i’m actually going to be doing a sit down video and as you can tell by the title i’m going to be sharing my experience
Being in a sorority here at tcu but specifically being an african-american and a sorority here so um also just like a little disclaimer nothing in this video i am saying is going to be like bashing or like saying bad things about pandolinic or um my specific sorority like i don’t really have anything
Bad to say this video is kind of more just to help other girls out who are deciding if they want to rush and girls who are of color are african-american or like hispanic-american asian-american american all the above if you’re not white um and if you are white you can watch
This video hello hi i welcome all people of color i mean all people of any race oh my goodness i’m an idiot um but yeah i really just wanted to share my experience and to kind of help more to help girls who are on the fence feel more comfortable about
Rushing and obviously just kind of being more positive and sharing my experience so um also another disclaimer i don’t have a strict like guideline or outline of what i want to say so let’s hope that i am not all over the place which i probably will be so just bear with me
Um so first i’m just kind of like going to share my experience with going through rush so even before high school i pretty much always knew that i wanted to be in a sorority and i get questions all the time talking about like well why don’t
Why didn’t you decide to rush in a predominantly black sorority and to be honest like that never really crossed my mind my old older sister wanted to be a part of a black sorority when she was in college but she never got the opportunity to and so i feel like i definitely feel
Like if she would have decided to be an all black sorority then it kind of would have like opened my eyes to doing the same but i just like didn’t really take the time to research about black sororities and to kind of like get that experience
Um most of the times when i would hear things about sororities or see things or like look on pinterest it would be about predominantly white sororities and i would hear about like the social events and the mixers and the date nights and you know big little reveal and that
Just seemed so fun to me and so appealing and so that is pretty much why i wanted to join a predominantly white sorority so if that answers your question because i’m pretty sure pretty sure someone watching is like concerned or has a question about why i wanted to join a predominantly white
Sorority so i guess in a way it’s kind of my fault because i didn’t research more about black sororities but it is what it is and here we are now anyways so going into the recruitment process as a freshman um i’m currently a member of kappa kappa gamma if you watch my videos
You know that but if you’re new here you probably wouldn’t know that um and i’m currently a junior so i’ve been a part of my sorority for like going on three years now um but i was just super open-minded i never really thought that like
My race or my skin tone would give me an advantage or would give me a disadvantage on being a sorority here at tcu at least i was hoping that it would only be positive and i did have a positive experience um being being in a sorority here and
The recruitment process and the rush process i only really have good things to say um so um continuing i went through the process and i absolutely loved it it was tiring it was like a long week but i definitely enjoyed it and i never heard anything about like if you
Are black or if you are a woman of color then you’re not going to get a sorority or you’re not going to get into like x y and z i just heard like different stereotypes where like you have to be blonde and you have to be tall
And you have to be from california to get in this specific sorority and obviously like most girls who are blonde are not black so to me that was kind of like well i’m not going to be in that sorority and i didn’t want to like have that
Mindset because people are just going to say things and people are just going to talk and you really like don’t know the truth but i just kind of like had that idea in the back of my head um but i was never once told that like
I’m not going to be in the sorority because i’m black it was more like i most likely probably wouldn’t be in a sorority because i wasn’t from here or didn’t have this type of skin color i mean didn’t have this type of like hair color or wasn’t like super tall
Um but in the back of my mind i knew that if a sorority had those like certain like requirements or expectations of someone that i didn’t want to be in a sorority like that anyways because i didn’t want to have a negative experience after i already accepted a bid from a specific sorority
Um but like i said i never had an experience or had someone tell me like i’m not going to story because i’m black like i’ve never had that so if you guys are worried about not being in a specific sorority because you are black like don’t listen to what everyone’s going to
Tell you because like everyone’s experience is different and your experience may differ from someone else’s because of the person that you are like when i talk to girls a lot of the times especially in kappa i felt like the girls really truly liked me because of like who i was and because
Of like the conversations we were having and i was genuine and we like really got along um and that’s what you should be looking for in a sorority anyway and i feel like the girls that are rushing you or talking to you should be looking for that in you and shouldn’t be like
Trying to figure out like what race you are like what background you come from and like stuff like that um especially another from my sorority like we really want to look for girls who like are similar to us based on personalities and like not necessarily skin color
Um but sometimes like when i would get called back to sororities or when i would have to open my schedules and i wouldn’t see a particular sorority on there in the back of my mind i kind of felt like it was because i didn’t look like the rest of them
Or because i wasn’t like white and at the end of the day like i don’t want to be part of a sorority like that that like is not welcoming obviously um but i definitely can say that like being in kappa like i did not see anyone
That looked like me like all the girls were super tall white blonde and i was just super excited to be rushing and like going through the criminal process that i didn’t really think of anything and i didn’t think that like that was a negative thing and to this
Day it’s not a negative thing um and i didn’t i didn’t think that it would like affect my chances of being in that sorority i just knew that like i was going to have genu in great conversations with these girls every single day that i went in
And i just felt like a strong like connection in love with these girls that they like loved me for who i am and now that like i’m not freshman or sophomore anymore and that i’m a junior and i’ve been in the story for a while i can definitely say that like
I don’t feel like an outcast i don’t feel like people are like wow she’s black or like why did we accept her or she’s different than us um because we have girls from like different backgrounds different cities different states and different personalities by the end of
The day like we all love each other and we all are similar in a way um whether it’s based on skin color or not and so like i said i never had a negative experience like being in my specific sorority or um anything dealing with like tcu or panhellenic
Or anything like that and i can say that like some of my friends specifically really freshman year and maybe even sophomore year i had some friends or just like some people that i know come up to me and be like you don’t look like you
Would be a kappa like i can’t see you being a kappa or why do you want to join the sorority and in the back of my mind i know it’s because i’m not white and i’m not blind and i don’t look like the rest of them and so whenever they ask that question
