QUINTON READY TO LOVE SITS DOWN WITH LITTLEBLACKBOOK91

We Cruising back the Yeah we Cruis hey guys and welcome to little blackbook 91 we’re sitting down with Quinton from ready to love season five I say season five ready to love Dallas um so it’s going to be an interesting conversation you know I know you guys have a lot of

Questions uh I know a lot of the ladies also can’t wait to to see you on your glory I’ve seen comments already about his body you know eyes eyes and stuff like that so C you already started trouble on my on my on my tinet man you

Know please be careful out there I seen I seen your IG bro you be in the gy too bro you just cover it up yeah you know what I can’t show too much but now you show all the muscles you GNA Ste all my all my people

Them but it’s good to have you on here it’s good to have you on here cap no words C no words at all Captain listen uh audience make sure you strap up okay pause but make sure you guys stay locked and loaded and uh get ready for an enthralling engaging conversation

All right so uh before we get into any festivities anything deep Quinton first of all again thank you for joining us number two we need to do some human verification just to make sure you’re human you know because you know you’re goodlooking guy you could be a AI bro

What you got from me I just posted a picture of AI and it was a very good I’m just had to had to go back and look at my high school yearbook to make sure I ain’t look like that but yeah yeah what you got what you got from

All right I got a few questions for you Captain first question is are you related to Michael J white I just want to ask that question because you got resemblance there I just seen it and I’m like H is there a connection there is there a cousin something third third

Cousins on my mama’s Side yeah are you real no no no no no no no oh GNA say cause you cause the resemblance is looking there I was like oh Baby I’ve got I’ve gotten him in the past though so that’s funny no way at all no way at all number two uh your favorite

Color uh Olive and orange oh those are two of my favorite colors yeah yeah love that love that represents um and orange is kind of represents like a like happiness bright like it’s it’s those those are two of my favorites so those a color of my uh meal

Prep brand so yeah those those are my two favorite I love it okay I like it and explanation too we love that as well deep thinker we like it uh third question is if you’re on a plane and a plane is about to has to have make a

Crash landing in any particular country that you wanted it to land in what country would you want it to land in and why uh Africa definitely Africa Africa um one I’ve never been and if I’m G get dropped off somewhere might as well be where from the motherland so I would

Definitely get dropped off in Africa okay any specific country in Africa um no specific what’s the um what is it Kate Kate Verdian Kate Verdian oh okay okay okay beautiful women out there I ain’t never met a that wasn’t bad I hear you on that that one I

Can vou for on that one still uh I’m reading my Bible um all right I’m sorry my bad no don’t worry bro don’t even worry about that and final question uh is uh seral or the milk in the bowl first people put milk in the bowl first

That’s not a thing that’s not that’s not that’s not a thing people don’t put them y’all need to start coming for [Laughter] me cereal first 100% cereal first 100% enough any of cereal uh Frosted Flakes is probably my go Frosted Flakes then Honey Nut and then uh and then if I’m feeling frisky some rice krispies so yeah that’s funny love it yeah cool then you gotta get

Spoon to crush it up first for for some reason I don’t know why why we do that but you gotta get the spoon to crush it up and then you start eating your cereal see now I know you ain’t talking about I’m putting the milk in first when you

Doing all of that to make your cereal you got to make sure it’s all covered in milk next you gonna tell me you put some ice in there as well watch I’m not that black I’m not that black okay all right cool have to make sure you know I mean

Because they be laughing at me but I’ll be laughing at y’all so so all right cool all right you passed out human ver human verification uh we believe you’re a human uh being you’re not the AI so fantastic stuff let’s get into some some conversation let’s get to know you a bit

Better because you know ready to love is only a portion a small portion of your life you’re you’re you’re are somebody before that show so we want to get to know you a bit better as well so my first question to you is Quinton who is Quinton and what is quinton’s

Story I I am uh Jack Quinton Carter Quinton is my middle name um me and my dad share the same first and last name uh we have different middle names so my family grew up calling me U my middle name um and that’s what I prefer to be called from

Miami Florida former D1 athlete uh was in Hospitality for 10 plus years uh as a kitchen manager um now I’m a personal trainer entrepreneur with my own M prep business uh very confident humble guy I live by Mantra uh confident to the world humble humble in life cocky to myself

Um uh yeah funloving guy man very empathetic um love to have conversations and talk about life and how we can improve and and to talk about relationships so um that’s kind of just me and a synopsis real quick also proud member of Omega Sci-Fi fraternity incorporator so I know

People saw my brain they was like is he the cues yes yes I am the BR I love that man I love that now you said obviously you you share partly your name as well with your father um as well what was the what was the did your dad

Ever give you a reason on why he he gave you you know part of his name as well so my this is kind of a my all my dad’s kids have JC at the end of their name so my brother’s name is B JC my sister’s

Name is y JC and so my name was supposed to be Quinton Jack Carter um but my mom wanted be me to be named after um my dad at the last minute so they switched it and so now my name is j QC so yeah M okay really really my mom’s

Idea so that’s kind of the one thing that uh when I do have kids if I have kids um to kind of keep that tradition going and having JC in in the name so yeah I love that what does that what does the name mean for you then so

Having having shared that name what does that mean for you now you’ve grown up and you’re seen it from a growing perspective what does what does having that name mean to you uh it’s Legacy um that and that’s probably the one of the biggest and most important things to me

Is just uh leaving a legacy that so people remember my name um and when they remember my name they remember my father’s name and my family’s name so anything that I can do to uh make people remember me in a good light um they can remember my family as well in a great

Light so that’s that’s that’s what I’m here on this on this Earth to do is just leave a legacy um that you know my children can follow and then I can that I can hold my my father name up so that’s probably one of the biggest and

Most imperative things to me is is creating a legacy I love that now you said obviously you was in D1 uh D1 athlete as well um how important did that play in terms of Legacy because D1 is not no small it’s not on small feet

So well on on that bro that’s a that’s a big big accomplishment bro I respect that 100% what what did that what did that mean for you and what do that mean for the Legacy that you that you were trying to leave as well when you when

You achieved that it it meant a lot because I was the first person to graduate from college from my family so just being able to go to a university and finish out um and get my degree was the most imperative thing and the one I

One thing I wanted to do for my mother and my family and having my grandparents show up to the graduation um and kind of share that that accomplishment me meant the world and now I have uh my nieces um one attends Nova down in Fort Lauderdale

The other one tends attends FAMU um so to have them being able to see their their Uncle be able to go to college graduate it gives them the more confidence to do so as well so definitely definitely a proud moment definitely a proud moment I love that I

Love that so obviously you you you growing up obviously as a youngster was was you know was D1 your vision from a young age or did you have something else that you had in mind as as a dream for you growing up it wasn’t man I didn’t start playing

Football until High School um I was I was in all type of sports growing up I did gymnastics from 4 to 12 I did basketball uh golf I was on a golf team like I did a bunch of sports and I didn’t start playing football until the

Summer before high school and then once I started playing um you know I I definitely wanted to continue playing I had a cousin that played for the University of Miami um and so I wanted to follow in his footsteps um and continue to play so once I started

Playing football it was definitely a dream of mine but once I got to college um you know I had I had always had dreams of opening up my own restaurant being in the restaurant industry all my uncles are Cooks uh and chefs down in Miami and my mother my

Grandmother was always that grandmother that sold food out the house so if anybody is from Miami they know K is really really big in Miami and so my my grandmother probably made some of the best K fritters um in South Miami and so growing up seeing that I always wanted

To have my own restaurant and so once I got college and man and majored in uh restaurant management Hospitality you know that was my main goal sick okay so so okay so would you say that your love for cooking for food for Hospitality was strong than your I

Guess your love for sports or even love for football at a time yeah 100% 100% I I I feel like I have more passion my purpose is more geared towards uh helping people making people feel good whether that’s through food whether that’s through Fitness whether that’s through speaking anything like that that

Gave me more of a joy um than playing now granted I love playing football um it was probably one of the greatest times four years of my life um the friendship that I’ve I’ve made through there were are some that I will never will never relinquish um but definitely

The hospitality side the cooking um and just uh helping people was definitely more of my purpose than than football now was that was that hard to to to follow at a young age in terms of that passion because you know someone might say you know for young black men

You know maybe I know you obviously had great examples ahead of you but like you know like the usual stereotypes that we get labeled as young men is like if you do Sports you’re cool but if you’re doing something like cooking it’s like you’re [ __ ] or like you’re s you know

What I mean like they usually get these labels that are really negative in that aspect like how did did you ever encounter that and if you did how did you overcome those kind of particular stereotypes so let me I have never been the cool [Laughter]

Kid never cool kid um like I said I did gymnastics from 4 to 12 so I was always the kid that was like flipping in in the middle of lunch um I was on the golf team in Middle School um and even though I played basketball and stuff like that

And once I got to high school now I played football so I was the popular football player um but I was friends with everybody like I didn’t have like a click and we were you know just on this separate Island and I was friends with

Everybody so I was I was never a cool kid and I was I I wrote poetry I was interested in spoken word I was doing all this stuff so a lot of the stereotypes um that are regularly on black men I kind of geared away from and

And still to this day I I never subscribe to stereotypes whether it’s with Omega sci-fi whether it’s with black men whether it’s with you know men who cook or anything like that I try to never subscribe to any stereotypes because it’s it’s it’s unnecessary in in my

Opinion why why why why why when it says unnecessary from your perspective why why do you say it’s unnecessary to to kind of like it’s unnecessary subscribe because it it takes away your identity and being yourself you know what I mean it’s it’s okay to uh be different all right I used to

Say that all the time like dare to be different you know being Omega scii um being somebody who wrote poetry or football player people want to stigmatize you as you know one specific thing and I never wanted to be I never wanted to fall under that umbrella and

So even with um ready to love um somebody was asking me like how come you don’t have that in your bio or how come you you don’t have omega SciFi in your bio and I was like I don’t want people to automatically see that and then uh and then you know for

Form an opinion off of that I want them to come to my page and just see it and make their opinions off my page and then find out oh this person also does that or oh my God he was on the show and not just you know see me and then formulate an

Opinion had have you experienced being boxed in when you were younger then was that an experience that you you went through now I’m a black man that did gymnastics I was bullied all the time you went the tight the ties the ties on I had you know granted my my I

Just got my glasses are big now but they were definitely were definitely not the cool ones back in the day you know big glasses they weren’t cool back then um so having glasses and doing gymnastics I was definitely bullied um and boxed in um growing up so I think that in itself made

Me kind of Channel just all right I’m not like everybody else let me continue to just be me and one thing that um any of anybody that knows me from high school or college they they all they all know like Jack quinton’s gonna be him like nobody’s gonna him anything different

Like he’s going to be him and and um and that’s just it so I I kind of celebrate that I I like that about about myself man I love that man and you know I could really identify with that as well because I think when I was when I

Was and still to this day like I like to do things that people believe that I shouldn’t do you know what I mean like you go and see me and you see my Ig you know I’m I’m G do a pull up and and and

And [ __ ] the Nash at the same time you know what I mean like I’m GNA do stuff that you tell me that I shouldn’t do or you feel like I can’t do or you feel like I you don’t see me as doing right I want to be able to be free

And not be conformed to someone’s idea of what I should be you know what I’m saying like I feel restricted when when I’m put in a box and I’m told that you can do such and such you know what I’m saying someone might say bit more of a

Rebel Spirit you know I mean one time one girlfriend was like listen I don’t way do your La I don’t give a damn I’m G do the way I want to do it you know what I mean but like so like for you then when you find those boxes are being put on

You and you feel like you’re being restricted where do you feel where do you think that kind of idea of you having such tenacity and strength to say I’m rejecting those labels comes from then where does that where where does that strength to be different come from

Um probably from my mom um and it’s being I think gymnastics kind of was probably the biggest shaper of my life I’m talking a lot about gymnastics hey gynastics been killing it bro it must have been H when I when I did gymnastics um my mom

Always referred to me as an one and that was when an one was really big um yeah and so being around different ethnicities of kids it was you know it can either go two ways right it can either go like damn I’m different and

