Hello hello hello everybody Welcome welcome welcome to the Mary D talk show yay here you are it’s so good to see you I know like anything what do I say every Monday it’s a beautiful Monday and it is it’s been it was raining really really
Bad here this week I said well I say bad it was a lot for us because it doesn’t really rain it rains it’s been raining a lot lately but normally not like it is late you know know not what we’re used to let me say that uh but let me just
Say this it’s still a beautiful Monday it every Monday is beautiful every single Monday is beautiful I’d like to welcome you to the Mary D talk show you’ve never been here before my name is Mary D Welch I am the host of the Mary D talk show welcome welcome welcome live
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Nonprofit um so you just to if you just go main the word main ambition. org and I have to slow down because some people said you said things kind of fast and sometimes they don’t get it so I’m learning to to slow down a lot a little
Bit too so let me say that and I want to say hi to um I see we have Antonio hi Antonio nice to see you and I believe Antonio’s in Minnesota correct me if I’m wrong Antonio and Elaine hi Elaine Elaine says hi Mary wag finished
Early today as I’m on time yay happy Monday and I pray that you and your family had a blessed Resurrection Sunday and Easter day we did thank you thank you thank you Elaine we had a niece that was that came from Philadelphia and was visiting with her family then we have
Another niece and she lives in uh down in the San Diego area and so we got a chance to meet you I haven’t posted the pictures yet she has a two-month old little girl she’s the cutest little thing so I haven’t had a chance to post
Those yet but you’ll see those and okay where it’s oh South Dakota okay I knew it was a cold place Antonio I didn’t know where but I knew it was cold because every time I I’ve spoken to you and your mom you always tell me how cold it is Grand Old South
Dakota okay I never heard it like that Grand Old South Dakota all I know is cold but this what I’ve learned too we can we you know we can adapt to anything so if and if you’re used to it I don’t think it’s as bad I think we just have
To it’s a matter of getting used to that’s what it is and how Nanette hi Nanette how are you good to see you I see The Smiling Faces Antonio you said how am I doing oh I’m doing fine I’m doing fine thank you for asking and this lavenia hi lavenia nice
To see you too hi there I will tell you uh um let me I haven’t got into what today’s show is gonna be about many of you received the email uh today and it says uh oneon-one when you see one-on ones that means that I’m gonna give you
A topic for the show that’s what the one-on ones mean so just so you know what is the one-on-one that means I’m going to give you the topic and so I’m going to tell you what the topic for today’s show is this is different what does your birth order
Mean let me say that again oh hi Gwen hi Gwen nice to see you I’m glad you made it I’m glad you made it good to see you I know because I know you’re at work and I know that sometimes you can’t get on I totally get it but it’s always nice when
You when you make it in though so this is what the the top topic for today and I’ll put it on in the chat what does your birth order mean what does it mean to you or does it mean anything let me put it in there what oops here we
Go your birth order so um mean to you because like I said for some of you there you go let me put it up there it may not mean anything you may say it didn’t matter uh what order I there it is that’s your question now before I I’m GNA go I’ll
Tell you my birth should I go first I I should tell you let you guys go first um I will say this um this is very rare by the way my I’m in our birth order I’m the oldest in my family and I Married An oldest Oliver is the oldest so here it
Is two oldest that’s not supposed to work by the way so so an oldest marry and the oldest is not the is not the birth order that normally works I don’t know if you know that when they do they compare the birth orders because that’s two strong personalities usually so
That’s why it doesn’t tend to work and um but I’ll tell you what does work let me tell you what what has I’ve SE not that it I mean Oliver and I have been married over 20 years but still a birth order that I know that they say that is
A good one is when one is the oldest and one is the youngest it doesn’t matter which one but one in the couple one to be the oldest and one to be the youngest that tends to be the better order let me say that but two oldest nope that’s not the order that
That tends to survive because you have both of those those uh strong personalities clashing excuse me so if you what are your what is your birth order let me ask you that first are you the oldest the middle the youngest which one are you does the birth order
Matter oh hi hi Danielle I haven’t seen you for a minute for us to live this close Danielle it makes no sense Danielle lives I think it’s five houses away I think we’re five houses away so it’s always good to see you Danielle says hi Mary middle child here
And my hubby is the middle child to ah see Danielle do you guys now let me ask you this do you think that matters that you’re both the middle children do you know they call it the middle child syndrome they call that a syndrome I
