Social Reset: Ep 3. “Selfish Therapy”

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Believe as a 27-year-old with the soul of a bitter conservative 50-year-old man that we are socially [ __ ] up in this day and age uh we have some reoccurring guests but we have some new guests Tay do you think that we’re socially [ __ ] up these days as a youth like people

Around our age are we like socially [ __ ] up yeah yeah get aggressive please uh if I’m being honest yes I think people are too judgmental that’s what I think it is I think to people are too worried about judging other people that they do not take initiative in their own life

They’re too worried about telling other people what they should do that they’re not worried about what they’re doing and if we just focus on manifesting our own will and our own wishes then it’ll come to us but if we focus on the negative and we focus on what other people are

Doing we’re never going to get our dreams because if you’re constantly thinking about other people’s can I swear yeah yeah absolutely great oh that this makes it a lot better if we’re constantly worrying about other people’s [ __ ] then we’re never going to be able to like achieve things in our own life I

Don’t know it’s kind of hard I think we are [ __ ] up I think we’re just too judgmental and I think about it all the time because it makes me sad because I feel like I could make so many more friends if they weren’t worried about

Like what I was wearing or what I look like or how I talk or where I come from um there’s so many Mis opportunities so many misconnections because there’s so much judgment so for me that’s [ __ ] up because I I love connecting with people I love group work I love talking to

People but it’s hard okay Sierra do you have an opinion on that do you think that we’re socially [ __ ] up these days people around our age in our age group I think so I think it’s a lot of generations have [ __ ] up like I think that you know my parents are

45ish and then their parents are [ __ ] up I think it just gets to a point where they just pass it down through the generations and people aren’t working on it until they’re socially aware and I feel like that’s coming about with people our age are you are you starting

To like the sound of your own voice now you’re coming through very clearly you’re not stuttering or nothing um so you think that but what you just said is that our parents were more [ __ ] up than us and we’re we’re turning the tide so I think that people our age are it’s

Becoming more popular cool to be aware so being aware of the fact that you’re [ __ ] up and being willing to go to therapy or to be willing to change it and grow through it instead of just passing it down to the Next Generation that part of it maybe um yes that’s

That’s definitely one thing that our generation got big on was therapy so I won’t dis I won’t disagree with that part now how we go about therapy and what we use therapy for I definitely want to get into because I do think it’s starting to become a little self-serving

Especially depending on the individual but also what like therapeutic culture promotes tends to zero back down to some self-centered sort of behaviors which is something that nobody talks about they’re sort of just like therapy and you’re all good that means you’re working on yourself but what about all

The just both College grads are you’re graduated right okay so and by the way I’m I’m being a little unorthodox um camera back over here Danny does um Tay is you’re out of college ready yeah okay Tay on this end and then Sierra on this end and those are our only two new

Guests both of you guys give your ages I’m 24 23 23 and then back over to this couch and these are our two reoccurring guests from the first episode they’re already back that’s how much fun they had uh Noel on the right and in the middle

Eden yeah Eden know you took the mic go ahead say what’s up am I supposed to you didn’t ask me like my age just give it a mic check is it fine though like do should I like repeat and and chat yeah chat please let us know how the levels

Are for [ __ ] sake because sometimes when you’re levels are good okay no I know they seem to be good but for [ __ ] sake when we started lagging with the levels last time everybody just kept watching no nobody thought to say hey this this stream blows you’re allowed to

Say that it means that we miscalculated so um speaking of which oh that’s right and then that was the other thing okay so um Noel is back and she’s mad I was totally unprepared for this because Noel last time we had a very productive conversation we talked about

Healing we talked about overcoming fears and anxieties and all the ways that is used to be a better partner and to be less of a burden on the people we love you agreed with a lot of the things that I talked about you’re a beautiful girl you’re smart you contributed to the show

Nicely and then after you left that took a 180 and you’ve decided that you hate me uh and feel free to to tell us why I’ll try not to debate you because I’m genuinely curious about this no I mean no no go ahead it’s fine if you hate me

Just say it I felt very attacked about the guy friend thing and then there was a Tik Tok posted where it says she’s friends with her ex lovers which was wasn’t the case 100% I didn’t say you were friends with your ex- lovers I think the like the tagline was oh you

Read that literally I said her the tagline of the Tik Tok where I’m talking about how women tend to remain friends with their ex-lovers and then pass them off as just friends who they’ve never slept with to the boyfriends I tagged that as like a general comment like her friends are her

Past lovers that did not mean Noel’s friends are her past lovers just like when you tag the I was like the focal point yes yeah okay but you felt attacked in the moment when I was talking about something that applies to like a million chicks oh no go tell me

Whatever you think I didn’t care like I mean everyone has their own like opinions and I did kind of think after the fact like because I do go to college and I’ve like kind of experienced like of everyone does have guy friends like I live with five girls and they all have

Their guy friends over and I guess you guys haven’t really like I guess maybe seen that oh I’ve seen it well okay it’s [ __ ] it’s been right well in my life and the people I’m surrounded by it’s very normal to have guy friends so to

Have like an outside point of view was I mean I mean I didn’t really care I don’t hate you said I even um yeah no Eden tells me everything so um I even said to you in the moment no so feel free so feel free to be honest don’t come on a

Podcast and wait till the podcast is over to talk your [ __ ] you’re you’re allowed to talk your [ __ ] I’m not no one’s going to hit you that was all I said that’s what I said that like you guys hadn’t gone to college so having that like me being at like at in a

School like where I live in a house like I live in like a literal house at my like at college and I have like a lot of people come through my house where it’s all of my roommates I’ve I live with four other girls I like your nails

Thanks um and so I just am like surrounded with people who have guy friends so that’s normal to me and kind of hearing your side which is fair like yeah but D during the talk you said it was fair and then believe it or not I am

One of the few guys especially in like a male space of content that struggles to take myself seriously hurling statistics or male points of view at people that I can see aren’t getting it especially if they’re younger so it’s very difficult for me like I guess I should just go on

With the show and be like listen this is how it is this is how men think but I struggled to do it while I was talking to you because you’re so much younger than me you’re 21 and you’re currently in college and I’m also Gathering that the college

Experience is your only reference for life at this point in time like because you don’t know a world Beyond it you don’t know but that’s what I’m saying I feel like when I get out of college I won’t have as many guy friends yeah let me just chime in real quick because

That’s what I was thinking like playing Devil’s Advocate like that’s kind of the College culture is that majority of women that you would ever meet in college are also part of Big Friend groups and you were telling me that like colleges are kind of like clicky and

Once you find your like group of people that’s kind of how it rolls throughout the semesters throughout your whole tenure of being a yeah and but at one point in the conversation I did say that if you don’t really give a [ __ ] and you’re not looking for some serious

Relationship right now then who cares especially at your age I said but it’s something them tell their boyfriends that he’s just a friend I had to say that to let the dudes know that your instinct is right it’s some [ __ ] but also the other thing about this whole [ __ ] sorority frat experience and

Like all this [ __ ] is because this keeps coming up because most of the female guests we’ve had are currently in college the thing that keeps occurring to me too is is it we could like go around the room don’t be shy um is it difficult to have and this is where I

Got to give it to the girls but also politely let you know that you don’t really know what the [ __ ] is going on if college is your only reference for what relationships with men are like is this like frat boy party [ __ ] largely to blame for giving so many women at this

Age the impression that all men are like [ __ ] like morons because that’s like a very prototype like specific type of character the frat boy you know what I mean like all men do not [ __ ] go through life you know what I mean like I did agree with you on

That yeah like with like realistically some of the guys that I do know just keep like you know they’re just getting the next big thing like you know like they’ll find one pretty girl oh but there’s another pretty girl right there and like they’ll get that one pretty

Girl so like she’ll let it happen and then they’ll move on to the next pretty girl cuz they got the last pretty girl you know what I’m saying yeah like it’s like it’s a constant they’re going to keep acting that way I did agree with you with that like they girls keep like

You know having sex with idiots they’re gonna keep acting that way yeah Sierra anything on the frap boys I dated a frat boy and and how did you enjoy that um I think at first I definitely fell for the thrill of like the fun the going the [ __ ] thrill please I’ve never

Understood this think the thrill of being with a fully fun [ __ ] I I just have to understand what this is like I think being like on my own for the first time at 18 and going to college living on my own being able to make my own

Friends like all these guys that I was surrounded with this one guy that caught my eye because he was you know making stupid jokes he was you know just the life of the party essentially I think that like caught my eye I don’t know at

This point I would not do that again but something about like feeling important to the person who’s like trying to get the attention of everybody in the room because then you’re his only point of attention or at least it feels that way for the moment being even though he

Never stops craving attention from everybody he comes across because that’s the party life right is’t that crazy yeah I just hypothesized that but it’s true isn’t it that’s was so wild well maybe it’s like but let me ask just real quick and so did that that end poorly

Did that end in arguments and fighting and heartbreak or was it just like ah whatever the [ __ ] moving on growing up I think I grew up and he didn’t it did it end in any sort of conflict or heartbreak not on my end really like I think he was definitely more heartbroken

Over it than I was because I was willing to grow and to get past that college frat whatever mindset okay so it was like [ __ ] around [ __ ] like you didn’t love him no I did you loved him yeah but you weren’t heartbroken I think because I was in

Control of the breakup so you got to maintain your one sec but you got to maintain your pride in leaving him but sometimes you leave people and you’re still heartbroken that you had to leave them no heartbreak I was going to say mentally break up before they actually do the

Breakup so I was going to say that could have happened I love how Eden knows her [ __ ] yeah that’s very true yeah and then and then I love how guys can’t sense it they don’t know when she’s already mentally left they’re like well she’s still here that means we still together

That’s something to look out for I forgot where I was going with that I think if I was goingon to ask basically something to the effect of it seems like when girls [ __ ] around with dudes like that too early in life if there is a serious attachment and it ends badly and

We kind of talked about [ __ ] like that what your situations and everything recap episode one if you don’t know what that’s about it’s interesting um that they can kind of go forward in life holding on to the negative experience but also can’t left they can’t let themselves Off The Hook by saying like

Well I was the one that took a frat dude seriously it’s like a dude saying he took a hoe seriously and then like oh my God heartbreak like what did you think she would do kind of but you said it wasn’t serious enough for it to be

Something like that I think that I it took a long time for me to grow and to realize that I was I deserved more and I didn’t want to continue to live that like kind of lazy almost like frat lifestyle that he was completely content

With and I got to a point I’m about to graduate college I’m ready to grow and move forward and he was not in a place to do that so I is this your most recent guy oh so you haven’t experienced a real man yet that’s gonna be fun there’s a

Lot more to experience um Tay your experience on like the the college party life and everything and does that ever because if you actually get seriously involved with people that live for for [ __ ] partying in chaos because that’s the thing to do at the time can it ever

Tamper how you view relationships men Etc moving forward I didn’t talk to frat boys do you want to know the truth yeah tell me about that they were not interested in me in college okay like not at all uh I did make friends with them though that

Was the weird part like I had a lot of frat guy friends but never like I was never trying to [ __ ] them I was never trying to like talk to them romantically and they weren’t trying to [ __ ] you no they tried to [ __ ] they tried to be my

Friends like I had one guy went to a party once it was like the first party I went to and he like brought me up into his room with his friends my friends and stuff and I was like okay this is interesting thought I was about to go

Down yeah no he played guitar for me that’s sin better thaning fortnite that’s better than [ __ ] it is he showed you his talents yeah so but as far as like dating Frat Boys I didn’t really date in college because it’s just I mean part of it’s because I wasn’t

Really focused on that but this just didn’t work out interesting thing yeah go ahead Rock tell them what you was going to tell him I was going to chime in on what she was saying because you were saying that he would wanted to be the center of attention and wanted to be

The loudest in the room isn’t there saying about like the loudest person in the room is usually the loneliest if a dude’s the loudest person in the room that’s usually a big red flag because a lot of dudes and they feel uncomfortable around women because they’re quiet and

Not really giving them attention they kind of act like a clown to really get attention they’re like oh look at me look at me look at me that’s a huge huge red flag even for a chick too if you go to a chick if you go to a party and

There’s a chick running around on the table and [ __ ] you’re like okay that’s a giant red flag because they just want all the attention because they’re like the loneliest social type in the room so I was just thinking it was funny that she said that it’s like a big red flag

Yeah um do you guys I don’t know if everybody’s too young to answer this maybe Caroline should chime in too um you know like what age it seems to be where you start becoming unattractive to the loudest most attention seeking men like there’s a certain point has

Everybody started to hit that stride yet where the dude that’s like oh we’re [ __ ] [ __ ] lit you’re like oh Christ that means he like that means he wants to be the center of attention in the whole [ __ ] room which means he’s a [ __ ] lame versus like oh my God it’s the guy

That’s most lit to be fair like I am in a story so I am around a lot of frat guys I found that I am more attracted to the ones that are quieter that don’t go out as often yeah and is that a recent shift or was it always like that um it

Was a re I did I used to [ __ ] with a drug dealer he that was very job no that was that was a very intense just like way of going like when I was with him and I really just like didn’t like that and I felt like when I moved on from

That I went for the more like one that doesn’t like isn’t as like doesn’t stick out as much you know like just kind of keeps to himself like one of the last guys the one that I was talking about that I met last semester he was like in

Construction but he like was going to school to get a higher education to do better in that construction company but he was still working when he was at school like he would work he’d get up at like 7 go on his computer do all this [ __ ] for like like the whole day and

Only had classes at certain times and I liked that he was a hard worker and like didn’t go out as much because he was working to do like you know even though he was technically a frat guy did you ride around with the dude while he was

Uh making his drug deals yes that dude if you ain’t riding around with him you ain’t [ __ ] a drug dealer no they would come to his house I would be there I’d wake up and people would come in be like and I’d just be like oh my my god

Oh he was the president of the Trap it was bad president of the Trap yeah did you see some ugly [ __ ] like not like it wasn’t that crazy I mean it was just more like like we’d be chilling at his house and then he’d get like a knock on

His bedroom door not even like his house door like his bedroom door they’d be like can I get this and I’d be like whoa cuz like I was I was never like he like sold Coke I was going to say it was yeah Coke it was like Coke and like

Everything like kind of beyond that that’s what it and so I was just like I mean when I met him I didn’t know that and then it came about and that kind of you know sked me but I didn’t really like that how long did you hang around it was like two

Months two months it was not like okay at least it wasn’t like a threeyear thing oh God no it was more of just like I like witnessed it kind of got upset about the whole thing and then just was like [ __ ] that it’s funny the last girl

We know that was dating a drug dealer is now in prison for murder oh right that went South real quick there’s a girl from this town I used to go to high school with her I [ __ ] love our [ __ ] trash area it was it was terrible she goes to Texas with her

Boyfriend it sells drugs blah blah blah hadn’t heard from her since and then one night we’re at the house and we get a phone call she used to come over once in a while you want me take over her yeah go ahead she calls and she’s like hey

Kev uh what did she ask she said can we take a bus up to your place and K we C stay there for a while no no no I’m sorry she goes can you pick us up from North Carolina and I’m I’m like no where

The [ __ ] would I do that and she’s like well I got to get up there and I said take a [ __ ] bus and her man’s in the background he goes no public transportation I go what the [ __ ] did you do that you can’t take public transportation she puts her man on the

Line he’s some [ __ ] degenerate that’s why he went to jail first and he’s like yo man yo man let me check check it like this you know what I’m saying like we did like the worst [ __ ] anybody could ever do so I’m just instantly like click

I turned to the whole room and I go guys what’s the worst thing illegally that you could do and everybody goes murder and I’m like huh but I put it out of my mind a week later big [ __ ] headline looking for two murderers and they had

Fled back to the to this town and yeah they got him in like 30 minutes the story was um so he was selling Colin or perks or some [ __ ] and they went out driving around and apparently the deal went bad and they was they were trying to rob the boyfriend so the boyfriend

Shot this dude in the head and then they went on the run and it was this whole crazy [ __ ] show but yeah you know like like if your boyfriend sells weed like that’s obviously not like a great start but like [ __ ] like that like if you stayed in that relationship for like

Three years and say he started getting like a lot of money and like moving a lot of drugs if he’s a legit drug dealer you’ll see some [ __ ] because then because then that’s when the that’s when they like start dropping out they’re like why do I need to go to school I got

[ __ ] $100,000 from this kilo I just sold and it kind of just tumble weeds but there’s another too there’s that stereotype of women that love the the danger it’s not a stereotype women love danger and women are aroused by danger did you guys know that have you not

Noticed yet that you guys are aroused by danger you were the first example do you well to be fair like I said going in I didn’t know and then I found out and it definitely like it pushed me away like I don’t at first is a little

Enticing right I don’t I’m like not like I so wom just like the bad boy for no [ __ ] reason I didn’t know no no no I just listen listen I’m not making a bad example out of you it’s in your [ __ ] nature okay otherwise you’d be with some

[ __ ] dork the only problem is it’s it’s difficult for women to discern that feeling like any excitement is just exciting it just penetrates you it’s just exciting like metaphorically penetrates you it just hits you like wow this is exciting and sometimes you can’t figure out why it’s exciting and

Sometimes do something feel a little wrong is almost so wrong that it’s a little right and then if it’s really bad you’re and you’re sensible you’re like okay I gotta get the [ __ ] out of here unfortunately if you’re a little more like a little bit more airheaded you’re

Like this is really bad but it’s still exciting and you stay put I mean a lot of girls come from like a lot of wealth so to them it’s exciting because it’s different but also at the same time like like she was saying it kind of like

