[Applause] i’m just kidding i don’t actually know the gammify song i did just make that up but i was in the sorority and let’s just say there’s tea to be spilt i mean think about it the community the charity the opportunity to make lifelong friends at your local university being involved in
Greek life might be one of the best decisions a student can make it could also be the worst today we will be discussing the dark side of greek life and why these on-campus communities can be a little controversial what’s up guys it’s your girl n.t here
And that stands for new t or natalya taylor depending on what mood i’m in i’m feeling new tea today i am because it’s hot it’s steaming it’s boiling and i’m ready to splash it to spill it all over your face because today we are discussing greek life yes the mysterious
World of sororities and fraternities i really wanted to make this video this week and spill the tea on the dark side of greek life because as you guys might be seeing i don’t know if your tick tock for you page looks like mine all over i have been seeing these rush videos from
Different sorority houses where all of the girls are lined up doing their little rush dance in their doorway and a lot of people have been pointing out that it is kind of creepy and drawing parallels between greek life and cults i think there is a lot to unpack here and
I have yes i have been involved in a sorority myself when i was in university so i have my own personal experiences to share as well and let’s just say it gets pretty dark and i want to give a disclaimer this video is not at all me
Trying to be negative or bash greek life this is simply my channel i discuss the dark side of things that are otherwise known as being happy or fun or a good time and for a lot of people that might be your experience you might be someone that really enjoys greek life and it’s
Been a really huge blessing in your life and for that i say great i’m very happy for you i wish you and your family is that what we we call them your sisters your brothers your whole greek bloodline i wish all of you nothing but the best
And we are just here today to discuss some of the more darker aspects this is not everyone’s case do your research okay so with that being said it’s time to get into the tea but before we do this video is proudly brought to you by foreo with technology advancing all
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Top of the description thank you so much again to foreo for partnering with us on this video and keeping our skin looking beautiful as always the history of greek life dates all the way back to 1750 yes this goes back hundreds of years 1750 when the first fraternity
Like ever was founded and it was phi beta kappa but originally when they founded it it wasn’t called phi beta kappa it wasn’t even like greek at all it was just basically a bunch of dudes that got together at a university that wanted to create a secret society okay
They all wanted to get together and basically party yes they did do this all the way back in 1750 and it wasn’t until 1776 a few years later that they changed the name to phi beta kappa which it’s been said that they chose to name their fraternity after greek letters because
They were starting to get a bad rep for all of their partying and the guys that were involved thought that using greek letters made them sound fancier yeah that’s right the whole greek thing is just a cover-up for parties even from the very beginning i’m not even kidding
And thus greek life was born and it’s even said that thomas jefferson like the old president of the united states was involved in this fraternity which is really interesting i think there is a long history of secret societies intertwining with like politicians in the united states i really want to make
That freemasons video and talk about secret societies like skull and crossbones it’s all so scary but interesting so that’s why this does not surprise me the whole thomas jefferson thing but sure enough as the first fraternity began to grow and develop women decided that they wanted to be in
Frats too so eventually women started getting together and forming their own fraternities and over the years they decided to change the name to sororities because fraternity like the word actually means brotherhood so they were like okay we should probably change it to a word that means sisterhood sorority
And that’s how they got their start and their names and now we have national organizations that are in charge of greek life and all of these organizations break down into over 10 000 chapters yes there are over 10 000 sororities and fraternities in the country which i think is crazy that in
Just a couple hundred years these small university societies turned into such a big thing like it’s actually a huge part of college culture nowadays to be involved in greek society and i really wanted to point this out i have no idea why and maybe you guys can kind of help
Me understand but greek life and sororities and fraternities are so big in the south like in southern united states the biggest university for greek life is alabama and i know you guys have seen the videos from university of alabama where they show you the houses okay the mansions where all of these
Sorority sisters live all together in this giant building it’s not even a house it’s a building it looks like the white house and they’re just there living their best life in their mansion studying at university i have always wondered why the south is so big on
Greek life it’s so interesting to me but the houses really are insane i know the university of alabama like i already mentioned the university of miami are among the biggest schools that have the most students involved and from the outside it just looks amazing i mean who