Don’t know why they do but they do so and then Antonio said he’s the youngest all right Antonio so that you’ll be known as the baby you’re the baby Antonio and you’ll always be the baby your youngest in your family you’re the baby and then you said okay um what
Where is your mother is she the oldest the middle the youngest and her family and her and her siblings which one is she and I don’t know I don’t know on Elaine and Gwen I know you’re from a big family so I have to ask you which number
I know I think it’s eight I want to say you’re a family of eight sibling I think don’t quote me on that because I just remember every time I’ve been to to your home every time you guys were growing up I always felt welcome
Now that I can say for sure I I always felt welcome and let’s see Elaine are you the oldest the middle or the youngest oh she’s the oldest you think oh here you go Gwen okay let me see Gwen says she’s a seven oh it’s nine see I was close
Nine children you split by four older Texas born five younger s Francisco born and I am you’re effective the middle you’re you’re the effective middle child of a group of two means you’ve overlooked a bit a bit Yeah I think there I don’t know yeah I could see that I I I think
That happens in big families anyway I I think um I do I do I think that can very easily happen and Antonio I mean yeah Antonio says mother is the oldest she’s oldest you believe she’s oldest okay okay let me ask you this um now
Which one are you uh who would I missed I’m just trying to go through there lavenia and nette and elain are you the oldest and nette says I am the firstborn but my brother who’s 13 months younger she’s 13 months younger than you oh that’s real that’s
Close so you guys grew up kind of you know the same I mean you know that’s not that’s not a big difference um I have a sister that’s 11 months younger than me so I know exactly in fact for three days we’re the same age and then I I’m the year older but
For three days we’re the exact during that three- day period lvia you said you’re the middle but your older brother and I were born in the same year I’m like okay I’ve I’ve heard of that I have heard of that yes Antonio you said you are the youngest you said
Are you the youngest or the oldest oh I’m the oldest that’s why I said Oliver is the oldest and I’m the oldest we’re both the oldest of our families he’s the oldest of his he now let me tell you what’s interesting too Oliver is the oldest of five I am the
Oldest of five isn’t that interesting we’re both the oldest of five CH you know we have five siblings that we have four younger than us oh now that you said you’re like twins hold it hold it I you said like twins I missed something in that okay yes that’s what when I you
Said that and people thought my sister and I were twins this I mean our whole lives I think I shared with you guys one time um I’m telling you guys these stories but they’re all true we were in the I’m gonna say thir fourth and fifth it was
Either fourth and fifth or third and fourth grade I don’t remember which one I don’t I just remember we were on the playground and then my sister said why don’t we trade places and I said I’m not doing that she want she wanted me to
Go to her class and then she go to my class I said no I told I I now I realize even now as I’m talking about it I my it wasn’t it my fear of what would happen if we got caught was worse than it wasn’t to me I
Didn’t see I didn’t see the necessity and I just said no I a has to take nope I’m not doing that I’m not doing that because if something um you know they catch us or it didn’t matter to me I didn’t I just said no I I just had no re
It didn’t I just didn’t think why would I need to do that trade places no so I just learned you know then that was I guess my introduction into you have to have your own mind no matter what but we did Growing Up I’ll be honest we look
Like twins we did but I said no I can’t be Trading Places okay yeah you guys would have to be looking like twins in that just like we did because we’re so close and so you too linia L said I’m in the middle you’re born the same year you guys
Probably thought people probably thought you guys were twins same thing when you’re close like that what I’m noticing though now people don’t have well some of you guys probably notice it too number one we don’t have as many children and they definitely don’t have them as close that’s out we definitely we don’t
Have nearly the children we had when I was growing up I think now if people have three children that’s considered a big family when I was growing up there were five and we were not considered a big family I I knew families of 12 and 13 children I knew I knew these families
So I knew that was not it was like okay nobody thought anything of it that’s just the way it was and Antonio said are you the youngest no oldest you can’t tell that I’m the oldest no I’m [Laughter] only yeah do I I don’t act like the
Oldest Antonio is that what you said you said oh number one or number three it says oh number I guess you say number one you know and it’s interesting being the oldest you’re born into that to me but you also it’s a responsibility and that’s probably why now that I’m
Talking to you see I’m voicing all this it’s probably why I told my sister no because I knew that the responsibility was going to be on me no matter how I went down they would say well you were the oldest you you should have made a