Killed all of it like how long between you finding out he sold drugs before that two months was over and you ended it like what was the time period between you knowing I mean I knew he sold weed which was like you know like you said that’s like whatever and then like one

Of his roommates brought it up and I was I think it was probably like three weeks in so it was like CU we had been like hanging out like once or twice a week like it wasn’t like anything like we were not hanging out every day yeah and

It like came up and I was like because I knew he did Coke but I didn’t know he sold it oh that’s good all right that’s just College people though okay like two like yeah I don’t that was all right listen that was the beginning that was

Like a year and a half ago and that was just not good on my end do you think it’s a bad thing to admit that danger and edgy behavior is somewhat attractive even though it shouldn’t be because everything that’s wrong feels kind of right and exciting oh I think so me

That’s the worst part about our nature it just seems to be a little bit more steep in female nature yeah that last that last that last podcast take was absolutely ridiculous what what Franchesca said that was oh yeah we had a girl on yeah we had a girl on the last podcast say

She likes to be [ __ ] with a gun put to her head that’s being aroused by a near-death experience technically that was dude I never felt less hardcore in my life I thought I was in a hardcore sex [ __ ] I threw that all out the [ __ ] window after that

Podcast Kevin’s like well I’m done for yeah basically why is it so quiet in here what’s the problem am I saying something that’s wrong y’all are not aroused by danger like talking y’all are not aroused by danger well then tell I there’s like a like there’s like a happy

Medium where it’s like all right they want to go out and do like things not like that but like you know what I mean like if there’s a happy medium and I feel like I okay the thing is what kind of threw me off about the laot LA like

The last podcast was like I feel like you saw things very black and white when there is like a gray area for most a majority of things there is a gray area and I try to touch the gray area as much as I can but there are things in life

That are black and white so we can’t disqualify the things that are black and white like there are certain things that are just hard facts but we are Tay can you can you speak to this since you you probably will speak to it the best um try because you’re you might be the

Biggest liberal in the room and you you just haven’t quite revealed at all yet but you’re you’re welcome to um there are certain things things in life that are straight black and white facts as well as things that are the gray area that you can’t take one way or the other

But we’re living in an era now where if you state a black and white fact that is such a hard fact cemented you can’t discount it if somebody’s like well that’s not how I feel we gotta like take that into account and like mellow out

You know what I mean or do you like disagree that everything is so like beautifully versatile and we should just like flow with that in whichever way our heart desires no matter what the [ __ ] is really going on how do you feel about that well do you know what I’m saying

Even though I’m saying it in like an odd way no I get what you’re saying I mean if I’m being well it’s hard to okay truthfully I don’t I don’t know if necessarily my version of what’s black and white matches what your version of that’s kind

Of what I just said is that as long as somebody has a different version of a stone Cold Fact we have to pretend it’s gray when it is black and white as opposed to the [ __ ] that is actually Gray I think well okay so for the conversation you’re talking about right

Now right where you were saying um women are aroused by danger are aroused by danger uh scientifically you know people get under stimulated because of the lack of serotonin in their brain and and we’re in a generation right now where people are really struggling with that

Um the foods that we eat are lacking in the basic minerals and vitamins that we need we need to go out and buy yeah that will have a serious effect on your mental health that will cause you to lack stimulation and then you’re going to go out of your way to seek imulation

Right so when I’m lacking B12 right I might I might I might be more interested in a man that wants to get a little crazy right but when I got all my vitamins I’m like okay I’m doing better no it I it’s crazy ftic I swear to God I swear to God

If you literally have the the basic vitamins that you need if you get enough sleep right if you are if you’re taking care of yourself and you’re focusing on what you need right what why are you going to go and seek outside validation for that right if you have all the stuff

You need right so when I’m bored so I’ll just tell you when I’m bored right I I’ve literally been with a man and people around me are like why are you with him and I’m like because I’m bored and this is self harm because I literally am lacking the literal

Serotonin like I’m so self-aware that’s that’s the problem with me right I’m so self-aware of these things but this is the truth like that’s why people think that okay so yeah that’s about as honest as it gets the funny part is everything you’re saying is true about how we ch

Thrills to make up for the fact that we’re not all there I’ve just never heard it specifically equated to B12 that almost made me piss you know maybe a picture maybe a picture like if go ahead K well someone in the chat said vitamin D vitamin D no but okay okay

Probably was talking about dick but vitamin D not a lot of us do not get vitamin D I mean we’re in houses so none of us just vitamin D we’re all deficient in vitamin D but when I’m out with like never mind go ahead I don’t want to say some

No but but like I was gonna say if I’m out living Reckless I I don’t exactly equate it to my lack of vitamin D sorry sorry Super Chat uh $ five Super Chat from sieg D for the ladies are any girls turned on by a guy who can survive

Something dangerous like a car car crash also Luca’s awesome but where the hell is Mark he’s right here off camera he’s gonna be he’s gonna he’s gonna tag in soon so yeah for luk Mark off camera are any of the girls turned on by someone who can survive something dangerous like

A car crash if he purposely does it no because I think he’s an idiot for that because so for example my like evil Canal [ __ ] sure ah fck do you know about evil canil you didn’t even know who Sylvester Stallone was I was your dad

Never told you was that just a layup for Luca because he’s was just in a car crash oh you’re just car is anybody more attractive to him now there you go is anybody Luca just survived a car crash now granted he caused it himself but is anybody more is

Anybody more attracted to Luca now if it was by accident yeah but you caus it yourself so there you go Luka I think that’s like an emotional I have I have an example so one of my best friends is dating someone who is in a frat and one of the Frat

Guys texted the what do you call those the people that are going to the Frat pledges thank you texted the group chat and was like um who wants to go for a drive Daredevils only and literally went on a drive flipped his car like 12 times

Or something I mean they like all lived but still the that you like went out on this drive knowing it was like dangerous I just think you’re an idiot for that I’m not like oh damn that’s hot like yeah I hate that that’s I think I think

When it comes to like that if I was with someone they got into a car accident I wouldn’t find them more attractive I would just be like thank God they’re okay like an emotional like oh my God like I could have just lost this person

Uh see hop in real quick the car crash thing I agree like with what she was saying that like I don’t think that they’re more attractive I just wonder are you okay like who the [ __ ] super chatted that Sage D is a holder Sage D love you brother you’re a holder kind of

A stupid uh scenario you just threw there because I know exactly I think he was just trying to lay it up for Luka he might have been trying to lay it up for Luka if you under who who told the internet that Luka was in a car Mark and

Luuka are running around at church every day making videos I’m pretty sure okay all right maybe however if that wasn’t a layup for Luca I know exactly what you’re trying to say but car crash is just not the best scenario like well like biologically like yeah if a dude is

Like equipped for combat if he can make his way through a fight if he could enter a burning building and pull a [ __ ] child out of it and [ __ ] that’s like the essence of heroic Behavior and the fact that he’s tough enough to do that and he’s tough enough not to be

[ __ ] with a car crash just doesn’t like it doesn’t hit the spot it’s a weird scenario flip the question if you are with your man and you’re driving in the car and he does something stupid and gets you in a terrible car accident do you kind of like like him a little bit

Less hell yeah safety Factor your fault you’re an idiot dude I don’t even like to spill a [ __ ] drink in front of a woman I can’t imagine putting her in a car and smashing it like you know those guys that like you get in the car and they’re like want to

See something cool and they step on it and go 120 on the highway I hate that I had a so my dad was with this girl for a long time and um so basically her daughter her name’s Haley was my like my step sister for a while and so in the

Car with her and she’s dating this kid and we stayed up all night around a fire and we were like hey let’s go get food in the morning so this kid that she’s dating it was the first night I ever met him so it’s myself my step sister Haley

And my Two Step Brothers we’re all in the car and the boyfriend the new like two-day new boyfriend is driving he’s running red lights and he’s going like 75 and a 25 so I’m in the backseat and I’m like bro slow down and then he just

Kept going and I’m like dude I’m gonna beat the [ __ ] out of you right now not just because I’m in the car with him yes but because my step sister and my two step brothers are in this vehicle but he was doing it trying to be cool and

Especially to do that in front of like a brother a stepbrother like I don’t know dudes especially like the car guys with their [ __ ] Hondas that [ __ ] sound like [ __ ] lawnmowers and they’re like what was your sister’s reaction was she like laughing and thinking it funny she

Was kind of like not saying anything like I feel like if I wasn’t in the car she kind of just would have tolerated it but as soon as I started speaking up then she started like chiming and being like yeah stop stop real quick let me interrupt $50 Super Chat from K thank

You brother there’s no comment just the 50 appreciate you my man wow that’s so nice that’s just a blessing if you didn’t send a [ __ ] question yeah you just blessed us I appreciate that okay uh let’s Veer towards more of a main topic all right we warmed you guys up

Let’s talk about female self selfishness um here’s a my biblical question for today are we looking to through therapy right because this is the thing right now right especially with women um there’s a big thing about healing self-love therapy is more accepted I forget you brought up that point because

That’s true because watch any 70s movie and if somebody’s acting like a [ __ ] [ __ ] they’ll be like get therapy Rocky movies Bert young you know what I mean it’s like you’re if you’re deficient it’s like yo get therapy which means you’re like a [ __ ] crazy person

Back in the day only crazy people went and got therapy now therapy is very accepted and there’s a self-love movement now the only question I have about all this is where does it tread the line the self-love the things that you’re trying to work through in therapy because you’re looking for happiness

You’re looking for fulfillment where do we find the line between that and ultimate self-centeredness so my question is are we looking to overcome our problems or are we searching for someone who will tolerate our problems with no complaints okay so I’m a psychology majer going

Into be a therapist so I I’ve gone to therapy myself too and I think there’s a certain person who has to be a therapist to tell people when they’re like when my when I [ __ ] up and I would complain to my therapist about it she’d be like that was your

Fault and I needed someone to tell me that female therapist female um I’m glad to hear that because I want to preference real quick that there’s some [ __ ] up therapy out here all therapy is not good therapy just like I don’t know how many people are

Aware you have to really do research if you’re going into a surgery find the right surgeon you’re not always going to get the best doctor so that’s why I’ll always dismiss the idea that like if somebody knows something about psychology and someone wants to be an

[ __ ] they’ll go oh I didn’t know you were a psychologist is if you don’t have the right to know something if you didn’t [ __ ] read about it and or you didn’t research it yourself so to speak like oh you didn’t go to school for this

So you don’t have the right to speak on it you know you say something about medicine and someone go oh I didn’t know you were a doctor same thing with therapy um I had a female friend an actual female friend no I forgot I slept with her but we were really really close

And she went to therapy out of her own pocket wasn’t paid by insurance and she told me that she was bitching about a dude that broke her heart and her therapist was 23 years old but went went through the schooling and everything a certified therapist and her answer was

When you realize that you’re a bad [ __ ] and and take your power back you will no longer stress over this dude and she paid for that out of pocket and I said you could have went and got wine with your [ __ ] girlfriends and achieve the same result now that’s a [ __ ]

Licensed therapist so you don’t you really don’t always know what you’re going to get you don’t know if there’s people that are going to lean more into the you’re never wrong as long as you [ __ ] celebrate yourself versus what you just said but sorry I was gonna say

When I went to therapy it wasn’t necessarily like looking for answers to my problems it was literally just having someone to rant to on biased so like I could rant rant to my friends about any situation but obviously they’re going to kind of be biased and take my side and

Be like no Eden like you’re right it’s okay like it’s not your fault where was like I could literally tell my therapist anything it’s like she doesn’t know me she doesn’t know my life and it’s like she’ll just listen I felt like me for my therapy it was more of like accepting

What the things that I was doing wasn’t all right like I when I went I was very much in my head thinking like I’m not [ __ ] up like it’s other people and it was for her to kind of sit me down and be like look at your own life and see

The things that led to that some of the things you could have done differently yourself that may have had a different result that’s a skill that 90% of the population does not have yeah see and this is why I was confused that you were talking [ __ ] when you was off the show

Because I thought that you was very well-rounded you are you are like the [ __ ] you say makes sense uh t uh General opinion on therapy we’ll go around the couch with that and then I’m going to re rate reiterate the question I’m looking at Mario across the room because she

Knows how I feel about therapy go for it so a hot take it’s a hot take go ahead all right therapy traumatized me good go ahead tell us about that I’ll tell you the real people need to know about this I got a therapist right first of all me

And my sister share the same therapists as well as my sister and her boyfriend for therapy my sister mom step sister but I also have 12 half siblings still learning [ __ ] about you keep going um so not so she that’s already happening she made best friends with my sister’s mom

So she’s kind of unprofessional I love her but right so she’s ghosted me for five months at a time like she’ll literally stop talking the therapist yes she will stop talking to me for five months at a time like I’ll will text her she won’t answer or she’ll text me and

She’ll be like let’s make an appointment I’ll be like all right yeah and we’ll make an appointment and then she’ll be like oh sorry I can’t make it or just won’t show up or we’ll be 30 minutes late so like and I’ve literally gotten to the point where I’m like like i’ I’m

Going to therapy to talk to people and tell them like how to like I’m trying to set boundaries with people and I can’t even set one with my therapist cuz she’s traumatizing me different know it’s okay different so I the problem is is like you it that’s the

Problem with therapy like you’re in therapy because you’re struggling so like going out of my way to try to find a therapist like that’s extra work that’s hard um you know so it just kind of sucks but yeah no therapy traumatized me so like when people ask me how do you

Really feel about it I’m like I’ve done a lot of self-work on my own and I’ve done a lot of research because all you can really do for yourself is research and I’ve just spent the past four years that she’s been my therapist doing my own research and basically getting back

Together with her in five months time and being like this is what I learned on my own thanks for briefing with me bye see you in five months okay uh General opinion on therapy s I’ve been going to therapy for a long time um and I don’t

Think I was finally able to like get the benefits of it until I took the mindset of like listening to what she had to say even if it wasn’t what I wanted to hear so like you know I think it depends what you’re going to therapy for in the first

Place like if you’re going to heal from you know your past trauma or if you’re dealing with things that are going on in your current day-to-day life I think that also changes like how you’re going to look at it too General opinion on therapy I like therapy um I’ve been in

Therapy when I was like younger due to some circumstances but also like I kind of just like sticked with it for a while like growing up because like I’ve just like felt like I’ve been through like some hardships in my life and like I kind of wanted like an

Unbiased person to to talk to but recently my therapist I just felt like she really wasn’t there for me it was remote and every time I was talking to her I feel like she was just like online shopping or playing games like her eyes would just be like yeah yeah okay yeah

And I was kind of just like I always I always wondered if those remote ones were shitty it’s expensive too some of the remote ones were so beneficial to me especially during like Co and stuff like that like I’ve had some good therapists but like that one I was kind of just

Like H and I felt it was really hard to break it off because my physician was like friends with her and she was like oh like go see her go see her she’s great and then when I would see my physician she’d be asking me about her

So I kind of just felt like really weird like breaking up with her but like I know it’s very natural to break up with therapist so I kind of like ghosted her and also like one thing that kind of just like bothered me as I had a great

Opportunity to work in the movie with you guys and for a while she was kind of like pushing me not to do it not to do the movie I would have [ __ ] killed her you never told I would have been like [ __ ] therapy yeah she was kind of

Like you know don’t you think that could maybe like trigger you and like I was kind of telling her like but I’m here to like work through that with UA and also like I do have anxiety and I try to never let my anxiety get in the way from

Like missing out on great opportunities like I I have it I acknowledge that sometimes it really sucks but like I try to never let it like overcome me and like that was just also kind of one of the moments where I was like I don’t know if we’re a good match and ever

Since the movie I have not seen her I’ve been realizing like maybe I should go back to therapy just like to better myself in like some ways come but um C you know I just like felt like we didn’t really click my last therapist and see

Like the first thing off the bat that I disagree with about that is she was telling you to choose fear yes she was she was telling you to choose fear that like this was um you know like when you go through intense [ __ ] and then we’re all filmmakers and actors sometimes you

Use intense [ __ ] when we’re in in in an intense role because when you’re in that scenario acting is not like pretending you’re there you’re kind of living it and she did that and [ __ ] killed it as a first-time actress had she not [ __ ] done that that would have been

Nuts I mean I mean the only see oh oh sorry the only thing that actually kind of like G got came out of that therapist is like she’s the one who like pushed me to like reach out to Rocky in the first place a okay yeah but then once the

Whole movie thing kind of came up I was kind of like I don’t think we could be friends I want to bring up so you mentioned breaking up with therapist and that’s completely normal because a relationship you’re basically having a relationship with this person and like I

Said I wanted like an unbiased opinion so to counter T’s opinion I think that you having one bad therapist experience and saying that you hate therapy is like dating one bad guy and saying I hate all men and they all suck yeah so I feel like you can’t really that’s

Me the thing is is like with me is like I want to be a therapist and I have I’ve had a good experience with a therapist and I had a bad experience with a therapist you have multiple experiences with th exactly and so that’s the thing

Of like I feel like a lot of people go into the field and they’re like well I’m going to be making money I’m just going to sit there and talk to people and they don’t actually think of like the depth of it like going through the classes

That I go through you learn it’s a lot more than just Baseline and I feel like it’s like just like oh you had this fear don’t face it yeah but like that’s not how it is and there’s like a deeper rooted like to it and have to go farther

Back than just like the Baseline of oh whether do the to do the movie or not you know what I mean all right gang gang I had to get to a Super Chat and then I want to reiterate uh my main theme what