Like I want to be like them or it’s like damn I’m different let me celebrate who I am and so my mom and everyone else never treated me different or anything like that and so growing up around all those ethnicities and not feeling different because nobody treated me

Different I felt okay to be who I was and not to conform to anybody else so gymnastics is obviously quite an important part of of life as you mentioned what discipline did you do in gymnastics then uh I did everything from the pomah hor to the floor to the Rings

To uh the high bar I did everything I did everything fun fact um the guy name’s um DaNell Lea he placed Bronze in the Olympics 201 12 I want to say 2012 um I used to beat him all the time I used to beat him all the time um

And his coach who was my coach at the time when I was growing up as well um I I when they were in the Olympics I shot them a message on Facebook um and I was like man y’all lucky I quit I I would you’d still be coming in second and so

They’re they’re always they’re always still good people he was a very hard hard coach um and if you know anything about gymnastics gymnastics is about perfection I I argue anybody to this day that gymnastics is the hardest sport ever because if you don’t flex your toe throughout the whole uh routine you know

You you may get exed off like you’re not going to win so um that was the first part of uh the discipline where I’ve learned of just being perfect in in the things that you do so yeah gymnastics so so so obviously what like you said the coach obviously quite hard

Quite hard in terms of the way he approached things gymnastics being Perfection like he said as well how did that impact you growing up I know you said that discipline did that did that shape you you know in this modern day era now positive or negative in any

Particular way like how do you see that how it shaped you um probably probably both ways um to the point where you know he was a very hard-nosed coach yell yelling and all that fun stuff so when I was in sports and even now like I really I need

Somebody on my ass to like really like get going like I need somebody um now I don’t need somebody yelling but I need somebody in my presence to make me you know really be on my [ __ ] and um it’s it’s kind of a positive thing and a

Negative because you know I I love to to be accompanied by somebody but definitely had to had to learn how to uh set that on fire up my own ass pause but to to get I love that so obviously you got into gymnastics when young early age um and I

Said obviously mom called you and and Juan as well describe to us what your relationship was like with your mother how would you describe that relationship so me and my mom um my mom would love love love love for me to be a mama’s boy she would absolutely love

It but I am not I am not I cater I cater to my father um me and him we are probably just alike um in all the best and negative ways as well both stubborn as hell um and so me and my mom I always adored her because she was the middle

Child of her uh other four sisters and she was kind of like the kind-hearted one so I really got most of that from her um and so she always allowed me to not judge people um to be kind um to to not really I never really seen my mom or

Dad really get mad like that so the kindness that I have in my heart I get from her I mean I do sense the kind energy from yourself actually to be honest you know even the way you approach and speak about topics you can kind of feel that

That that kindness that softness you know that gentleness that you bring to the to the table you said obviously you’re more like your you’re more like your father so then tell us a little bit more about then your relationship with your father and and growing up with your

With your dad what was that like for you um it was it was great for me um you know my dad uh he didn’t get a lot of emotion uh growing up uh between him and his father uh so you know and he’s 70 he’ll be 7 he just turned

71 so you know them growing up back in the day wasn’t I don’t want to say cool but they they weren’t getting that much affection and emotion um so when I grew up he made it uh an emphasis to do that with me so U he was very affectionate

With me probably kissed me in my mouth till I was in like Elementary Middle School um and so a lot of the affection ways that I have now is because of how affectionate he was with me and so we we were always really close and we always just bonded and that’s

That’s that’s kind of that’s kind of my road dog man that’s kind of that’s love that guy I love that so obviously then you know growing up you got both your parents were they still together when you when you were grown up and stuff yeah they the actual anniversary is

Today they’ve been married for years today y wow wow wow what is the best piece of advice that you received from your dad and your mom that you hold on to today um so my dad has a saying um and I actually got it tattooed um it’s uh

Don’t worry about the mule being blind just load the wagon and so and so for me it was just like don’t worry about other circumstances don’t worry about other people um you know just load the wagon and and and just keep going and so that’s kind of a mantra that I kind of

Just take in my everyday life I don’t really worry about the extremities anything else going on like I try and just get done what I need to get done and just keep going it can’t stop so um there definitely one that’s that’s definitely sticks sticks in my mind that I I

Used I love that okay so then you you know you now have mantras you you know you you had a great you had a nice upbringing what it sounds like you had a great upbringing um you know you’ve taken some great lessons from both mom and from dad as well going you know

You’re doing sports you’re doing gymnastics you’ve done football you done whole lot of things as well um you know you’re changing the game you know you’re you’re you’re moving a direction that is is going to break some some even some generational aspects too right get into high school going into I’m guessing you

Went into college as well yes tell us a little bit about you ah okay so tell us a little bit about your your because that that usually is a pinnacle time for a lot of us young men you know in terms of formulating new identity and growing into who we’re

Going to become tell us a little bit about you know Q in in in college what was that who was que then what was you becoming so growing up my dad and my parents were very strict I didn’t go to a club until like senior prom that was

That was the first time I went to a club and I’m and I and I grew up in Miami so you know it’s clubbing everywhere that’s when they were still like uh Teenage clubs never went to one um and so once I got to college you know it was no ho bar

I was going out um enjoying life playing football ball um making new friends um University of Central Florida was probably one of the greatest decisions that I’ve ever made just because it was a upand cominging football program at the time and even though I had grown up

In Miami where it was mostly Caribbean um I was I would have liked to go to HBCU U my dad went to Bon where didn’t graduate but you know they gave me a full right scholarship so being able to be in that big of a school um

And getting to know and how to interact with you know the different white people black people everybody I think that shaped me a lot um and I had some unfortunate circumstances that kept me off the field um a couple years and so the resiliency to continue to keep going

Continue to keep fighting um and not let you know not playing bother me or you know what I mean things like that so uh it really it really built me a lot and I appreciate the experience on top of on top of pledging um you know pledging

Omega sci-fi you know my brothers are 11 years and 19 years older than me so after six or seven um you know I pretty much grew up as like a only child so um pled ing a fraternity and and and getting lifelong friends um and four of

My four of my L brothers were my teammates and so those were uh another another uh eted and stone of of a bond that we have between each other so um I I love UCF I’m I’m getting ready to go back to homecoming in a couple weeks and

I I really appreciate that experience and I always tell kids you know to experience college man if you’re gonna go to college experience it live live on campus if it’s if it’s only for a semester definitely do it but definitely get all the experiences that you can from college I know it’s

Becoming kind of obsolete with the entrepreneur Vibe and you know kids are able to do any and everything um you know just from their phones um but school is a great tool for an experience um in getting to know different people and getting because it’s it’s uncomfortable right it’s

Uncomfortable living in a dorm with a random person living on the other side of you and getting to know different people in your class and so I I definitely think that’s an experience that everybody um should should take advantage of I love that and I love the

Fact you mentioned also as well the the the Brotherhood that you that you formulated because you said obviously you know you growing up you your the you know your siblings had there’s a lot age gap between the between yourselves almost it felt like you’re grown up uh

As a solo kid uh you know help us understand a bit more than the importance of for you anyway for you um you know that that Brotherhood that you formulated in pledging you know what what how how important was that for you in that time that you were uh

Pledging uh very imperative uh friendship is the most important thing to me whether that’s um um in a mate whether that’s in you know just between between guys um I didn’t I didn’t I didn’t have I want to say I didn’t have a lot of friends but like I said in high school

You know I jumped around and so I didn’t have a core set of friends in high school um I didn’t have you know we moved to the suburbs when I was like 10 and so I don’t even talk to any of those people so I was really looking for

Uh friends that I could hold on to um you know once I got to college and you know even though we’re my teammates I was like okay is is are my teammates going to be those lifelong bonds so friendship is is everything to me because I I feel like the the the people

That have your back that you can count on call at any time those those are the people that you want to keep in your life and then you know whenever you talk to anybody you know you you say you know how long is your what’s your longest

Relationship and people say oh you know three years five years whatever and then you say oh what’s your what’s your longest friendship oh 15 years 20 years 25 years and so I think those are the bonds that we we need to cherish and then in terms of relationship you know I

Feel like you have to have that you have to be a friend I have to like you um before I can love you and a lot of people get that back so friendship friendship is everything to me so being an Omega um um I put I put that over you

Know unbiased but I put that over every other fraternity because one of the reasons why I joined was when I first got to school um you know I saw the kappas and I saw the sigmas and they would play their song and it would be

Like a couple of them go out they do their thing and then when the q’s came on when they played the q’s song All The Q’s just went out and they were just wow and having I was like yo like who whoa there crazy like and so um and then

To wake up the next day and they’re doing community service so that was one of the biggest things that Drew me to to want to be in Omega I love that you know you spoke about something really briefly but you touched on and I think was quite

Important you said about the stability I guess obviously you had moved around when you younger um you know and then not necessarily having as much of the friendships yeah formed at that younger that younger age uh how did that you know how did that impact you CU

Obviously that’s that’s quite a you know at that age you know trying to have friendships uh like you said you you when you’re later on you’re talking about the cues and formulating that Brotherhood but when you’re younger that’s also quite I wouldn’t say scary but it’s it’s it’s it’s unnerving at

Points right when you haven’t got that stability Core Group yeah so what was that what was that like for you trying to navigate that and why did you feel like at that point you didn’t necessarily have that core friendship group at that young younger age and as

Such um I just wanted to be liked when I was younger and so um it I didn’t really feel that I didn’t have a core group of friends until I kind of left High School um or I wanted to do things because I didn’t I didn’t go out really you know

What I mean um I didn’t go out really and so the I didn’t I didn’t need a core group of friends I have uh two female best friends one that I grew up with from diapers um and I have a couple other you know uh friends that I grew up

With but we went to different high schools and stuff so we were always split up um so growing up I I just wanted to be liked and I did a lot of things and that’s why I feel like in high school I just you know hopped over to this table

Hopped over to that table you know talked to everybody um now granted it got me to be prom King but you know at the end of the day um I I wanted I wanted a solid group of friends and so once I got to college and

I saw the bond between um the omegas I definitely wanted to um to join that so yeah you know I can I can feel what what you mean when you say you wanted to be to be liked you know there actually there’s a in Psychology say there’s two

Things that human beings want to be is is be right and be liked you know there’re two core things as a human being you want to be right and you want to be liked um you know and you know it’s interesting that you mentioned that you know for you because you you mentioned

Obviously having that strong core you know childhood in a sense and then obviously like I said grw up in I guess more strict environment where where does that where for you did the I need to be like come from then because you know I can I can I’m a bit more people pleaser

So I understand you know I think for Me Mine probably came because my dad is a bit more hard on me and less emotional but he praised when you did something so you kind of learn to do stuff and get the praise that way so for you where do

You feel like that liking then wanting to be liked was coming from where that motivation to want to be liked was coming from uh it came from me not uh from my brothers being away so it it like um when my brothers weren’t home

You know it was like damn like I I want my brothers you know what I mean and so it was like if I can my brother’s like I want somebody else to like me and um and even growing up like Elementary Middle School like I I I didn’t have a

Girlfriend until I want to say like I think I had a girlfriend for like a couple weeks in middle school but like to me the girls didn’t like me or I didn’t like I did they they didn’t like me until I got to high school um and

Then I didn’t really know that they like me because I wasn’t really pulling nobody I guess um I didn’t have no game or nothing like that so I just wanted to be liked um and I I didn’t I didn’t really have any confidence um I was um

But I didn’t I didn’t have any confidence in who I was because I wasn’t um I wasn’t with the cool I wasn’t a cool kid quote unquote you know so um being being liked by the cool kids and also being liked by everybody else was kind of satisfactory for me um but I

Really had to find my confidence once I got to to college I I had to I had to really find it once I got there how did you end up finding that confidence then for you you know um click man I can say I probably didn’t really truly find my

Confidence being fully fully confident in myself until 20 I want to say 2016 like not not even that long ago um 2016 2017 um because in college you know um being not not playing the how much I wanted to and um you know not getting you know having a girlfriend for a

Second breaking up like I didn’t to me I didn’t have everything that I wanted and I was me that was subsequent to me not either looking my best or being my best um and it wasn’t until you know I got to you know the job that I wanted and I

