Five things I did wrong as an introvert in college especially a predominantly white institution AKA Pwi so I’m going just hop right into it for y’all I went to um two predominantly white is p predominantly white colleges um wasn’t privileged with the the income to be able to go to HBCU I didn’t want to get charged out of state prices so we
Stay in state and as I was writing these five things I was like Wow have truly grown one of the things I did wrong in college was joining um a sorority which I am currently in the process of denouncing to actually pledge the divine nine sority because where I was there
Was no no historically black sororities not doing my research with joining before joining a sorority and I say that because as an introvert when I was to college I was like 4 hours away from home no car no nothing I didn’t know anyone besides my roommate in college
They have these things where you can see the organizations that are available on campus clubs you can get into just stuff you can do to get involved with the college and become get involved in college besides going to your classes and back to your room I said I want I
Always wanted to join a sorority they had this sorority that I chose and I was like ooh I I really like this s let me just go with this and I just automatically picked it off the strength that from what I’ve known and like what I’ve researched well I didn’t research but
What from what I’ve known a sority our Greek organizations they provide Sisterhood our Brotherhood something like where you’re supposed to be tightnit and that was not what it was at all I was the only black girl in my stor I definitely felt like a outcast but not
Really but it was just like okay I’m the only black girl I remember and I’m joining thisor you know to First Sisterhood you know supposed to be your automatic friendships but I quickly learned that that was not the case uh I remember one time I was walking on
Campus and this is when I was pledging P wordy I remember walking on campus and I saw one of my my stor well I don’t know if this was after or before I pledged but I was like I saw one of my sorority sisters I was like hey you know cuz when
You see somebody you speak and she just completely ignored me I was like okay you know that’s not Sisterhood and I remember making a Facebook St and I was like you know you supposed to be sisters um what’s the point of having Sor sisters that they’re not going to
Acknowledge you with a simple hey our wave and say hi um and it wasn’t one of those things where you know sometimes you don’t see people know I was literally right in her face she saw me and I was like Hey so and so and she
Just kept walking as if I didn’t exist but I hurry up deleted the Facebook post and then my one of my friends were she was like yeah I saw your post and I just felt so bad because that is so weird so that is one of the things that’s one of
The many things I feel I did wrong so if you want to become being involved in the sority fraternity um organization definitely do your research like I said I’m in the process of denouncing my membership from nity to join one of the Divine nines that I’m is two of them
That I’m really interested in and as far as The Graduate um chapter definitely do your research before you join this St and make sure that it’s the right fit for you and I don’t even recommend joining us aor your freshman year because they do have fees and if you’re
Not um financially privileged it could cost a lot so just to keep that in mind the second thing I did wrong in college procrastinating on opportunities especially as a freshman going to a pwi they had this opportunity at the college I was attending where the mult they call the Multicultural students could attend
AKA for students that look like me black Hispanic minority students um where we could attend the college earlier than what students were um typically arriving at the college for and me being last minute I emailed them like hey I would like to do this wasn’t checking my
Emails you know then they were like you know we’re we’re done accepting people you had to do this and this and that and now that I think about it I should have fought a little bit harder because they definitely could have made room for me
If I had fought a little bit harder cuz the first note is just H don’t really feel like dealing with it but if I probably would have kept pushing they probably would have allowed me to come earlier and I think that I would have been more like comfortable I probably
Would have met a few people that look like me instead of me coming later and trying to find where all the black people were besides the BSU the black student union the third thing is not staying home um staying close to home I was 4 hours of away
From home for the college I went to before transferring closer to home where I was literally 10 minutes away because I just wanted to be grown and I wanted to get away from family I wanted to experience life as a grown a newly grown young lady out in the world back then
They did not have Uber Eats they didn’t have Uber where you could call a ride they didn’t have what else do they have like instacart where they bring their groceries to you they didn’t have um none of that that would offset me not having a car to go get groceries or go
To the Walmart down the street or go to the mall or anything or even um catch a uber to go get products for my hair cuz they did not have products for black girls or ethnic products to do our hair I wasn’t thinking about that when I was
Like oh let me go for hours away from home be independent no I hated having to ask people oh if you could um can I ride with you which will be once in a blue moon to go to the store giving them gas money cuz I needed to go