Do we got Luka so we got um a 65 Swedish Crone donation from push Fred what does that mean it’s it’s the Swedish currency hey what’s up Sweden he says support for the boys great to see you back RPL tshirt my first pick for the gym blessings from Sweden hey appreciate it

That RPL t-shirt feel good in the gym right I cut off man and we got one more from sieg D another one he a $5 donation he said okay how about if he was T-boned at an intersection and got his arm lacerated but still able to walk it off

Oh my god um seems pretty tailored to you uh the same same [ __ ] guys guy gets in a [ __ ] he gets in a [ __ ] car accident wait he got his arm cut off what does that mean El lacerated like chopped off like of course I’m thinking about Death Leopard but that’s the only

[ __ ] that got his arm lost an arm and then made the greatest album of all time with one arm so I mean that’s different that’s just luck can can I read one more from a holder chat yeah yeah oh I’m sorry yeah and and guys red

Pill Lions holders if if you tip us we appreciate that you don’t have to that’s part of what there’s a there’s a free Super Y are free super chats for Life somebody said uh they were like it’s basically kind of like the same scenario with the car but they said if you saw

Your man get beat up in a fight would that make you less attractive to them no no I’ve really thought about that lost ass kicked I’ve really thought about that started thought about that I’m like that’s so embarrassing like I feel I no like okay like I would just feel

Embarrassed cuz I don’t know like it would okay it depends on what man it is if I’m really into him like I’m in love with him I’ll threee relationship no don’t ever jump in that’s your protector stomped the [ __ ] hold on one second see how tall are you 5’1 5’1 okay

Yeah so that’s why I wanted to ask you same scenario your your man that you’re in love with gets his ass be in front of you are you a little less attracted to him are you disappointed I mean yeah if you’re especially if you’re starting the

Fight what but what if he didn’t start the fight but he just couldn’t finish it like what if someone like smacked your ass and he was supposed to like come in and fight him okay yeah if you’re defending me like if the intention is like good then but if you’re going to

Start a fight then you should probably finish it okay well cuz I was going to say like if it’s over like a [ __ ] parking spot and you get your ass beat I’m going be like are you okay and I feel bad for you but if it’s over

Something that’s like in the moment you were doing that to protect me and you got your ass be I wouldn’t leave you but I would kind of rethink some things like can this person really keep me safe in situations like that basically it’s some of y’all might not know how much that

Would wither your attraction to a man because it’s mostly subcons ious consciously you’re probably thoughtful enough to be like it’s just an unfortunate situation subconsciously um you know which leads to how your body follows your subconscious that sex is going to be a little less steamy next session um

Because that’s just D that’s just the dude that’s supposed to protect you and he can’t there famously there was a was it a female fighter that was on Joe Rogan and she was like I was watching my ex in a UFC match get his ass be and it

Killed my attraction to him and Joe pushed it and she said it wasn’t that he lost it’s the way he lost he lost like a [ __ ] she’s like you got to go down like a yeah but that’s [ __ ] up because he’s in he’s fighting the best fighters in

The world like if any other person on the face of the Earth but that’s a chick that that’s a chick that fights as grappling girl she fights she fights too so that makes that makes a little more sense can I retract my statement real quick go ahead okay okay I want to

Specify what I mean by like it’s embarrassing I’m just thinking about like if he knows how to fight like how he looks when he’s fighting like it’s real specific but if somebody looks goofy while they’re getting beat up I don’t want to be with them I don’t know

Like you ever seen the dudes post up like this right hands up if he’s goofy looking while he’s getting beat up I’m I feel some type of way but if obviously he’s looking he’s looking good getting sweaty but it’s not his day I still want

Him you know what I mean like it depends on if he’s got the awkward moves he doesn’t know how to throw a punch like I’m all set because I know how to throw a punch so I know how to be someone up more than you do I can’t be with you if

He was fighting and he slipp and fell Luka come on bro how how how how much more unattractive would you be to him it’s just I mean if he was fighting good he looked good fighting and all that but he slipped then what okay like I mean if

It was like I don’t know it really would dep that could be an ick but it depends I I’d have to it would depend all right so word for the wise for all the younger men watching instead Le how to fight no instead of learning how to do a [ __ ]

Shotgun at school learn how to [ __ ] defend yourself Lear how to fight um I started taking fighting classes like the hotter women that I started dating because when the girls got hotter I just started realizing my time is coming you’re not going to walk around in

Public at [ __ ] 5 S and and you know especially and these days people like to [ __ ] with you the more jacked you are the more tattoos they’re like because they used to pick on the week now they’re like why does this dude think he’s hot [ __ ] and I’ll [ __ ] your [ __ ]

And my day is coming so I was like I got to start taking this [ __ ] a little bit more seriously but listen back to the therapy therapy was just a way to kind of Set It Off um just saying women are almost into these conversations about self-healing and all these things and

Self- Lov and therapy as almost like a hobby then there’s like all the chick crack that comes along with it what guys call chick crack which is like astrology and female female specific spirituality which is instead of like praising God in a way you praise yourself they don’t

Just they just don’t state it that way it’s like you are everything that could be you just have to discover it within yourself all these kind of things right okay good I’m I’m glad I’m already starting to get those looks because I just just because I want the honest

Answer so self-work I don’t really believe anybody is doing true self-work anymore I think people are turning to self Worship in order to try to overcome their problem problems are youall turning to self worship to try to conquer your demons without realizing it if you don’t know what that means this

Would mean like I was saying about my friends therapist that like you’re struggling and you don’t feel so great about yourself or things aren’t working and you’re reminding yourself that you’re like a Fearless bad [ __ ] that you are like the incredible Eternal feminine and like all this like

Self-praise type of [ __ ] T you look like you’re thinking I mean you know what I’m talking about here is this what people are doing instead of true self okay well I can’t so I think there are a lot of people that there’s a difference between selfishness and selflessness

Right so like when I I’m competing with myself I don’t compete with other people and everybody should be competing with themselves because at the end of the day like you came into this world by yourself you’re leaving this world by yourself and at the end I did have a

Student when I was teaching he he brought up something was really it really made me think he was like when I die doesn’t that mean the world ends because in theory yeah he you’re in charge of your own body you this is your temple so as like cracky as that sounds

It is true like this is my temple this is my power and like you know spirituality is something that’s really important for me and especially like it seems like it’s not real or it doesn’t work but I’ll tell you today I manifested so many things and so many

Great things happened to me just today just because I woke up and said I deserve this not because I’m better than anybody but because I’m worthy of it because I I’m enough because I was born enough I was born worthy and that’s spirituality for me but hold on one

Second Eden and so what is it like to worship yourself like that tell me about that I wouldn’t say I worship myself I value myself I respect myself I don’t put myself in situations where people are going to you know I don’t sit at a table where people talk [ __ ] about me I

Don’t sit at a t table where people devalue who I am I sit at a table where people see me they see who I am what I have to bring and they value that because I value it so I I wouldn’t say it’s self- worship it’s more like I’m

Secure in myself because I think there’s a lot of people walking around this world right now who are very insecure and they mistake I mean it’s the same thing with outside religion you know what I mean you’re choosing to worship you know a god who’s going to come and

Save you but that’s not going to happen it’s got to be it’s got to be in here it’s got to be the work in here you’re the only one that can save yourself it’s not I don’t think it’s self worship I think it’s self-realization and self-actualization which is on maso’s

Hierarchy of need so it is a scientific thing um and it is that is a very interesting concept but once you’ve you know gotten all your psychological need your physiological needs you know um you were able to get up to a point where your s actualizing and you are able to

See that um you’re good enough so my question is why does this seem to be such a female specific thing in the way where we don’t bat an ey at a woman saying she woke up one day with all the problems that she has and all the flaws

That she has and decided that she’s great by looking herself in the mirror and telling herself that she’s great and she deserves the world because she’s that great whereas if a man woke up and just decided he’s great because he’s so special and excellent it’s a little bit

Laughable and it is you can’t tell me that if I walked around here like I just decided that I’m great and I deserve the world because I’m me especially with the muscles and tattoos and the douchy appearance to go along with it y’all wouldn’t be like get the [ __ ] out of it’

Be cocky and you have a big ego is what people would but you see that right I don’t agree if you texted me if you texted me and you were just like you know I woke up today and had this elated sense of self and I’m feeling really

Positive cuz sometimes I wake up and I will literally text someone that and I’ll be like today today is the day things are happening if you text me that I would be happy for you genuinely but genuinely what’s the difference between that and this is a psychological point

This is almost a psychology conversation what is the difference between that and narcissism because narcissism okay this is good I like this narcissism um well my mother’s a narcissist right she cannot put herself in in other people’s shoes right so when she walks around and the way she interacts with the world way

She talks to people talks down to people right she doesn’t that doesn’t affect her she doesn’t see other people’s perspective right when I walk around doing the work for myself you know and working on myself and forgiving myself I can walk around and forgive other people put myself in other people’s shoes

Empathize with other people and um still have a great sense of self narcissists do have a very elated sense of self but it’s not necessarily positive um narcissism it’s just there’s no empathy with Nar n ISM that’s that’s the only difference because borderline I have borderline personality right so I have a

Lated sense of empathy narcissists lack empathy right they can they know how you’re feeling but they lack the ability to be like you know I’m talking like [ __ ] to you and I could kind of I can understand why you feel like that’s shitty the way I’m no they’re like I

Don’t understand why you feel that way like I’m sorry that you’re offended not I’m sorry I offended you I’m sorry that you’re offended right there’s a difference it’s it’s it’s all these minute little like small things but it’s the language it’s the way people hold themselves right I don’t walk around

Like I said I don’t think I’m better than anybody I think that we’re all just as good as each other we all have potential to do amazing things if we stop worrying about like if I you know if I’m better than you you’re better than me we could work together and start

Making like real change on the things because at the end of the day there’s no there’s no for me personally I don’t think there’s a red side a blue side there’s a human side right there’s there’s forces outside coming in and uh sorry I kind of got you’re fine no I

Mean it’s it’s nicely put together yeah sorry no I just I don’t want to like Sierra any thoughts about that and don’t be shy especially if you disagree get Rowdy if you feel like it but um do we try to line between self-love and narcissistic self- worship I think that for me personally

Like I don’t necessarily believe in the whole like self worship thing like I think that it’s different to like take care of yourself and have respect yourself right there’s a difference between that and people who take it to the extent of like oh like I’m the best

Person in the room like it that almost like confidence versus cocky I feel like okay so it’s a fine line right but I feel like people who like it doesn’t it shouldn’t necessarily matter if you’re self- worshiping or self-care as long as it doesn’t get to a point where

It’s affecting other people negatively okay and then the thing I want to add on to that is you struggle with borderline yes depression yes from time to time at least from time to time it’s gotten better cuz borderline is not inherent you’re not born with borderline yeah I

Know borderline is a that’s a very it’s not bipolar it’s different so you you cannot grow out of it but you can you can move yourself away from that’s a tricky thing okay but would you say you s you deal with depression yes would you say you deal with anxiety yes um would

You say you’re constantly working on how to balance your fears yes but I’ve gotten better with all of those things simply simply with the mindset of that I’m worthy cuz I saw this video and it was like if i instead of rejecting my fears if I accept them

Then I won’t be creating that polarity right if I reject something all the time there’s always going to be an equal opposite reaction so if I’m constantly saying oh I’m too much I’m too much I I reject the fact that I love so hard like

Yeah like now I’m you know I’m not going to get what I want but if I accept that about myself and I love that about myself now I’m going to attract the people that are going to love me so much but let me ask a sincere question this

Is not a is this a sincere question have you ever been depressed you’re going through it you’re dealing with anxiety nothing is working and tried to tell yourself this self-love rhetoric that like you know what no matter how I’m feeling I’m great I’m worthy of everything I’m this divine feminine

Being and I know my own worth and I’m special and excellent you tell yourself all those positive reconfirming things and have you ever experienced telling yourself that during hard times and then coming apart and being like I don’t even believe my own [ __ ] like it’s not helping I’m still depressed absolutely

Absolutely I think everybody’s felt that it’s like look themselves in the mirror like nah you got it you got it yeah I don’t got it man man what the [ __ ] am I saying I don’t got it like but then you reach out to people who can confirm who

Can remind you right there’s PE like Mari she’s one of those people for me when I forget who I am like I can go to her and be like I’m having a rough time and then she’ll remind me I’m that bad [ __ ] right I so it all boils so with

This attitude it all boils down to being told you’re a bad [ __ ] well not okay this is what confuses me you go through hard times you deal with trials and tribulations and to make a woman feel better like opt right to reminding her that she’s a bad [ __ ] well okay that’s

That’s the simplified version right but like I have a lot of accomplishments right that’s a gen Z way of saying it I’m a bad [ __ ] but it but the simple way is I’m accomplished even though like I have those days where I’m like I suck everything sucks but am I feeding myself

Do I have a roof over my head yeah so yeah it sucks right now it sucks I feel like I suck but I just need a second and I might need a little bit I might need someone but I’m still able to remember that especially because every day the

POS the dialogue in my head is positive so I have that to fall back on it’s in my subconscious now because consciously every day I’m making the effort to wake up and say I’m good enough life is okay so like I can even when I have those moments where I slip subconsciously I

Can kind of fall back into it this is a great segue into me reiterating my main point and then I’ll I’ll get to you because I haven’t really got to drive it home yet so every struggle you have in life you deal with through self-love which I call self- worship some may

Think it’s bad some may think it’s not um I’m a little bit more traditionally religious so I don’t believe in the worship of self as opposed to the worship of God which even if you don’t believe there’s a God in the sky that would be the worship of morals so when

You try to overcome all your problems by reconfirming to yourself that you are great and excellent and everything about you is so overwhelmingly positive um I would suggest do you think that might be why women are so difficult in relationships because what if we were together and you’re creating problems

For me but you’ve solved every problem you ever had by reminding yourself that you’re this incredible being how the [ __ ] am I gonna how am I gonna counteract that and I think this is what a lot of dudes are dealing with I’m not perfect right and if I’m in a

Relationship with you and I and I really care about you right and I’m not just in a relationship because I want to be in one and say I am right your opinion matters what you have to say matters how I affect you matters and because I’m

Able to empathize I mean when I I don’t I haven’t had too many relationships right but the one that the one relationship I had it was really serious it was really deep and I mean if I do if I did something that I was like oh I

Felt like that hit the wrong way or I said something because we we were young so like obviously we’re constantly saying things that we shouldn’t right you have a relationship like this past like six months six months ago was that something recent you referring to something from when you were a kid when

You just had a relationship that’s actually well no so I went and saw this guy in Nebraska that I dated when I was 18 you went to Nebraska right okay yeah no I flew there okay but uh sorry I got distracted I gota reel it back okay any any other

Comments on on what I’m talking about here when you worship yourself in order to get through your problems how is a man ever supposed to tell you that you’re being difficult when you’ve reconfirmed to yourself that you’re excellent and special so you’re never really wrong because you were made

Perfect see my ideas of that isn’t like I feel like a lot of people have transformed it into well it’s about me and like I’m just here and I’m just like this beautiful human being and like I’m like you know and I think it’s more about facing your well my when I’m

Working on myself it’s more like facing my problems and the things that I’ve dealt with and reflecting on the things that I did wrong and I feel like that’s my self workor I don’t look in the mirror and go like you’re her like you’re that [ __ ] I so you don’t do the

Self- love thing I I mean i s and you said you don’t do the self- love thing not to the extent that I think you’re talking about yeah I think like I when I think about like selflove of myself it’s like looking back on the things that I

Have dealt with and being proud of how I dealt with that situation you know what I’m saying okay like I face like when there is an issue and like I brought it up last time when I was with like I was with that guy and like we had different

Ideals and I could have gone through it and felt bad and be like well like you know it’ll work out in itself and I could have been selfish just to have that person to go to but I cut it off because we had different ideals we had different morals we had different like

And that wasn’t fair to the either of us so I look back on that and I’m proud of what I did for myself and that other person does this making sense yeah it is okay I still want to stay on that but actually can you swing that mic all the

Way over to Luca and Mark swing the mic to you actually forget your notes for a second because I have something that’s really great to ask the the two Christians in the room or at least probably the most hardcore Christians in the room Mark and LCA so can you guys

See what I’m getting at here worship of God whether you actually believe there’s a God in the sky or it’s just worship of like biblical morals or morals of any kind we’ll call God an analogy if you don’t literally believe in God but it’s either the worship of God or the worship

Of morals versus the worship of self you guys already know from a Biblical context because you guys are the dudes why worship of self is deemed to be negative do you guys have anything to say to that I say um I got um believing in yourself uh over self-love and I say

That because uh although believing in yourself makes it easier to practice believ ining in a higher power like you set on your CME speech you have to prove to yourself prove to your psyche certain things so proving to yourself that you can believe but not being like so full

Of yourself that it’s like like they said the I’m the bad [ __ ] aspect luuk you got anything to say on that yeah I don’t think you should worship yourself because humans were just not designed to get praise from anybody especially your own self and the definition of Satanism

Is self worship is that actually definition yes I’m G look it up punch that in the definition of Satanism self worship and that’s something that I I always took from Biblical teachings without being a cat that always goes back over the Bible just something that

Always stuck in the back of my head it’s like the same way sexual sin always stuck in the back of my head I never went over whatever passage talks about that but in the back of my head if I was like you know if I was whing with girls