Started really looking at myself in the mirror and been like yo like you look good bro so and that that wasn’t 20 yeah 26 2016 like right before I to Texas was was I I really really found my confidence and didn’t like didn’t doubt it at all so

Yeah you know it’s mad yeah because like what you’re explaining bro I’m really like I’m as I’m hear I’m like yeah bro that’s feel him bro I feel him because bro like even for myself like and I’ll be real with you as well bro like my confidence Inc come until maybe 2018 you

Know what I mean because when I finally found what I was called to do that’s when I found confidence in in who I actually was I had some conf but I I wouldn’t say I was necessarily fully confident in who I actually was you know

What I mean so you know I know that that that phase where you’re trying to find your place in the world and trying to really entertain as to who you actually are some of us are a bit more late bloomers you know what I mean you you

Don’t up in a Christian home you know and you know I was a fat kid so I was a fat kid when I was younger okay you know before I did the gym and everything like that you know what I’m saying so and like you bro the girls didn’t like me

Either bro I was the funny African friend okay so they they friends own me real quick you know so so many times man bro it be hurting I know tactics now I know I know what the friends looks like before I get there you know what I mean right’s go

Yeah yeah so so okay so so you can identify that as well so you know the ladies then okay so let talk about the ladies you know cuz you know you’re very handsome guy you know what I’m saying you know you’re well built you know what

I’m saying the sisters look in the chat listen they keep saying how how handsome you are sir you know I mean you’re stealing all my subscribers um you said know you said obviously in terms of like even identifying even being in a friend zone like myself right um what was your

Kind of early experiences with the ladies then so for you what was your kind of experiences with the ladies when you first you know growing up and stuff so um like I said I didn’t really start dating um once I got to college um I dated this

Woman I don’t want to put her name out there but I dated this woman she was very beautiful she was two years older than me and to me she was like one of the most prettiest girls that was on campus um and for me to to get her I was hella

Surprised um but we dated and it took me a while to get over her um and after that it was just it was dating I didn’t I didn’t know what I was doing I I had no idea what I was doing I just knew I was somewhat attractive I was on

The football team so they kind of wanted me and I started to know what I was doing so just kind of like rolled that train um but I didn’t know um I couldn’t I couldn’t take that next step to get in a relationship and there there was a couple and it was

Funny we just had this conversation at the gym today about you know how many guys know you know the women that they kind of missed out on I bet you can name them I definitely can name the the couple of women that you know I should have really been serious about but was

Just in you know a fun phase and and and never really took it seriously so I think once I got to and then I didn’t I I want to say I didn’t like any any of them enough but no woman kind of requir anything more out of me and even though I loved

No even though I loved being in a relationship and I loved you know having a Woman by my side I there was no there was no requirement for it to hop in a relationship you know so um I didn’t and so um the ex that you guys saw on the

Show she was she was the one girl who you know we dated for on on and off for like some year probably between 2013 20156 just like on and um and I really should have took her seriously um but but I didn’t and so uh it’s funny that I

You know see comments and people are like oh man he said he didn’t want to commit to his his ex so why does he want a relationship now and I was like that was like 2016 that was old me a long time ago um but then after that you know

Um I I always sought after women but a lot of the women that I sought after either I couldn’t get or once I got him it wasn’t what I thought it was and so I didn’t want and so you know with guys like we can see something be like oh my

God I want her and then we get her and it’s like are you serious yeah I know I can’t so um it was a lot of that and it was not of just and like I said I didn’t find my confidence till 2016 17 and then at that point I

Got into a relationship that kind of ruined my confidence took way out yeah ruin my confidence um so then it was then it was a point of trying to heal from that and trying to regain my confidence and and really be intentional about you know how

I want to move um in the relationship that I want to embark on no you you said some things here some things that intriguing because I guess obviously when everybody sees you now everyone goes I can’t believe he’s gone through that you know what I mean like

Because often time we see the end product or we see the end of the the story not necessarily the beginning or the middle um and you said something really interesting you said obviously that some of the past partners someone that got away is because you didn’t necessarily weren’t you weren’t um I

Don’t you weren’t I don’t want to say pressured but you weren’t put in a place where you had to to elevate that relationship to a committed Point make us understand a bit more in terms of that mindset because you know so what I what I tell I tell I have I

Have a lot of female friends um and what I tell a lot of them is a man is only going to do what you require him to do um so if I once had a a girl tell me um I texted her and I was like yo let’s

Go out Friday and she was like I don’t go out with guys who don’t call me and ask me out and I said hey what you doing Friday let’s go out here you know what I mean like I made that phone call and so um no woman

Kind of required that out of me and so I didn’t make it happen um and I feel like for unless a man is ready you know he’ll make that requirement he’ll he’ll he’ll do that on his own but if he’s not ready and you don’t require that out of him

He’s not gonna do that um at least a confident man will you know I mean like a confident who who know who who know who he is um but going through that process of of dating between 2013 and um 2016 before before my ex it was really

Just like I was having fun dating and you know yeah it wasn’t it wasn’t anything serious so I mean I’m I’m going have another real moment here and say okay so during that period of time like similar enough not that exact period of time but

I know that you know as I as I was younger forgive my crudeness when I say this I was a horny kid so it’s just is just what it is what right I was a horny kid but I couldn’t get certain type of girl let me be honest with you you know

The girl that the girls that I actually you wanted couldn’t get yeah so I had to I had to work with what I had yeah you got we got to readjust you know what I’m saying you got to work with what you got you know what I mean you

Can you have to go to those girls later on but um one of the things that because obviously uh like for for me as when I was when I was kind of growing up and then dealing with with some certain certain women like you were saying right

Um I wanted to be in a relationship I wanted to I wanted to be in a relationship but it’s going to sound so rude girls the girls that were necessarily asking me I didn’t I I I thought I was better than them is what it is right so

I wasn’t so when if they did asks or if they even hinted that it I weren’t gonna buy it because I didn’t want it yeah you know what I mean like I I at that point I probably that’s part of it too right like if we wanted we want to get in

Relationships you know what I’m saying I’mma get in it I’mma get in it but if I don’t want to and then you not like kind of like pushing my hand like I told a girl today she was asking advice and she was like I’ve been talking to this guy

For you know some months now and like we haven’t even been on a date yet and I said well why are you still seeing this [ __ ] like tell him if he wants to see you he has to take you out on a date Point Clear you know what I’m saying so

Like I said a man is gonna get away with what he can’t get away with um unless he unless he wants to unless he wants something different so the I’m I’m right with you and the women that I dealt with before I didn’t want to get in a

Relationship you know what I mean so you know it is what it is it is what it is so okay so okay so then you you got into like said you mentioned one of the relationships that you were in what was your longest standing relationship um my last one uh right

Under three years okay what was that like and uh you know why did that relationship end um so she was somebody who I had sought after had met 2011 she friends on me um but in Miami the q’s and the K’s are very close-knit um and so the the groups that

We hung out in we’re still very we’re still very close friends but even though she friends on me we were still in a circle of friends so I saw her talk to her a lot of the time um and she got out of a relationship 2017 and as soon as

She got out of that one you know we end up talking and getting into ours and it wasn’t we shouldn’t have gotten in that relationship because she never had time to heal um and I was overly excited to just be with her so I didn’t really I

Didn’t really care I was like what you want me bet let’s ride um that’s real so with that relationship came a lot of false narratives because a lot of the things that I usually do I I usually don’t do I did and so I had just moved to

Houston she was in uh Florida and that was long distance I if you ask anybody about me I don’t do longdistance relationship same bro don’t do them but for her I made the exception um and the reason I don’t do longdistance relationship and everybody’s to each

Your own but like it creates a false it creates a false narrative because every time you see each other it’s like you’re on vacation and so uh people are able to put on a face for a couple days a week um versus you know you seeing somebody

You see how they show up every single day and so when we were dating you know long distance you know she was struggling with a lot of stuff and so the times that she came to me or I went to Florida that was a getaway from her for

Her and so it created this false narrative like okay cool all I have to do is be with this guy and get away and move and I can get away from everything that I’m dealing with in Florida um being just excited I was yeah come on

And so of course when you try to escape things they’re they’re always going to travel with you so once we got to Texas and we started living together um you know all everything that she dealt with before just came in and and now we have to deal with it within

Our relationship and so the whole relationship just kind of based upon me trying to make her feel better about herself me trying to get her out in a better head space u me learning about depression anxiety all this fun stuff um that was the majority of the

Relationship um so all the toxicity that she dealt with in her past relationship she brought Dum um and I didn’t know how to deal with it so I’m struggling to like read books look up YouTube videos on like depression anxiety to kind of like understand it all um but all the while

You know I’m getting torn down in the relationship and I’m losing my because not to say like she didn’t know how to be a girlfriend but she shouldn’t have been in a relationship and so she’s not being the partner I need her to be but

As a man we’re taught um as a man we’re taught to say hey I’m good it’s all about you um and so that was kind of my role in relationship I was like I’m good I’m good I’m good until it got to be too

Much and then once it got to be too much you know I was like yo I can’t do this I I can’t do this for another year um we we got to separate and that was one of the hardest decisions um but it really taught me a lot

About uh one about mental health one another about emotional intelligence emotional maturity um how to how to heal about healing um and just and just understanding you know your emotions so that was probably the worst relationship that I’ve been in but also I’m the most thankful for it

Because I would I I wouldn’t be in the mindset that I am in now if not for that relationship I I really respect that I really respect honesty there um and you know again you know I’m just hearing I’m like yeah but I hear you brother I hear

You you know because I can just see that you’re someone that you know you want to be able to pour into somebody you want to you know care show love appreciation when you’re in an actual relationship you’re somebody that wants to that shows a lot of love you know what I mean um

And I I can definitely definitely identify that too let me let me let me add and say you know um you know you know my history myself you know uh I’ll be honest with you I was a builder bear Boo and I’m asking Quinton were you a

Builder be boo sir were you a builder be boo were you building these ladies that’s what I want to know where are you building these ladies Quinton well I was I building these ladies yeah will you captain and save them oh um I think with with her with with my

Last relationship I was um with with her I was but it wasn’t it was more so because I I had sought after her for so long um that I I would have did I would have did anything for her she was on another pedestal for me and so once she down off

That pedestal and I fin of like looked myself in the mirror I was like all right I gotta go um but she was on and my friends would tell you she was on a different level of of pedestal for me so anything she could have said jump I

Would have said how high like that’s it was bad that was bad that’s that’s like my first ever girlfriend I ever had you know she had that same pedestal cuz when I first moved to the place I was in that is the one that I wanted and I actually ended

Up getting you know what I mean so you know and I did put her on the pedestal and actually I got used I don’t want to say used because that sounds so bad but you know there was certain things that now would never do right I had I had

Poorer boundaries and poorer standards at that point time I had no idea about I had no idea about boundaries and honestly didn’t know anything about what I needed within a relationship I had no idea what I needed I had no idea what I required um the things that you know

Need to transpire within a relationship I had no clue so I need I needed that I needed that relationship to to show me the things that I need and I didn’t get them so it was like it was glaring the things that you know I need and everyone does the

Uh the uh what is it the five languages of love yeah you know if you don’t if you don’t apply those things and as a man you’re SEC if you’re secure enough you know you’re gonna give give give and you know I just uh I was in a giving

Mood um but now within a relationship I I need I need the get back too like as much as I give like I need I need that get back too or or else it a it ain’t gonna work so she kind of she definitely took

My my mindset of a woman being on a pedestal and not allowing them to stay on that pedestal so I would see if I would see a beautiful woman a woman having their stuff together or anything like that like I didn’t it was it was more so like okay you’re

Great but like do we connect and so with my ex even even the even how toxic that relationship was she set a standard of the relationship that I want to have as a friend within a relationship um and so I was able to take that and be like all right like all

Of this was bad I learned all of this from a relationship but like the friendship that we had was on another level and that’s something that I still need and so I was able to really look back at the relationship and really look at the things that served me the the

