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So you guys happy vlogmas now i originally wasn’t going to do vlogmas but i was convinced by a fellow youtuber and friend in my head miss shayla desha so if she can hold down two channels while doing vlogmas i know i got it over here with the one so today’s video is going
To be a little bit different because i thought it would be fun to start vlogging this off with a good story time video so today’s video is not going to be pertaining to locks but it’s going to be a little personal video of my own now before we get into today’s video i
Just want to start off with a toast here’s the vlogmas guys so today’s video is going to be a story time on how i was once a part of a white sorority yes now before we get into the video i just want to put out a quick disclaimer
I am simply expressing my experiences this video is not to encourage or discourage anyone from joining any sorority that they may choose that they may be interested in so make your own decisions based on what works for you and this is just my experience so let’s get into it
So it all started when i was a freshman in college now i did not go to hbcu i went to a predominantly white institution and where the sororities and fraternities were situated was kind of different so for the white sororities and fraternities they had houses directly on
Campus and and the people that were in those particular sororities they would wear their letters and broadcast that they were in this organization all the time now the divine nine were not on campus there were no houses for the divine night on campus and they never wore their letters you either
Knew it or you didn’t and they would only wear their letters if they were having some type of event going on but other than that i wouldn’t see any of their letters but i know that i wanted to join a sorority because i wanted to make some new girlfriends because i came to
The school only knowing guys like i came with some guy friends from my school so i thought i thought me joining a sorority would be a good opportunity for me to join a big organization have some networking opportunities as well as to make a couple of friends so that’s all i was
Really in it for so it came about the time for me to rush so rush came along i wasn’t really informed that much about sororities and fraternities and so i just knew that i wanted to rush and at this time the um white sororities and fraternities they were having their big
Um rush so they were broadcast all over the campus in the student union in the dorms on a little post that we have outside it was broadcast everywhere that they were doing their rush and so i became interested i like me i didn’t know any i wasn’t too informed about the
Different sororities and fraternities like how it’s like they’re separate and they do their things separately so i just thought this was everything so and then i just decided to rush now going through it initially i saw a lot of different girls i saw a lot of black girls white girls
You know asians like the school that i went to was pretty mixed up so it was a good variety of girls at first so it kind of made me feel like i was in the right spot but then um as rush week went along about like day two
I noticed that you know a lot of the black girls started to dwindle away and i wasn’t too concerned about that because i knew it was a process some people drop out for different reasons i just wasn’t aware of what the reason was and it wasn’t until i got to the point
Where it was the day before i got my bid where i had one of my advisors actually tell me like hey i understand that you’re rushing and everything but you know you’re not rushing a divine nine now at that point in time i had no idea what she meant like what
The hell is the divine nine looking back at it now i feel like i was pretty sheltered to the whole sorority fraternity life because i honestly did not know what she was talking about so i kind of asked her like hey what are you talking about she was like you’re going for
Fraternity or you’re going you’re rushing a sorority but it’s not a divine night it’s not a black sorority that you’re going to be getting into it’s going to be a white institution now at that point in time i was kind of already deep in it like i said it was a day before
I got my bid so i was like you know what it shouldn’t be that bad let’s just go ahead and see what happens so fast forward i got my bid and i got accepted into the fraternity or the sorority that shall remain nameless so when i got into the sorority
Initially on bid day there were eight of us by the time we crossed it was four of us we had dropped down half our size because the girls weren’t interested anymore and it was a lot of comments going on now my whole experience being in the sorority at first it started off
Good it started off good i really liked the girls a lot of them were really cool and everything was nice at first but then things started to feel a little weird a little awkward a little forced a little just not right i started to feel a lot
Out of place and i noticed that some of the events and things that the girls would want me to come to i would go but i would just feel like i’m there just because i was supposed to be there not because it was something that i actually wanted to do
I did not enjoy being at a lot of the functions because it just felt weird to me i noticed that when i got my letters and i started to wear my letters around campus i got a lot of that a lot of backlash from um other black girls who had been