Better choice and I just so I just Cho my choice was no which is telling I I those of you familiar with the book I wrote on saying no nicely I knew how to say no then I just said no no no but then I I remember one of my girlfriends see this
Is how old I am you guys some of you guys don’t remember this when you were in school they could give you swats let me take this down for a second uh Ela swats you know what swats are the if you go in the principal’s office and they
Have paddles on the wall I I remember all this I would call them man I even remember our principal’s name I remember my teacher’s name when I was there at the school and I remember my principal’s name but the point I don’t want to call the man’s name he could be still living
For all I know but I’m saying that the paddles were different size for the different size kids that came in there and the principal would whoop you know hit you on your butt with those things I’m like I said I will never do anything
To make that man ever and I never did I I had friends that did it they did stuff and they would have to come into to the principal’s office and they would get swatted with with that thing that paddle what did they call was it paddling I forget but they would get hit
With it that’s what what I mean nowadays they would put those people in jail for what they were doing then you can’t be hitting children like that but they did it at that time that was the way it was if you did something bad in school you got to hit with that
Paddle I’m like nope I’m I’m one of these people all I did was see the pattle you didn’t have to tell me what’s going to happen I understood what happen if you do something wrong and one of my friends and I know if I don’t want to call her
Name either you you can’t call well I could call their names because she’s not the only one with that name but I just wouldn’t rather I’d rather not do that but she got swatted she said she it didn’t bother her she said it didn’t bother her but I remember her eyes were
All watery and teary ey you know some of it is not the paddle I think it’s the idea that you had to be paddled I think that was it more than anything because I remember when I was in the bathroom with her and she was like I don’t care she’s
Saying I don’t care but her eyes are telling me something different she was you know tearing up and everything so anyway back to what your birth order is but I’m I as I went off on that but I’m just saying of of our birth or how does
That affect who we are today just who we are today elae said for me it doesn’t mean it doesn’t mean something as the youngest child ah see baby sister no matter how old we get see it does mean something Ela listen to what you’re saying you’re saying it and being um six
You see six and seven years behind my two brothers they tended to be very protective I was and you were a real time boy okay but Elaine look what you said at the beginning at the beginning um it doesn’t mean anything but it does because what are you always baby sister
It does you will always be baby sister no matter what and it’s that’s a good thing see I I was never that I’m never a baby sister I could tell you guys some stories I well I might as well tell you the story but I say that because that I was
Never I was never I never got that let me say that to you El you got you got a chance to you or your whole life you’re baby sister you will always be baby sister I was never baby any never a baby to to to my family it’s always Mary’s
The oldest or they would uh look up to me or all those things are real let me say that birth order is real if anybody thinks it isn’t I got news I know it’s real I know when I I watch um my husband and his family I just love it I love how
They love on him I love love how they they admire him and they respect him it is it is it touches my heart it touches my heart to see how they are with him and he is he’s the oldest he’s the oldest out of five and they look up to
Him and they you know they have nothing but respect for him and I’m just like wow I love it so I tell anybody um birth order matters let me say that it does matter what’s interesting and amazing oh I missed that part Antonio oh oh you
Said I was going to tell you that me and my mommy made some muffins some muffins chocolate chip muffins okay Antonio I’m going give you my address you can ship them here no I’m only kidding only kidding so on your on your birth or don’t but I should
Say yes I mean you could chip them here but I like that’s one of those things I know they’re gonna be good though I already know that lvia says you said May uh me is your my brother was born in January and I was born in December of
The same year so we are like twins exactly that’s like I think Nanette said they’re 13 months apart my sister and I are 12 months apart and when you’re close like that and you’re like just a greater part to me you know it’s almost like you are
Twins it I think I think it’s almost like you are twins so keep as you I’m curious though as an adult like you said I really like what you said Ela I think that is that is so precious because they’re they’re I mean for they I’m sure right now if they pick
Up the phone they’re gonna call you baby girl that’s like my my uh niece one of my niece I call her pretty girl I just I don’t even call her by her name ever since she was born I’ve always just said pretty girl and that’s even even now we
Go somewhere and I just I don’t even call her by her first name and I know her name but it’s always been pretty girl so those nicknames matter your and I even get into that I just wanted to get to our birth orders matter some of you may say well no it