Things that didn’t serve me the things that I need within my next relationship and the things that I’m able to take from that relationship and say okay I still need that and the friendship aspect was has always been big to me but I never had it within a relationship and

So me getting it with with my ex it was it was something that I was like okay I know this is something that I have kind of solidified that I definitely need within within a friend because even as as much as a relationship guy that I

Am I never want to feel I don’t want to feel like I’m in a relationship like I want to feel like I’m just with my with my person and we just hanging out having a good time you know what I’m saying W like um with my ex we were able to go

Out and you know have only one person with us um or go out with another couple but it never felt like oh my God you guys are like such a couple like coupling things it was like oh y’all hanging out like y’all go together I’m like yeah yeah this this you know

What I mean it was it was that type of bond um so that was one of the things that I definitely took away from my last relationship that I I knew I needed who who who who who was the the person that you tattooed on your finger that was

Her oh she took you all the way out bro I hear it what made what made you get this tattoo heint I know man she was she was everything to me man been super bad I was ready I was ready to may she was it for me like I If if the

And I don’t want to say like that as a bad thing but like if she didn’t struggle if I had given her the time to heal from her past relationship and then we embarked on a relationship we might have could have made it but um she was

She was everything for me and like I said the bond bond that we had you know when it’s good it’s good you know what I mean but when it’s bad it’s it’s horrible and so she had um like five tattoos that were like small it was like

A star a moon uh a sun a heart across like in different places and so she had a she had the heart um she had the heart on on her middle on her ring finger and I was like well why why do you have the

Heart and she said um um whenever I get married you know I’m G have it colored in I’m gonna get it colored in I was like oh okay Bet and so I don’t know if y’all remember hurricane Harvey um was that 2017 uh she had came to Houston to see

Me and we end up having to drive to Dallas to uh get her a flight out back to Florida and so when on the way to Dallas I just pulled into a random tattoo shop and then I end up getting a tattoo as a surprise for her um because

I always said I was like well if you’re getting this when you get married and you’re gonna get colored in I’m gonna be the one to marry you so let’s get it yeah I got definitely got to get this covered up though no I get it bro listen I

Understand when you sometimes when we’re in something and we’re in it deep no yeah you know I was in it was in it I even mad at it bro I actually respect it because I that means it means at least that you know you’re you’re someone who wants to love

You know what I’m saying you want to find love yeah you know s parents that are married 40 plus years grandparents been married you know 70 plus years like you you want that I grew up around marriage so I’ve always wanted to be marri I always look forward to

Proposing and doing all those fun things so yeah absolutely y’all still friends uh no I mean it cordial I don’t I don’t remember the last time I spoke to her I think no I saw her her F she’s in AKA um I saw her on her Founders Day this past

January um but no we don’t speak we gonna speak I told her um I’m just giving y’all all my business today um I told her once we broke up you know we’re out here in Texas you know kind of Doo so if she if she needed somebody you

Know what I’m saying I’m I’m down to be there but I just can’t do I can’t do the emotional stuff like I can’t do that I miss you I want you back I can’t do that I can do the hey you good I’m good okay great you need anything bet okay I can’t

Do this we on the I miss you stuff all right gotta I gotta exit I gotta exit out and so that’s what end up happening um and so I had to cease communication so we haven’t we haven’t talked since I don’t I don’t even know when probably since

So wait hold on a minute you telling me you said obviously you said you couldn’t be there emotionally for after no and then when you when you when you guys did start some communication you’re saying that she tried to drop the whole or cuz that’s what in my head what I heard was

She tried to drop the whole miss you tried to drag try almost tried to drag you back in because because she knew she knew she knew she she knew she had messed up and and nobody nobody that knew me um thought I would ever end the relationship neither did she and so once

I ended it it was kind of a wakeup call to her to be like yo like y I still want you back I still you know what I’m saying I want to be better I’ve been going to therapy I’ve been doing x y and

Z um but I was done I don’t I don’t do the uh let’s take breaks and you know what I’m saying let’s get back together I don’t do that so once once I made the decision to to break up that was um and it was over with so

Um once once she couldn’t she couldn’t be cordial and like have conversations then I I I couldn’t I couldn’t do that because at the at that time it was still within you know what I’m saying the first year year and a half of us breaking up and I I didn’t have the

Strength to you know go back and forth with those Communications I didn’t have the strength to you know I’m saying to tell you no or to tell you know I don’t miss you or to to continue to to break your heart like that’s that’s too much for me so I was like I

Just gotta I just gotta exit stage left understand I get it okay so that was like that was a very important relationship to you um you know and stuff it it does sound like you got a little bit of a pattern though with these girls do Q you know what I mean it

Sounds like you know these P patterns developing you you ever you ever looked back and said that there’s a a familiar pattern with these ladies that you keep getting into into some type of relationship with um I think initially um it’s funny though because somebody one of one of my friends watched the

Show and she was like Janelle reminds me of your of your ex and I I never really thought about it until she said it and I was like damn she kind of does um and just what did Janelle say Janelle didn’t say anything one of my friends that watched the show said Janelle

Reminds reminds her of my ex uh C she she know my ex um in what way um I think I know what way it is my ex was very how do I say this my ex was very she was very confident but she she definitely had things that she

Needed to to work on um but she dealt with more depression and anxiety and um Janelle doesn’t well not that I’ve we’ve talked about but Janelle doesn’t deal with that but the kind of uh mannerisms and the interaction that we had between me and Janelle was very very

Similar to what she saw between me and my ex um and so it can be good and bad um but it definitely opened my eyes to um to the to the connection that I had that I had with Janelle um but I I knew I knew Janelle was somebody who I was

Regularly uh attracted to based upon that we had um she was she was definitely something similar um that I had encountered before um so it made it a lot easier to talk to her um and to explore explore that connection so yeah m Quinton you like bad bees that’s your

Problem Quinton you like the bad bees that is what’s your problem is Quinton you like those bad girls and I can identify right I can identify because and these guys on these guys who follow me on this YouTube will I will tell you every season I’m ready to love

I say every time the girls I find the most attractive are the ones that are the ones that move mad the ones that got a little bit of toxicity a little bit of Madness in them I find them attractive right but but I won’t date them now now

Because now I’ve gone through some things and I’ve dealt with that and you know I’ve kind of uh grown because I had to because of bad experiences like you said you know um being injured emotionally by by by those types of women right um having to grow from those

Experiences I I can’t choose them but I’m still aware of there’s something in me that still gets drawn to them I like I like the likes of J I like of Jessica I like the DS of zadia and the Camille and everything from previous Seasons I

Like the girls that you know got a little bit of spice in them yeah yeah that got that you know that can do something dangerous I like you know what I’m saying I like a little bit of danger bro you feel what I’m saying yeah um so

I do identify what you’re saying so you now explaining what you explained it makes absolute 100% sense in terms of even your even your friendly noticing the the kind of uh similarities in terms of you know Janelle and then maybe some of your exes as well you know you you

Got a little bit of a type that you like Quint you know okay okay okay so now we’re going to go on to to love because I think you’ve explained some stuff about relationship which I think is really cool why did you take yourself to Red to

Because surely you’re not sure of women that are coming after you I was uh I was in like I said I broke up with my ex 2020 um was healing for number of years so I had done everything that I needed to do individually so now

Was the time of all right how my it’s like a injury right if I injure I strain or pull my hamstring I’m gonna do all the rehab that I need to get back and then it’s like all right bet now I need to test it in a

Game and so it was time for me to test it in dating and what’s funny is is that you know even though I had had been trying to date and I was on and off with this one girl before the show um but she wasn’t exuding the traits that I needed or that

I was looking for because I had done all this healing so I recognized that you’re there’s some things that you still need to work on um and so that relationship end up not working out and I had a friend that was applying for the show and they were like they were like you

Should apply you should apply you should apply and I was like I don’t know about this and I was like you know what I I’ll go through the process and if I get picked then I’ll think about it if I don’t then I don’t

So end up getting picked up um and I was like okay this is g to be uh a different dating experience that is only going to help my healing process so yeah okay I respect that so uh you know were you um handpicked or did you apply uh

Handpicked I don’t know if that’s that’s not like a flex or anything but yeah I was no no clear they saw a handsome brother and said let’s pick him um they they scouted you like recruits um so uh we saw your game time we got

You um so obviously they came for you uh chose you um you know and like I said for you it was part of your growth Journey your healing Journey thinking you what put myself back in the game test out this this this this particular you know muscle and see if it’s if it’s

It’s game time right you get into the show um and you arrive first person that you see that you’re like you know what that person’s just a chef’s kiss so so what’s funny though is I was the last one to come into the Mansion mixer I

Last one um and so when I came in everybody was already like spread out talking to this person that person and the first person that came and got me was taquilla taquilla came and got me off the stairs um and kind of like kind of grabbed my arm and we went and and

Had a conversation so like my first instance of like all right damn now I’m on TV and I’m like walking down into this huge house and okay now I got to talk to this girl and so you know cameras are now on you and like I gotta

To me I like okay I got to make this conversation look good I gotta like make sure my personality pops so like my mindset was there um I think the first person that I saw uh that I was like who was that I think it was Jessica Jessica was the

First one I was like oh who’s that who’s this who’s this um Jessica was the first one and then we had a conversation we had a pretty good conversation um and then I talked to Aries Aries was definitely my favorite in the in the Mansion mixer initially we

Had a great conversation we’re both Aries um I believe her birthday is April 14th mine is March 22nd um and so so if you know anything about Aries Aries love each other so we were laughing having a great time we went over and played uh like what’s the little like bag toss

Whatever um against Chris and somebody else I forget who it was and so Aries was kind of like the the main person I wanted to talk to and then um I sat down with Lee and me and Lee were just there was like thing after thing after thing after

Thing was like damn like we are so much alike in in everything um so that was that was the most surprising connection because I’m like damn like I didn’t think I was gonna get on this show and find nobody that was as alike as I am um and

Then who else who who was that who is that that you was suppos like Lee I said Lee yeah I just want to make sure I heard it correctly I don’t miss it was Lee it was Lee um who else was on there um Sierra

Sierra on the on the first night we we had some conversation we had some good time I think we were bowling um and then once the night was coming down um like we all started like having drinks and stuff and then and then that’s when um I found myself on the couch with

Janelle and I was like who the [ __ ] is this pretty ass girl who the [ __ ] is this and then we just started laughing um and then she was just using me as a crutch uh to when we had to go stand in front of Tommy and stuff and so um we

Just started getting to know each other from there so those were definitely the the first women that that I kind of was attracted to in the Manion mixer okay all right right cool let’s let’s get into this then talk to me about this Taquila situation cuz on your

Live you said tqu is the only one you said f you tqu so everyone else you was cool with buta for some reason I say I mean you no but in all seriousness like I don’t wanna I don’t want to continue to harp on Taquila because I think T

Has I think Taquila has a lot of healing that she needs to do um not like saying that in a in a bad way but I recognize that on the show um and I and I and I want her to I want her to to seek to

Seek that out you know what I mean because this show is for anybody that is not as confident as they need to be even if you are you know very self-confident being on a national stage and being criticized can do a lot to your confidence and so um I think taquilla

Definitely struggled on on that bit on that front um and getting criticized based upon you know her actions because she projected um you know has definitely taken effect on her so I definitely want her to to get the healing that that she needs now granted I recognize where

She’s at and I’ve seen somebody where she’s at and so that’s why I’m like H I’m good I’m I’m like because that’s not that’s not my responsibility that’s that’s hers and so I I wish I wish her the best um but I I definitely got to keep my distance just because of what

I’ve experienced before and I know she’s still in well I don’t know if she still is but from what I’ve seen she’s still in a place of like projection and I I I can’t deal with somebody that projects their their feelings on onto me or to everyone else just because of you know

How you M she was almost eliminated and you know she was like bursting out in tears and me uh morier Herbert um and I think Phil too like went over and talked to her and tried to like give her some reassurance and um you can tell that from you know

Somebody who struggles with being picked um or uh formulating relationships or or or whatever like that you know being being in a situation to where you’re almost eliminated on the first night because quote unquote nobody may want you like that’s hard to take you know

