This was me 4 years ago I had just graduated from college moved to a new city and freshly single because I had just started working a stressful corporate job where I was working 60 to 80 hours per week I gained a ton of weight developed severe acne and overall
Could feel my self-confidence plummet with each and every day I actually remember back then I was a little bit delusional but since I was striking out on the dating apps left and right if I did get a date the girl just didn’t want a second date and it was just overall
Pretty brutal I remember thinking that every Friday and Saturday I actually had a chance when I would go out to the bars to try to meet girls and you guys can guess how that turned out I had this flawed mindset that the solution to all my problems back then
Was finding a girlfriend needless to say I was a simpy chen this is me now just hosted a chain Nation Retreat where I connected like-minded Asian guys in the Brotherhood of Changs I’m living in the the amped house and happily in a relationship to be honest nowadays I
Feel like every day is like a new adventure waiting to happen be it content creation meeting new people or even try out new restaurants something I’ve learned these past few years is that life is so much better when you have a close group of friends so for me
I felt like it’s been easier to create content meet new people and um even get a girlfriend since I feel like when you’re in an environment surrounded by people who support you and you know let’s say you have something you want to try out and they got your back over
Overall you’re just going to be in a better mood have more confidence all these little things that really contribute to your attractiveness with dating and it’s really just like a feedback loop right if you’re in a good Circle and you want to try something such as like creating a YouTube channel
You can get the feedback needed to actually make progress and you can honestly apply that to every aspect of life so the reason I’m telling you guys all this right is because I personally was really ashamed of being Asian growing up and I really wish that I had
This sort of like Brotherhood or like someone I could have turned to back then right since I had this really embarrassing moment where uh during my freshman year of college I was like striking out with dating left and right as you can see a theme of my life was
Just like being really bad with dating I feel like I didn’t really figure it out until a few years ago but um yeah basically as anyone would do when they’re striking out you know they turn to Google search so I Googled like how to get a girl to like me right so that’s
Fine right I feel like we all Google stuff late at night you know that we probably don’t want to share publicly but um I had made the mistake of letting my roommate who was like complete opposite boat like he was like super pop had a lot of friends you know this was
Before I got into a fraternity so like my freshman year was really brutal and um my friend at the time was just like super popular basically and then when I handed him my phone he like went on Google and then obviously my search was still there and I just remember it being
Like super awkward right cuz you know this is like a guy who’s a natural he’s never face any problems with dating or making friends and then he sees me like looking up uh you know like how to get a girl to like me right which is like a
Super embarrassing search term and then I just remember it was like super awkward for the rest of the year but uh yeah we also had another incident where um I thought he was in class and then you know your boy was uh getting a forarm workout and then he walked in but
That’s a story for another time basically I wish I had a resource back then where it could have been like a One-Stop shop for like Fitness dating really just like navigating life as an Asian guy right that’s why I put out the content I do and that’s actually going
To be the topic of today’s video which is three tips I wish I knew as an Asian guy growing up in the US so these are going to be tips that will help you out if you’re an Asian guy or even if you’re not Asian guy you know I got some
Clients that are like white Mexican black like you know you don’t have to be Asian but this primarily is going to be talking about my experience as an Asian guy and I’m just going to basically break it down hopefully I can find some value especially if you feel like you’re
A little stuck or you’re having difficulties really just like leveling up these tips should help you out so basically the first thing I wish I knew was that Asians have your back so what I mean by this is basically more often than not assuming that the Asian
Isn’t like a l or like a self-hating Asian why don’t you like Asian guys Asian guys remind me of my brother what the heck you don’t dat Asian guys um I’ve never known they’re most likely going to have your back more often than non-asians this is actually something
That seems very like intuitive but honestly for me I was like super whitewashed growing up I was like ashamed of being Asian so for me I feel like if I had known this when I was younger it just would have made things a lot easier in terms of uh like socially
As well as even dating right it wasn’t until recently where I’ve started finding Asian girls attractive I feel like actually weirdly like there’s a positive correlation between how attractive I find Asian girls and how much I embrace my Asian identity I remember when I first moved into the
Amped house I saw that like Kevin Tang from the amped Asia podcast is super like you know he’s just super into promoting Asians and I never really understood why he he would do that right cuz it just seemed like you know it’s like a lot of effort but I feel like now
I really kind of understand just because as Asians especially asian-americans we got to really build build each other up I feel like it’s only like 7% of the population that’s Asian-American and then you couple that on top of the fact that there’s a lot of Asians out there
Who will like actively bring other Asians down you see that with the bamboo ceiling if there’s like a Asian person in the workplace in corporate who like climbs up the ladder he might not necessarily help out other Asians I actually talked about this in another video comparing Indians and Asians but I
Feel like a lot of Indian people um you know they’ll lift each other up right and their Community is really tight-knit and for me kind of like coming back to the Kevin point I feel like you know now that I’m building out Chang Nation Chang Retreat really my end goal is to build
