I work my Life down The The hello everybody and welcome to our podcast our podcast is called sorority Sparks and Sassy chats I am your host Cara or Sora arrogance and today I have the wonderful pleasure of doing our podcast with our amazing founder and National president Shai hey Everyone so oh my gosh I’m so excited cuz I feel like I’ve just had this like buzzing in the back of my head and like I knew we were going to do it but I was like oh I don’t know we really going to do it but
I’m really excited that we are doing this today so to get us started please introduce ourselves for people that don’t know you and tell us all about you so hey everyone I am Lyra esosa I am the co-founder in City National president for Rose Sigma Alpha sority
Incorporated um I am a mom I’m a wife I am a person who does 20,000 things that needs to sit her behind down that’s what she needs to do I feel that I feel that so um I just wanted to do this podcast and like I
Shared wish sh I wanted to do this podcast so that people can get to know us um and not just the pictures that we put out or just a community service that we do but get to know us on a little bit of a deeper level and also for our
Sisters to get to know each other better because we are 55 people strong and we have people in 16 different states so like I said t sh a Sor in Florida might not know a Sor all the way in Texas and vice versa so this is a chance for
Everybody to get to know each other and get a little bit of a better understanding about who we are and exactly what we are especially behind our letters so um to get started I guess I want to ask the most basic question possible because it’s always asked how
Did you how did you Renee and Drea come up with our beautiful rose Sigma Alpha yes so um we were having some issues because every woman does and decided we just wanted to be the change we wish to see and literally that is how Roose Sigma Alpha
Sorority was um founded um it literally took us probably about a week to get everything into place we move fast we are very professional in business when we say we want to do something oh it’s gonna get done um so yes we moved pretty fast to get this
Whole organization done and we couldn’t be more proud of ourselves after it’s it just hit five months um to have 55 women across 16 different states in five months is just amazing like no one would have ever thought thought that would be the case at the end of the day so um
Grateful we’re happy we’re growing spring uh line will be starting soon and I can’t wait to see how many women coming in Spring we’re going to be having conference coming up in a on found I am so excited I cannot wait till a conference and I think for me especially coming
Into this like one of my like biggest thoughts was how many sisters am I going to have that that was one thing I was like how many sisters am I going to have because I already had faith in myself I was like I’m doing this I already told
Myself I’m doing this but how many sisters am I gonna have and to know that I cross with right knowing that I cross with over 40 different people that are in a bajillion and nine different other states and I know to some people people are like oh my gosh 40 something people
That’s a big old line girl I love my 40 something sorry love each and every one of them sorry it’s so crazy because we never imagined that it was going to be that many of you and we I can imagine we technically started with it was about
52 and it it went down to 42 at the end of it um but we we started with 52 and that when when everything finally came together we had to sitting like girl where we get all these people from but um with us being as organized and
Business savvy as we are it worked um it’s um and and we love it like obviously we’re gonna come across things that need to be tweaked a little bit and stuff like that we didn’t we’re not doing too many tweaks but so assuming we’re doing everything right yeah and I
Feel like because we are a new organization like we’re gonna have those moments where we’re still figuring it out but we’re figuring it out in a way that works the best for us and not trying to like see how somebody else is figuring it out and copying the way they
Figuring it out we’re figuring out the way that we want to figure it out and I think that’s also another thing that makes us pretty unique is that we gonna do things the way we want to do things we are not looking at how else however else somebody else is doing something or
Let me go check let me go check their page or talk to this person in that or and go see how they’re doing it no we’re going to figure out how to do it our specific way and roll with it that way exactly and that that’s one of the
Biggest things that I think people from the outside looking in doesn’t understand yeah yes we are sori yes we wear Greek letters but understand every organization does things the way that they want to do it so we’re going to do things far away yes we follow certain things that other Greek organizations
Follow but but not all the way to a te because it’s we created it we created our bylaws we created our rules so we’re GNA do things the way that we want to do it and that’s how we like that’s how we do it because I feel like and we have