What I mean and so I I knew she had some some ways to go from there so so what for you then was the frustration then cuz I get I get now you’re giving an empathetic idea of where she needs to heal and you know you can see that she definitely needed that

Support but where did the frustration then for you in terms of your relationship witha come from because she’s not she’s not self-aware okay she’s not self-aware and if she is she hasn’t displayed it at least I I haven’t seen um but Grant then again like I’m not in her Inner Circle I

Don’t see her I don’t talk to her um but from what I’ve seen on the show and in the reunion you know she was there’s no selfawareness of it you know what I mean um and until you become self-aware of the things that you do like I I’m just

Gonna have to separate myself from from that because you know the things that she said um behind close just like just the things that she said you know what I’m saying about Phil you know what I mean like why was that why was that need need to be said you know about Phil

Like you know how is Phil immature why is why is um you know that was never a connection and so that was that was was kind of strange on why there was she had so much you know animosity towards him um and so and and

And on the date that we had where the elimination was you know she was saying stuff about marier and I was like that’s unnecessary it was it’s just unnecessary stuff so I just keep my keep my distance from from her but you know did she say anything about you

Um in the reunion I had she was saying unnecessary stuff and I kind of like was like what’s the point and kind of clap back a little bit and she was like that what’s that the stuff that oh she was like oh some you s y or some

[ __ ] like that something like that I was like what the [ __ ] so yeah I just don’t I don’t subscribe I don’t subscribe to her yeah yeah okay wish her the best though all right that’s fair um so then obviously you know uh you know you uh you said obviously you connected with

With Janelle Lee and hey correctly did you connect with Jessica as well or you just thought she was attractive I thought I thought Jessica was attractive yeah yeah Jessica uh was attractive but I connected with Aries Aries Lee and Janelle um yeah why didn’t why didn’t the Jessica connection happened then I know

Obviously with Janelle but why didn’t why didn’t Jessica connection not Foster um honestly when Jessica is is probably one of the funniest people um but it just it didn’t it didn’t Blossom um we had a conversation at the mixer saw saw her at the um at the uh brunch but to me she

Was she was more business-minded than I wanted um and so I was like okay well I’m just gonna continue to go to these other connections but um production there was a date where I was I wasn’t uh gonna get eliminated but I was on a an elimination date um and it

Was with Jessica and production was like why haven’t y’all guys connected but I think because of the way that um we just are able to talk and laugh about things I think they just saw a connection but it just just never just never Blossom and he said she’s more

Business yeah she was she was U more business mindset to me I I couldn’t we there wasn’t much drawn out of the the conversations that we were having we were we were able to laugh at different castmates and stuff but other than that it wasn’t it wasn’t much

More okay so it lack the dynamic that you needed in order to kind of progress it further it just didn’t have in you know yeah yeah yeah pretty much okay that’s fair i i rate it so then Aries Aries is another person obviously who you connected with as well

You know you got to to to connect with her tell us what was it about Aries that kind of made you want to connect with her a bit more than just the Visible man if Aries was 10 years younger five years younger two three years younger didn’t

Have no kid kid you know what I mean I would have really really pursued her but her being 10 years older than me two times Divorced with two kids not wanting kids anymore it was like all right like we both were like all right we we see

There’s a connection but we’re in way two way different places um so we just kind of like bowed out but Aries was definitely um one of my top connections um I just feel like when you put two Aries like my the ex that I brought on

The show was in Aries as well I’ve always got along with Aries I’ve always been attracted to Aries um the zodiac sign but yeah you get I’m saying I okay you yeah so okay so for you it was if she was younger oh yeah Phil would have been

Having it out yeah me and Phil would have been having it out if if Aries was was younger we definitely would have been having out absolutely so what was the difference between uh without going tooo deep into Janelle just yet what’s the difference between Aries and Janelle because and I

Don’t mean in terms of like their personality I mean in terms of the fact that they both come from a similar age range so what was the difference for you um well Janelle’s seven years seven years older than I am um she didn’t have any kids and she wasn’t past she wasn’t

Divorced in her past and she still wanted um she still wanted kids she was just like it’s we we on a timetable it came you know what I’m saying we can’t wait on it and so um that door was was cre was still creeped open with every she

Was real open and shut like I’m not having no more kids I don’t want no more kids and that was one of the things that turned uh Herbert away from from Aries um because Herbert wanted more kids but and so he had to continue putting Aries

In his bottom because like she just she just didn’t want no more kids and so that was a big thing for um for Herbert that’s fair okay that’s fair um you mentioned see about twice twice divorced what does that mean for you when someone’s twice divorced what does that mean for you

Personally um it means that I need to figure out why there’s there’s nothing I can say be like oh you’ve been twice divorced like you’re this way um I’m just gonna figure out okay well what was the circumstance to that why why were you are you two

Times divorce was it the same person was it different do you usually fall like what’s I wanna I want to find out why I’m I’m a why guy I need I need to find out why yeah and did you find out why did and did it make sense we never got

There we never got there huh me we we never got there we um we had one date and that was a group date at the house um with Jessica Chris Sierra Herbert and then I didn’t see Aries I only saw Aries at the the next time I

Saw her was at the holdown and that’s when you know her and Phil you know started hanging out so um we we didn’t have we didn’t have those conversations and then at like we literally I think after the after the house we literally bowed out and was like yeah this is this

Is fun but like we can just explore other option and so we stopped talking as much on the phone um but you know it is what it is Aries is is very cool people she’s one of my favorites on the on the cast so yeah we just we just never got to that

Conversation okay so we didn’t get okay that’s fair I mean understand things happen dates don’t get don’t get done um as well uh let me just even just say as well we are at not the halfway M passed that halfway M but you are the first of castmate on the season that we’ve

Broached a thousand people watching the live so you know clearly people are interested in in Q they interested in your story um you know so shout out to you you’re the first one on the season to to Broach that so uh much appreciation to you as well um you know

Obviously then you had uh two other uh connections that was Janelle and that was um you know that was obviously Lee now at points there was uh interlocking there was interchanging there was competition there was a lot of stuff that was happening now I want to go back

To your original statement that you made said when you first started talking to Lee there was this connection you guys were so alike Quinton Quinton you were so alike so tell me what what do you mean that you guys were so alike because I honestly that F the first episode they

Edited yeah I was like oh these two are going to go they’re going to make it I said this is the black loveo we’ve been waiting for it looked like you two and you know even she was even overcoming the fact that you know your personal trainer she doesn’t do personal trainers

And stuff like that and I was like oh my God this is going to be amazing you know this is going to be the black love we’ve been waiting for jelly talk to me that you know you guys started getting to know each other what was that like in

The beginning what was that like tell me tell me what was like for you in the beginning getting to know Lee um it was beautiful to be honest I think the the first date because that was the first date that I actually went on um I think on on the whole show

And it was it was great like we just it was we were matching the restaurant was beautiful we had a great conversation um and it was it was really good getting to know her she was something new that I hadn’t experienced before um and like I said she was somebody who

I wasn’t expecting to have as much in common as I did um and so it was it was refreshing to to meet somebody like that and I had I had never dating uh a personal trainer either so um you know seeing that and seeing her

Um so beautiful it was it was it was great getting to know her at first absolutely what was that about Lee that you got you said it was it was very you guys are very similar what was you finding out that was similar you and Lee what was similar for you too

Um well we’re we’re both in Greek letter organizations we both come from uh a good family background we both um wanted a lot of the same things um we’re both in Fitness we both love helping people um the way that we looked at social media and and influencing and confidence

Was a lot of the same so a lot of the ideals um were were alike and a lot of you know how we were how we were and what we wanted um was was definitely alike so um just on that front everything was just was surprisingly and I think it was

Both of us just surprised at at how similar we were okay so so okay you guys are so similar you got things are you know making sense things are making sense she’s even AKA is she AK she AK it’s making sense look at that it’s making

Sense crazy what’s crazy is I don’t well I don’t know if Lee wants me to put that out but Lee’s first name is the same name as my ex’s you see you see it’s making sense yeah you know what I mean history was trying to tell you sir we got a

Second chance we going to do it correctly you know what I mean see how you been smiling you know I’m talking T taking s you know I’m talking s okay so okay so where did okay so you you guys are connecting it’s making sense you guys are talking I’m guessing you guys

Are calling and texting you’re having those kind of you know you’re really bonding and stuff because she look like she like she really was connecting with you right okay so where does that relationship take a turn for you where does that relationship take a turn where does it

Where does it change because it because it starts off real good but something changes I’m not even saying that necessar in a bad way but feelings change or your direction changes or she whatever where does it change for you so nothing ever really changed it was when me and

Lee connect me and Lee connected because there was we had so much in common we had so much in common it was it was kind of like destined for us to explore this connection and as we contined to talk um we contined to find out different things

Um that we had in common um but the question that we both had for each other was are we just similar or are we like really compatible um do we really have chemistry and so that was a big question that both of us had throughout the entire uh and throughout the entire

Process um and so all the things we had similar was great but there was no like chemistry um so it it there never really it never really took a turn it was just it was like more so like all right like I think both of us at a point we’re like there

Was is there something more like we feel like there’s an extra feeling that that we both that we both should have um and we were kind of searching for and produ is kind of like searching for dates to put us on like fun dates to put us on so

That we can kind of like explore that fun side of of our connection um and it just it just never came to fruition so he was exploring but it just never came into fruition what does that mean c what does that mean so what I talked about before as far as like

Having uh a best friend at as a partner um having that type of banter connection um that I feel like we are not only dating but we are best friends um and as as an individual if I’m dating and I can I can I can get in a relationship and say

With somebody with a healed woman and say okay you’re great I’m great we can we can make this work like I can get in a relationship you with you we can make this work now am I gonna am I going to like really enjoy it or I just we’re just G

To be in a relationship and so um with Lee we didn’t have that kind of like funny banter like best friend we just didn’t we just didn’t um and I wish I wish we would have if if I can say that like I wish we would have

Had that type of banter um but we didn’t and and like I said production was like trying to get us to go like go- cing and we went to like this like fun house that was not fun at all and that’s why we did like the batting cage at the end because

They were just trying to find stuff for us to do but it just it just it just wasn’t it wasn’t there and so I was able to recognize you know she’s an amazing woman um but there was there wasn’t enough chemistry there to to kind of take it take it to the

Next level and if if I could take all the similarities that I had with Lee and the chemistry that I had with Janelle I’d be I’d be in heaven you know what I mean um but for the six weeks that we had um you know I had to go with more of

The chemistry because I I was more familiar with that type of chemistry that Janelle and I had than the newness of what Lee was giving me and and and in all truth from this the when I talked about before as far as like what do I need in relationship and

Everything like that like I never had a woman that matched kind of my um my sweetness my me being romantic me being like really really cute with like leaving notes and stuff like that and so so Lee definitely showed me that side and I was like damn like I’ve never

Gotten that do I need that and So within the process it was it was more so like this is something similar that I’ve had versus like this is something new that I don’t know I need because I do it already and so it’s like I gave the example in Crystal’s interview

Um yesterday and I said you know I’m I’m a kitchen guy I like I like to cook so when I’m in relationship I don’t mind doing all the cooking so do if I meet a woman that wants to cook do I really want you to I don’t really need you to

Cook you know what I mean like I got it so that was kind of the things that I was kind of wrestling with with Lee was like damn I I love that you’re sweet but like I’m the sweet guy and like and so I didn’t I didn’t know how to kind of

Manage that and so um in this five six week process you know I just end up and if it wasn’t for the house if it wasn’t for the house I would have probably uh had a a a harder decision but um I think at the house you know I was more more

Comfortable leaning towards uh Janelle in that in that connection and so that’s kind of where it kind of just uh went it separate ways I get that I get that um you know I think and you know I get what you’re saying I I’m not

I’m not even going to lie to you I actually get what you’re saying because like chemistry is such an important thing when it comes to a relationship right because that initial uh those little Sparks you know what I mean and it’s not an indictment only it’s not an indictment at all I

Don’t you’ve never you’ve never you’ve never made it like that at all which is why I really understand what you’re saying it’s not an indictment at all what it really is is just saying that those initial where you know that those initial where you get that little you