Out like a Brotherhood of you know like like-minded motivated guys who can really just build each other up just because I think there’s a lot of power and unity it wasn’t until like a few years ago where I personally met like other guys who were into like lifting you know like optimizing different
Aspects of their life business content creation it wasn’t until that point where I felt like I kind of found my place right since back then with my you know non-asian friends they just couldn’t relate so like I totally get why Kevin’s all about you know promoting
The Asian community with amp Asia and I hope to do the same with Chang Nation you know putting out content out there helping you guys really just level up as an Asian guy so yeah that’s pretty much the first thing which is Asians will have your
Back so the second thing I learned is to really just lean into your Asian identity so what I mean by this is I feel like recently I’ve started to look for chances to speak Chinese more you know I mean I’ve gotten really into like table tennis recently so I feel like
Naturally you know a lot of Asians play table tennis but uh I’ve actually found that even like Chinese coaches are a lot better than you know non-chinese coaches granted I mean China’s like number one for table tennis but in general right I feel like I’m just like way more proud
To be Asian your boys half Chinese half Taiwanese and uh you know even my girlfriend’s half Taiwanese like I remember when I was younger right I look for every opportunity to like not Hello cool thank you thank you have a good day you too oh just got some
Domino speaking of my girlfriend um she’s coming over so we’re going to eat but your boy hasn’t eaten yet it’s like 5 p.m. quick side note I actually recommend intermittent fasting if you have a hard time you know losing weight or staying lean since it just shrinks
Your window of eating so that it’s harder to you know get as many calories in at the end of the day it’s just calories in calories out so I personally like to just intermittent fast sometimes do omad like one meal a day if I eat like all you can eat Korean barbecue but
Yeah back to the video basically um in terms of leading into your identity right this is the thing I’ve come to realize right I can’t change being Asian so like let’s say with dating right I feel like dating in the US as an Asian guy is a very unique experience and when
I was trying to take dating advice from my white friends who are like 6’2 you know what they say is going to be totally different than what’s going to work for me right so that’s actually why I make the videos I make is because I feel like there’s not that many people
Out there making you know videos talking about the Asian-American experience at least ones where like they’re not trying to like Rift you I feel like a lot of guys out there they’re going to say that they’re trying to promote the Asian-American experience but then you know they’re trying to sell you
Something wait a minute I mean I guess I’m trying to sell you something but I feel like for me right like all my content’s free my goal really is just to see if I can help out like one guy like if I can help one guy with my content I
Feel like you know it’s mission accomplished and uh for me I felt like once I started leaning into my Asian identity I just feel like life got easier right cuz uh you know you can actually relate to people whether it’s for dating advice career advice making friends content creation for me it just
Made things so much easier and again that’s why I like to offer you know like a chain Nation Retreat where I hope a bunch of guys for one weekend and um it’s like action-packed we do multiple photo shoots we hang out get to know each other go out at night experience
The Vegas NTI and overall the the whole goal right is to just bring together a community of like like-minded growth-minded people to really just build each other up so lean into your Asian Identity or whatever identity you have all right so the third and final
Thing I wish I knew when I was younger was a be a value Giver so this also sounds like common sense but hear me out basically when I was younger I kind of thought I could loan wolf my way through life you know just go like monk mode The
Loner monk mode where you just you know dedicate yourself to self-improvement get lean lift track your Macros you know just better yourself from an individual level but um I kind of started to realize now lately that going back to the previous Point Life’s a lot better
When you have a community have like a support network and in general I feel like the best way to build out your network or you know just really make new friends right is to be a value Giver whenever you’re meeting new people just try to talk about them see what you can
Learn from them and then see how you can help out right for me like an easy way is just to give Fitness advice because you know your boy is a professional natural bodybuilder and I’ve been lifening for almost 11 years now but uh for you right you might have like some
Type of strength where you can really offer to anyone and by being a value Giver you just add value to people’s lives right and then people want to hang out with you more they might want to invite you to things in general I feel like it just feels good to give value
Whereas if you’re like a value Taker and you see this a lot right there’s a lot of people who Network meet new people and they’re very transactional and they’re just trying to take value left and right left and right and to be honest that’s why for the longest time I
Was kind of against networking since when I was an undergrad in business school I felt like networking just had this connotation where like people are just trying to like gu something out of you it’s like why is this guy talking to me what does he want from me whereas now
I feel like networking or just like making you friends and forming relationships is more about like seeing where you can help out and really just giving value and that’s pretty much it so just a recap number one Asians will have your back number two lean into your
Asian identity and number three be a value Giver it’s a simple as that so yeah let me know what you guys think Down Below in the comments do you like these longer type of videos that um you know I just reflect on my experience and
Also like be sure to apply for the next chain Nation Retreat it’s probably going to be in a couple months spots are filling up be sure to send out an application would love to meet you in person but uh yeah that’s going to do it
For this video and I’ll see you guys in the next one
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