I was like you probably shouldn’t be doing this it’s a sacred thing sex is a sacred thing right that’s why it gets you all [ __ ] up in the head and all those emotions and chemicals that go off that’s why right so Satan rack you got that yeah but some sometimes I think

Believing yourself and self-love can be Blended and I think there’s a difference between them and it’s okay to believe in yourself but not um like self worship like luuka was saying so the other thing is I don’t even know if you guys go to church more than me but I don’t even

Know if you guys are as hardcore as me because I really resonate with the old old school hardcore Christianity view of Humanity’s flaws which is like I didn’t to preference where this is coming from I mean I really do believe the opposite of what everybody believes today about

How we’re kind of born perfect that like we that we are that like everybody knows we ain’t perfect but for the most part the self-love thing is an antidote to not believing in yourself so everybody wants to feel good about themselves now Luka you can keep it for a second

Because I’m still I’m still on the biblical part till we turn it back to the girls but I identify with the old school Christian view that humans ain’t [ __ ] and I ain’t grow until I took on that mentality that I ain’t [ __ ] until I overcome fear anger selfishness Pride so

Before I overcame any of that I viewed myself as somebody that wasn’t [ __ ] yeah I think the problem is is that people will worship themselves when they haven’t done any work on themselves and if you haven’t looked within to work on yourself and and there’s you can’t say

That you worship yourself because you still have a lot of flaws that you haven’t worked through so that’s one of my can I throw something and then you’re just justifying your problems that’s the thing I feel like people will like a problem will happen and they’ll see it

And they’ll be like well it’s not my fault I guess and they’ll be like like or the problem will pass and they’ll be like well I’m still that like I’m still her like I’m still that [ __ ] like even if I [ __ ] up like I’m still that [ __ ]

And that’s where I think there’s a fine line acknowledging the problem yeah yeah that was a major point of growth for me because obviously dude’s got healthy egos too sometimes bigger in certain cases but it took me a long long time not till recently recently in my life

Where I started becoming wrong for things there was a point where I was wrong for nothing you know situation with a woman went bad it was all her had to be all her because I’m perfect you know what I mean that’s why I reject this notion because I lived through I’m

Never wrong I’m I’m too great you know what I mean to ever be wrong and so everything’s the girl’s fault then family everything is everybody else’s fault and nothing’s ever my fault because I’m too perfect uh even when you got the right idea that’s not quite the

Same thing as being perfect uh so I I don’t know I I think that’s a little bit more beneficial than self Lov and while I got the Mike we got Glenn Lawrence in the chat shout out Glenn Lawrence thank you for the $5 Super Chat oh Glenn’s

Been wanting to talk to you guys about Christianity too yeah yeah yeah we’ll get to them um yes self worship is technically you just gaslighting yourself any thoughts yeah oh it’s G before before you say that let’s kind of break down what that means it’s gaslighting yourself because

We are inherently flawed the whole journey of life is learning how to deal with our flaws so it’s Gaslight yourself because we’re all inherently flawed and we’re telling ourselves that we’re great do you agree well okay I think I was like misunderstanding what your version

Of worship was is what my problem was um because I think that it it almost feels like you’re saying the two statements can’t coincide I can’t be imperfect but also love myself like I can’t think I’m great because like it’s that that’s the that’s why we’re here like it’s not

Perfect we’re not perfect we’re here to learn that’s the only reason why we’re alive we’re here to learn whether whether you believe in a religion or not like inherently that’s that’s what we’re here to do we’re here to learn how to be a human being how to how to be a toddler

How to be a young kid how to be a young adult so on so forth how to be a product a productive member of societ real quick I’m sorry let me just squeeze one off real quick before you go hold that thought make sure you remember it okay

So I heard accomplishments from all three I think right as a basis for self-confidence so and I forget where we left off with you but chime in on this so do we have an opinion then if it sounds sounds like everybody here is proclaiming to aside from you you Teeter

The line a little bit but I don’t dislike the things you’re saying so we’ll rock with it it sounds like all the girls here are proclaiming to be the type of women that do to a certain extent get their self-esteem from [ __ ] they’ve actually accomplished right

Sierra you agree with that you get part of your self-esteem from things that you accomplished you too Caroline because you’ve accomplished a lot of [ __ ] academically you’ve great first-time actor great firsttime ad great first time everything on a [ __ ] movie great woman to my brother um so that’s great

And if we’re all proclaiming here that we’re not quite on that spectrum of self- worship Insanity [ __ ] that I’m describing do we have an opinion of the type of girls that are out there we see them everywhere we see them on social media we see him on Tik Tok it’s heavily

Promoted in the culture do we have an opinion on the girls that accomplish nothing try for nothing sometimes do nothing but wake up every day and Proclaim that they’re perfect in the mirror and then put that idea out on on social media we’ll start with you we’ll

Go around the couch me yeah I mean that’s kind of how I view influencers especially on Tik Tok I feel like they’re so annoying I’m sorry but I feel like just because a girl is so pretty and she’s doing this and that and then everyone just kind of like worships her

And like she could do like no wrong and like I’m not going to like obviously she’s never going to see this and I’m sorry if this hurts anyone’s feelings and like Alex Earl for example don’t even know she posted a video where she like found like a dress in her closet

That had throw up on it from over a year ago and people are that in the comments are like oh you’re so funny you’re so funny you’re so funny but it’s like why are you like proud of that and why are you like looking up to that like that’s

Not and then like people like influencers will complain like my life’s so hard but I get youour bags in the mail every week and in my life so hard I get to be flown everywhere it’s just like I just no I got a good one for that

People say that they wear designer but don’t worship their own designer do you get that yeah I get that that’s a rap lyric isn’t it is it maybe I heard somewhere um Sierra so it doesn’t sound like you’re one of these girls so do you have an opinion of these type of girls

And influencers and that idea through them going out and there into the culture that um that you’re perfect as long as you worship yourself and and tell yourself that you are regardless of accomplishments or the type of person you are or the way you treat people I don’t understand really how people like

Think like that I agree with whoever said that it’s like gaslighting yourself essentially because how are you going to continue to tell yourself that you’re you know accompl and proud and like all this if you don’t have anything to show for it like granted you have to be forgiving if you things don’t

Necessarily go your way like I for example I’m on my sixth year of college that’s not at all what I had in store for myself but that doesn’t mean that I’m going to stop working for it and not walk across the stage in May when I’m finally getting what I worked so hard

For okay uh we’ll go down this way then um down the couch start when you uh opinions of this type of [ __ ] in the culture women that are like this are that don’t think like you they’ve accomplished nothing but as long as you accomplish nothing but simultaneously

Celebrate yourself that’s a good idea to promote to other women I think that’s a very it’s I feel like it’s all the same for social media as showing what’s not real and I feel like that’s what has put out there that you can do nothing and be

Proud of yourself you know what I’m saying like putting that wrong ideal of self-love out there it promotes it and makes it seem like you can literally sit there and do nothing and be like oh well I’m me so every is great I’m good like and it puts out there to like young

Girls that you can think like that when that’s not how it is and I think it’s kind of obnoxious Eden um I agree also to Caroline’s Point Alex R also posted um a Tik Tok that was talking about her boyfriend how he unfollowed her to go fly out and see his ex-girlfriend and

Basically everyone was accusing her of um like they were like cheating or whatever but anyways back to the point I think that um I agree with the gaslighting yourself and I think if you just keep looking in the mirror and like saying like oh no I’m a bad [ __ ]

Everything’s fine you’re never actually GNA reflect and think that there’s a problem in your actions even even if there are so in a relationship it’s just going to be like self sabotage where you’re always going to be like no I’m not the problem it’s not me and like it

Is because you’re just going to think that you’re perfect if you keep saying like no I’m perfect like everything’s fine and then I had a lot of other points but I don’t remember but I think in terms of accomplishments like yeah I agree that you can be proud of your

Accomplishments but not like I’m proud of where I am and like how much I’ve come but I don’t necessarily look in the mirror it’s like oh I’m perfect because of this so I don’t really see that um and then real quick because I pretty much gauged your point on this um just

Real quick everybody could just like shout it out and [ __ ] randomly did did everybody try this at one point did everybody try this at one point before you guys got to where you’re at right now whether it’s because of your own personal grow growth or because you’re

Getting to the age you are now or getting to the end of school did everybody try at one point because of the influence of the culture feeling down shit’s not working you broke up with a dude your family treats you like [ __ ] I mean whatever the [ __ ] it is and

Everybody like tried like waking up and [ __ ] manifesting a [ __ ] miracle and looking themselves in the mirror and telling themselves they’re sexy you go ahead you did I was gonna say I don’t necessarily do that because no did you ever try at one point no not really

Because whenever I was like down I look at like I have to be grateful for what I have like oh you’re complaining about this well at least you have like what you worked for like I grew up very like not very well off but I am so grateful

For everything that my parents provided me so I don’t like complaining about like complain so for example complaining about college like complaining like oh my God I hate College I hate school or whatever but like I have to be grateful that I’m actually I’m even in college so

I don’t necessarily look at it like self worship like I don’t appreciative yeah yeah like appreciative I’m not like you guys you’ve overcome a lot of [ __ ] at one point when you were younger you ever struggling and tried the bad bit me the bad [ __ ] method like I’m just

Everything that can be and that’s why everything should be fine not really I kind of like was being more grateful and I’m also the type of person that tries to look at things like no rain no flowers like maybe I’ll wake up and be like let’s have a better day and this is

What I’m looking forward to but then when I go to brush my teeth I’m not like you’re a bad [ __ ] too by the way like I don’t also gratitude journals like gratitude Journal like you’re grateful for the things you’re not saying like I have no problems I’m perfect you’re

Saying these are the things I can be grateful for in my life does everybody have a gratitude Journal right now yeah everybody here has one I do not is it almost full I’m going to give you a link to Olivia James okay you’re going to get a gratitude Journal I love her gratitude

Journal ever tried the bad [ __ ] route and by the way this is an admission of maturing if you ever did were you ever gripped Enough by the culture might have been years ago was there a point where you were going through [ __ ] and you’re like yeah I’m a [ __ ] bad [ __ ] so

That’ll cure everything there was definitely a point where one of my friends tried to convince me and you know I was going through it at the time and she was like you just got to wake up and tell yourself this and tell yourself that and I tried it and it just didn’t

Do for me what apparently it was doing for her how is she doing though by going through life reminding herself that she’s a bad [ __ ] does it seem like it works for her um sometimes um I think sometimes she it works for her because she that’s what she believes like if you

Tell yourself something enough times I feel like your brain starts to believe it and so she like thinks that it works for her so she continues to do it the like evidence of it and seeing what she still texts me and calls me about isn’t really proving that’s what I was just

About to ask I’m wondering if everybody notices their girlfriends that talk to self- Lov I’m a bad [ __ ] and that cures everything method for self-growth is the one that’s always [ __ ] complaining to you about something that something is not going right even though being a bad [ __ ] and proclaiming that in the mirror

Every morning should cure it she’s one of those yeah absolutely right again Tay go ahead uh no I kind of lost my oh oh I was thinking about how many oh okay so you have to repeat something I believe it’s 50 or 60 times to create a habit

Right so if I so if I get up every day and I start running at 6 am. 60 days in a row I’m now going to be a runner so if I get up every day and I tell myself for 60 days in a row that I’m that I’m amaz

Like not not amazing at the cost of other people but I’m amazing because I because this is where I am this is who I am right accomplishments or just because of you just because I like but don’t you think it’s better applied to the first

Example that if you ran every day for 60 days now you’ve gotten yourself accustomed to running your body and mind knows that this is something you do because it’s an action as opposed to just saying something every day but a word is an action that’s your you’re

You’re sticking to your word only if it’s a verb words are not actions every relationship guy will go action speak louder than I mean I don’t I’m not too sure about if if that’s if that would really work because if someone’s walking around with a small penis they get in

The mirror every day they tell him they have a big [ __ ] big [ __ ] Co still going to have a small penis big [ __ ] Jimmy well maybe they would have to manifest [ __ ] is good enough for somebody cuz that’s the real problem right you’re with someone it’s making you feel like dick is

Not maybe you need to find the right person that thinks it’s I mean listen you know there’s girls with men that have micr penises and they are the happiest women that have ever existed and then there’s women take we’ve ever had on this show it’s not often it’s not often but there

Are people that love people for who they are wait I’m sorry did I wait did I just blank out did you say that there’s didn’t am I the only one that heard that are people didn’t you say there’s more women or an overwhelming amount of women

You just said there are some there are some people some women that like a micr penis yeah that not like like they’re not going out being like micr penis I want this no they’re they meet a man he has a micropenis but they still accept

Him because of who he is but that’s but Mark that was a [ __ ] great yeah I don’t know what you’re talking about that is a great I I was going to say I think it creates a be barrier from reality I think that’s just a generalized realization of like what

You’re saying of like if you put it out there you’re going to think it but in reality other people which it doesn’t matter what other people think but when it comes to like like you said like the cost of other people I think people do things in that way and keep it selfish

And then create that barrier and they think that they’re doing so well and they’re so above everyone else that it becomes toxic and it kind of brings me full circle and then I’ll let you go Ro but that kind of brings me full circle the small penis thing is I was saying

That we only realize like we we only realize how silly this can sound when a guy is the one that’s proclaiming that he’s the [ __ ] oh man there’s gonna be a big okay all right good good sorry I thought there’s gonna be a bunch of mics

Jingling around you did good no but it brings me full circle in that I started this off by saying we realize how silly some of this manifestation self- worship [ __ ] is when a dude does it because it’s like oh it’s just him flattering his own

Ego well it’s the kind of the same thing with a dude if a dude has a small penis and he or he’s really not good at sex or he’s deficient in any way like that that’s a scenario with a dude that really believes in himself and he’s you

Know patting himself on the chest like I’m that [ __ ] dude I [ __ ] the [ __ ] out of these girls while his girls like this is the worst sex I’ve ever had he’s the worst lover I’ve ever had and he’s a [ __ ] idiot because he thinks he’s the [ __ ] like that’s the reality like yeah

And also she’s not gonna be like your dick is so big I love your big [ __ ] she might but I mean if she cares like well I think it’s also about being for real like be so for real like obviously like that’s not realistic I’m

Not going to go and wish that I’m white I have I’m not gonna wish that because I know I’m sorry we jump to race now no no no no like what I’m saying is I I realize that like it’s unrealistic for me like it’ be the same thing as being

Like I wish I was white I’m going to get up every day and say I’m white I mean I’m half white but I’ll never look it right not that yeah so no you kind of look half it okay but the thing is right I’ll never be able to be fully white and

I that’s me being so for real right so like it’s also being realistic with your expectations about what you are asking of yourself and what you’re asking but you know what see like race is actually like being mixed race and struggling with that that’s actually a better

Example than all the [ __ ] we just talked about because everything we just talked about is like exterior [ __ ] like you’re going through a hard time in life you don’t work on yourself then you Proclaim that you’re the [ __ ] but like something like race makes more sense to

Like yo come to terms with the fact that like there’s no reason to prefer that you were more one or the other if you’re mixed race like we don’t always need to be like like we’re 25% Puerto Rican we got the logic thing going on where our

Puerto Rican relatives are like you know these boys think they’re Puerto Rican and then my grandmother’s like they are Puerto Rican and they’re like no they’re not like you know what I mean that’s something that’s easier to like there’s no real reason to struggle over that you

Are who you are you’re the you’re the race that you are you’re the mix of race that you are and matter of fact despite what the world tells you it’s not that big of a deal race isn’t really where you should get your identity from anyways that’s like but not your penis

Either I get my identity more about my race than someone would about their penis right I’m just saying I’m just being honest with yeah but I think that’s an easier thing to like rationalize than like you’re a failure in life for some people some people are failures in life trying to like wish

Success into existence by telling themselves that they’re the [ __ ] you know race is a little bit more subjective than that like it’s it’s for who to say some people think it’s great to be light-skinned some people make fun of light-skinned folks I had to ask my

Black friends why they do that I said hey why do you guys say that stop acting like skin I only heard that in movies but like you know what I mean like there’s all kinds of [ __ ] like that yeah no but I mean I still stand to the point

Like you’re talking about manifestation in the sense that you’re asking for unrealistic things yeah right I’m not going to ask for that because that’s unrealistic but what I might ask for right is that you know right now like today yesterday I’m having a hard time finding a job because I’m someone that

Speaks up for what I believe in and if things aren’t right you know I’m GNA say it so I got fired for my job because of that um but despite all that I’ve been manifesting that I will find the perfect job for me so that I can you know

Entertain my love of music and I just found that job by just simply believing that for the past two months it if you reject your race you’re rejecting an aspect of who you are that is not everything that you are assuming that your race is everything that you are

When you shouldn’t look at it like that in the first place whereas telling yourself you’re the [ __ ] if you’re unemployed is just Bonkers well I don’t think I’m the [ __ ] because I’m unemployed I think I deserve a better job than a job where I I wasn’t saying

That about you personally but go ahead Rob yeah there’s so much [ __ ] to unpack that I really want to talk about with this whole everything been listening to so one thing give five minutes give so you’re talking about you were saying that like you got the job you wanted

Right and not you were saying because you reiterated to yourself every day and you manifested it I put myself in good situation you put yourself in good situation so it doesn’t matter what you said to yourself you can say to yourself hey I’m gonna do the complete opposite

I’m gonna say I’m not getting this job so I don’t jinx it and you still got the job because you tried maybe what you said fueled you to go try but I mean we all sat here for like 15 minutes we all talked about whether we say stuff to