Such a unique front especially being a non-collegiate org and also being one that’s in my opinion pretty successful but being a non-collegiate org in itself is already a unique feat and then having as many members as we as we have just within the first couple months in my
Opinion it sticks it sticks with people and it makes people think let me see what they’re doing to see what they got going on absolutely absolutely I would say from the the interest meet that we recently just have in the feedback that I’ve received um via email and just on meetings in
General a lot of people were very surprised um very Amazed by what they heard what they’ve seen us doing in just such a short period of time that’s beautiful um so I guess my next question kind of like leads into that what was the vision that
You Renee and Drea kind of had like prior to like my line coming in and like all the interest meetings and all the questions what was the vision that you guys had and does your vision match where we are now or is it like a little
Bit different than what you had in mind so I will say that our vision does match what we had in mind so Point Blank because on here we keep it real we’re transparent and we have always said from day one no drama we don’t care what else we don’t
Want no drama we do not want any drama um and we have not had any drama we always have said when you are in a group with so many women you are going to have women who do not like each other fine that’s cool but at the end of the day everyone must
Respect everyone I don’t care like when we was kids what our parents used to say if you ain’t got nothing nice to say don’t say it at all don’t say it at all so go tell yourself in the mirror or something like that um but we don’t want
To do drama like that’s not what we created this organization to be um we’re very involved Founders and we will always be very involved Founders um and I know sometimes you don’t see that a lot with other organizations when you have Founders or anyone who are sitting
On your National um on your national board they’re not as involved in they just jump in when they want to no we’re involved we’re always gonna be always said like I feel very comfortable in this or especially when I do communicate with you Renee and Drea because I don’t feel like y’all are
Untouchable that was one thing that I was kind of worried about coming in but after I went to the interest meeting I was like girl these are just girls just like you are and I think sometimes some people get so caught up in being a Founder that they forget why they
Started their oron in the first place they want to be up here real real real real real bad and they forget about everybody and they make sure that like they think everybody else is down here when really you should be trying to bring everybody else up here so that you
Guys are moving as one because you don’t want you don’t want anybody to feel like they’re being left behind or they’re lower than you and I I remember before I joined I told my mom when I was researching non-collegiate ORS I told her I was like I don’t want to feel like
Something that’s a vanity project if that makes sense correct I think I said I think I said that in my interview I don’t want to be a part of something that feels like a vanity project I don’t I want to be a part of something where I can genuinely connect with everybody not
Just my line sisters not just my Pros I want to be able to connect with everybody and since I’ve been in here I’ve been able to connect on some shape or form with everybody I don’t feel like anybody is Untouchable and I have to like jump through hoops to get to know them
Correct and that’s how we want it to be like I I never wanted to be like oh they can’t contact me um I I never wanted to be like that like when when we have our meetings and stuff like that obviously there’s like when it comes to certain
Aspects of everything there’s a a chain of command situation when it comes to presidents and all that but outside that if it don’t have nothing to do with that girl you better call me or text me like what like if it nothing got to do
With that whole because I I live by like the whole chain of command thing but if it don’t have nothing to do with any of that girl yeah what you doing we going out what we doing like always what I wanted to it wanted to be and then obviously having new
Members come in and one of the biggest things that we dealt with was not being able to fully express our creativity and use the skills that we have so obviously with this this was something that you bought to my attention from day one and I was like oh absolutely so if it’s
Something that sounds great and I’m like everybody’s gonna love it yeah we’re gonna run with it we have so many different women who have joined like with the Social Media stuff and the graphics and like this podcast and who know who knows what else is about to pop
Up I want to be able to make sure that everyone can express their creativity um that everybody don’t always see this face and them other two faces that’s why y’all pretty much probably won’t see me on this podcast too much more please I like brre and Renee on here one time
But um I want this to be for y’all like I’m here to I want to be that founder that’s going to make you guys creativity and dreams and everything come out I’m gonna promote y I’m going to Hype y’all Y see when we on social media like somebody do