Doesn’t matter if I was the middle or the youngest and maybe it doesn’t in your families but I know it mattered in our families I know it did I know um as I remember my one of my well in fact I think about both of my brothers said
That to me and my sisters have too I’m not going to say they haven’t but at different times in our lives the brother were um very much saying you know Mary I know you’re not perfect I know that but you gave us a good example you let us
See you can do this you can do this you can go to school you can do this you can work you can all of those things and I said you can do it I’m like but I most of the time I didn’t know what I was
Doing truthfully I just knew I just kept taking steps that’s what the name of the game is to me just keep taking those steps steps and that makes a difference I just did Antonio you said um you’re a young spring Antonio baby not love thank you
Antonio I am a not only a mom a grandmother and I’m probably in the next well I say next five four or five years a great grandmother God willing the grand because the grandchildren the youngest I mean the oldest grandchild is 23 23 we have another grandchild graduating
From next year from high school so there will be three in college at the same time well no because one will be graduating from college next year so we’ll have two grandchildren uh in college at the same time and then we have one in high school no I’m wrong
We’ll have two in high school two in college and one will have graduated so yes so that’s that’s I mean and that’s right that’s not all the grandchildren right now that’s the ones right now but I’m sure there could be other grandchildren coming that’s just you know they’re not they’re still young
Enough to have children they’re not so old that they can’t have kids um not at all and this what I noticed too people are waiting longer they’re waiting longer to have kids they’re not um when I was growing up it wasn’t unusual we saw girls having have you know pregnant in high school
I’m not saying they’re not still like that but I think not as much let me say that because there’s so many different ways to prevent it so that could be too and let’s see Anton did I get your question the spring chicken you’re making me laugh and
Told and this is Danielle said um Mr gor gorber M mate talks about how no two kids have the have the same parents for example our parents are different from when the oldest the middle and the youngest were born our parents changed you’re right I like that Danielle and
You know why I just before I came on the show a lady and I were on the phone and she said her brother shared with her what the parents were like with him and I think she was saying he was one of the older brothers and she said the things
He was saying she never experienced but she’s number seven out of nine nine in her family she was number seven and she said I was listening to him going well where was I when all these things were going on but that those same two parents were they were treating the child differently
Probably as the child you know that’s we’re different period no matter what we can be same two parents but we’re but we’re different people too that’s for sure oh I’m looking young oh thank you Antonio I appreciate it I do I do I tell
I this what I I have a Glam Squad that comes in before the show they do they come in they do my hair and makeup then I have I have someone that does my hair and makeup I have someone that does gets my outfits ready for the
Show all of that and that’s the Glam Squad I tell you now if you saw me without everything on you probably be like wow you need you might want to put on a little makeup I don’t think I’ve done the show without makeup for a couple of years
Usually I’m I I tend to have makeup on I didn’t want at one time I I I did one show and my girlfriend called it in the show she said don’t do that again she said don’t don’t don’t do that make sure you you know you look presentable I thank you thank you
Antonio I’m laughing but I thought that was it was it was she was telling me the truth that’s all it was to her she was telling me like I just want you to know don’t think we didn’t notice because we did now nette says you’re the old oh yes
The oldest father the rules and I was told had to be tell me about it you know what though I’m gonna be honest as I as the old I that’s that was my charge though it’s interesting I don’t remember them saying it I think I just knew it
Think about this I don’t remember my parents saying you know you’re the old or maybe they did I don’t remember but they could have said it but I knew out of the five and the difference between our ages there eight years between me and the youngest which was my brother it
Was eight years between uh So within eight-year period my mother had five children I cannot in my wildest dreams imagine that but that’s how it was at that time that’s how it was I’m actually writing there uh I just just talked to Oliver just the other day about that said I
Think I’m gonna write my mom and dad’s Love Story their story because they got married at 15 she was 15 and he was 18 when they married so yep I’m going write the story I tell you okay nette you said yes the oldest follows the rules yep you’re
Right and Elaine said what you say Mary I did say that you did say what Elaine okay I I I’m gonna be honest with you I wish I think Parton me I kind of wish about being the youngest or something like that because I never felt