Ourselves or not basically reassuring ourselves if we’re doing the right things if we’re the [ __ ] or not and everyone I think at least on this panel said something about like when they were asked about the bad [ __ ] question like looking in the mirror so for some reason

It just it stru like struck me oddly that like a lot of people consider talking to themselves as in looking in the mirror when majority of people don’t sit there by themselves in a room with no TV on no music and they really just have a moment with themselves and really

Think you don’t have to look in the mirror to tell yourself you’re a bad [ __ ] you have to [ __ ] like see your physical self to sit back and not even sit there you don’t have to sit there and and just manifest and say I’m going

To do this and I’m this and I’m that to sit back and just be happy with who you are and be accountable you were saying a lot like you don’t have to be perfect you do not have to be perfect because no one is but being accountable is something you can control being

Accountable is something you can teach to your kids and it’s one of the biggest Tools in life so if you can sit there by yourself and not feel shame or regret that’s great but even if you do if you can self-reflect and be accountable you never made a mistake in the first place

A mistake is only a mistake if you never learned anything from it so just this conversation of listening to people talk about whether or not did they say these things themselves or not nothing really has to be said in general you’re going to be stuck with yourself for the rest

Of your life whether you’re in a relationship you have a huge family you’re by yourself you’re in jail all you’re ever going to have is you so at the same moment like it doesn’t matter what you say yourself it’s what you prove to yourself Kevin did a whole

Speech on this but it’s so true because it doesn’t matter like I know I use hockey as an analogy a lot but if I sucked at hockey and I was like I’m the greatest I’m I’m just like no one’s better than me no literally it wouldn’t

Necessarily make me better but if I knew in my head without saying it to myself reassuring it to myself that like I know I can get there and I use that as fuel to go out and try like you didn’t get the job because you said every day

You’re okay you didn’t get the job because you said every day like I’m gonna get this job I’ve specifically had job interviews where I’m like I would literally say to myself yeah I’m not getting this job because I didn’t want to jinx it it does not matter but the

Fact that you use your motivation within yourself nothing think said to yourself to go out in there and try proved it to yourself and so if you can prove it to yourself and then hold yourself accountable I think that’s yeah we we as a group actually we’re not going to say

What it is but we as a group actually just had the biggest failed manifestation ever you know what I’m talking about Danny and everybody was like this this this thing it’s already set in stone it’s already in the Stars we already got this we just have to say

We got this and he never talks like this and we were like yeah we got this we got this we got this got a little letter in the mail that said uh we don’t got this and the thing is too in the back of our

Heads we all kind of knew that there was a more likelihood of us not getting what we were hoping for than us getting it but I feel like the [ __ ] up thing about it is we just talked about people reassuring themselves about and like speaking it into existence it made it

Worse when it didn’t happen the fact that we were like got it made it 10 times worse even though like basically it was a process that’s hard to get into and we did our best and we got really far in it and it just didn’t really pan

Out out but the fact that we were like oh when we get there and when we do this when we do that tal related thing Talent rejection yeah and what do you yeah like what do you tell yourself in entertainment you know what I mean going

For an audition like I got this i got this i got this and Brian Cranston from Breaking Bad Walter White he had the advice that I always inherently knew from auditioning go in there and assume they’re not going to hire you yes because that way you can just perform

You can perform and you’ve already accepted that the likelihood of them picking you for this role is about that [ __ ] big it’s likely not going to happen excuse me under promise overd deliver is that yeah something like that yeah um so what I want everybody to know

Is that manifestation is not real sorry to tell you I still don’t agree with you I’m going to tell you a story before you you finish that okay well before you go just one quick so manifestation is actually a twisted concept so it’s not totally fake it is just a twisted

Concept so affirmations are not real the idea that you are going to wish things into existence law of attraction is though uh yes law of attraction is slightly different than like wishing things into existence um what’s more real is affirmations and that’s what I gave my

Speech on I said that um affirmations is more like the masculine version of manifestations Envision what you want maybe Envision it on a daily basis and then get the [ __ ] out of your mind and go after it begin the process of bringing what you pictured in your head

Into real life versus I mean if you guys aren’t like this cool but we all know people like this literally trying to manifest something out of thin air like it’s [ __ ] magic so that’s where we reach a point where women that believe this [ __ ] it’s so hard not to look at

Them like [ __ ] children because like a little kid is like hey I’ll just get what I want because I want it you’re like yo what are you talking about but affirmations is visualizing something so you’re meditating on it and you’re telling yourself if I can picture it I

Can go after it and I may be able to achieve it not if I can picture it it’ll happen to me that’s kind of like the book The Secret like picture something and it’s just going to come something I don’t believe in uh manifestation but I

Do believe in karma and what you do put into this world you do uh receive so that’s something I I believe other than man manifestation yeah I think it’s all a lot of technicalities with language as a language person like I have an English degree or no that was a difference in

Concepts definitely not a difference well I mean like for manifestation though I’m talking about like the way that people describe it like the what you’re talking about is like the extreme the far ex stream of manifestation I do not believe that I’m going to go outside

And be like a dog is going to appear in front of me that is not that’s not what I think but but this is in the culture and then the other thing is just assessing what your own like real value as a human being is just as a human like

To not know that as a human you kind of ain’t [ __ ] until you overcome human flaws is to actually think if you deserve something you should get it because you deserve it that’s that is narcissistic there’s no getting around that you deserve it if you prove to

Yourself that you deserve it by like working towards it and that is also a very positive thing and to know that you’re the individual that can put forth the action to get what you deserve is extremely positive but not quite as bland is I deserve it therefore I should

Get it now what if you think you deserve it and you never get it ain’t your self-esteem going to go back to being in the toilet well I think well okay you’re speaking about manifestation without action you’re always supposed to take action when you manifest you’re unaware

That manifestation of like [ __ ] out of thin air just cuz you’re a bad [ __ ] is so in the culture right now that’s like the over saturated version of Tik Tok that that’s like Tik tok’s version of manifestations but that’s why we’re talking about it CU Tik Tok

On the C it’s been stolen because I mean manifestation comes from native tribes it comes it’s far you know it comes it goes back um I’m not native so I don’t want to speak on that but um It’s Not Like A New Concept and it’s not just in

You know anyone religion it it appears in different religions in different religions in different ways um I think that manifestation is just I you have to take action I the way that people describe it now where you’re just like I’m like again I’m going to walk outside

And say it’s going to start raining obviously again be so for real but yeah if you take action and you say every day like I’m going to get that job and I’m taking action to do that I’m going to I’m putting myself in line with that and I’m also reaffirming that to myself

That’s simply manifestation it’s not not like oh wizard stuff like no but it it feels magical because like when you really start setting yourself up for success and that success follows you then you feel like yeah this [ __ ] feels [ __ ] magical right so that’s why it in the Tik Tok Community it’s become

Again and it’s become misconstrued in the Tik Tok community and it’s been defamed essentially because manifestation is we all do it we all do manifestation since we were born we’ve been doing manifestation oh I want a cookie so maybe if I just dop my eyes

And look at Mom and do some nice things and you know keep hoping that if I you know walk around and have a good attitude mom will give me a cookie mom might give you a cookie right we’ve been hoping for things our whole lives and it

A lot of times and another thing for manifestation is I really believe that if you’re not meant to to have something or it’s not aligned with you you won’t it won’t happen so for your stuff that didn’t come about I’m thinking that perhaps at another point there will be a

Better opportunity that will be better suited for all of you that will give you more than what you what what that might have provided you because there was something better so like for me manifestation it’s not it’s manifestation is not black and white so we did talk about that black and white

Thing it’s not for the simple sense that the way that certain people are viewing it it’s not it’s not connecting anymore it’s not aligning the what where originally coming from essentially the original idea of manifestation has been misconstrued yeah and real quick before Rock goes but what didn’t get

Misconstrued is my point that there are some things that are black and white and not gray and that’s one of them you can’t have your own interpretation of the process we just described you can call it what you want but what we call what we just described and what you just

Described is affirmations you visualize something you believe you can get it but you also go after it in order to get what you visualized so if you are the person that’s like well my own truth that I celebrate is that you can just wish things to into existence because

You’re a bad [ __ ] and that’s asinine so that’s something that is black and white okay no I agree right like there is no different way of interpreting that like I mean I okay well okay my grandma did tell me the other day she’s like you’re not as powerful as you think that was

Very um profound very profound I was like but I did I did kind of appreciate it offended me a bit but I appreciate it because I’m not as powerful yet but I will be and that’s well it’s just just yeah we’re not as powerful as we think

But it’s to me that’s kind of the difference between it’s humbling and it separates the difference between ambition and [ __ ] magic basically you know what I mean it’s like you’re not maybe we’re not as powerful as we think because we not there yet because we haven’t gone through the process you

Know of becoming the most powerful version of what we can become but there’s a difference between that and Magic rock you want to go getting excited about something Eden go before I change the whole time say earlier when you were talking it literally sounds like you believe in manifestation where

You literally look in the mirror and you believe whatever you say like I deserve this so I’m G to get it but then once you re explained that actions do follow that so you need the actions to go along it’s not just going to be the words that

Like is what’s going to make it happen in ter and then also like what Rocky said you have to like acknowledge your problems and everything that goes along with it in order to work towards what you have it’s not just going to be the words that will get you what you want

Right earlier what you said it literally sounded like you’re like oh I am perfect and I look in the mirror every single day and I tell myself I’m perfect so I am perfect so So speaking on that point because I feel like you had a topic for

Tonight we never really kind of got into because we’ve just spiraled on this topic of like what do we say to ourselves that all being said whether you look at yourself and you think you’re the baddest [ __ ] in the world whether you look at yourself and you say

I hate myself or you’re anywhere in the middle so moving forward how can you identify what’s something that you can work on from something that will never change and you can start with Caroline uh that doesn’t re explain that yeah what are you talking about how so all

Right it doesn’t matter because the topic of tonight was what it was people not willing to change because they’re looking for someone to tolerate them right yeah so instead of for those people that aren’t willing to change because all they do is they say I’m a

Bad [ __ ] I’m a bad [ __ ] it’s just what it is and you’re trying to move out of that how can you identify something that’s a problem rather than something that you can’t change for example she was talking about her skin tone like can’t change that’s a great question to

Ask everybody but I gotta butt in before they give a misinterpretation of it and say it can’t come from something they selfs they self assessed yes how can you change something that your lover your parent your Rel has been like you are [ __ ] me up and how can they actually

Take that into account and be like I need to change that versus being like I’ll just find somebody that’ll tolerate that because your own self assessment is always some stupid [ __ ] it’s always like I’m really been [ __ ] up multiple people’s lives by the way I behave might

Be my partner might be my parents might be the people that have to tolerate me but I need to work on getting a bed at a better time like I don’t mean to put nobody on blast man but I’ve had like a lot of back and forth arguments with my

Dad and [ __ ] and I’d be like yo what are some things you think you need to change I’m trying to change things about me and he’d be like I need to change my schedule you know I’m like dude we’re talking about personal interactions he’s like you know what I mean is that I

Don’t know if that’s that’s clear enough you’re asking me what’s one thing I could I have to change no no do you want to explain I got a good question I got a oh oh she all right take go question D it if it’s terrible [ __ ] you’re talking

About anyways um so my question is um and we’ll just go around and ask this you that one I I think he has the direct version yeah I have the direct version of this don’t worry Ro um name three and we’ll start with you sorry um and then

We’ll go around but um name three uh bad characteristics you have that you would be willing to change for your man okay one of them I know is just in general I’m an impatient person I need to work on my patience with boyfriend my parents children just people every dogs [ __ ] every I’m

Playing you I love you um patience um big notes I’m thinking sorry I’m just really trying to think can you reword it again what are three bad characteristics um that you would be willing to change for your man patience stubbornness and that’s who probably I’m going to

Call myself out jealous see we got three and you I’m going to take the stubborn one because I definitely think that I that’s something I got to work on but um my biggest thing I would say would be like controlling like having a certain expectation of how things are supposed

To go and being okay with them not going that way definitely in my top three um but then the last one I think would be knowing when to shut the [ __ ] up like just knowing when like if you’re having an argument or just even a conversation with somebody like once you know letting

Somebody say something and letting that just be the end of it and not having to have the last word or be right in the conversation um I want to reiterate uh the point about controlling very glad that you’ve discovered that how old are you 23 23 okay no that’s good um that’s

Good that you came across that um it took me years to get over being controlling not with girlfriends oddly like with everybody else around me uh bear in mind when you’re trying to control somebody you’re trying to change them which is telling them that they weren’t good enough to begin with

Because otherwise you wouldn’t have had to control things and change them people will always reject that and when you try to control a boyfriend and you try to change him he will never change he will keep doing the same [ __ ] he’s always done and try harder not to get yelled at

For it and then you’ll keep yelling because you’ll notice he ain’t doing the [ __ ] you want him to do that’s growth that’s excellent I mean like also like to piggyback off her I feel like I don’t think I’m like a controlling person but one thing that I need to work on when it

Comes to control is like I feel like and this my this what my therapist said is like from situations that I’ve been in I never had control in those situations and that’s what kind of like [ __ ] me up so then like going forward and never really like fixing myself and like

Healing myself from those things I always feel like no matter what the situation is I like need to have some kind of control I need to have the driver’s seat and like in reality I need to let him lead I need to understand that like just because like we have

Dinner reservations at 6 if we’re 10 minutes late that’s okay like I just like always feel like I need to be in like the need of like a control of like a situation and like if it doesn’t if it isn’t that way I’m like freaking out which also is probably why like so

Stupid but like I’m scared of planes I’m not driving the plane I’m out of control of them like I feel like that’s something that I need to work on 100% Serenity I like what you said about expectations because you ever heard the expression don’t have high expectations because then you won’t get disappointed

So that was a very good point and I’m glad you noticed that about yourself because not a lot of people can admit that yeah it’s extremely helpful [ __ ] man a lot of people think that it’s natural and it’s okay to be controlling I was one of them including and I never

Realized about myself cuz I never tried to control women but I would try to control everything else around me when you try to control things is because you think you know best which is already kind of like treating yourself like a god putting yourself up on a pedestal

And if everybody can get down like me things will go better because I’ve got the best ideas and sometimes you honestly do sometimes you got great ideas sometimes if everybody followed your lead in a certain respect things would go a little bit more according to plan but you never fully have control of

Life people you love or mother [ __ ] anything so trying to maintain maintain control is nothing but suffering so it’s cool that you real quick sorry what made you realize that because that’s so hard for people to realize I think getting out of my most recent Rel relation you

Tred to control frat boy oh you learned you learned he was like botskis he was like no roll it down the couch uh better communication okay I would be as far as like being clear clearer communication that’s the better way of saying it instead of like beating

Around the bush just like getting to the point and being like this is what’s making me unhappy that’s that’s it leaving it there um realistic expectations I think kind of the same thing that you guys are kind of like getting at is just like you know

Knowing who my part I don’t have a boyfriend but like knowing who my partner is and knowing like this is who they are so I can either accept it or I can leave it and that’s that’s just got that’s just those are the only two options there are there’s no because I

Don’t want to be changed so I’m either going to walk away or accept it um and then a third one probably better active listening which is kind of hard for me to admit but I like kind it’s hard when you’re self obsess right okay [ __ ] with you I’m [ __ ] with

You no I know her I love I’m [ __ ] with you um I just sometimes like I do zone out so like I’ll just like you know if someone’s sharing something that I can’t like resonate with I I will I will be the person that start scrolling on my phone or like

Thinking about other things um so I know that when I do get a partner that that’s something that that I want to make sure I’m doing from the beginning active listening okay Eden um well I would say the first one that came to mind was uh needing reassurance which we talked about last

Time is like I need to like learn better that like I don’t need that much reassurance from the guy especially over text like uh things like that I agree but if he says yep [ __ ] up not the big one or just K yeah um imp I’m very impatient person

I’ve always been that way and then also stubborn but I want to like go off that is that also being very just open-minded like if my partner tells me something that I need to change like I need to be open enough to understand that that is a

Fault of mine and change it and rather than just looking at myself like no that’s the way I am and like I can’t change that I need to look at it and be like more open or even like my family like if they tell me like you’re being a

Brat you need to like change your opinion like I don’t know just change the way that I’m acting or something I have to be more open-minded and change it rather than just being stuck in my ways being open-minded keeps you from looking back years from now and being

Like damn I was [ __ ] up because like when you get older you realize it yourself anyway especially when parents are telling you that [ __ ] because you’ll eventually get to that point and notice it anyway um no I would agree with like the controlling aspect I sh up on the mic oh

You’re good sorry um sorry I moved it it’s okay so I three things I know so the controlling thing I have a problem with attention I like it’s either too much or too little and it’s definitely something I’ve been working on I have somebody giving you attention the kind

Of attention you accept from a guy yes like well no like if it’s my boyfriend like I get like annoyed if it’s too much attention but then I get annoyed if it’s too little like I’m very bad with that and I’ve like recognized that and I’m working on you know not letting that

Affect me I don’t know why that’s just something yeah that’s called Never being satisfied that’s tough no it’s tough I mean listen it’s a pretty girl thing you’re a pretty girl that’s something you’re going to deal it so you know about it what do you mean where do you

Go from there that’s called Never being satisfied not too much too little there’s no perfect then no dude’s going to have this perfect like gray area basically you want you want the perfect dose which is hard to ask for within a relationship but that’s what I’m saying