Something like we posting everybody want to be a sparkle Nation Queen everybody getting posted like we are each other’s biggest biggest cheerleaders and like we all just met a couple months ago but we are indeed everybody’s biggest cheerleaders I promise you if if I were to be with
Everybody in person I promise you I would have a pair of Ro blue pom poms and I would be in the back going like this anytime somebody did something I’m like every time I see one of the sparkle Nation post come up I’m like you know what I was like I was
Like my about to do a collab like oh we collabing now we’re collab Sparkle Nation we’re collabing now got it we’re collabing got it 110% okay um another thing that I wanted to ask was where do where do you guys plan to see us within the next five years I
Know that’s like a question everybody ask but like I’m really curious because I know some people have different answers so I want to know like where do you guys see us in the next five years so in the next five years we would our goal is to actually be in
Every state and I’m G tell you right now this one right here here I like a competition so that is our goal it’s GNA happen best believe um I am a very competitive kind of person it’s really bad sometimes it’s really really bad that’s that’s that AR
That’s that Aries trck in me oh oh oh it comes out like it’s nobody’s business um but that is one of our biggest goals to to hit at least every single state in five years now in five years I will not be sitting in this role
As National president and mark my word I will not [Laughter] because um I see happened um a lot in some of the other different organizations that the founders end up sitting in seats on your n their national boards for a long period of time we don’t want that um at the the
Most at the most us three want to be out of these seats um within our three years um we said to but talking to an advisor of ours they said give it fre um and that’s just to make sure that everything is running smoothly and running the way
That we want it to run um and because there’s some they’re going to be big seats to fill of course like my seats are big seat to fill so yes I’m gonna be watching so but in in three years I I don’t want to be sitting
As National president um I want to be I just want to be a founder and I want to watch my organization flourish and grow right like I’m gonna advise from the background and watch all the women who decided to join this organization do their thing that is my that is my
Three-year goal that’s my threee goal um and that’s Dre and Rene’s three-y year goal as well like that is one thing that we talked about that we’re trying to stick with so yeah Sor we watching y’all that our goal we do not we do not
Want to be sitting in these seats at all five years yeah we want to make sure that we in every single state like I have a feeling I listen I have a feeling by Time conference hitting we hit our one year that we GNA have way more M than I thought we
Would um and it’s cool CU I was talking I forgot who in the world I was talking I think I was talking to my best friend earlier and I was like I feel like by the time we get to Founders Day we gonna have like well over a
Hundred people and like I was trying to like conceptualize it in my brain because I try to look at stuff and be like okay how big is that y I was like that’s a lot of people that a lot people definitely be a lot in um one year so yeah it’s
Overwhelming um to it’s overwhelming to think about it um and then especially with like a lot of other planning and stuff going on but with us being organized the way that we are and as transparent the way that we are I feel as though that we would be
We’re going to be fine um yeah don’t see anything going wrong at all like I said conference is planned spring line is starting to be in effect yep we about to have a girls trip so baby we are on the Move baby we got this and so going from now the future now
Going to the Past what would you tell yourself before taking on on this journey what like any literally anything what would you tell yourself before taking on this journey um the crazy part about it is because I I I wouldn’t say I would tell myself anything different because a lot
Transpired to get us to where we’re at right and with everything that happened prior um I have no ill will or anything to anything that happened prior um it’s all up because understand at the end of the day if everything that happened in the past did not happen Roose Sigma Alpha would
Not be here right because Drea L and Renee would have never met right so I got to take the P with a grain of salt and sometimes you just got to go ahead and past and not regret anything I can’t say I regret it because I don’t because if I say I
Regret it then I wouldn’t have I wouldn’t have met Drea and Renee right and I feel like those are the kind of things where you got to make peace with it um and I’m big on I don’t want to live life with any kind of regrets if
There’s anything that I feel like I would regret I need to make peace with why I would feel any regret surrounding it because I don’t want to keep my life moving forward holding on to what could have been or what I should have did or
What I could have did I need to be able to move forward and make peace with anything that happened exactly so I’m like things happen for a reason um I want to it is what it is I live by that it is what it is it is what it