Wouldn’t want to be in college studying your major working on becoming an adult and focusing on your future with a bunch of girlfriends all living in a mansion it sounds like so much fun and i can speak from personal experience i’ve always wanted to be in a sorority even
When i was a kid and i think it’s probably because of the same reason all of us wanted to do it was because of how the media portrays being in a sorority or fraternity like movies and tv shows really play it up as this big glamorous thing you’re surrounded by all your
Friends you all wear the same thing and it’s like you can finally find a sense of community where you’re all living together i mean i know for myself i always wanted that so in today’s day and age greek life is definitely different than it was in the 1700s okay each and
Every chapter has their very own personality they all have their own colors their own letters and symbols their own traditions and their own songs as you’ve probably seen on tick tock this is another reason why so many people nowadays are drawn to rushing into a sorority or fraternity because
You kind of get to pick one that matches you i remember when i was in college and i was going through the process of rushing it was kind of fun like getting to look at all of the different ones and see what they were all about and on the
Outside it seems like a really good deal okay there are a lot of positives to greek life i’m not gonna lie one of them being they raise millions of dollars for charity every year literally like so many sororities and fraternities do philanthropy work and donate money and
It’s just so great also it is a really good opportunity for you to create lifelong friends like that really does happen for some people and on the upside you also get to partake in some parties so let’s just say that sounds appealing to you and you’re a freshman in college
And you’re interested in possibly joining and you hear all of those things and you think how do i even get started how like how do i join one how does that go well there’s an official process that you have to go through and it’s quite lengthy and tedious but just to
Summarize the four-step process of joining a sorority or fraternity starts with number one rushing now rushing is a term that gets thrown around a lot but what it basically means is going around in a group of freshmen and interviewing with the current members now all of the tick
Tocks of people standing in the doorway and clapping and looking crazy are from rushing yes that is what that is it’s basically people in that sorority house that are putting on a performance for the new freshmen that could possibly be joining their house or their chapter and
They’re putting on a pretty face to try and grab your attention now let’s just say it works and you have a couple sororities that you interviewed really well with and you’re interested in joining then we move on to step two called bidding bidding is when you get
To pick the sororities that you think you would be a good fit in i’m pretty sure when i did it i got to pick three and you wait to see if those sororities give you a bid i realize it sounds really bad like it sounds like you’re purchasing someone like you’re bidding
On them at an auction and that’s kind of what’s happening like you’re like i bid on you i bid on you you that one in the back and if you get a letter or a bid from the sorority of your choice then that means you’re in step number three
Is pledging and we’ll get into pledging this is a very controversial step in the process but essentially what it means is testing your worthiness of being involved with that sorority or fraternity and i’m pretty sure this mostly goes on with fraternities where the freshman pledges i’m sure we’ve all
Seen it in the movies are tested and have to go through these terrible terrible pranks to prove that they’re worthy of even being involved in that chapter finally the last step of the process number four is initiation now this is exactly how it sounds you are initiated by going through a ritual
Which is top secret of your chapter and yes sometimes these rituals can be very creepy but you have to go through them in order to become a member and no one knows before going into it what the initiation is even gonna be so it gets a little creepy but speaking of creepy
That brings us to the dark side a lot of people have compared sororities and fraternities to cults because they partake in rituals that from the outside perspective can seem rather odd blindfolds and robes all of these things take place at these chapters and yes it can be very cult-like in nature from my
Own experience part of my initiation was they put a blindfold over my eyes then i was put into a white robe and someone else from the sorority had to hold my hand as i went down into the basement of the sorority house here they did this
Weird song and ritual and dance and then i was able to remove my blindfold eventually and it just revealed some of the higher upper tier members in the middle of a circle with some candles and it was some very witchy [ __ ] okay it was very culty very witchy and sometimes
Sometimes people are into that okay i can say a little bit of cult a little bit of witchy like is good for everyone and it didn’t really creep me out it was all in good fun but i can definitely say like from the outside it looks like a
Cult and that’s just what you’re signing up for but there are some people that weren’t as lucky like this girl for the door song during recruitment we’re ranked in order of how pretty we are so girls want to rush us we also have to buy lululemon tennis skirts and white
Nike tennis shoes for rush we have dress checks before rush where they check every outfit we plan on wearing for those two weeks and make us wear them in front of all of exec also we can’t have shoes with any cork in them whatsoever and must have the color bubble bath on