Get the back and forth and it’s just it flows yeah what you’re saying is you never got that from Lee you got that from Janelle but you didn’t get that from Lee and I I actually understand that and if you’re not getting that you can’t force that you know what I mean it

It’s not gonna work yeah yeah yeah and and people have to people have to realize like you’re in we’re in a a five six week process that you know at the end of the day we kind of we have to choose somebody who we see to continue

To date you know what I mean um and at that point in time you know it was I I wanted to go with what was more familiar to me now going into the house um you know it was me marier Phil and Chris you know us riding and taking the

Truck into the house all of us had our connections that we wanted to kind of uh kind of solidify and explore uh mine was Janelle Phil was Aries marier was Jessica and Lee was Chris’s Chris had made it well known that he wanted to um you know take Lee

And and that was his connection and so I was like all right and now in my mind I knew Lee Ain really want Chris like that but you know tees on you know uh I knew Chris was a great dude so I was like well let him go embark on that so going

Going into the house I was very nervous I was very uncomfortable but hearing that Chris uh wanted to explore that connection with Lee once we got into the house and we kind of like made our rounds and settled in you know and um you know I was around Janelle then I I

Was I was fully comfortable and I didn’t I didn’t worry about Lee because I knew Chris was going to explore that that connection okay no I’ll get that I’ll get that so you know you said something interesting you said when you had Lee and it was a it was a confessional so it

Probably was done at a different time when Lee and uh and C sorry Lee and C sorry Lee and Janelle when they had that little uh I guess sit down with you um you kind of said obviously that you want to Lee to fight for you I want you to

Explain what that comment meant from your perspective want set a box for you yeah so if y’all remember right if y’all remember Um when uh when cat came in um and Lee was they were at the little brunch before uh hold down you know Lee was like oh long as you don’t talk to my man we good and and so that was like that was something playful that we did have

Um and so when we were uh when I was in the in the interview and they were asking me questions and they were like well how did you feel about how did you feel about Lee like being quiet and how did you feel about this and I’m like I’m

Saying she right here like you supposed to fight for your man you’re like just like I wasn’t saying like I’m like we go together but you know there was there it was clear that she was one of my top connections and I was her top connection so um that’s what

That’s what I meant by that because if you’re sitting to me if I’m sitting next to uh like I was sitting next to Herbert and with Janelle and her friend to me that’s at the end of the day we’re in a competition we don’t want to see it as a

Competition but we’re all fighting for connections um I I want to look my best in front of Herbert y want to look best to Janelle you know in front of especially in front of Herbert you know what I mean versus by myself and so that was that was kind

Of my way of thinking like hey you’re sitting next to you know one of my other top connections I want you to be your best because you know what I’m saying we we have a great connection I want you to show you show my ex like you know what I

See in you and because of the ghosted comment um you know that didn’t happen and I didn’t I didn’t realize that until until later so um okay okay and the ghosting the ghosting situation was obviously quite interesting what you doing you’re here ghosting these girls no man I just I

Just misspoke man I I misspoke I did I didn’t ghostly um you gotta realize too man like everybody isn’t going to you’re You’re Gonna Miss you’re gonna misquote you’re gonna misspeak like you’re in cameras for the first time like you’re just saying stuff um but I had I didn’t

Ghost Lee but the conversation that I had with Lee and Janelle I would mostly talk to Lee I would mostly talk to Lee through text and then I would mostly talk to Janelle on the phone um and so there was one morning where I just

Wasn’t myself I was in my head a lot and the um it was the same I believe it was the same day um but Lee kind of like felt something was off with me um and it was Immaculate that she even you know

Was able to pick up on that um but to me it was kind of just me um not being myself and and disappearing it wasn’t no days I didn’t like ghostly Lee wasn’t texting me and I wasn’t answering it wasn’t nothing like that um but it was

Just a lapse in the text message that usually flow within that day I don’t might have been an hour two hours something I don’t know I don’t know what it was but I didn’t I didn’t ghostly I just wasn’t myself and the the frequent

Of text wasn’t as as much as it was you know previously I think ghostly I I definitely miss Spokes and I’m definitely apologized to her we’ve already hashed that out um but I definitely understood on how that presented to her um and how it made her

Seem um you know in front of Janelle and in front of my ex and so I I definitely um apologized like months ago like we had the conversation immediately that was one thing that I’ve also appreciate with Lee is that we’ve we’ve always been able to have conversations um about I and everything

There was really nothing ever like off offputting about um the conversations we were able to have but I mean two grown-ups so we able to yeah so okay so so just to help me understand this so you want to Lee to fight for you but were you fighting for

Lee yeah I was fighting for Lee how was you fighting for Lee Quinton let me know how you for if y’all don’t if y’all don’t realize they showed me and Lee’s first date and then they didn’t show any other date between me and Lee until I think the batting cages that was all

They showed but we went on dates we went on U we had a gym date where I brought her flowers um we created a little handshake like we calling each other twin um she got me a birthday card for my birthday like there was a lot there

Was a like me and Lee’s connection was very very strong um up until the house like there was no there was no you know fluctuation of of the connection with me and Lee we were we were both growing strong um we even she well granted I did this with

Lee and Janelle but um we definitely went out outside of filming we weren’t supposed to but we definitely went out on a DAT outside of filming as well um so it’s I think production I didn’t understand production in that in that way and not showing um more of me and Lee um but

Because I I would talk about her in in the men’s lounge and I think it was one men’s Lounge they showed where I was like I feel like me and Lee go together and I know people were like well how they go together and we ain’t even seen

Them together you know but uh we were definitely seeing each other we definitely going on dates we were definitely talking um I just they didn’t show it for some reason that’s on production so so at what point did uh at what point did uh let me save that question let me save that

Question almost bad time gotta come with the questions man let me say that question you you said you said because obiously I watch the lives that you were doing I think this is where I’m a little bit confused I want you to help me clear it

Up on I’ve watched two of your lives and where you’ve spoken about Lee and your connection with Lee I think the first one you did with what one with Janelle that particular live you were kind of explain your connection with Lee and you kind of you were kind of insinuating if

Not actually said they actually your connection with Lee was dwindling way before that house situation like you you you didn’t have much of a connection anymore but the house you already knew exactly who it was cuz you your your connection was dwindling well before then but now you’re telling me that your

Connection was strong up into the house so tell me which one which one it is cute because I’m trying to understand Lee was damn I don’t want to say that because it makes it seem like it makes it seem bad but like Janelle was always my strongest connection they were they

Were they were my only connections but Janelle was always my strongest connection so it wasn’t like it was dwindling down but Janelle was always I hate to say that because I don’t want to make it seem like oh she’s better than me but Janelle was my strongest connection going in and so

Going into the house what was before the house um was that was that the friend did we meet the friend I think the the friends no they met the ex’s before the house I had just met I had just met muffin yeah right I had just met muffin

Before the house so when I met muffin if y’all remember I was asking her I was like oh y’all known each other for like 12 years I was like let me get a friend story like let me let me get um and so I I didn’t get

That and so at that point I was like damn like I I was kind of relinquishing the the idea of like damn like we we might not really have no chemistry I’m trying to like find something and it it’s not it’s not coming around and so

That’s I think after the muffin date I was like damn but I don’t I don’t want to say it was dwindling down but that I think after that moment I was like well like we we’ll just have to see you had to continue to see so yeah but that was the

Thing with me and Janelle’s connection there was nothing it just stayed it stayed there the whole time there was no dip in anything and that’s why um it was so easy to to keep her at the top so so so but it sounds like the connection the connection wasn’t really

Strong into the house then because even by the even by the friend date it’s still it’s looking a bit shaky yeah yeah I think yeah after you’re right after the after the friend date I that was like when the real questions came about so that was like right before but I was

Still nervous as hell to go into their house after the friend date so yeah so where where does Chris play this cuz Chris told me last night that you weren’t really he said he you kind of you weren’t really in the picture like that like he said said after it way

Earlier than this you weren’t in the picture I don’t know about it was him I’m not this is what he said me I don’t do messy because it’s there I only repeat what’s actually been said to me or what’s on the show I don’t say anything else apart from that said and I

Even asked him twice I asked him twice because I want to make sure I was gonna ask you yeah when did you see Chris enter the freid because Chris has been Chris was letting us know that from early you tell you was not even involved really like that you you had been left

By the wayside you know um I don’t want to be messy but it’s no messy it’s a truth man I I kind of uh uh what’s the word like succeeded not succeeded but like um gave way at the on the way to the house to Chris for him

To explore that connection with lee lee didn’t Lee didn’t even want Lee was I have text messages saying that LE didn’t want she was like production asked her who does she want to meet her friend and she was like q and that’s out and that’s it like there

Wasn’t she didn’t want nobody else to to to meet so that’s why and and even even a lot of the guys um even Chris in the in the beginning Chris Christopher um Phil even said on the show like the everyone saw the connection that I had with Lee so

Everyone just kind of like Rel that was like well Lee’s connected with Q so we’re just gonna go over here um and so it wasn’t until the uh you know after muffin um and the and going into the house that I was like okay he wants to really pursue Lee I was like

Okay let him let him do it and even though I didn’t I knew that and and maybe maybe Lee was telling me a story maybe you know what I’m saying but I knew I knew she wasn’t really too interested in in Chris but he wanted to explore it and so I was like

Okay go I had I I I’m not gonna tell him no different like this is a show of course explore all the connections you want so just so just to clarify make it very very clear because you said it I want to make it sure that we we getting exactly

What you’re saying you’re saying that up into the house you know no no no I just I’ll keeping it real because people be saying stuff and I like to hold people to what they say so you’re saying that up into the house situation there wasn’t Chris wasn’t in the picture because

That’s not what he said that’s what I’m trying to say to you I’m saying to you that what he said was y from before that you were out you were kind of out the picture bro like you that’s what he said you’re saying to me that up until really

The house situation he wasn’t in the picture now maybe after he met with muffin like Lee was like you know what I’m saying but I know up until before we met muffin you know Lee wasn’t really checking for nobody else and I would be inclined to understand that because from what I know

She’s a tonal Vision person so she gets stuck on one person so I mean you know yeah okay okay maybe after muffin because I saw there I didn’t I didn’t know that they had a date but um after I saw the the date on what was it YouTube I was like

Okay maybe maybe she grew interest after that but yeah so then okay so gets to the house we’re going to come to J and it’s the last leg of the the story because you know we have to end on a good note right uh well you know you you you you you had

You had a you know you came to the house it didn’t go the way it was supposed to go it honestly didn’t it didn’t go the way you’re supposed to go you uh were were and I’m going to be honest with you from our perspective the way the show

Edited it there’s at least two or three occasions bro you’re here talking to another woman and Janelle comes out like Mrs bouquet now if you don’t know who Mrs bouquet is that is a show in the UK and she she this powerful woman so you know

She came out and she came flying out at the right time so it looked like he was under duress but I want to say I want to ask the question why why did that connection of Lee then I know you wasn’t very strong at that point but if was that

Communicated to Lee at the point by the house time by the time it gets to the house does she know that your strongest connection without you without having to sus out and guess it does she know that your strongest connection is with Janelle at the point in the house does

She know that Janelle and Lee both knew who and how strong my connections were I was never I was I never shied away from from telling Janelle that I never shied away from telling Lee that Lee knew Lee knew about Janelle Janelle knew about Lee and and even when we had

The date with uh Janelle and her friend you know her friend was like you know who who else you connecting with and I was like Lee and I was very up front about it I I didn’t and Herbert kind of got in trouble because he was trying to

Like beat around the bush but I mean I was I had been up front because I hadn’t been connecting with anybody else it was it was two women so I was there was no point in trying to beat around the bush with it so going into the house they KN

Very much knew about each other they knew they were the only two that were um that I was connecting with so they definitely 100% knew knew about each other okay and Le so Lee knew verbally verbally so you said it to her and let her know that Janelle was the

One that your by the time I got to the house that’s what you’re telling me Lee Lee knew Janelle was my top connection she knew she knew she knew she she knew they were both like my top two connections I was very very very vocal about that now I was I didn’t say