Is and what are we doing next okay um okay like I said I I I don’t regret it um because yeah those two like I love them to death like and the crazy part is people think that we’ve known each other so long and it was
Literally yeah I thought y did when I first met y’all I was like these women been friends for like 50 million years at this point and then when yall were like no we only met a couple months before this I’m like no you didn’t we
Are yes and we are very very close very very close every day we talk every single day we talk um they are so I’m a old I’m the oldest child in my family so having them is like I have two big sisters right I know Renee always makes fun of
Me because I’m like literally old enough to be her daughter but you would think that you would never think that I’m like probably think we’re all around this same age but literally not but I’m literally old enough to be Rene CA I promise y’all I promise you I thought
Y’all were all a y’all had all knew each other for forever B y’all were all around the same age and so coming in and meeting everybody I was like okay I’m the baby I’m the baby I’m the baby I keep them on their toes right as as a fellow
Younger child I also keep my older sibling on his toes he has no choice but to be on his toes mess with me little there is there is no if the crazy part is um so with them I keep them on their toes and I’m the baby but then I’m the
Oldest in my family and I keep on their to I’m like it’s like once again that’s that Aries stuff two of my best friends are Aries they I get it I get it I completely get it like sit down relax but I will also say I will also say for anybody that’s
Watching this that that is like wanting to get to get like more of like a feel of our Founders Drea and Renee I love the two of them so dearly Drea pops up every now and then and it’s like oh my God Dre Renee when Renee Pops in the chat is
Usually being real sassy with somebody and I love it I love it but they those those all crazy and got me sitting there sending all that stuff like yo you doing too much because Rene Renee gets us R up she does she get like the other day the
Other day when she sent that picture of her in that Jersey and she was like oh it’s not it’s not on the site yet but I’ll let y’all know when it’s on the site like why would you do that ma’am in the group talk about so we pressured her no you shouldn’t have
Popped up in the chat with that Jersey now look at you what did you think was going to happen like now look at you I’m like why did you do that yes she she likes to do that and I’m like now like why did you do that why did the
Crazy part is you guys will see her pop up with stuff that we haven’t even seen we she just be doing stuff and I’m like like oh really I was like ca I I have so I have so much stuff and I was like people probably
Think that you just send me St I like she does not I literally pay for all my stuff I think she’s probably sent me two or three things um and that was like when we first got started but that I like I pay for all my stuff so but I’m
Just I’m just letting y’all know thats Renee pops up in the chat with stuff and just as cool calm and collected as possible and in the chat it turns into like when you like Stu on like an ant heel everybody start coming out and it’s like where where did you get that from
Where can I get that y here funny pants over here she’s a comedian here comes the comedian um another question I wanted to ask just because I I didn’t get a chance to ask it was what would you tell a woman who like a future sore it could
Literally be anything what would you tell them um I would tell them one make sure that you are exploring all your options um that is something that me Drea and Renee actually talk about all the time um like I said we don’t regret our decision because we would have never met but we
Have always said that uh we should have explored a little bit more and learned a little bit more about what we were doing prior um so we always end our info sessions with that as well make sure you check out other or like we’re never gatekeeping anything we’re very
Transparent and a lot of people who have actually been on our calls um have messaged us and told us like y y’all are the most transparent people ever um I just feel like we all grown we like no nobody has time for all that um we’re
Not we’re not denied we are not a Deni organization we are non collegate we go by our own rules so we’re going to do whatever it is that we want to do that makes us feel happy and be as transparent as we can be with other
Women like we don’t want to like beat people around the bush and like right like play little mind games like that’s not us like we don’t want to do all that um kind of thing like that so I I will always tell them like even before deciding with going whoever you’re going
To go with just make sure you explore your options and make sure that it’s the correct Organization for you and it has the Mission Vision and values that you are looking for um yes we I’m pretty sure every organization says they don’t want no drama but we know what it is
Here is no drama CUA this one right here I don’t got no problem like okay L first watching this know me in the work life like I’m I’m a no tolerance kind of person like I just I I can’t like it messes with me and like if something