Like the ones behind me had the same responsibilities that’s what I felt I felt like they had more Lee more leeway to do things I didn’t I didn’t I didn’t feel like I had the same leeway because I had four like look you know not that
They said they were behind me but they were the ones younger than me and I always felt I always felt like I had to be the example I don’t think I ever have stopped feeling like that even now even as an adult of being an example of of
Trying to do the right thing trying all those kind of things and I but I look back and my my own our sons have said but that has served me well think about that they’re like you know Mom that been a good thing it hasn’t been a bad thing
I said that’s true that is very true nette you said you two were born in December and your brother oh really look at that wow I have a friend too so of you may know her uh she is a writer Jean Denny and she was born in the same year
As her um it’s twins after her also so it’s three of them think about not two but three so she’s born and then the twins are born in this the same year wow I don’t know I just tell you that’s that’s big and Antonio he said and you were wondering if I had
If I seen the movie migration no yet the Easter Bunny came yesterday to visit and I got that movie for you okay it was pretty good not too bad okay I haven’t seen that movie I tell you what I have seen Al I’m watching um it’s on Amazon is it
Amazon no I have to ask Al he may come and tell me where it’s playing but the movie is so good it’s a series it’s not on Amazon Oliver you may I don’t know if you’re watching right now you could tell me where the movie is playing but I got
Up this morning because I want to see how this series ends think about how when I when I watch series I cannot stand watching series if I can’t watch him all the way through he’s gonna come Oliver I thought I heard him at the door
Um but anyway it is really good let me tell you guys that so if he he peeps his head in I’ll tell you okay what where is it oh Showtime thank you see I told you guys Showtime Oliver just told me it’s on Showtime and it’s called your honor oh my
Goodness I tell you ladies and gentlemen I as I watch it I go will I ever write like that I think about those kind of things I’m like I’m I’m learning how to be you know a screenwriter but I look at those shows and the twist and
The turns and the ends and and something will come up and it’s just been like wow so I want I would like to write like that that that’s on my on my list to learn how to write like that that’s for sure but let me go down um no I haven’t
Seen the movie migration I haven’t the I do want to see the movie with Jeffrey Wright it’s an American fiction I want to see that haven’t seen that yet we tried to see it but it wasn’t playing in in Riverside so we have I guess we have
To wait till it comes on Netflix or something but and the other one was origin by Ava duven those two movies I really want to see I haven’t seen either one of those so we’ll see them I don’t I don’t doubt that we will definitely see those but um let’s see
Danielle Danielle says um no to what is it no two chicken are raised in the same family and the two oh chicken or children his children I’m sorry no two children are raised in the same family and no two children have the same parents wise words to take to heart whether you’re a
Parent of more than one child or you have siblings yourself thank you Danielle Danielle you’re right and we have to get together Danielle we right to the street it doesn’t make any sense literally right down the street any El Lane sorry miror you have not read oh I have not read
What you wrote I said that the birth order does mean something to me oh oh oh oh this I was reading so fast thank you he said you just then I skipped right over it Oh I thought you said it didn’t mean anything El like okay I got it
Now because I think and know I’m gonna be honest with you I think that your brothers I just I just love it I love the fact that there that they call you uh baby girl and you always I think I said I think it’s baby girl that you’ll
Always be that to them and that doesn’t change as you get older that’s I said um because my niece is 40 she’s 40 I still call her B I still I call her pretty girl well always call her pretty girl because to me she’s a pretty girl so
That’s how I started the nickname pretty girl I just I’ve never never changed it so it but I think it means a lot and the truthfully I think it means more T than we even realize I really do I think that birth order is very very important and Gwen you said that you
Said two things firstborn is the test run your you run your parents they’re new at this that’s true later children benefit from the parents’ growth and second parents get tired and second parents get tired on and lighten up a lot towards the later children yeah I agree I
Think I know families when there’s just the one child and I don’t know I think I would think that that’s easier I don’t know because I I’ve never been where it was just one it’s always been um because the boys here was three I was raised in a family of five oliv
Was raised in a family of five so here we are we there were no singles around us I’m trying to think how many I don’t know anybody here only I didn’t hear anybody say they were only a only child any only children and how does that and I’m