To Lee hey when we get in this house I’m G to go hang with Janelle I didn’t say that but um they so what happened what do you mean why did you spend all your why did it seem like you spent all your time with Janelle how did she Harang you into that

Space H just wh you like that it’s funny though because you know everyone well most of the men had banter um you know jokingly about the different connections that we had um even at the holdown you see Janelle and Herbert on the on the hammock and I’m like oh hold on now yall

Little close y little close now and it was in a joking it was in a joking manner now granted if you ask Janelle she thought she was joking around with cat at the at the at the grill but apparently it wasn’t but there was never an instance that I didn’t feel

Comfortable talking to the other women I know it’s it’s it’s blaspheming for me not be interested in in The Other Women I just but I I wasn’t and that’s and I didn’t I never want to say that as a slight like to make it seem like the

Other women weren’t amazing I they just I I just wasn’t that interested so I never pursued I never pursued um cat like I it’s not like I got I got cat’s number and you know I would text her and and and talk to her offline but then

Like we would get in front of cameras and I wouldn’t talk to her like I didn’t I didn’t talk I didn’t talk to her at all I don’t I still to this day don’t have catch number I don’t that’s I don’t I don’t have uh the only the only women that I

Actually talked to was Lee Aries and Janelle those are the only three women that I had conversation with throughout the entire show I should have been eliminated a long time ago because I was only talking to two women for the majority of the show and so I wasn’t forming I didn’t I didn’t

Talk to anyone to try and form friendships with any other women I didn’t I like um I I just I just didn’t I didn’t I didn’t think that was why we were there um so I didn’t I didn’t pursue cat I didn’t pursue Sierra I didn’t pursue

Anybody else um I only pursued those two women and so I don’t it it wasn’t a I was afraid because because if I was afraid then I would have been doing stuff behind her back I would have been talking to cat behind her back and then

Like and then oh wait I can’t talk to you because Janelle’s here you know what I mean I wasn’t I wasn’t talking to cat at all I wasn’t talking to any of any of the women other than Lee and and Janelle and so Lee has the only kind of

Uh uh way of saying like damn like you we really didn’t talk at all you know what I’m saying um in the house but with the other women like I just I don’t and I hate to say that to make it seem like they you know because when you say

Like oh I’m not interested in it makes it seem like oh I’m better I don’t I didn’t want none of that that’s other that that’s not you know what I mean I just you know you know saying that yeah yeah just wasn’t interest didn’t pursue him

So but do you understand where do you understand where maybe the ladies are saying that they felt like you know Janelle was being Territorial and let me ask this question yeah so I’m going to ask I I’m G to ask him this way so you can answer it previous ex-girlfriends

Have they been territorial over you my ex wasn’t my ex wasn’t no she wasn’t um she was very she wasn’t territorial but she was insecure um but that that was due to that was due to to her own mental kind of capacity that wasn’t that was something that kind of like uh developed

Over time as her mental started to to be more and more of a problem then she started to be more and more um insecure but the biggest thing for me is needing to be myself like I don’t if if I if I can’t be myself then I’m not

GNA be around you if I feel like I gotta be some that I’m not if I feel like I gota abide to certain rules or I can’t like really be myself I’m not g to do that that’s why I got out of my last relationship so I’m not so that’s why

The the talk of like Janelle had control over him like nobody can ever have control over me I don’t I don’t care you know what I mean like I’m if if I date you I need you to have confidence in in me in the connection that we have I need

You to be sure of of who uh of who you are who I am and even Lee asked me that question um uh on our first date she was like how do how do you feel about the attention that I get from you know other men

Through social Med yeah yeah and I was like I don’t care like you fine so you gonna get attention like as as long as you come home to me I’m good I ain’t got I ain’t got no worries about that and so the whole thing with me being

Controlled like that’s it’s it’s it’s funny uh because I don’t subscribe to it but I was able to be my most self with Janelle I was able to be most like my my complete self with her so that’s that’s why that but it’s the whole I wasn’t

Allowed like come on man I’m 34 years old like be be [ __ ] for real okay so so so so obviously you and Janelle obviously had a connection you guys get together you know etc etc uh you know you know you said obviously that you you weren’t in fear and I respect that um

But that scene where you in fact and this is this ties into what you said on your in your live actually the other day right you said that that scene where Janelle pops off with the girls goes back and forth with cat and they have their little combative situation with

Both of them and you know they they get into it and you go and talk to her behind the scenes what we see and maybe you spoke more we didn’t see it what we see and I’ll be honest with you what we saw okay you didn’t check her yeah and

It felt like you it felt like you was timid about it like that’s how it looked like it looked like you was like tentative about it like you was uncomfortable trying to address a situation which you felt like you wanted her to handle a lot more differently

Than what she actually handled it with so maybe you can give us a bit more your perspective but it looked like he was uncomfortable the way you saw her address certain things you didn’t want her to address it in that particular way so when you go to the room and you go to

Address her and and when she basically shuts it down by saying I’m going to do I’m going to do that’s what she basically said in the end yeah she didn’t say that way but she basically said I’m going to do I’m going to do you look uncomfortable I’m gonna be honest

With you but from your perspective how do you see it so that we can understand where you’re coming from so we had talked for a minute and then um the cameras came in um and it was already just like frustrating because none of us wanted to have that

Conversation on camera but I mean it is what it is um but my biggest thing with her was you know you had the reaction okay cool let’s move forward like I don’t we can we can address why it bothers you at another time we can address like um what triggered you in

That conversation and whatnot but like we’re here for these couple of days let’s kind of squash it let’s move forward let’s not let it fester and that was my that was my whole message to her because one thing thing one thing you’re not going to do

Is is take someone that just was out was in a combative oh [ __ ] let me not use combative uh was in did you use that did you use that word absolutely not was you never said it once never said it I gotta ask you said that you didn’t

See it so he you see pull up you see they were able to pull up the clips of of Chris saying it but Chris said it I don’t want what whatever just coming out of that argument that she had with cat it to serve another one and to pick a fight is

Is not I’m I’m not here to pick a fight I’m here to to resolve the solution I’m I’m here to move forward from from the solution because what good is it gonna do for me to argue with you about how you feel about the situation you were

Triggered for some reason and that’s why y’all got into it how y’all got into it okay great we’re not going to we’re not going to resolve that tonight we’re not gonna resolve that tomorrow we’re here for another day and a half let’s try and squash it let’s move forward and then we

Can address it at another time and so after that she had the I’m still here don’t worry just camera she had the um she had a conversation with cat that they didn’t show um and they kind and they squashed it after that and so going forward that’s that’s all I

Really wanted her to do and then we will talk more about you know everything else on a later end but I wasn’t going to have that have that checking conversation on camera there was a lot of things that I wasn’t going to uh do for the satisfaction of

Of being on reality TV because as as you go on about the the process you you know what they’re going to show you know what they want to see and everything like that and so I I wasn’t going to give give that satisfaction and we had

Already been talking so um I’m not I’m not a I’m not a raah ra guy I’m not going to argue with people back and forth I’m not going to um like like red said like pour gasoline on a fire that’s not me um we gonna have a conversation and then we gonna move

Forward that’s just how I am and so if people think that’s timid that’s timid but um I wasn’t I wasn’t I wasn’t raised like that I never saw my my parents fight I never I never grew up with arguing I never grew up with u a man

Showing his dominance over a woman I grew up with two people having a conversation resolving Solutions and and moving for for and so that’s how I go about my friendship that’s how I go about my relationships that’s how I go about everything I don’t I don’t do

The the Rah ra like that’s just that’s not me if if you’ve ever seen and and that’s what made me mad about my previous relationship because she was the only person to kind of get me there and I and I really professed to myself I I would never get there again so um

That’s that’s kind of where my stance was was was with it right but do you need do you need to get into a combative situation to be able to to say that maybe you don’t like something or the way that someone’s behaving can that can that not be done without there being

Necessarily being drawn out or being uh in a place where you have to dominate even for instance could I can I not say to you like hey look that behavior I just saw down there I’m not appreciate of that you know what I mean that this

Doesn’t work for me you know what I mean like could have not been said without having there being it being energetic conversation it could 100% um and and it was talked about off camera um okay okay okay it was talked about off camera like I said I wasn’t going to give the

Cameras a satisfy you corrected her off camera I didn’t want to say I corrected her because that’s not why don’t you want to say that what’s wrong with the word correcting someone on camera because if I’m wrong you gonna correct me q but it’s about it’s about it’s about

Reviewing what what transpired and and figuring out why like I said I I want to know why I always want to know why and so was the whole situation transpired because it was a passionate conversation that was being had over um gender roles um and Janelle was speaking passionately

She wasn’t haing immediately to cat um and cat gave her opinion and and then you know because she’s already talking ply she addressed cat and then cat was like I don’t want no attitude now if you talk to any black woman in general if you say don’t give me no attitude or

Calm down they not gonna calm down it’s it’s like the opposite of what you’re doing and so that was just pouring gasoline on a fire and so and then once once cat called her out of her name Janelle is the type of person like as soon as you cross that line bet I’m

Running a 100 meters past it that’s that’s that’s her nature um and I you like that it’s it’s not something that I like no absolutely not and we talked about that today because we never we never got to the reasonings on why she defends herself the way that she does um

And so that was that’s a conversation we had yet to have but it’s it’s a conversation that you you you need to have if you’re going to embark on a relationship and so I’m like I said I I I derive a lot from my mother she’s a non-judgmental

Person and so I wasn’t going to judge Janelle just like I didn’t I didn’t judge taquilla you know based upon her projections I I just know you know she needs healing from that and I knew from seeing Janelle you know pop off the way that she does I know that it the way

That she defend herself stems from you know some place it’s just about finding that place um does Janelle need heing why does if tqu needs healing does Janelle need the same kind of healing not the same one that tqu has but does she need healing too not the same not

The same type of healing but 100% absolutely absolutely absolutely okay so did you hold okay give me your best 15 minutes I know going to get to the end we’re going to get the last 15 minutes give me your best 15 minutes give me your best 15 minutes let let’s knock

This out the park we’re going to keep it we’re GNA keep it yeah me so did you hold did you ever hold Janelle accountable for any of her behaviors on the show how do how do you how do y’all want me to hold hold Janelle accountable because a lot of the stuff

That it’s a lot of the stuff that was uh a lot of the stuff that was with Janelle was more so about her demeanor how she carried herself that was that was a lot that was a lot of the issue or problem you know if you look back to if

You look back to the the whole Taquila situation you know she was sticking up for herself and saying because she had a disrespectful experience with Habibi and so that’s uh taquilla was defending Habibi and so it was kind of a surprise that like you sticking up for a

Man when I just told you I had a disrespectful experience with him you know what I mean um but like I said you if you cross the line with Janelle Janelle’s gonna run a 100 meters past it so um does that include you what you

Mean if you want a if you cross that line Q is that going to include you that going to run past you too that don’t include me because I’m how I not include you I’m a because I’m a man and I know how to stand on mind I know how to have

Conversation so I don’t I don’t tolerate the arguing I I just told you I don’t argue so I’m not GNA argue with you I’m not gonna tolerate that I don’t I don’t do that so if we if there comes a point where there’s a disagreement then we’re

Gonna have a conversation all the other stuff we’re not g to do so if you need to get that off your chest you can go ahead and get that off the chest and come back and we we can have a conversation but I’m not I’m not going

To go back and forth with you like that that’s just okay that’s not that’s not my nature um with the with the whole Kira situation you know Janelle is very protective and so when Kira was um saying you know about me and the white girls um just how everyone else jumped

On on Kira that was Janelle’s reaction and so she was defending me in in that moment and so just like everyone else didn’t like that how she she carried herself or said she like was the most white girl whatever like that Janelle didn’t like that but she just professed

That and so I don’t I don’t think she was bullying uh Kira um but but that was but that was that situation and so a lot of and Janelle has a demeanor about herself that is not gonna be liked by a lot of people that’s okay um you don’t have to be

Like you like it I liked it I liked it but is was it was it for was it for me no it’s not because obviously we’re not dating anymore um but it was it was similar to a demeanor that I had known before so it it was the most comfortable