Happens it sticks with me and I’m like I I can’t I can’t do this and it doesn’t unfortunately it doesn’t help me function right like we G have a conversation but if it continues like I we can’t do this so can’t um yeah we just have to be straight and narrow
That’s how that’s how transparent we are um all three of us like we’re not going we’re not going to play Mind Games we’re not going to do the back and forth kind of thing like that and we want to make sure that we’re we don’t have One Bad
Apple that is trying to ruin it for everyone else because it literally can take one person it could take one person to ruin everything and have everyone in your organization looking some kind of way like I don’t think I want to be a part of this and it was only one person
Who caused the whole entire issue so we see an issue we nipping it in the but real quick like we’re not doing that that was literally one of the very first things y’all said when we started our process was pretty much a culmination of we don’t care what you got going on if
You’re coming in here in layman terms if you’re coming in here to be messy this is not the or for you baby this is not the orb for you and as someone who also doesn’t like drama it just it messes with I agree with you it messes with me
And it makes me feel like I don’t have like and not saying I need to have control over the situation but I don’t have control over the situation in a sense where I feel like everybody’s GNA become affected like correct I don’t like that I want to be able to mix and
Mingle with literally everybody I don’t want to feel like I gotta walk on eggshells correct at any given moment in time and shout out to my shout out to the starting lineup because I don’t feel like that with y’all love y’all the bits if we got an issue with each other
Bab we talk about it we talk about exactly and that’s what you’re supposed to do everybody look everybody agree to disagree it is what it is kind like some point the crazy part about it is and I’m like it’s so weird to say this I don’t
Think that me and Renee have ever really gotten into it because I don’t I don’t know if it’s because like how how we all are like we just click and like read off of each other but we’ve literally never um gotten into it about anything um like
And we’ll have a conversation like we’ll throw off something and like oh we’ll say this and like how does everyone else feel about this if somebody doesn’t like it then we’re GNA figure out a way to to re it for everyone and that’s what you
Have to do like you don’t have to be like okay well whatever then y’all just do whatever you want to do like who that’s not called for that’s not called for exactly like there’s no reason to do all that like we’re grown like it’s called having a discussion like let’s
Sit down and put our big girl pants on and we’re gonna have a discussion that’s what we’re gonna do um like you Renee and Drea like y’all’s personalities are so different but y’all work together so well like which is once again why I was like dang these been friends for forever
Because they like three completely different personality yes three completely different people I promise y’all to the viewers that are watching this if you ever get the chance to see the three of them together you will understand what I’m talking about if we were together it’s probably even worse
But no I feel like when we’re together we’re kind of like we’re all we’re like literally the same when we’re together I don’t know what it is when we get together like and people literally call us triplets when we’re together because we act one and the same when we’re all
When we’re all together but it but outside of not being together it’s like three different people like who are you completely like what was like oh Shai seems mean why I was like oh my gosh this lady about to drive me crazy this I was like in my mind I was like
Sh’s about to drive me crazy I Feel It In My Bones I feel like she G I’m gonna lose a couple hair a couple hairs messing around with her Renee I was like Renee is giving like like the cool Auntie she comes around every other Christmas she might have a
Gift or two but she come around every every other Christmas Drea I can go talk to D about anything and like oh my gosh J is so cly and so cute but once we got in I was like oh gonna pop up and find you somewhere
Like she was like on this day at this time I seen that you did this I’m telling you that that’s how she is that is why I say when Drea pops up in the chat I’m like Oh my and it could and it could be she
Popping up in the chat to get ready to tell somebody that she didn’t she have found them somewhere and she about to send you a strongly worded letter Renee and Renee definitely is Rich Auntie Vib she is definitely Rich Auntie um during our process one thing
Renee used to love to say when we would have our meetings Renee was like I’m not gonna keep y’all on because I don’t feel like being on this meeting she what about Rene she not gonna sit on meeting for long she’s not I’m sorry you
Not you not going get her for long a gonna wait for you she gonna keep it moving and she just write it down go ahead you got five minutes you got five minutes and if you ain’t said what you need to say in five minutes with