Curious because um only children have a different take on things they really do but I I know I know a couple of only and the the ones I know are girls that are ones I don’t think I know any ones that are boys I don’t think so I just know girls
So you may anybody else know of only that are uh or any only children I didn’t hear any only I don’t think here either so it’s the only child um I used to hear people say the only child is spoiled I would always hear that that there was I’m not saying they are
They’re not but I would always hear that they were probably because they were the ones got the attention the only one’s there nette you said from basic St from basic studies on birth order the youngest child tends to be the mischievous and in trouble my mother
Hear that I’m see hold on my mother is the baby out of eight children and she was misch mischievous but she always stayed out of trouble the youngest of eight I would think they could get get away with a lot that’s my way of thinking that doesn’t
Have to be the way it is but I’m glad she she didn’t get in any trouble or anything like that the youngest of eight wow I tell you my mom was where was she in the middle out of 17 I know I said I it’s a it’s amazing
That but she would tell me they never never once were that everybody was at home at the same time never it never happened like that as the kids grew up they left home so my grandmother was still having children when her children were having children they were still having kids together
Which is that’s phenomenal to me but that’s just the way it was during that time period and you know they were raised on a farm you know though just I just I I’m just amazed just totally total different lifestyle but then they didn’t have TV like we had TV
They had the radio but they didn’t have TV and all the other things we have they didn’t have all that Elaine said your brothers they call me Lany is stuck and um Auntie Laney to their kids is it that say right okay Mir you know my brother wal I
Do know your brother Walter from UCR I do I sure do I’ve known Walter oh my goodness what I don’t want to say how many years because I start telling about how old I am but I’ll go and tell you it’s man to be honest with you Lane it’ll be 50 years in
June I’ve known walkter for 50 years come June that’s how that’s how fast these years are flying by now it seems to me the older you get the faster the years are going anybody else know that when you were younger it seems like they went a little bit
Slower but now it’s like they going faster and faster and faster at least that’s me talking I don’t know if anybody else feels like that but that’s how I feel like they’re just getting faster but yes I do know Walter and tell them I said hi please tell them I said
Hi Lan and we then says she was the most get out now that’s different she was the she was the most successful and had two college degrees wow and several certificates compared to her other female siblings both boys financially successful that’s really really good I know another family like that where the
One that’s the baby of the family has done way more than everybody else and then I know fact I know two like that and and I think it’s could be because they were the only ones there with the mother the other children you know they were all living their life and
With their families and everything I don’t know if that has something to do it or not I really don’t know but I’m going to do a quick roll call to all these fabulous comments you guys have been putting in and I’m telling I’m doing so much laughing
Because I I’m thinking of of myself and my own family but being like I said the oldest of five Oliver is the oldest of five that alone is a place most people in fact most people I know that when they’re married I very rarely do I hear of the
Oldest and oldest married that’s rare another thing I noticed in my life ladies and gentlemen I don’t want you to do a personal when I do this Ro after I do the roll call just think about this how has your birth order affected your friend relationships tell you what I did a
Personal inventory one day 90 I’m gonna say 99% of all my friends are first born think about what I’m saying and and and it wasn’t intentional because I didn’t know I how would I know what the birth order is 99 Almost 100% I only have I think I have one friend that’s
Not the oldest in her family other than that everybody is everyone as he saying my circle surround is the oldest but I did not do it unintentionally and that’s what’s amazing I didn’t I didn’t even know who what their birth order was so how could I intentionally do that but
Let me go and do the roll call first and then we’re gonna get back okay thank you Antonio Elaine I’m going down the list nette Lavinia Gwen Danielle I make sure I get all you if I if I skip anyone please stop me or send
Me a message I can go back and call your names I’m going down going down did I say Elaine I think I said elain think I want to make sure I said Elaine all right and I’m saying this because I want you to know I appreciate your comments the interaction you guys
Are just crack cracking me up but I just really I noticed that as I said before it just so happens the women that I’m around are the they’re the first born in their family think about that when I found out I was literally shocked I I was shocked to find that out