Like I’ve just always had like a weird thing with attention and so I don’t know how to accept it but I also want it I’m working on that um and then I think like the reassurance thing of like accepting that like it’s like it the love is there

But I don’t need the constant like you know attention yeah I guess that goes along the same line but um let’s go how we doing on time wind back this we’re doing good do you have one more or no there two no that was three that was

Three um let’s uh go around one more time um starting with you round away um so we talked about a lot of [ __ ] are any of you struggling to deal with yourself starting with you you do you struggle to deal with you yeah I pissed

Myself off a lot you can go into detail and not going into detail but it’s I mean it’s up to you I just get like really frustrated with myself like I like look back at situations I’m like I wish you did that better I wish you handled that differently I wish you said

That instead of saying that like I definitely struggle to like deal with myself but every day I try to work on that Sierra you struggle to deal with yourself ever I would say that I struggled with that for a long time until recently like getting out of my

Most recent relationship this is the first time I’ve been alone or single in almost 10 years so I think that that whole time was 23 yeah like yeah close 14 15 was when I had like my first boyfriend we dated until I was 18 was relationship hopping yeah so I think

This is being the first time that I’m actually like alone and taking the time to work on myself and dig a little bit deeper than just surface level with a relationship it’s been hard but it’s not something that I’m trying to push away from them more so trying to figure out

What’s bothering me and how to get through it you’ve learned so much from this breakup that you just had like you like when every time we go around you’re like from this I learned this it’s like you’ve learned a lot it the people who have known me like when I first started

Dating this guy to now it’s crazy the way people tell me that I act and just like look different yeah in a good way but you didn’t look like before yeah you look like Daphne no I don’t know if she looked like dafan she might have looked like a different cartoon character it’s

Always changing with this one she’s doing great um do you struggle to deal with yourself to uh yeah also side note s are you from Montville High School right do what what year did you graduate yeah I think we went to high school together what year did you graduate 2018 yeah we graduated

The same year we walked the same stage yeah yeah what school do you go to wait don’t tell me that later don’t tell me that’s crazy because I said y’all both look like VMA when when she walked in I said that she was familiar I said the

Two velas yeah um what do I struggle well I want to be in a relationship but I’ve struggled to like find the right person so I think one thing that I would I’ve been really working on is like I mean I know the whole conversation we’ve had but one thing that’s really been

Helping me the past few months is just not not hearing the voices of other people you know like I take I value the opinion of other people way too much and that’s something that I really have to work on but that’s okay so that’s but do you do you struggle to deal with

You yes because of the way I think other people perceive me okay so it’s like I think I guess I’d have to work on not worrying about other people think about me but that’s something that really especially men no no no we can move going down the couch first I’ll come

Back to you Eden do you struggle to deal with you um I would say sometimes but I think opposite of you I take the opinions of others and change based on that like in a positive way I think prior me would have said like yes absolutely but now I feel like I’m more

Open in terms of um I’m willing to like take a step back and be like oh [ __ ] no I was in the wrong like I don’t know something like that wait did I answer that question did anything that encompasses you and you you struggling to deal with

You anytime you’re hard for yourself to deal it yeah but I think so yes but I’m very open about like taking a step back and changing it if I’m hard to deal with like so for example if I’m having like an argument with someone I used to

Always like want to be right and want to win but now I’m kind of like no like it’s fine like take a step back you don’t need to and like changing it okay you listed off some difficult uh traits that you that you have in terms of what

You seek in a man because that’s like walking that fine line can he be like a perfect middle ground and [ __ ] um but just you and you do you struggle to deal with you ever like are you ever a pain in the ass for yourself I would say no

I’m like in a certain way I’m content with who I am and I do accept that I’m going to go throughout life doing things that I might not always like future me would disagree with but I feel like everyone just has to work through those things and deal with their own problems

And accept that it’s going to come either way like throughout life life is just a struggle in general and I struggle with things in life but I’m content with who I am and yeah okay well what I want to point out here is something that’s good for an

Introspective way of looking at yourself because it’s very hard for a lot of us to do that and we all have to do that in order to be a benefit to whoever we’re with when we have a partner and to not be a burden on them so most of the girls

Generally said not all of you but most of you generally said you do struggle to deal with yourself for various different reasons so if you struggle to deal with yourself why wouldn’t a man struggle to deal with you he would as long as you always keep that in

Mind you’re never too perfect and always right and he’s always wrong we all struggle with ourselves but when we figh in somebody else especially when we fight in our partner we’re always right because that’s where Pride makes us forget that we struggle to deal with ourselves side note I also struggle to

Deal with myself I’m a wild character for myself to deal with see the thing is I feel like with that like I mean I did just say like I am content with myself there are certain things about me when it comes to like you like you said in a

Relationship but at the same time I’m open to hearing you know like if I’m annoyed with something I would want him to listen to what I’m saying and then him say his part and me take that into my mind you know what I’m saying yeah like that’s where I’m like I’m content

With the way I deal with certain situations I might not be content with every like trait that I have but it’s not like a battle you know yeah that’s not bad all right go ahead Mark are we might going into my segment or yeah go ahead you you asked to get

The mic I just wait till I go through my rounds with the girls um no I think I asked my question already to be honest with you I’m all we all out of Super Chat I got a I got a question so you guys all talked about things that you

Kind of feel that frustrates you about yourselves do your friends validate those things to you so you don’t do that do they validate your do they validate your your short Comics or do they tell you that’s all right you a bad [ __ ] no I ask my friends tell me the truth and

Do they um yes your friends tell you when you’re [ __ ] up you tell her when she’s [ __ ] up she does right there that’s my so right there’s my proof she will tell me and what I will tell her I like to surround myself with people that

Are going to build me up that are going to make me a better person because you are who you are friends with I told my kids that all the time my the kids I teach I’m like you are who you’re friends with so if I associate with

People that are liars I’m a liar so I want people who are going to tell me the truth about myself and the world around me so yeah my friends do tell me the truth and does it hurt my feelings absolutely but do I appreciate that absolutely it’s worth it I got a

Question for the new new guests um real quick let’s finish this one hold on hold on to it because he just started one um you have friends that hold you accountable SRA so I was just going to say I have two friends that I usually go to when there’s

Problems there’s the one who will be upfront and honest with me and tell me that I need to deal with my [ __ ] and look in the mirror and then there’s the one who manifests every day and who wants me to look at myself like I’m a better person so I think it honestly

Like I might go to her if like I’m feeling down to get her to kind of like hype me up a little bit but then I’ll go to my other friend to actually talk about the [ __ ] and realize like okay I’m actually the problem sometimes oh you got friends that hold you accountable

Now yes they tell you like y will you know you might be upset but you’re the one that did this that and the third yeah and you as well except I don’t I can’t see you getting into much trouble like what do you really do for someone

To be like yo you [ __ ] up U well I don’t know just like do it for the plot moments but it’s like my fault so like my friends will be like like you’re the one that text it do it for the what do it for the plot so sometimes do it for

Divine do it for the plot the plot 2024 the plot just to like add maybe maybe be like a little dramatic just to add to the story what you know the story of your the plot of a movie the plot of a story you know like when you write a

Story like the do for the plot of your life story you want to have a boring life story or a fun life story oh Jesus what’s your book about do you want to get old and tell your kids that you just sat at home doing nothing or do you want

To tell them you took you did some crazy stuff sometimes yeah and then do you got friends that hold you accountable or they always tell you you’re right I have one friend that always tells me campy Nicole is it yeah she’s the one that tell you like yo you’re being too much I

Mean like Nicole if you’re watching this I love but sometimes she’ll um if I’m like upset she’ll be like no it’s okay like they’re wrong she’s the validator and then you have which which is why sometimes like I will don’t really talk about things like that with her

Sometimes no hate I love you so much no that’s cool and then Maria is the one that holds you oh yeah yeah so uh one of the best and then I’ll let markco but one of the best examples of like when this becomes wild is like when you cheat

On your boyfriend not saying anybody here is a cheater but like girls will cheat on their boyfriends there’s much less friends these days much less female friends that are like yo what the [ __ ] are you doing you just ruined a relationship there’s more that’s likew was he not giving you enough attention

Well was he a good enough man to not be cheated on while you were doing what you needed to do and living your truth and you’re a bad [ __ ] always [ __ ] a bad [ __ ] no I’m not cheating my friends would slap me in the face yeah not cheating I’m not gonna nobody’s nobody

Nobody here has a close friend they could tell I cheated on my boyfriend she’s goingon to be like he wanted [ __ ] anyways you did your thing side note that’s how majority of women expect male friends to act when a male does that which is also not the truth that’s a

Great point it’s like that’s why sometimes girls like and maybe you guys are growing out of this but we always had a big crew of guys and the girlfriends always hated damn it’s okay um yeah we always had like a big group crew of friends and the girlfriends of the crew always

Feared us because they would like see me with a bunch of girls and they’d be like he’ll like influence my man to cheat or if he wanted to cheat Kev won’t be the guy to check him and be like you got a good girl at home also I think you know

Know the difference between a friend who would validate you and a friend who would tell you the truth in terms of if you tell them you did something bad are you scared of what they’re gonna say and it’s like that’s a great point will they be disappointed in you yes and it’s like

If I tell my best friend like oh I just did this again like I know that she’ll like yell at yell at me and like put me in my place hold you accountable hold me accountable exactly so I’d be like scared to tell her but I’d tell her

Still you know no well if Eden cheated on a good dude and you were kind of like you thought it was a good fit would you how would you would you say d her I’d hope you [ __ ] yell at me I’d be like what like what was the reason then you’d

Probably give a reason I’d be like that’s not a good enough reason like you sure you wouldn’t be like that’s a pretty legit reason no valid like I think thing absolutely I have had friends come to me and be like I [ __ ] up and I was like but like they would

[ __ ] up and I’d be like yeah like you know in that case there’s for cheating I think there’s no reason to cheat I think if you’re really feeling down bad in that relationship that you needed out just break up with the person break up oh I probably should have I was going to

Say like shout out against Nicole positive thing about her is like she told me like she it just came up like a conversation I wasn’t ever talking about it but she was like if you ever cheated on anybody in your life like no matter what I would not be your friend anymore

And I believe that she’s a person deep yeah she told me she straight up told me like you know like if you did or like Caitlyn did or anyone else did like I should have would never be your friend in there are certain people the reason

Is so bad to validate cheating there are so there are certain people that take loyalty so seriously I’ve heard businessmen talk about I won’t do business with a guy that admitted to me that he cheated on his wife because if he’ll [ __ ] over his wife he’ll [ __ ] me

Over on a deal yeah that’s same thing with your friends if you have like you said if you have a friend that’s a cheater more likely if you’re gonna [ __ ] up your mans [ __ ] over your mans they’re gonna [ __ ] over you yeah exactly I think that’s where she was coming from it’s

Also very like extreme like extreme situation whereas like say I texted somebody who like okay so say I got cheated on in a relationship and then I ended up texting him like for the plot what would that friend say like would she validate it and be like oh like it’s okay or would

She be like no Eden why the [ __ ] are you texting him yeah and this happened recently didn’t it not that situation I have’t been cheated on but it’s different situation you hit somebody up that cheated on you recently no not that cheated on me oh okay I thought that was

Coming from life no you had something Mark just swing that over quick when you swing it just boom all right sorry it’s hard to yeah yeah just do it quick same thing when you pass it back young lady um you said you were traumatized by therapy correct yeah and then you also

Said you had borderline personality um therapy would help with that just GNA let you know don’t have one bad experience with one therapist yeah that will cause your Insight on uh on therapy and then I also think and I want to ask both of y’all this because we already

Asked these girls this question um I think um no therapy equals no self-work with equals which equals no forgiveness towards those you hate have you for given those you hold resentments towards um yes I so I took on this mentality recently that in order to forgive other people I need to start

Forgiving myself genuinely and it comes back to you I’m sorry but when I make a mistake I I have if I can’t forgive myself I can’t forgive other people right so so you haven’t for okay can you repeat the qu repeat the question have you forgiven those that you’ve hold

Resentments towards not have you forgiven yourself for hating them have you forgiven them because what we said to them uh two episodes ago was that if you do not forgive these other people that you have resentments for one you could be mad at someone who can die

Tomorrow and they can be you can be mad at someone who’s dead and two it hurts yourself more than it hurts them yeah I did actually I so I I like to get stuck on Tik Tok and that is one thing that constantly pops up is that in order to

Have a better life I need to start forgiving people and that is really hard for me um wow you found the right algorithm um but it’s only because the people that I struggle to forgive have done some really almost unforgivable things right like as far as like my mother like we

We’ve kind of talked about that but like that’s harder it’s harder to to forgive someone who was supposed to be there for me and take care of me and protect me when they failed that so that’s that so I will admit that that’s one person that

I struggle to forgive and I don’t know if I will ever be able to fully forgive her that’s the most important person right and that’s the sucky part but as far as like when friends [ __ ] me over or even like other family members like exoy ex-boyfriend like you know the guy I

Went to see in Nebraska like that really hurt me what he did he Fu but I I forgive him and I hope he really does have a good life because I deserve good life so I I hope he has a good life you know it usually all starts with the

Mother especially because you’re a woman yourself and if you don’t forgive her you take on her identity and her negative traits like does your mother have bitterness um she does does she does does she have anger yeah she does she had she had a rough so she has bipolar

So she just my family did not know how to deal with that when she was and is there a chance that she had a rough relationship with her mother oh absolutely so we got two things in common she had a rough situation with her mother she has a mental illness

Bipolar different from borderline but I mean it’s it’s all mental illness Y and now we’ve passed it down three times well not the bipolar no not the specific of it but like all it’s all mental illness and it’s all bitterness and it went down the chain three

Generations three women yeah so when we talk about breaking the cycle that’s another thing that girls just say because it sounds good to say and I’m not criticizing you on this I’m just like cluing you in on something I’ve heard so many girls that are just like

Their mother who was just like the grandmother all Angry all deal with the same [ __ ] that’s trauma passed down gener generationally talk about I’m going to be the one to break the cycle when I have kids just because it’s something you hear said and it sounds

Like cute to say but they’re like living the exact same [ __ ] but it’s not that they don’t intend to they don’t realize they taken on their mother’s identity and their mother took on their grandmother’s identity and that’s three generations okay but I I mean okay for me personally so you’re saying

Forgiveness I’m working on it because it’s a process it was a really [ __ ] up situation I mean that it was really [ __ ] up um I think that I have broke a lot of gener generation curses because I’m the first generation to go to college I’m the first generation to not

Have an illegitimate child I’m the first to get my own apartment on my own without a man I’m the first to have my own car my own uh you know job again without a man um so right there I’ve already started breaking the gener generational curses and obviously when I

Start to forgive that’s probably going to be like the key um but I I don’t necessarily think that they’ve passed on I don’t think they’ve passed on I’m not bitter I’m hurt and I have I deserve boundaries and that’s that’s kind of word that I have set boundaries I

Wouldn’t say I’m bitter I’ll say real quick before you go that hurt leads to bitterness and anger and suffering and it starts innocently and also that boundaries is different from forgiveness like you could have for you say like forgive but don’t forget like I’ll never

Forget you [ __ ] me over but I do forgive you for it there is a difference I’m just cluing you in on that go ahead Ro just have one question for you so you said don’t think you can forgive someone unless you forgive yourself first correct well if I know how to forgive

Myself that’s kind of yeah how do you go about forgiving somebody when in all reality you don’t need to forgive yourself because you did nothing wrong not saying that’s going to be the case all the time but for example um I had a friend of mine that lived here and I

Didn’t do anything to him and before he left and moved to Florida he robbed like $800 from me didn’t even know was happened till he didn’t even know what happened till I was till he was gone I forgave him I really don’t give a [ __ ] at this point but it was something where

I didn’t have to forgive myself because I didn’t do anything to him so how would you go cuz you said I have to forgive myself before I forgive this person how do you go about forgiving somebody when you don’t need forgiveness of yourself first that’s that seem tough to you I

Yeah it is tough because I I often find myself in situations with people who refuse to take all the blame so I don’t know if necessarily I’m I’m how much will you win when somebody else takes all the blame what will you gain just that you get to keep your pride intact

Well that’s not a real prize yeah I don’t really I mean I don’t want to I don’t want to win every argument that’s yeah that’s I mean I didn’t get anything from it God I was gonna say sometimes people don’t see a problem in their own actions so it’s hard to forget

No wait I don’t know but it’s it’s hard to justify a situation when they don’t see a problem with what they’re doing so in like personal situation I’d get frustrated because they won’t see the issue but I do I think for so for your situation I’ve I mean I’ve had a similar

Like people have stolen from me and stuff right and part of it is like well why did I let that type person in my life which I mean like that’s I I’m not trying to say that’s your situation but for me I’m like if I’m around somebody

That just stole from me or did something horrible to me there were signs ahead of time so so I have to forgive myself part how you forgive yeah I I’m forgiving myself for allowing that not necessarily that it’s inherently like I’m a bad person because I did but because like I

Shouldn’t have done that but I’m going to forgive myself because like I know I Des better and I forgive you because I deserve better and goodbye and then that’s it but I shouldn’t have let that part because there’s signs there’s always signs I feel like sometimes it’s

It’s not about overthinking it and being like well could be because of this could be because of that see I could have hid the money in different in a different place I could have not had people around like that but genuinely in my opinion even now even forgiving him after like

It wasn’t that hard for me to forgive him anyway but not a bad person not a bad dude I bring this up though because it’s easy to talk about when it’s like something materialistic like money but say if it’s a man that you spent a long relationship with and that you gave your