Renee yep you for I’m leaving time to go time to go that one she she gonna keep I’m gonna tell you right now she is the one that will keep the schedule moving me her and Dre will be on the phone and me and Dre go off topic real quick
But I want to tell you right now and I love you Dre you know I do but it don’t be me it be Drea Dre will go off topic so fast and I’ll be like Dre and Renee will be like was that what we supposed to be talking
About that’s like that’s our different personalities like going crazy and like trying to figure out and it’ll be something so Random it like it gives like like little lost puppy Vibes and I’m like but then I start feeding into it and start talking like on that’s not
What we suppos be talking about little kid it’s like little kids when they come up to you and they just start telling you a story and you don’t got no choice but to interact because the story is kind of good exactly that’s how it be that’s how
It be with us and like story is kind of good like these two right here but this is once again why when I was a like when I was talking to my friends about joining because n first of all none of my friends knew that I was
Doing this the only person that knew was my best friend Lauren none of my friends knew I was doing this not a single one and so I remember telling I was like one thing I really really vibed with was how easy it was to talk to everybody because
By Nature I’m actually a very shy person like I know it seems like I have this like big old personality no if you see me out at a function and there’s a lot of people nine times of 10 if I’m not trailing behind one of my friends like a
Little puppy dog I’m standing in the corner with with my arms crossed I’m naturally a very quiet person uhuh you will not get so crazy you say that because I have always been that kind of person and I want to say over the past I want to say about a year so since
I I was on um in my State title for the pageant and I had to get out there and start speaking more before that I was just like just Observer I’m standing around I’m observing kind of thing like that never like to do like the public
Speaking kind of thing that was never me um this kind of stuff yeah no I’m good like that I’m always like the person oh I’ll write you something up real quick like what you want to read um I’ll post on face like I’ll do all that but like the
Actual speaking and doing the videos and the podcast and stuff that that really had never been um a me kind of thing it’s just something that over the past I would say about a year and a half it’s starting to grow a little bit more for
Me because I’m being asked to do it a little bit more um I’m having my first big speaking thing because um with the women empowerment um networking event in Delaware so that is probably one of my biggest speaking engagements that I would have had so far
So not sure what I’m going to which part I’m going to focus on because I do 20,000 different things but we’ll figure it out we’ll figure it out what I’m G talk about get there we’ll get there just G just start going like what do you want to
Know ask me a question which coming back to that tell us about it because me personally I want know more about it because I like I like to say I’m nosy I want know what’s going on I want know more about it yes so um the owner of
Maob which is Mom mom um mom’s own businesses I had been working with them on a few other things and like kind of behind the scenes um and they’ve been doing some um projects for me at my complex as well so the owner had reached
Out to me in regards to the event it was postponed because it was supposed to be a while back but it was postponed and he um asked me did I want to participate still and I said sure absolutely um so I finally said yes and got on the
Flyer so it’ll be a big event at the womenon public library uh there’ll be a multitude of speakers there’s a few other speakers one of them I know which is one of um the council women in the city of womon she has a nonprofit Foundation um black moms in power so I
Talked to her a few times um and I’m hoping to team up with her with my Foundation fix her crown Foundation which is for young women and team moms so hopefully we’ll be able to collab together with her organization and my organization um on a few things um later
Down the line but I’m excited it’s really just about networking women empowerment um there’s going to be venders there we’ll be speaking um most of the stuff I’ll probably be speaking on is like obviously how Ro Sigma Alpha got formed how fixer Crown got formed um a lot of
People know and some don’t know that yes I am a property manager during the day for my day job but um I have rental properties that I manage for owners as well um outside of there no one really hears about it because it pretty much runs itself um and I really don’t have
To do much with that business but it’s a business that’s bringing me income in um you will rarely hear about it unless one of those properties come up for rent but as long as everyone to do then I don’t have to worry about doing anything else
With it so that is one of my other businesses that um like I said most people really don’t know about that one because I don’t stress that one as much as you guys see me stress Ro Sigma Alpha or crown um because that one kind of self um self runs itself pretty