Our fingernails and that’s from ali who is 19 and involved in a sorority and that sounds terrible like ranking girls for the door song or like the presentations where they all dance in front of the doorway they’re basically saying they want to put the pretty ones
In front so that all of the new freshmen think that the girls there are pretty which is so shallow and not anything i would ever be interested in also the fingernail thing like you have to wear that specific shade on your fingernails like it is very cult-like it’s a lot of
Rules but that’s just how it is going through recruitment and getting a bid was fine but recruitment as an active was one of the worst experiences of my life it was extremely superficial we had to vote on girls based on appearance it was incredibly heartbreaking to watch
Girls that i considered my friends judge other girls based on their looks size etc the upperclassmen screamed at us day and night at one point we were literally told to cut the sh with the bleeding hearts and start giving the uglies zeros and that’s from alexis who’s 20. um
Bleeding hearts just for not wanting to judge a book by its cover i have definitely heard of these horror stories of where they will only give bids to the new girls that they think are cute or pretty or whatever this is definitely a very sad fact of sororities like i can
Speak for firsthand that this definitely happens in my experience of rushing there were a lot of girls that were very worried that they wouldn’t get a bid because they weren’t conventionally attractive and at the end of rush it is very heartbreaking to see some people cry because they think they got turned
Away because of their looks which to me is so sad okay so sad and i’m not saying every single sorority does this that’s not what i’m saying but it definitely happens sometimes and let’s just move on this one comes from jessica who is 22. all of the pledging
Was a crazy nightmare but during one event we were pulled in blindfolded one by one to a private room and asked questions about our other pledge sisters we were told that only our pledge mom and our big were in the room which is basically older upperclassmen but then we would stay
There and realize that the next pledge was being brought in i had to listen to one of my pledge sisters talk about how she didn’t like me and how none of the pledge class felt close to me and it was genuinely the most psychologically shocking experience that is terrifying
Like imagine being tested by your sisters with a blindfold on and basically them asking you to talk crap about someone else and then you have to listen to someone else talk crap about you that is psychologically traumatizing all right um i would not want to be
Involved in that at all but aside from the rituals that take place at sororities there is also a dark side to fraternities at the frats they might not have the exact same dynamic as the sororities but they definitely have their own issues okay and one of them being
Hazing if you do not know what hazing is it is a huge problem in greek life okay it’s actually like i’m pretty sure it’s illegal like it’s illegal to haze people now but just to summarize it’s when a pledge or the pledging stage happens for a new fraternity member and the older
Members decide to prank them and force them into doing things that are very very dangerous usually this includes extreme drinking challenges where you’re forced to drink obscene amounts of alcohol and it’s not even safe for consumption at this level one of the most tragic cases of hazing that’s known
Out there if you’re super into true crime you might know about this case and that is the one of timothy piazza at penn state university this was timothy he was a freshman at penn state university when he decided to rush the fraternity beta theta pi but on the
Night of friday february 2nd in 2017 he was undergoing hazing and his fraternity brothers made him drink a challenge that they called the gauntlet this meant that timothy had to drink a full bottle of vodka along with a beer and then finally a sip from a wine box he actually did it
Because the peer pressure really is that great in these fraternities okay they’re forcing you to basically do it and calling you names if you don’t want to he was so intoxicated you guys that he actually fell down the basement stairs and this fall was so traumatic it actually knocked him unconscious after
This happened his fraternity brothers carried him up the stairs and laid him on the couch where a security camera caught everything and this is so crazy because this whole incident was caught on camera i am gonna give a trigger warning you guys like this is a very traumatic story i’m gonna be talking
About alcohol i’m gonna be i already have been talking about it i should have given this trigger warning ahead of time i’m also going to be sharing things that are just generally disturbing about this case but while he laid unconscious on the couch his fraternity brothers were
Just pacing back and forth talking to each other on whether or not they should take him to the hospital and no one wanted to get him medical help now there were a couple times where timothy actually woke up and tried to get himself help he got up off the couch but
Multiple times he would just fall right back down one of the times that he got up and fell he actually hit his head so hard and they’re saying that this may be the fall that eventually caused him to not survive this incident but this continued all the way until 3 30 in the
Morning the next day his fraternity brothers instead of getting him help once again decided to carry him upstairs now somewhere along the lines it’s assumed that timothy got up once again trying to get himself help because he was so out of it he eventually wandered downstairs and he was found cold behind