And I’m talking about five about five women around me are all the firstborn in their families that amazes me how it could be like that which is saying to me there’s something in them and something in me that we’re attracted to I can’t explain it I just know that
This is the reality I I I don’t even know why I have no explanation it’s not like like some of them are the the youngest or some and this is why I noticed too not one is the youngest think about of all the not one they’re either the firstborn they’re
All the they’re okay we’re let me say this we’re all the same we’re all the first born in our entire families we’re not the firstborn girl we’re the first born we’re the oldest of our families and this is five women around me which is just phen it’s phenomenal I just did
One day I just thought about it I was just sitting there thinking I said oh so so and so’s the first and then I went yeah so and so’s the first and I was like oh my I couldn’t believe it and one of one of my best friends I thought she
Was the second I didn’t even know she was the first because her and her brother are very close they’re like this so I’m thinking okay I I just thought he was the first born I had never asked either when I asked and she told me she was the first
Born I could not believe it I was I was shocked I was literally shocked so I don’t know what that means I don’t even know how it even happened that way but it did so you can do a personal inventory of your of your friends are
They the same as as you are they the same birth order as you I and this is just me thinking I didn’t even I just I had no idea it would come like that but it did so I’m sorry Nanette you said my daughter is an oh your daughter
Is an only see okay let’s see Nanette I feel bad for her but she wasn’t spoiled but very loved I love that that she was raised an old raised old school many only children may have many traits like the oldest child and now I think about yes because Stephanie
Is an O is a an only child that’s our that’s uh we have one that’s Stephanie so we do have some I’m wrong and we have a grandson he’s an only he’s an only child so we do us some so but I would tell
You I I do do your own I would encourage you to see and just and it’s not like you have to do any of this but I TR I’m truthfully I was shocked I was shocked when I found that out when I did just kind of put down you know because I knew
I knew them I knew their families but when I but think about this I had it all wrong I thought the other one I thought the one I was telling you about it’s just there two of them it’s a uh sister and brother I thought the brother was
The oldest I never asked I just thought he was and then she told me she was oldest I was sitting back going you got to be kidding me she goes no I’m the oldest so I’m I think there’s something that we are this is what I I’ve said this to you guys
Before I’m sure I said what you are seeking is seeking you whatever you are seeking is seeking you that’s what I believe and Gwen says now friendship of you said friendship uh uh affects birth order I think it does like I mentioned me I’m just using me as
An example he says how friendship is affected by birth order of nine kids there were six girls so I had Five Sisters never wanted to join a sorority or girl groups CU I felt I had enough sisters so my close friends Li list is short Maybe
Most nimble like me is that most oh most middle like you could be but okay and I okay I I like that I’m listening to you but I’m curious too I don’t belong to a sorority and I don’t know I have I haven’t joined I’m I like
This who knows maybe in the future I’ll join one but I I was in college and I didn’t join this sity I didn’t pledge anything but I have two sisters and I wonder if that why I didn’t pledge anything because I already have two sisters so I was like I already have
Sisters and I didn’t really not that I nothing against it I had nothing I just didn’t so I don’t know and in all of this I I’m sure there’s some psychological things to this don’t ask me what it is I’m not a psychiatrist or psychologist so I have no answers but I
Am curious about this because I just started looking at my own life and I start making comparisons and like why is this and why is that and I have no idea and it may not be an answer to it I don’t want to give you the wrong impression go there’s some you know
Answer in the sky here there may not be one but it’s just me making an observation that’s really what it is I was I started observing my life and making observations about as they as this is what the boys say this that and the third that’s what they I just think
That is cute this that and the third but anyway they started making observations about life um So What observations have you made you may have made some too just sitting around thinking that’s all and that’s probably dangerous for me I sit around thinking no telling what I’m gonna come
Up I’ll come up with another book if I sit around start thinking elain you said okay okay hold on hold on make sure I don’t want to miss anybody uh Elaine makeing your comment okay oh Dy thank you elae say said yes you said it right Walter still
Speaks highly of you and will definitely tell him hi High you know and I tell you I think that without a doubt nothing but respect telling respect respect respect I have nothing but respect for Walter he is oh I tell you gave me excellent advice when I was at UCR outstanding
Outstanding and nette says my daughter oh I got oh I missed it ela’s okay that’s what it was I missed ela’s comment I’m glad I went back I hope I didn’t miss anybody else I do that sometimes you guys have to catch me if I
