Um the only thing that has changed is this concept of respect respect for Union and even I’m not even sure what it’s came from this idea that being married is white when we were slaves we wanted to get married because it was a connectivity so how did it go how did it
Go from people were getting killed and hung and shipped off right sold off for things that such as marriage and now those same people who are descendants of those people are saying oh that’s that’s what white people do oh it’s a prison it’s not a prison there
Are three there when you are in a marital relationship you have to have respect for yourself respect for the other person and respect for the concept of marriage and whatever religious discipline or spiritual discipline you have a respect for that too what we find is an individual lacks respect for
Themselves and or the concept of a union which is the very first start of the downhill so that’s that’s usually what happened because when you lose respect for the union you pretty much have you going to do everything and so in working with premarital counseling we want to
Make sure that we understand the definitions of unions or relationships or marriage or whatever they call it
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