Much so I also wanted to ask because I don’t know if y’all know but Shai is a pageant title holder so I wanted to ask about what your experience was like doing the pageant and like I don’t know I’m just I’m curious because I’ve always been wondering about pageants I used to
Watch Tes and tears when I was younger so okay so I first started off doing a virtual pageant so I did a virtual pageant um I came in second runner up in my division second runner up in my division um for the virtual pageant that was my
First P pageant getting my feet wet really didn’t know what I was doing kind of thing with the flow it is what it is um I was approached by the CEO and she was like I want you to do another passion I’m like okay he like you need to do um either
American Beauty Plus or um NC and I was like okay so I ended up deciding to do NSP which is the national sority pageant um so I did the nationality pageant got out there look a lot different than doing any virtual I can imagine I can Imagine um I ended up getting a pageant coach the amazing Janelle oon I love her um she ended up coaching me in my daughter um my daughter actually was doing the pageant at the same time I did it so my pageant coach she is amazing Perfection
Love her um so um it was challenging and I know she probably was tired of me because she a Aries my daughter Aries and we don’t like being told what to do sometimes that’s a lot of fire in one room our mind just goes the way that we just
Wanted to go but I did listen I did listen I would say I didn’t she just did what she wanted to do but um but it worked for her I will say it worked for her but um it went great uh I would it’s sad to say but I probably
Would never do it again don’t get me wrong I love the whole entire experience but it’s a little much for um I feel like passions are just so like intense like there’s just there’s a lot of like I would leading up to it was more craziness for for me than anything
Because one I’m preparing for myself and I have to prepare for my daughter so both of us at the same time it just will never ever work out ever again ever ever ever ever ever like it never ever happen ever like no um her personality and my personality just like clashing and I
Need her to do what she needs to do so I could focus on what I need to do and it just it just like things just get crazy so we would definitely never compete at the same time ever again if I ever decided to compete again um and I just
Think that my schedule was so crazy and all over the place with going to patent trying to make sure that um out in the community doing things representing or um in everything in between it representing my platform which is fixer Crown which is why I have fixed her
Foundation it it was just a it was a lot for me so like I said I probably won’t do it again Isabella on the other hand she will and I will be right there holding her bag and her dress so and I will be behind the scenes go izy where my little pa
P but I am happy to say that we have two members who will be representing Us in the National sority Pageant this coming October so I am very excited about that to get to see organization up there on this stage see our girls work the stage
Um I’ll be meeting with them soon so I could just make sure that they’re good comfortable and getting ready start getting theirselves ready for getting ready for that pent czy to do so everything that they have to do I have to do it all over again too so I
Probably need to get myself ready start yeah I have to walk in the evening down again um I have to get a fun fashioned outfit to wear for um a fun fashion outfit to wear so I have to everything that they have to do except for interview I don’t have to do
That but everything that they doing I actually end up redoing so um now I got to get myself back in the game with all that I I can’t wear my dress that I wore last year so oh so you gotta get a hold new dress I can’t fit it and it can’t be
Altered I lost too much oh sister oh sister I’m actually about to put it up for sale anybody looking for that beautiful yellow gown that I had on in the pageant yeah it’s about to go for sale um so yeah I I can’t fit it that was
Another struggle um because I was on my weight loss Journey during the pageant and I literally had to stole my weight for a few months because because my dress there was no way to get there how the dress was and it has stoning on there I couldn’t have the
Dress So once I bought it it fit and I literally had to stall my weight until pageant and like not work out and pretty much just regulate my weight while I was waiting for pageant to come because I was not going to be able to get that
Dress all oh my God it was CRA It Was it crazy when my doctor found out that I did that they were like are you serious right now like what did you want me to do like lost your mind he was like so you purposely didn’t lose weight I’m
Like I didn’t have a choice the dress was already purchased and I I had to do what I had to do yeah he was he wasn’t too happy about it well I think honestly I think that’s around the time that I found your page I think it was like right after after you
Had got crowned okay I was like I was like oh once again I still have no idea how in the world I came across your Facebook page which is how I ended up finding out about uh RSA believe me I’ve been trying to remember the entire time