Grocery shopping like you don’t think about stuff like that or I would wait on my husband he would come visit me my he was my boyfriend back then and he’ll take me to the grocery store but that was like once in a blue moon that he was
Coming up there cuz then when I had to come home or during the holiday break I had to catch the bus and the great Hound bus that I had to catch is like you had to wait at this stop I had my suitcases I would have my one college friend sit
At the bus stop with me because it was just like I just felt secondhand embarrassment and I’m already like an introvert and I don’t like people looking at me too long but that was a thing I didn’t think about like getting to home it would be a
8 hour it’s a 4H hour drive but a 8 hour bus ride to get home that was like $80 and that was a lot for me cuz I was a broke college student I wasn’t thinking about any of that when I picked to go to this school I definitely would have
Stayed home close to home I went to a out of state college if I decided to um where I had family and I could just call them and they were no hesitation pick me up take me go get some groceries or brought me things but now y’all got to
Sweep because y’all have Uber Eats instacart ships Amazon all these things that can just come to you you don’t have to leave campus but back then you had to leave fourth thing going places with people are going places and walking alone or leaving alone late at night do
Not do not do not do not do not do not do that especially now with like the racial climate and everything I was walking back home going places by myself like I would go with people that I shouldn’t have kept going is but that was me trying to just be involved where
I shouldn’t have been involved and I walk back home by myself like at 11:00 p.m. midnight or whatever or I might call my husband while I was walking because I clearly I knew it one sa don’t do that I remember going to this one party or this random YT dude tries to
Kiss me and I was like what the like a random dude and I was like this is not that he was like Oh I thought you wanted a kiss did I say I wanted a kiss and I remember another party I went to a dude was trying to have some touching touching touching
With me I like I don’t know you why would I do that like this college life cuz it’s kind of nasty definitely don’t be going no places alone and if people can’t walk with you back to where you’re going even if they’re not ready to leave don’t go with them people those
Are not your real friends they really are Associates and they don’t care about your safety cuz ain’t no way I should have been walking blocks and blocks when I didn’t come by myself to go back home the next thing was not really enjoying the full college experience I wish I
Would not have still be focused on graduating getting good grades and focused on graduating but I definitely was all about working to pay for school or like paying for books after you know all the funds fast we went through and working going to school working going to
School working going to school and given that it is a privilege to not be able to work and go to school if I was to go back I would definitely enjoy life a little more enjoy the college experience put myself out there more and get involved with with the fun things and
Not always being about career career career but actually have fun in college that is one thing I say live life with no regrets but if I could go back I would definitely change that and make sure that I enjoyed the full college experience I probably would not have
Been working I would have made my mama give me some money since I was still being claimed on her taxes and I have children I want them to be able to enjoy College be able to enjoy High School not have to worry about paying a phone bill
Or have to worry about getting groceries cuz I was definitely doing all of that myself bonus one even though I said five things the bonus one for me I’m looking at this y’all if y’all see me looking was I wasn’t being myself I was definitely trying to fit in where I
Thought I where I desire to fit in those were not my people I wasn’t being myself so that therefore I wasn’t showing up as my best self cuzz I was trying to embody something that I wasn’t and I wasn’t comfortable I was embodying like all I
Can think about is trying to fit in when I wasn’t supposed to fit in I was just supposed to be myself and stand out and that was good enough I would have definitely been myself and been who I was and not and find environments that I could thrive in find groups of friends
That I could Thrive with build a close relationship with I was just trying to insert myself in place that I really wasn’t supposed to be I didn’t belong in I can say anything to the person to you watching this is just be yourself don’t
Feel like you have to do things or go to parties join a Sor or even a fraternity or a organization that’s really popping to enjoy the college experience make your college experience fit you so you meet the right people you attend the events that you know you can talk in
That you know you could just chill and be yourself without judgment cuz I was attending parties and honestly I’m not a party girl but I’m like okay this is what college experience is supposed to be this is what I need to be doing to enjoy my college experience no I’m not
The party girl I’m not the Drinker girl I’m not the smoker girl I’m not the the one that’s going to do it I was definitely the one like hey let’s go grab a bik to eat let’s talk a bit let’s go to this social Gathering they talking about
Um some art stuff that was the group I needed to be with and just could not find but then again I didn’t realize that was my group of people I hope you enjoyed this video um let me know what was your biggest takeaway or if you can
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