Like i really just kind of like brush it off because like i don’t care to answer because i feel like it shouldn’t really matter to them um which sorority i’m a part of and so i definitely say that like i do sometimes maybe get like looks
Um from like people whenever i’m at like a social event or whenever whenever i’m wearing like a kappa pen people are probably like she really kappa like is that pin from her like best friend or from her roommate um i feel like i kind of got that more freshman year when people were
Like kind of like still new and didn’t really know which story i was in but like now i’m a junior people are like yeah she’s definitely kappa so um but i feel like that’s kind of like the closest negative experience i’ve had but to me that like that’s not even really negative because
Like yes i do go to predominantly white school yes i am in a predominantly white sorority so like i feel like those thoughts are kind of inevitable and like i don’t think they’re right like i don’t think they’re wrong but i don’t think they’re right but to me like
You kind of have to like learn to yourself like what is going to bother you and what is not going to bother you and at the end of the day like that’s like that was so little to me that i didn’t even matter um but yeah like i said like i
Definitely only have had positive experiences in my sorority and i think that a common like misconception is is that people think that since i am black and a white sorority that like i still don’t support black people that i still don’t like believe like believe things that i would if i was
In a black sorority or people think that like i don’t know who i am and all of that is false like you can still be in a white sorority if you are a person of color and still believe what you always grew up believing like i still know right from wrong
And if there’s something that like is going on in my sorority or on campus that like i don’t agree with i’m not just gonna like let it happen um so i think that is like wrong i don’t know if people think that but i feel like people would think that um i
Did get like a comment from a black female i don’t know who she is um she just commented on my video like over the summer and she said like wow you’re disgraced to the black community and like cool for you for like writing that like i don’t know who you are i didn’t
Comment back because i genuinely don’t care and people are gonna say what they have to say but at the end of the day like i am still black i still like strongly support black lives matter like all this type of stuff and i’m not going to forget where i came
From or who i am just by being in a box in a white sorority and i feel like all of my friends and all of the girls in my sorority like definitely still support me and still like support who i am and things that are going on in the world and they’re
Not just gonna like turn their cheek to it because if that was the case then like i would not be in that sorority like i’ve had former presidents of kappa friends of my sororities sister sisters of my sorority like reach out to me and be like
Hey like i know this is going on the world are you okay do you want to talk about it like i’m here for you and i feel like that is why i wanted to be part of kappa because the girls were so genuine and so real and i felt like i could
Truly still be myself um so all that being said is that like you can still be yourself and you can still have your true identity with being in a predominantly white sorority and that just doesn’t like wash away when you are initiated into like a predominantly white sorority
Anyways i feel like i was getting off on a tangent like i don’t know um but yeah so i just like i really wanted to help girls and help you guys out if you are like on the fence or contemplated about whether you should join a predominantly white sorority and like me
I don’t know if i said this or not because i’m rambling but i have like always grown up with being around people who were not black like obviously like my family’s black like love you but um in high school like most of my friends were either hispanic americans or
White americans and like that’s just kind of how the way it was and i feel like if you are going to brush and be a part of a predominantly white sorority you have to realize that sometimes you may be the only black person in there you may be the only
Hispanic person in there or asian person in there and like that is something that like it’s just gonna happen but don’t think that people are always like watching you or staring at you or thinking that like you’re different um and i just think that you have to
Keep that in mind and like i’m personally used to it and i just genuinely don’t care but if that is going to be a factor for you where like you think that people are always going to be like looking at you or that you just don’t think that you’re going to
Feel comfortable being the only like person of a different race and that sorority or in that room then that may be something to consider because that’s just like kind of the way it is um but i definitely don’t think that like you being scared should hold you back from like going
Through the process if allah spells and you go through the process and you really don’t like it you can drop you can quit you can move on to being a predominantly white black sorority or being in a predominantly like hispanic sorority like i just feel like you shouldn’t love what
Other people say to you or things that happen in the past like affect your experience like i said i’ve only had positive experiences here and i’m a junior i have this whole year left next semester and i have my senior year so things could change but i feel like with everything going on
In the world right now some a lot of sororities are trying to move in the right direction um and we also like bit day was a few weeks ago and we um actually signed a bid for another black person being a sorority and not that i’m keeping count but i
Don’t want someone to be like actually you’re not the only black person in sorority but i’m speaking on my experience from like the past like two years like freshman and sophomore year um but i i just i don’t think that you guys should be afraid to take that step especially
If it’s something that you really want to do and if you’re on the fence about it and you’re contemplating about it like just do it and either way i feel like there’s always someone that’s gonna i don’t want this to happen and i don’t like this but i feel like either way
There’s always gonna be someone on campus or someone that you that maybe you don’t know who is racist and hopefully you never have a racist experience hopefully someone has never said anything negative to you um and like i said i hope that like our the world is moving into like a much
More positive place but either way you go like there’s always going to be someone racist someone negative and hopefully they never say anything to you and like i said i i’ve never gotten told racist comment or anything like that and i feel like if anything people are way more welcoming especially especially
With what’s going on right now and people definitely want to see things change and are open to that um and so yeah i just had positive experiences so far and i think i definitely think i did make the right decision and um yeah that’s like pretty much it i
Feel like i definitely was rambling in this video but if you guys have any questions or comments or want me to do more sorority videos or college videos comment them down below and i’m hoping that this video is helping someone out who is debating on recruiting or debating on going through
Recruitment next year or next semester or will do it in the next few months and hasn’t done it yet um so yeah but thank you guys so much for watching don’t forget to like comment and subscribe and i will see you guys in my next video bye
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