A bar in the basement apparently this was the point where they decided yo we better get him help and he was taken to the emergency room where he later passed away sadly from his injuries and what’s so crazy about this is the medical report said that timothy piazza’s brain
Was swelling so bad that they had to remove part of his this is very triggering remove part of his skull to relieve the pressure on his brain and to no avail he did not survive unfortunately and the fraternity brothers that just sat there and didn’t get him help were charged with
Involuntary manslaughter which good it’s what they deserve this story is so sad and this is the story that really made universities start actually cracking down on hazing and trying to prevent it because timothy and his family deserve that now that’s just sad i really do hope that timothy’s name can be
Remembered if you look up his story i highly recommend you just educate yourself on hazing because it is a big problem but not the only problem with fraternities okay and this is another trigger warning we’re gonna be talking about s a s a stands for something that
I can’t say on youtube but it’s something that occurs so much in frats on tick tock right now there is a fraternity trending because a freshman girl from university of nebraska lincoln was r-worded at a party in the house of phi gamma delta or known as the fiji
House and left on the front lawn with no clothes on yes that’s right they left her outside like that after doing that to her and there are so many people talking about this on tick tock i will actually play one of the tick tocks now
So a 17 year old girl on her first day of school at unl went to a party at the fiji house was beaten and left on the front yard where she was found by another girl the rapist’s name is max helm here’s a picture of him here i’m going to include
A video of a screen recording of a snapchat story of one of max’s fiji fraternity brothers recording outside the window of the fiji house at the first night of the protest honestly it’s so disgusting and i’m so glad there are people out there protesting in front of the house the
Fiji house but it’s so messed up because there’s apparently frat brothers that are watching the protest going on and just making a joke of it like laughing at the protesters thinking like it’s not serious or anything well that just makes me so frustrated like to no end i can’t
Even describe through the camera like the anger that that gives me for that girl like she deserves justice immediately and i really hope that she gets it like oh it’s not bad enough that you already did this act you want to mock everyone else that’s trying to get
Justice for it like that is unspeakable okay there is a special place in h-e-l-l for those people but that is just one of the essay cases of probably hundreds if not thousands that happen in fraternities now on a completely separate and a little bit less serious note frat houses are notoriously
Disgusting as well i’m not sure if you guys have seen the videos they’re all over i’ve been looking them up of the condition that these frat houses are in it almost looks like a pig’s dye like the way that these people you wouldn’t even think they were people you would
Think they were animals are living and i’m not saying this is all of them um once again but some of them are just littered with trash and dirt and alcohol just spilled everywhere it’s so gross and to show on the outside like this brotherhood of like all of these
Positive things happening and selling this image and then when you move in it looks like that like no thank you no thank you it’s definitely a lot different of a culture than the sororities and once again speaking of sororities like another thing that i hear quite often is that people are
Discriminated against in both sides if they don’t have money and if they’re not rich which i can attest to i actually ended up quitting my sorority because of this reason okay so growing up i did not grow up rich at all by any means my
Parents did you know help me and get me into college but i had to pay for my own schooling i was working i had to do all of my own things and my sorority did not like that i couldn’t afford to always show up to every meeting okay you have
To pay to go to these meetings okay then you have to pay your dues which is a whole different thing and then you have to pay for like sweatshirts and t-shirts and it’s very expensive it’s like thousands and thousands of dollars and i knew that it was gonna be expensive
Going into it don’t get me wrong but there was simply no way around it and when i couldn’t show up to a meeting they would charge me even more money and i eventually had like debt that i owed to my sorority and all of my sisters were like talking crap about me because
I couldn’t afford to be a part of it and i was like you know what i don’t have to deal with this i am not going to just show up every single week to just like go to a meeting and then say something in you know greek and learn the greek
Alphabet and pay thousands of dollars for people that are just going to talk crap about me because i don’t have money like that just did not sit right with me and was ultimately the reason i decided to leave my sorority house okay and actually decide to make friends outside of the greek
System now once again i’m not saying this is every single one this doesn’t apply to all of them or every individual situation or experience for some greek life might be a really amazing beautiful thing but just like most communities there is a dark side and i’m glad we got
To talk about it in this video i’m sure there are a lot more secrets that i was not able to uncover in my research if you have an experience you would like to share positive or negative feel free to leave it down in the comments i’ll leave
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