All to and you did necessarily in your head everything right and he goes out and he cheats on you and you feel like I got to Fig forgive myself first maybe technically your point of like maybe I chose the wrong person comes about more in a relationship scenario but say if he

Genuinely is just a good dude and he went cheating on you regardless anyway how do you go about forgiving somebody in that fashion because it’s more serious it’s more hurtful it’s more painful to you and you don’t really need to go into a whole spiel about how to

Explain that but just like I I was just curious um how would I forgive someone that she I don’t know I mean and if they weren’t bad that’s your homework for tonight yeah I’ll have to think I mean it it’s hard for me because it’s like I

Mean if somebody went out and cheated on me because I’ve been cheated on I mean I thought they were great but then hindsight’s always 2020 and I’m like but the signs were kind of there you know what I mean like I thought they were great they they they made themselves

Seem great but hindsight was 2020 and now like it it’s but it’s harder and again that’s where the for me the forgiving comes in where it’s like it it’s seem so blatantly clear that they were going to do that like why didn’t I see that but like in the time like I

Want to believe the best in people so like I guess part of me will have to forgive myself for believing the best in people all the time too or forgive yourself for the fact that I’m sure certain ways you’ve acted in life in certain ways you’ve dealt with people in Intimate situations

You probably acted up due to your mental illness I know about bipolar bip or sorry even worse than bipolar borderline borderline is a [ __ ] borderline is especially in in relationships now I don’t know how you get down you’re an absolute sweetheart honestly you don’t even seem like you got borderline to me

Maybe that’s because I never dated you but if I did maybe I’d see it come alive but uh most women I’ve known what borderline man do they forgive themselves instantly for every [ __ ] mess that they ever made because of the borderline and maybe simultaneously your mother forgives herself and and takes

All the blame off of whatever she put you through due to her own due to her own mental illness not yet markate the Forgiveness question please can I reiterate the Forgiveness question CH forgiveness question go ahead Rocky wasn’t paying attention just [ __ ] do it um have you forgiven th those that you

Resent I think it took me a long time to get to a point where I realized that’s what I needed to do to get better because I actually have a similar situation where I don’t really get along with my mom and it took me a long time

Where I honestly hated her and I hated myself because I was like her and once I got to a point where I realized that I had no control over her and what she had done to me or what she was going to do in the future that letting go of that

Had felt so good I’m still going through it obviously I don’t forgive her 100% yet but starting to forgive feels a lot better than holding on to the hate and all of that comes with it well said yeah I forgave my mother after the last time

I thought about how much I resented her for like an entire eight hours while we were doing the movie I had to drive Uber exclusively to keep myself out of work to to do the movie so those are long nights on the road where if you can’t

Detach from your your thoughts you live in your thoughts and there was like an entire shift like morning tonight I thought about how much I cannot stand this woman and it was like kind of the first time it came together I’m like that’s a lot that’s a lot to just and

Also it brings back into the idea of not treating ourselves like God like there does reach a point where I’m like who the [ __ ] am I like who the [ __ ] am I like I can put in detail just how [ __ ] up somebody besides me is I can because

You know when we resent somebody we can come up with a [ __ ] speech and a list of everything that is [ __ ] up about the person that we resent because we know so much better and we’ve never made mistakes that are similar now the thing that we tend to let ourselves off the

Hook of with parents is I don’t have kids right so the thing that we tend to let ourselves off of the hook with in respect to parents is like I never put a child through the same [ __ ] so I’m automatically better than you but I also

Never got a girl pregnant we ain’t have a kid so um you know I don’t have a kid so like I could have just as easily accidentally had a kid when I was young and [ __ ] up that kid’s life because I was too young to raise a parent to raise

A kid or be a parent I never went through the same [ __ ] um but when I forgave my mother I just want you to know that there is something interesting especially about saying it out loud that in that moment they’re never usually goingon to say I’m sorry also and you

Don’t say I forgive you because that sounds condescending because they’re going to be like what the [ __ ] are you saying I did you say I’m sorry for resenting you and in that moment the way my mother took it was uh well that’s nice of you to say that Kevin but the

Thing is is I was actually never wrong for anything everything was your dad’s fault and where that used to pissed me off there was something in that moment that I’d finally let that off my chest and I’m looking at her going she is full of [ __ ] but it’s kind of the only way

She knows how to be and she doesn’t know she’s like that and she doesn’t mean it and I and it’s for her for being naive to it [ __ ] it I’m like [ __ ] it it’s okay forgiving her for being naive to it was was absolutely huge in that can I say

Something go ahead cuz like I said last time like I try to not be like my mother because she has some she my mom’s a narcissist as well and I’ve had to not like like we talked about not forget but accept that that’s the way that it is

And it’s the sad fact but it’s either we can work forward and deal with it and accept that this is what it’s going to be and at the end of the day it is our mother and it sucks but at the same time as we can change that cycle yeah and uh just

To reiterate this real quick and I hope you guys don’t mind that I’m I’m saying this stuff just Mom will never watch this she doesn’t watch any of our stuff all right but no but this is just just being for real a lot of us struggle with

The same thing so like my main topic I I’ll bring this up on another show with like a rowd or group when we run out of Caroline’s like wonderfully wholesome friends uh because you guys are just I mean I’m I’m surprised man you guys are wonderful and I appreciate at such young

Ages how much everybody’s delved into themselves even the way that we disagree on certain things like you obviously like I know you’re you’re always looking within to try to discover something and it’s whatever you’re doing right now even if it’s [ __ ] I disagree with seems to be working for you and you’re

Wonderful so my main topic was are we looking to overcome our problems or are we searching for someone who will tolerate our problems with no complaints now interestingly my mother wonderful person well-meaning riddled with problems will not take accountability for anything she is ever put anyone through ever same with my grandmother

Grandmother is wonderfully loving will’ll give you the shirt off her back but also due to her faults that she’s never dealt with has put a lot of people through [ __ ] similarity with both of them because you always find a woman like your mothers as is my dad’s mom and

Then my mom is the woman he chose both of them instead of ever working on their problems went and found a man that is just down with whatever problems they’re unwilling to deal with wow um true and that is an option but it’s also like we can also overcome our problems so that

We’re better people for our partners and I think that’s something men always feel a little bit more inclined to do because you guys and it’s kind of cool that you’re conscious of the things that you’re conscious about because women unfortunately are not really raised on

The notion of become a good woman for a man but we are raised on the notion of the best and most important thing you can become is a good man for the woman in your life and when you [ __ ] up in life that’s always in the back of your

Head like even if [ __ ] goes wrong with a girl and a lot of it was her fault wherever your faults are if you’re somewhat conscious of trying to be a good man like the people in your life generally tried to raise you to be and like the the culture suggests to us

There’s always something in the back of your head right as a dude you’re like [ __ ] I would let a woman down you know what I mean like I [ __ ] like it was my job to be a little bit more perfect so the notion of as a woman you’re never

Wrong about nothing ever is the total total opposite so I’m glad that you guys don’t agree with most of what we just said and I hope I don’t get a phone call from the family about any of that [ __ ] that that could be bad what I just said

Actually I didn’t think about how bad that was till I said it clip that [ __ ] it um love my family though I mean [ __ ] it do we have any more final topics I have one fun one to end the show any super chats guys my computer died okay

Mark take take the mic for the rest of the show do you do you have a question because if you don’t I got one no no no but I’m no we’re good this can be like a fun go around you can either give a Spiel or you can just give an answer

What is the most toxic social media platform not only to relationships but to mental health into everything else you want to start yes I believe Tik Tok um I agree I actually did a research topic on this but I feel like Tik Tok is one of those platforms that kind of came

Out and it was just like this giant thing that like so many people on are on and it does like I talked about before it skews like when girls come on there they’re influencers they don’t have a problem in their life well I mean you know they have problems but like they

Don’t show them yeah and it makes it seems so set in stone of it’s easy you know but it’s just not and it gives that wrong impression yeah they say comparison is a thief of joy and most girls especially in your guys’ age demographic they compare themselves to

Other people on social media and the [ __ ] up thing about doing that is everyone’s only going to post their best angles their best experiences their best times their best looks whatever the case may be and you don’t see any of their problems so when you look at it from

Your perspective with all your problems and all your insecurities and all the things that you think about in your head and you compare yourself to that that’s what really causes like detrimental damage because that person is not posting all the problems you can see you can be in a relationship that maybe

Necessarily you’re not happy with and compare it to a relationship of oh my God they took a picture on Christmas in front of the Christmas tree so I wish I had that but little do you know that entire night all they did was argue and scream at each other and he smacked her

And and I like how I like how you brought up comparison because I feel like that also aligns with um not believing in your thoughts because believing in your thoughts is believing in the devil because the bad thoughts you get in your head are from the devil

Absolutely and I also took my most romantic social media po post pictures with the the top thoughts none of it oh yeah Kev you you need to stop real was terrible there was a couple wholesome ones but time into the Tik Tok thing too it’s the it’s the scrolling of it too

That that I really hate of it it’s like you will get sucked into the do without you thinking and before you know it you’re like holy [ __ ] it’s 3 in the morning like what the [ __ ] just happened so yeah Tik Tok in general like for what the content is on there for the

Algorithm and the system of scrolling I that’s my piic before we go around the room like can everybody like just show a hands does everybody think it’s Tik Tok the most toxic um social media for social media and general for a relationship no no just correlate to

Anything in general in general yes Tik Tok in a relationship CH Snapchat Snapchat but that’s more but that’s more so just because it’s like a better tool for cheating because the the nudes disappear right and the messages I mean yeah I never thought about that the

Cheating tool because it dis Tik Tok you don’t think is the most toxic no I agree you agree Tik Tok in general yeah in general yes and and Tik Tok is my least favorite it’s just the one that get us the most views but I look at it the

Least that’s because I’m a dude it is a very feminine feminist it’s more geared towards women is it or is that what your algorithm is pushing you no but you know a lot of dudes do do you know a lot of like do you know do you know a lot of

Dudes that are just [ __ ] jazzed up on Tik Tok like like they’re they’re posting or they’re just watching you ever been in a room full of [ __ ] dudes you guys and they’re like dude this [ __ ] Tik Tok is BU yeah no I’m sorry dude it’s the day and

Age of Technology bro like sometimes I be hanging with Luka and he’s on Facebook and I’m like dude I’m like yo you you there no but Tik Tok specifically Facebook up a video and be like yo like this is [ __ ] hilarious look at this

Do you think Tik Tok is the [ __ ] oh [ __ ] no question for the ladies real quick while we’re on the topic of Tik Tok do you think Tik Tok is feminizing men what no I think social media is feminizing I well yeah social media I feel like I’ve never seen men act like

On social media in this fashion other than on Tik Tok with like the dancing and all the other stuff I don’t know I feel like it’s more it’s like femin inherently a feminite though oh here we go it’s well I know if you’re belly dancing and that’s like a feminine thing

Like yeah but they got the skill to do it though and they no I’m not saying it’s not skill but take away the skill and the incentives and the money it’s just like what about what about a guy who makes Tik toks at the gym like about

Going to the gym and workouts Thinkin no no no no I don’t think that’s feminine yeah no it’s not inherently feminine I to be to be frank with you I’m not quite sure if I think you think it’s feminizing men I don’t know if it’s feminizing men I think there’s more so

Ideas I think it’s the least I you don’t have to be overly masculine but I think it’s the least masculine platform for men if that makes sense that is not to intended to sound bad but do you get my point yeah they could be like making Tik

Toks of like their day and they’re in the mirror they’re like do you think men making Tik toks that’s more like unless it’s comedy or like never styled my hair depends on the content okay but yeah and I just wonder why that’s again like why

Is it I don’t know cuz I mean there are women that get on and they they do they do power lifting and they do racing and I’m not I’m not even saying that’s masculine well no but I’m just wondering like what what what do you mean by like

I was actually going to say I don’t want to say that I necessarily disagree unless you have a point with that men are being feminized but I don’t think it’s from Tik Tok videos me I don’t think it’s from Tik Tok videos but I mean like you won’t even see a dude most

Dudes like take a selfie on Instagram and like dudes on Tik Tok will do a lot more and they’ll do a lot more when I say Feminine it doesn’t have to be like them in a [ __ ] crop top with their shirt tied up but like it’s more into

Like the feminine culture of like I’m just G to say real quick my caveat is it’s the whites doing that the black guys are still masculine on Tik Tok that is true I think it revolves around too the fact that there’s so many influencers who are getting paid to do

Basically jack [ __ ] that guys are like most of them are women you know the influenc that Alex ear you know whatever they see girls like that doing crazy [ __ ] and getting paid for it so they’re like why the [ __ ] not do you think that

Would make them go on Tik Tok and go hey I need to act like them which may be a little bit more feminine or just go on Tik Tok in general maybe not act like them but they know that they have a little bit more flexibility to do dumb

[ __ ] whether it’s feem feminine or masculine whatever they have more room to do the reason why I bring it up is because Caroline’s big into Tik Tok and she showed me videos of like you know if like a trend is trending and it’s mostly like females doing it there’ll be a lot

Of men doing the exact same Trend and to me it’s kind of feminine like a certain Trend with like a certain dance and like you’re like I don’t know like what but dude my favorite thing that Sly ever said in a movie was when the girl asked

Him him uh you don’t dance and he’s like I don’t dance she goes well you don’t dance so what do you do and he’s like if I wasn’t a gentleman maybe I’ll tell you tough guys don’t dance and I was like thank Christ I have like something to uh

Validate the fact that I never learned to dance the reason I never learned to dance is because I I deter myself from doing things I know I’m just going to do to try to get with chicks I don’t need another thing that I’m gonna do just

Like I would never dance for myself we talked about that on a podcast with Sterling Cooper we talked about how Mark is more effective in the club at picking up women than Kevin only one that can dance because he can dance and Kevin’s best tool at picking up women is his

Mouth the way he talks and the way he like can conversate with a woman is I guess like the number one thing that they’re attracted to Kevin in the club looks like Disturbed he’s like I don’t know what’s going none of them like because you can’t talk wom gravitate in

The club to who’s having the most fun who looks like the best time and it’s not the best conversation so like if you in a restaurant Mark wouldn’t do as well compared to Kevin right I could do good in a grocery store you put me in a club

I’m like a fish out of water but also Al because I’m looking at all the [ __ ] College frat boy degeneracy that I detest so much I really hate being around men that don’t act like men and watching them kill it from acting like [ __ ] morons like I I just want to

Like throw up from looking at that the only girl I ever picked up in a club I talk to in the least loud section of the club out of the main dance hall I had to get her as far away from the music as I could so I could talk to her that’s

Kevin in the club yo I have another picture do you have the better one it was 2 hours into him being like I got to get the [ __ ] out of here here that was [ __ ] rough well I don’t dance I don’t do degenerate [ __ ] the drinks are

[ __ ] expensive I just Mark was like surrounded by girls cuz he’s just in there like yeah he was [ __ ] killing it what’s wrong I have a question go question yeah so what what is what is feminine to you like what is that what is well I guess what’s wrong with that

Like why are you detesting I I men being feminite is that what you’re asking well you’re talking about how like men are dancing to Tik Tok Trends and this is making them a feminite and so so I’m wondering like why is that being why are we detesting we could talk

About it but also at the same time I’m willing to bet you’re one of those folks that believes there’s more than two genders so if you do it just qualifies whatever we’re gonna say it just does um I mean I don’t think okay fir well first

Of all I don’t I what do you mean by there’s more than two genders I don’t know are there not go ding ding there’s only two right man man and woman right I mean do you consider oh wait wait do you consider non-binary nope non non-binary is the fakest one and

It’s the one that caused all the trouble the transgender part was fine non-binary is when it went crazy and now we live in a psycho World well I still don’t really think it has to do with like believing in more than one I’m just I just I just

Don’t understand like so you like how do you define what is a man how do you define what is a woman real quick before we do that in your opinion can you name how many genders that you believe there are and it’s no judgment so from a

Scientific Point like just a number I don’t really okay so we’re not gonna clown you this not one those just answer the question are there two so I don’t want to speak on it because I that I know there’s there’s research that points to there’s more

Than one okay and it would be really unfair of me to speak on it when I don’t feel like do you know how many there are I there was a list that I saw a while ago and there was 36 is there actually 36 okay all right

List first of all okay I looked at the list this is why I’m telling you I cannot give you a pro like I’m not going to sit here and give you an answer that I don’t feel like I can properly back up because I don’t know where that list

Originated from what research that comes from so I’d have to genuinely look into it but for me right regardless of gender so if we’re just saying there’s man and there’s woman right so for the sake of argument there’s man and there’s woman what makes what is a man what what are

Man actions what are woman actions and then what what what so a man has male genital and a woman has female genital the energy okay the energy Fe feminine energy is softer more agreeable more fluent more magical so more manly is more logical little bit more stubborn a

Little bit more aggressive little bit more protective so men aren’t able to so you believe that this is a genuine question so you believe that there’s a fine there’s a there’s a line and that specific behaviors are for specific genders and there can be no intermixing

There can be well the main the main reason you will hear guys like us complain about men becoming feminine and we’ll get to whatever is on the phone screen so keep it up is we tend to notice how ineffective it is in attracting the opposite sex for a man

When we become more feminine despite the culture saying that it’s better that men get more in touch with their feelings so we tend to notice what works versus what the culture says and then we stop caring what the culture says if what we’re watching happen isn’t effective based on