I have no clue not a single clue how I found your Facebook page on like 20,000 different things like it’s so crazy because I had so when I started the pageant I actually opened my page up to be a public page um my page was always
Public but I opened it up to be a public page because I was doing the pageant to get the exposure and everything um and I was also in the midst of starting the digital magazine that I’m editor chief for for City girl so when I was having my meetings with um the amazing
Ariel uh Dream Queen she was like oh you need to do this and you need to get this many followers and like so I was just starting to build the followers I opened the page I let it be public and stuff and like that page in my Instagram page
Like there are so many people on there I don’t even know half these people but there’s people who are on there that see stuff that you would never think they see um I’m I’m big on social media and I know a lot of other people are not big
On social media especially my husband he has not being on social media but I will tell you with me being on social media it has helped every single thing that I have done in my businesses or whatever it is that I’m engaged in at the moment
Um so not all social media is bad it’s just the way that you use it the way that you perceive it because if you’re a small business owner someone who’s trying to get out there that is where everyone goes to nowadays no one no one
Really goes to a website yes I try to navigate people to go to our website but that’s not where everyone goes people see that content and stuff like that so that’s why see your Instagram your Facebook your YouTube If you have they want to see because that that for me
When I was in my journey of looking for a sority I was not going to their website I’m not gonna lie to you I want to see what y’all are once again I grew up I’m 24 so I grew up when social media was becoming a thing so for me the
Quickest way for me to find out information about something or like a place or someone go to their social media of course so and that’s why I’m big on making sure that we promote on social media put everything on social media we have Instagram we have a Tik Tok we have a
YouTube um doing this podcast because this is what people actually look for um when they’re like you know the craziest thing is I went somewhere in oh my God what was I do I think I was getting my I was getting my new phone line for my
Business um it’s but it’s under my my rental property my all my phone lines and the guy was like he went to he went to look up my business um I guess like website and stuff like that and or see if I had like a social media page and
I’m like what like that literally that is stuff that they do when you go to guess I’m like wow I like would have never thought that that’s what you were looking for kind of thing like that so um it social media is a big thing it it
Can definitely help you in a lot of things I navigated different um shout out to meta business because all my pages are under meta business uh I am usually Saturday um I’m sorry Sundays is usually social media Sundays for me and that’s usually where most of the content
That I know that I don’t have to do on a daily I post like and stuff that stuff is pre- plugged in like holidays it’s pretty plugged in yeah once you learn how to navigate it the correct way it work it works for you it really works for you and I feel
Like that’s something like that we do very very will is the social media aspect because like I said people are no longer like looking at websites at all corre they’re not looking at websites at all they’re going straight to your social media to find out more about who
You are what your or is what are y’all doing and that’s one that’s another thing I want to make sure of I was joining in org where we weren’t just posting Happy Thanksgiving Happy Easter here’s everybody in their t-shirts oh my goodness happy Monday no girl I need to
See what we got going on because I’m not joining nothing just to wear a t-shirt exactly I’ve went across a uh page today and they hadn’t posted anything since 2022 and I’m like okay so um yeah I just and I didn’t want to like for a while
Nobody will see like our chapters all split up and having their own pages and that’s because I want to build our main page first and i’ rather just everything be posted on one page um so then the pages are not scattered out and then trying to collect followers for all
These other pages when we can just have everything on a made page as a a whole as a collective it just looks so much more better and it’s that content is building like crazy yeah it’s a lot more cohesive and people can see over time what we’re doing versus having to jump
From page to page to page to see what we’re doing absolutely absolutely well I have thoroughly enjoyed my time talking to our one ful National president miss lar escabosa for everyone that is watching thank you so so so so much for watching our very first episode of sorority Sparks and
Sassy chats once again I am your host Kira or Sora arrogance and we will see you guys every single Tuesday row Tuesday at 6 PM for a brand new episode and next week we’ll feature my wonderful line sister who keeps us oh so organized here yes all right thank you guys for tuning
In and we’ll see you next week Bye
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