In divine lines or who were going to rush divine eyes they were just looking at me like i was a traitor and that it just started to feel really awkward from outside and inside of the sorority so i just got to a point where i just felt like i didn’t want to
Do it anymore um i think i stayed in a sorority for about a year and then i just decided that it wasn’t for me my reasoning for staying for so long is because i felt like i made a commitment i made a commitment i wore these letters i went through all
The rituals and things that it took to get here i’m gonna stick it out but it just as time went on it just didn’t seem to fit right anymore it just seems like the girls in a sorority were more so all for themselves it was all preached about sisterhood and
Togetherness and things like that but when a lot of the girls i noticed my granddad she was dealing with some things and it was just like every man for themselves nobody came together to help her to encourage her to uplift her it was just no sister hidden for me so after my
Grand big left i decided that i was pretty much done with the situation i just gotten to a point where everything felt like it was super forced i think the thing that really put the nail in the head in it for me was that this this particular sorority was not really
Popular on my campus um and in fact on my campus it was the worst sorority i think by the time i left the sorority actually didn’t exist on campus anymore shortly after i left i think a year or so after i left they just were no longer there
When it got to the point where they had to bring in other members of the sorority as like the pr team to kind of rebrand the sororities image on campus having us have multiple events kind of like begging for people to join it kind of felt like at that point i had
To go because it wasn’t sincere i’ve really started to get the feeling like it’s not a sisterhood at all there’s no sisterhood at all everybody is just for themselves and they want to make it seem as though they’re doing everything for the sorority but it was really for
Themselves and to make themselves look good so it really got to the point where i was just like i already felt out of place anyway but then for me to have to make other girls feel out of place as well it just became to the point
Where i felt like i was being fake going to these particular events and having other girls ask me about my experience and i just have to sit there and smile and kind of dig in the back of my brain to kind of pull something positive from this experience
To tell these girls it just kind of felt like it was forced and i no longer wanted to be a part of it so i decided to drop from the organization i will say that to say this although i decided to drop myself from the organization
I really enjoyed um meeting some of the people that i did meet my big was really cool and my grandbig were really cool i’m not sure if you guys are familiar with sorority terms but in the sorority it’s like you have your family so like your big is sort of like
Your mother and then your grand big is like your grandmother and if you’re big was to take on more littles then would be like your twin or your triplet and things like that so my family lineage just so happens to be of all black girls i was black my big was black
My granddad was black and then we pledged another line my twin ended up being black so i kind of felt like that was kind of segregated too in a way because it’s like here we go all the black girls and the sorority your family boom you’re over here like
That kind of rubbed me the wrong way as well but hey it is what it is now i do know of other african-american girls who are part of white sororities and or um multicultural sororities and they really seem to enjoy it but i think my experience with it wasn’t as good
Because of the people and because of the setup with the particular organization now it might have worked out for me a little different if the sorority as a whole was constructed different and they actually lived up to the values that they preached that the sorority was actually built upon but unfortunately
My group of girls at the time they did not so they kind of made my experience really sour and it made me regret even going through the whole process in the first place if i would have really been more informed i felt like i would have took
My time did a little bit more research and then decided to move forward in the process of crossing with a divine nine now some might ask me well after you decided to drop why didn’t you decide to just go for a divine nine it is not that easy i was actually friends with
And a co-worker with a girl who’s actually in a divine nine sorority and she basically told me firsthand like you were known for being in that sorority you wore those letters you ripped that sorority and now for you to disassociate yourself with that sorority after we all know that you were in there
To try to rush another sorority over here it’s kind of like you’re gonna have to come in a lot harder and a lot hungrier because you got a scarlet letter on you because you decided to be in this other organization so instead of me just doing that i didn’t want to go
Through i guess i was probably scared to see what that transition would look like me going from one sorority to another and i didn’t want it to seem as though i was flip floppy wishy-washy with it so i just decided not to join another sorority
But i kind of wish that i would have been a little bit more informed so that i wouldn’t have put myself in that position in the first place well that’s all i have for today’s video you guys if you guys have any questions please be sure to leave them down below
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