And we had chemistry and so I was I was good with accepting of how her demeanor was and the way she kind of just like bossed up because we had So Much Chemistry if we didn’t have that if we didn’t have that type of bond we didn’t have that type of

Chemistry then that connection would have been would have been debed if I didn’t have if I didn’t have as much as in common with Lee even without the chemistry that that that connection would have been deaded you know what I mean so because of certain things you you

Keep the connection going and so that was that was that was the the whole thing with Janelle so why did you and Janelle break up because you guys had a good chemistry it was working a sweet like you said she can’t run through you why did this

Relationship come to an end Quinton I want your roest honest truth why did it come to an end Quinton um it got it got too real too fast and so uh so once we got into once we got out of the show and we started dating we

Went out a couple times and it to me it felt like we were in a relationship and I wanted I didn’t I didn’t want I didn’t want to not have control over feeling like I was in a relationship so because we were on the show because people are

Going to know we’re together they’re going to feel like oh we’re in a relationship but I wanted to kind of take my time with that and so I thought I was ready for a relationship but once we got out I wasn’t because it got real um and

So I went I think there it was a weekend it was like the end of April um it was a weekend I didn’t talk to her for like a day or two and then um I came back and I was just like you know I don’t wanna I don’t want to waste

Your time I thought I was in a certain place but I’m not there and I know with Janelle she’s on a timetable you know what I mean things have to to to go fast and I’m a big proponent on not wasting women’s time especially since I’ve been

In this new healed space of knowing my emotions um um so once once I realized that we had a conversation I broke I even broke down crying on the phone because I’m like damn like I’ve done all this work on myself thinking I was ready but I think

It just happened too fast so once we were in the in the show it doesn’t really feel like it because we’re in the show right we’re in the show you know it doesn’t really feel it feels real but it doesn’t really feel as real and so once we got

Out you know trying to get back our live our lives together and then dating it just it got real too fast and um I wasn’t I wasn’t ready for that I needed something on on my own pace uh so I I told her you know I think it’s best if we don’t

Date and how did she take that when you said I I think it’s best we don’t date um she took it fine I think she we had a conversation uh again after it and you know she was she said it was unfortunate but I mean at the end of the

Day you know everything happened for a reason um so I think there was a reason why I initially went on the show I think it was a reason for me to get the things out of the show that I did um and for me to embark on the connection with Janelle

Um whether good or bad consequences so coming out of it coming out of that dating experience um it was just a more eye openening to me of like the things that I need to do within myself the things I need to do and how to attack dating um going forward

So so when did you find out that she was talking to Red behind your back she was never talking to Red behind my back h b what did we just see on the reunion your face was even looking like it was mangled tell me red was talking to about

Saying about connection man re red is red is red is a drster and and red red thinks that he’s had the strongest connection with Janelle but red was eliminated before me and Janelle even had our first date so he can think that all he wants but yeah it was never

It was never going down with with uh Janelle and red that’s just wait wait how do you know that Quinton the guy was confident enough to come on national television and say about he he went he went what did he say he spoke to Janelle

And they had go did they go out on a date or something like or go out somewhere no they they all they had all met at a event that they had went to that I knew that Janelle went to because she told me she was going to and she

Told me that she saw r that so there was no they didn’t go out on a date that wasn’t no did Janelle correct him on the reunion when he was saying what he was saying did Janelle correct him no when he nonsense he was talking we just laughed it off we just laughed

It off she didn’t laugh off the camera did definitely she didn’t laugh off she you both didn’t laugh off she laughed she smiled when read that when said that there was a little smile it wasn’t a laugh off the smile was not a laugh off and your face was definitely not a laugh

Off you look visibly pissed off I gave no I wasn’t pissed I gave a face and but they cut it yeah okay you give it okay let pistol you yeah but yeah I wasn’t pissed because I like I said I’m not I’m not a jealous I’m not a jealous guy at all I’m

I’m the guy that I would that’s a that’s a good moment to be jealous what you talking about that if if you dating someone and that happens someone goes behind your back and does that that’s a time to be jealous that’s an appropriate time know I know for me if if when I’m

In a relationship and I’m dating somebody I know the things that I’m doing if I’m doing everything I’m supposed to be doing I ain’t got to worry about you I ain’t got to worry about you and if you do step outside then that’s then that’s your issue and

Then I’m just gonna exit I I don’t I don’t I’m not a jealous person so if if I’m I’m the guy in a club that be like hey babe look at this this [ __ ] over here staring at you go get us uh two whiskies and in a ginger ale real quick

Like that’s that’s me I’m not if a woman goes if she is with me and I’m providing I’m [ __ ] her right I’m doing all these things and you decide to cheat peace but if I know I’m not doing something then that’s the that when I’mma be like damn like hold on Buddy

Buddy look kind of like but whenever I get in relationship I I know what I’m doing I know the things that I provide and know the things that I do so I’m never worried about the women that I’m with because I know I’m do doing everything I need to do uh and

That she wants me to do okay we got last three minutes cuz this last three minutes about to end so cuz I promise you 15 so just just to make it very very clear so the reason for the breakup for you and Janelle was because of you

You’re saying it’s because of you not because of her behavior but specifically because of you yeah it was me you you was you was unhealed you felt like you’re unhealed uh and you need to do some work can you clarify what this healing that you need to do Q is

I think with the when I because the reunion was in June I believe we um we we stopped talking and I realized that I I need to be in more control of the direction of the relationship I need to be control of the intentionality of the relationship and because of the show

And because of you know the urgency um with Janelle I didn’t feel I was in control and I didn’t feel I felt rushed um I don’t want to feel rushed in a relationship and so I want to feel comfortable I want to feel calm and I

Want to if I want to press a gas on the on on the pedal then I want I want to be able to do that I want nobody to be able to uh press the gas for me and and because of the show and because of you

Know the urgency you know the it was it was just too much for me at the time last two minutes why why did this relationship go any further when you knew that the children’s situation was a little bit higgy de hag it was very higgy de hag in terms of the fact that

You guys had two different ideas when it came to Children you want what three kids she said at best she gonna give you two at best at best I think it was even one even at one point and children children children are a blessing man and so you can’t you can’t

Um you can’t predicate something on something that is unsure so I can say I want three but God only blessed me with one you know what I mean and so I wasn’t going to that wasn’t that wasn’t enough for me to not choose her in the show you

Know what I mean like if a after we after we ended and we continue to date and things and things start to really get serious and we have a really a real conversation about that then that’s something that can really um you know deter a relationship but within the show

I didn’t feel like that was enough to to not make me choose her for us to continue to date outside of the Show I hear you on that I hear you on that okay okay we we going we going we’re going to bring it to a close let me just say this you know I thank you I thank you for being honest and transparent bro you are a cool guy I

Can’t lie to you and I think you’ve won a majority of the audience over with you know how we spoke in the early parts and just kind of bringing you know your story to the to to life right um and I definitely identify a lot of things that

You kind of said as well in terms of growing up and especially how we deal with women right as well I will say this this is my personal opinion you like you like the bad bees too much you need to let it go let the toxic bad Beast go

Okay all right because you are loyal to a fault and that is your problem you’re loyal too loyal so much loyal that when you’re explaining toquilla and you explain Janelle you explain them completely different when they’re the same we have combative moments with Janelle and we have combative moment to

Quilla now don’t get twisted Janelle’s G not going to jump into his live and do what Taquila did I they’re gonna be two different in that respect but there is no way that when I’m looking at Janelle and I look at and I look at taquilla

That I’m not like going I can’t I can’t defend Janelle more like and that’s what everyone’s kind of seen we’re like we see that you can you can pinpoint taquilla we want you to pinpoint Janelle too but you’re covering her so much and I think it tells me a lot about who you

Are as a person that’s why I said to you earlier on about save them because I was a captain and save them and the reason why we’re captain and save them is because often times we wanted saving ourselves When you mention about being a solo kid that even though you have

Siblings you’re solo that’s what you wanted you wanted someone to be there to back you to love you to like you to just appreciate you bro so you do it for everybody else the problem is when you’re doing it doing it with people who are in deficit they’re not they’re

Builder be booze you get their projects that you’re that you’re taking on and and and and I’m I’m GNA say my honest truth Janelle was one of those projects you took it on because because she was replicating the exact same pattern that you mentioned with your ex

That’s why your friend mentioned it so the same thing has happened with Janelle and yeah you called out tqu but you ain’t really called out Janelle so for me personally I’m looking at going you’re a great guy I also didn’t get to know taquilla so if I had gotten to know

Taquilla and we had a connection like that and I gotten to know uh more about her then I would I would cover her as well because I know that there’s there’s an element where that it stems from I I never got to know Taquila so I I can’t I

Can’t cover someone that I don’t know and that’s why I said earlier like I dist I distan myself because I saw that early on I I saw that I saw that the first night when she was crying I I already identified okay she probably can’t handle this process I didn’t

People you got also have to realize I didn’t see Janelle get in the argument until the house I didn’t see any Behavior whatever that people don’t talk about until uh the house to argument with cat that was the only time I see it now people had already formulated their

Opinion of her before then and trying to make me seemed like oh well Q should know this why does he want I I didn’t I didn’t see any of that I saw the interactions that we had in between each other which were great and the conversations that we had I didn’t see

Any interactions until the the house and at the house after that interaction we had a conversation about it so it wasn’t like I was continuously seeing things and just ignoring them no when I saw something I addressed it and that was it that’s fair I’m not I’m not going to

Take that away you know I mean I think that’s a fair summation to make you know the difference in terms of how tqu and Janelle get presented because of what you can actually see you know what I mean so you know my final question to

End on this is so when you when when when Janelle went to fight cat because she was ready to do it and of course cat said come around the corner so it’s it’s on both of them had you guys broken up then uh yeah I don’t remember the date

But yeah we we weren’t we weren’t dating at the time no so you sent you sent Janelle into a spiral that she went to go and fight another woman because you broke her heart wow Quinton it doesn’t stop with you does it it doesn’t stop with you doesn’t stop with you

Nothing listen it’s been a pleasure I appreciate you actually coming on here and um you know sharing your heart and I’m I’m deely serious people did actually get to see a different side of you you know what I mean um you know and we got to hear your story from your

Perspective and you are very Frank and very open very transparent and I appreciate that um as well so um for you is there anything that you’re doing at the moment that you would love for people to kind of get behind you know see you know support you know just kind

Of push a bit more for you at the moment um well obviously in the Dallas area um I’m a personal trainer and an entrepreneur I have a meal prep business so if anybody is in the business of personal training looking for a male trainer build strength um lose weight um

Or if you just need help in the kitchen you don’t have time to cook meals you don’t know how to meal prep or anything like that definitely shoot over to my Instagram shoot me a question um not only I’m not opposed to just answering questions even if you don’t want to

Embark on the business I’m open for any and all advice um but I also do boot camps you know every other Saturday so um just just follow me on on my socials man and continue to push posit positivity um push growth push confidence um and that’s really

It brother to brother I want to encourage you bro keep going um and I love the fact that you’re one of the few black men as well that has actually taking growth and self-development in the area seriously bro and that for me it’s a big I’m not even going to lie to

You bro because a lot of men in our generation do not do that bro and I can see your heart and I’m just wishing good things for you bro honestly from here on out um and so wherever your heart is set I just pray that God will add more favor and open

More doors for you bro because when I see someone who’s on that and wants to wants to grow and wants to be better that for me I’ll always get behind bro you know what I’m saying plus you kind of Hench I don’t want to get beaten up

So it’s all love man it’s all love audience members thank you so much for joining us uh we appreciate you it’s been amazing you guys turned out for Q you showed all the love for him he came out 1,50 1,150 strong um so you know you

Guys wanted to hear his story you got to hear it and um and I appreciate you guys being respectful in the chat as well Q thank you again once more audience don’t do anything I wouldn’t do okay all right that’s a lot that I wouldn’t do so I’m

Me actually that way around there lot I would do don’t do what I do um but listen we’re GNA see you guys very soon uh you got to leave here with something right

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