What the culture told us so for heterosexuals the more feminine a man acts generally the less success he tends to have with women because women May believe that it’s okay for a man to be feminine but everything from your [ __ ] mind to your body sub to your subconscious rejects

It okay I mean I don’t know maybe not you specifically so I this is interesting too guys sure I could cry to you but not every day okay not every day baby girl well it’s also hard to Define like it’s hard to Define like other people cuz you’re saying you look at

These men and you say they’re they’re affinite which like that’s your say they’re Ain they’re yeah and so what I think is interesting right you’re defining them which is fine like this you’re that’s you’re allowed to do that but then I’m questioning right like we’re it’s just it’s hard to

Say like what is exactly like M doesn’t mean they’re being a woman it just means they’re doing like something that would be considered feminine like if I did ballet it’s a it’s a it’s an industry dominated by women would that be something feminine it would be a feminine yes it

Would be look at the look at the fluidity of ballet and then look at like the strictness of mus you know like so but you’re detesting that but why is it inherently bad for you to like I know you’re saying what if you’re not trying to attract a partner now than I don’t

Think I ever said it was bad I just think it’s heavily prevalent on Tik Tok okay yeah and and I don’t know if I agree with that so much as I like I know what you’re saying but uh I also think more so when we talk about feminizing

Men it’s about what made its way into the culture men were usually thought of as being like way too hard and way too emotionless and there was like this call from women to men in the culture as the time went on to get more in touch with

Our feminine side but what’s always been more ideal is a man that is masculine because that’s what makes him a leader that’s what makes him most attractive and is what makes him most effective but if he can be in touch with his feminine side then he’s not too closed off for

His woman but the only scenario that’s ideal is if his woman is the only one that can get him to tap into his feminine side I’ll tell you I’ll tell you where it’s getting bad okay um when did it stop like when did they stop letting you choose your path whether you

Want to be a man or woman I say where it’s bad is when they to the gender when they start bringing it back to the school when they start bringing it back to the to schools where there’s young children that’s being instilled and and hardwired into their brain um when

They’re there’s you’ve seen probably on Tik Tok there’s been a lot of Clips going around of uh teachers who are part of the lgbtq plus I think I got all of them um community and um they’re teaching it to the young kids so I think that like rather than letting a kid find

Out his sexuality and take whichever Lane he wants that’s where I think the problem uh starts when it they start bringing it into the schools is everybody down to do 30 minutes on transgenders then we’ll wrap I’m down yeah um you good so I I’m a teacher and

You teach the kids to be transgender so I’ve had kids that are trans at what age at what age um varying I’m not gonna expose gets into that the the problem is is that they’re teaching it to straight kids or kids do that like haven’t even dove into this aspect that’s really

Unfair because I don’t know what school you’re talking about because I keep hearing this argument you teach that to start with what I need to know what age I’ve T between seventh grade and 12th grade what age was your last transgender student I don’t know how old they were

In middle school going to high school so eighth grade that’s I’m not grade I definitely had a tomboy face where I would dress like a little boy like my outfits were not good at all but so I think if I grew up nowadays they

Would say like oh you could be a boy if you want oh I’m sorry I’m sorry actually I get what you’re saying let me actually correct that so you know that I’m like not a bigot I’m just dealing with facts um you said a transgender student or somebody who believes they’re non-binary

Because that’s different somebody who had transitioned so a student a student who it was very complicated because they were out and then they were their family was not supportive the school itself was not promoting anything Progressive not not necessarily not promoting it but they weren’t doing anything to promote

It weren’t doing lessons on it no and that’s not in I’ve went through four years of schooling that is not in any curriculum that is teachers might read a story or talk about a TT topic or a current event that involves that but it’s never like in the curriculum like

We’re going to specifically be learning about genders no it is the fact that I have a student here who identifies differently than the rest of you yeah I don’t understand because I that’s not my life path but at the end of the day they’re not doing anything to harm

Anybody they just want to express treat them differ for me the only the for me I’m like I don’t understand you’re right because I am not trans so I cannot understand that but what I neither the student okay I as well I’m just saying I

Ask by the way hold on one second love everything that you’re saying because I love that this is not part of the curriculum in the school we are hearing a lot about schools that are forcing this on youth instead of letting them Discover it on their own that’s the only

Thing he was saying um yeah let me just round this off and then you take it um but I was asking if the student had transitioned yes and then D transitioned but not okay no no that’s all I wanted to know that student that’s all okay so that’s that’s actually someone that’s

Transgender right I’m sorry Ste great by the way and being a great sport but also why is um talking about religion band in school but it’s okay to to teach children about like that stuff well because it keeps going you’re because okay so indoctrination right if I was to

Pull out a lesson and start specifically teaching about religion that’s indoctrination same thing with if I specifically pull out and say okay we’re going to start identifying everybody in this room’s gender that’s not what it is it is simply you’re not nuts no it it’s simply just acknowledging that there are

Different people and that there are different life stories and that there are people on different paths and that we don’t understand that because we’re not experiencing that but we need to stop being so intolerant that’s what they do in school it’s all it’s all indoctrination well yes but it’s not

It’s not about that that’s so I was I lost my job as a teacher right but it it’s not indoctrination about gender or religion it’s indoctrination of they’re trying to teach our kids as if they are dumb I was told to give my eighth graders fifth grade curriculum because

The school refused to buy curriculum for my seventh eth graders I had to create my own materials my own curriculum um so and they were trying to convince me to teach some fifth grade curriculum they were trying to um convince me to read you know Do vocabulary that’s from elementary school um that’s

Indoctrination because that’s telling them you’re dumb your scores are horrible we’re going to teach you like you’re dumb and so continue to be dumb when I started teaching right I taught them you know Edgar Al and Poe they’re not dumb the same thing with gender they’re not dumb so I never I didn’t

Never go in and be like what are your genders what are your pronouns but if somebody comes to me and says this is who I am this is I identify who am I to question who they are inside out I’m not in their body it’s not my business it’s

Not affecting me and if that’s if they’re going to be a good student in my class A good productive member of society I have no problem just because you brought up indoctrination I just want to say so do you know why women mainly from the government side of the

Power got the right to work in the 1930s there’s many different reasons and many different people supported it and the right to work the well I know like and to vote I’m not sure if this is no it’s not really like an exact question it’s just premeditating to what I’m

Gonna say Okay um basically one of the main reasons why back in the 1930s they pushed it as a government is because if you can get women out of the home away from the children and you can put them into jobs you’re basically taking away the other parent of the household away

From that child so they can indoctrinate every single thing they want these kids to learn without anybody phasing what they’re saying I agreee to get women to have the right to work it’s by stay at home at Mom’s you know it’s not really a problem but they wanted to be able to

Have complete access of how they want to raise these kids and they don’t want a population of people that are educated because they’re harder to lead and control so that was one of the first steps in indoctrinating the children so you take the kids away from the mother

And the parents have no real Authority then you send them to a school where you fire a sweet heart that didn’t want to teach eth grade kids fifth grade curriculum ding ding ding wild right well and I think it’s it’s it’s that yeah every time they do something that’s

Disguised as a positive the government is quietly [ __ ] us so correct it’s like wom too though is that like so when I came on here you said I know you’re a liberal I don’t really identify myself as that IAD myself as a humanitarian um because

I believe in the human race that’s it I believe in human rights well you don’t seem easily triggered either no the thing is for me is that there’s no that’s why when you said liberal there’s I don’t really believe there’s liberals there’s conservatives we’re being pitted

Against each other right we sit here if we sit here and fight about what’s in your pants what’s in your pants then we’re not realizing that we can’t afford our food we can’t afford our rent our kids are being taught to be dumb we can’t afford our gas there’s literally

Children being blown up out like in countries outside of ours right now as we speak there are children dying and we’re worried about what’s in other people’s pants I it’s a valid argument because I do not think that if a you know a three-year-old comes to you and

Saysi want to wear a cowboy hat I’m going to say okay you you should have a penis I don’t think that and most people that support transgender rights do not believe that it is if you if you read I mean I I would love to share this like

More at another point but I had a speaker come to my previous school and he talked about how there were kids you know who are um middle school and they want to end it MH M and because they don’t what they see in the mirror does not align with what’s inside regardless

Of who they talk to what they see they it just does not align and that’s it and they want to and and that’s real that’s real body dysmorphia is real whether it’s coming and I always have theories right because I think everything is always much more complex than it seems

So like the the gender thing right they I don’t know if you know this but stress can cause a rise in testosterone in women right so more women have what’s called they get more masculine more they get facial care they get uh issues with the reproductive issues and stuff like

That right so sometimes I wonder if the issues are more the fact that like the pressure and the stress is changing our chemistry and so be what we’re too worried about like fighting with each other that we don’t realize that it’s them that is changing our no listen I I

I gotta I got to cut you there because you said a lot but you’re killing it uh no well I I don’t like to fight with people over uh the transgender issue or anything like that it’s just a shame that some people have gotten so IND indoctrinated into the nuttiness of that

That there are people that aren’t even transgender because transgender is different from believing you can be whatever you want to be just because you believe it and you could be considered a bigot for just distinguishing fact from fantasy yeah that’s about the only thing that tips off more conservative leaning

People or people that really aren’t even conservative they just they don’t want to get in trouble for knowing what reality is so I always thought of it like and I’ll just make this point and then we got to get ready to wrap up I’ll just just make the point that now I’m

Not big into fighting with people over that [ __ ] and we also have to do super chats I got you I’m not big into fighting with people over that [ __ ] but about when the non-binary stuff came around that’s when everything became Pure Fantasy before that you had gay folks totally understandable some people

Are born naturally attracted to the same sex then you had folks that wanted to change their sex they changed from one sex to the other which means there’s still only two they didn’t create a third one then came along the there’s an infinite number of different genders and

Then the way I describe non-binary is none of us have to be typically male or typically female but it means nothing to be typically neither that just doesn’t even make any sense but that is totally different from people who change their sex and people who are gay and I could

Lose like a [ __ ] career for saying what I just said even though none of it has anything to do with hatred it just distinguishes fact from also respecting people’s rights to not believe in facts but can you respect my right to believe in facts effect M and not start any

Trouble over it just so you know that’s the reason that people that aren’t in the starting [ __ ] still have the stances they have because they’re like dude I could lose my job for acknowledging that like the sky is blue yeah you know what I mean sorry go ahead it also gets

Confusing when there’s pron like she he him she she her they them I was interviewing someone like at a previous job or at my job whatever I was interviewing them and there was two of them one of them said oh I just want to let you know my pronouns are he him and

The other one said oh oh my pronouns are she they so I like wrote that down and I was like I am so confused Yeah by she they because I really thought it was she her he him they them I’m like what does she they mean they get to pick two yeah like

That’s where it gets confusing and there’s like a blurry line that I don’t necessarily understand yeah and the funny thing is to like lay you guys up a dunk for what you just had on your phone you were saying that like they want to make everything so divided you want to

See how divided we are how many how many genders are there you guys looked up on your phone and can you site the study or the website or whatever you’re looking at uh medicinenet.com sounds legit What are the 72 other genders oh and it’s there a description of all 72

Yeah there is actually read them a gender a person who does not exactly identify themselves with or experien any gender am Ambi gender ambig gender amb gendex yep am associated with being profound deep and infinite okay wow that’s a definition um agender flux a person with this gender identity is

Mostly a gender with brief shifts of belonging to other gender types a loose gender this gender identif identi identity stands apart from me yeah anyways you get the point it sounds like it sounds like new phones coming out flux um does this kind of conversation upset you no I just I I’m

Looking at the credibility of that website with the ads on it I don’t know either 72 was it 726 well those aren’t okay so if you’re defining gender right I don’t know that those seem like personalities some of them more than gender so I don’t necessarily agree um in yeah have you

Got some I mean but then according I mean obviously that’s med.net but then according to uh Britain and success uh University Hospitals uh a study there are only two biological genders male and female wait which one which which an actual like like an actual like re Arch but obviously other people do other

Research but I think oh well there is like gender identity versus sexual sexual your sexual VI so I guess the real question yeah so when it gets complicated it’s all the technicalities and it’s the language that’s used because it’s like we had this conversation we had this conversation

Where someone said um gender is [ __ ] um it’s a social construct and so I they said that to me and I looked up the definition of social construct and then I looked up is race a social construct and you find Dartmouth yeah and Dartmouth posted that race is a social

Construct so I said so basically what you’re saying to me if if gender is a social construct and you can identify as any gender that means I can identify as black Asian Hispanic or anything and so the same person we were talking to she said that like if you’re in a room with

Me and you don’t identify someone who’s transgender as their pronouns that’s deeply offensive to me and I go okay so if I identified as black would you expect other people around you to act the same and goes no you’re out of your [ __ ] mind but they’re both social

Constructs so I took uh sociology I actually wanted to switch my major for a bit because of that class because that was the one big topic of that class and it’s that’s a misconcept so it’s a social construct because there is no genuine difference between me and you

Biologically yes like we have the same genetics like we have the same like DNA makeup right so there’s no like genetic difference between you and I as human beings there’s no race like categories so when animals are identified right there’s wolves and there’s like separate versions of the Wolves there’s classes

And categories K right so it’s kind of like a similar I have an even medium that I always thought was nice that David Ike used to say that spiritually we are neither male female black white Christian Jewish we are everything there ever is and ever was like a living

Expression of the universe and God and everything it encompasses and I always thought if because we always got to [ __ ] reject spirituality and get into the intellect and into the physical and into things we can fight about if we expressed all this gender Madness and all that [ __ ] through like

Spirituality like the statement I just made it would have been a lot more soothing than being so literal about it and it’s another and it’s also call it what you want to you can learn everything you want to learn about this stuff it’s also just another confirmation that we have all these

Things to place more importance on than they’re worth like you get so into your gender where does it reach the point where it’s like your gender is all you are your race is all you are and it’s like a total absence of you thinking that you’re anything more than that and

That’s why we’ll never stop fighting about it gay straight black white yeah these conversations are [ __ ] annoying but I like that you’re as level-headed as you are about it and I like that you also uh informed us that there are schools that exist where this is not part of the curriculum that this

Isn’t something that they’re not going to shun anybody for expressing that they see themselves this way but they’re also not going to teach people who don’t even know anything about sex or gender or anything like that yet and and uh I think we got to go to a Super Chat and

Wrap up yeah it’s actually on topic um Terell thinks throwback with a $5 donation thank youell he said four genders scientifically two Sexes hermaphrodites don’t live to adulthood typically and gender lists usually pick a sex by their teens both both less than 1% does everybody know what a hermaphodite is it’s called interex

That’s the proper yeah hermaphodite is someone born with both male and female genitalia and that is less than 1% right like who the [ __ ] has that for sure yeah it’s extremely rare wild probably not there’s probably a lot to juggle but did you know that there

Are women that can be born with like testies but their everything works the same they just have the testies still it’s probably also less than 1% though Jes and another $5 donation from Rooney 876 question for the ladies did you have to hide your first boyfriend from your

Parents if so why okay go around and is that the last one yeah okay then we’ll wrap up after that no no for a bit yes I feel like you might know who who it was was he older yes it was more because he was hiding

Me okay oh we got a couple more Super chats get him in Get Him in while it’s popping super apprciate you guys for the super chats you had to hide your your first boyfriend no my first boyfriend was in sixth grade and we were like cute little like oh they’re just in sixth

Grade and my parents were never strict about boyfriends no Noah My First Girlfriend hid me in the basement oh my God and I used to ask her when I can come out of the basement and she said they’re still upstairs so that’s an appropriate question to ask um wait who asked

That good question because parents ain’t strict on boyfriends anymore Rooney shout out appreciate the Super Chat bro any more Mark yeah are we finished with that one yeah yeah go ahead go okay yeah grab the mic um all right we got a 199 uh donation Terell thinks throwback uh

Shout out Terrell ask the girls to look of the crimes of Henry Haye I have it right here oh okay Hayes 42 is convicted of the 1981 lynching style murder of Michael Donald who was beaten slashed and strangled with the Rope he had his first gay sexual experience when he was

Nine I think they might be referring to the cat just putting it out there we don’t got all the Time in the World is talking about it you should look into this cat I believe if this is the person we’re talking about very interesting [ __ ] they say he’s the dude that like

Invented all the gender Madness and it dates way back and it started with like heinous sexual experiments on children to try to I don’t know stir up their mind into being confused about sex or [ __ ] with them sexually to see if it altered how they viewed themselves in

Their sex and it’s like horrible horrible [ __ ] now I don’t know if I want to go as far as to say that that’s where all the gender Madness originated from but it’s it’s certainly interesting and there there are some very smart people that looked into research about it but

You know that’s that’s yeah I will not be looking at up after this yeah yeah well I mean the folks that obsess over this [ __ ] it’s worth looking into to see both sides of what’s going on and then Terrell thinks throwback again uh 499 Super Chat thank you so much brother uh

Genetically we are different it’s harder for Africans to get uh europian diseases European yeah yeah it’s also and then and then also African-Americans are are sometimes susceptible to or more susceptible to diseases that white folks aren’t it was Sterling Cooper that told us that black guys need to be more care

Care ful with Viagra than white guys he told us that on his show did he yeah and then I was like oh Christ the times that I gave Gotti Viagra but you know I’m sure he shouldn’t have been given Gody Viagra in the first place he needed it

Whoa yeah but check out the Sterling Cooper episode for that he is actually a sex specialist that went into all those things anything else all right wrap it up then I’ll wrap it up all right everybody yo this has been a long one y’all were all great Sports um glad Noel

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