Miss a comment and Gwen he said oh okay I did that one oh your friends L you know I my friend list is relatively short it’s interesting because I have one friend she’s not the firstborn but she’s the firstborn girl her brother is the firstborn but
She’s the firstborn girl so I don’t know I can’t I like I said I I even know what all this even means I can’t tell you and he said my best friend is a firstborn uh is a firstborn name my close neighborhood friend is an only okay but
Then remember nette you said you felt that the only take on the the traits of a firstborn you I mean I don’t know if that’s true or not I don’t know okay yeah don’t worry I’m just I think I I can see that though I can I can definitely
See that that are only would and honestly the my the only that I’ve met they’re not spoiled they just they I just think they like what they like that’s about it but who doesn’t like what we like I wouldn’t say there’s what I think um I don’t know I don’t I
Don’t I don’t I don’t see that I’ve noticed the only to me I’ve noticed they tend to be very giving that’s what I noticed I have noticed that that ones tend to be very very giving I think they really um they have big hearts that’s what I that’s my that’s me
Saying that not that and I don’t want to sound like oh so the oldest doesn’t have a big heart no I’m not saying that I’m saying that the only’s really they just really tend I think I’m just speaking from what I my observations can you tell I I’ve I’ve
Been observing all this this you know through life the different points in life and I think I just been curious about it what does the birth order really mean or doesn’t mean anything that’s what I think doesn’t mean anything I think it does I truly think
It does Elaine says you agree with nette oh let me go put you guys up here here we go I I only have my daughter that’s right you right but I I don’t think she spoiled though Elaina okay she wasn’t spoiled so I didn’t even get to that
Part but loved I agree I agree Jennifer yes she is definitely loved and raised to be independent and a thinker I was the youngest and I was raised just like this so I would so I raised her the same I would agree with you on that and I’mma
Tell you ladies and gentlemen you talking about a smart young lady smart smart smart is Jennifer yep you’re right you’re absolutely right and then Antonio you said Mary thank you for the show you’re welcome Antonio you’re are so welcome you know can you guys tell I love the
Interaction I do I just love seeing your comments and I enjoy it I do now don’t get me wrong I’ll be still bringing some more guests on but I get a kick out of just us talking I really do so just just so you know oh thank you thank you
Antonio I enjoyed it I do I know we running out of time I know we get we have we have a few minutes up and he said I love your smile and your exciting energy oh it means a lot to me oh thank you thank you thank you can this time
You know it’s so interesting I I look forward to the show I do I do I I start getting ready I know the email went out late because we came in we were at we were visiting for for the Easter and normally it would have went out sooner
But it went out lateer but it still went out I’m I’ll be doing oneon-one I think for a couple of weeks and then I I will have another guest on and everything so I’ll send the email out sooner this time though but that’s okay I just want to
Make sure it got out and nette you said uh what did you say you you were heavily involved in Girl Scouts nette I was a girl scout I was a brownie and I was a girl scout both I went to Girl Scout camp and everything uh with the
Girl Scouts and very close and I like The Sisterhood of the women but I never wanted to be in a sorority either my Sisterhood was the Girls Scouts you know what I think it is I’m G Going speak for me I was also um they call them girl jocks I play
Volleyball basketball and softball for UCR as women women’s Varsity so I played all I one year I played all three sports that was kind of hard and after that year then I only played volleyball and basketball because they were two different seasons that’s it and I say that that was a Sisterhood
When you’re involved in sports you know I’m GNA speak for me I didn’t have time by the time I did I went to class and did homework and sports that was it for me but I I’m gonna tell you what I do appreciate about sororities I think it is a very
Good thing we have them I do I think we need them I think they serve a purpose in our world in our in our society and our structure I think it’s a very good thing to have it um a friend of mine just crossed uh Saturday and she became a
Delta the biggest ones that I’ve known about is Delta Sigma Theta and akas Alpha Capa size I say right Alpha Capa Alpha that’s what there okay but I say that because those are those aren’t the only two you have the sigmas and don’t get me to start naming them
Because I don’t know all the divine nine and I want somebody to get mad with me so I’m GNA stop right there they’re called the divine nine and those are the ones that are uh predom divine nine are African-American sororities and fraternities okay anybody from what I know I don’t
Know the qualifications to join I don’t want to tell you what they are because I don’t know but I do know they serve a good purpose for our society they do a lot in the community and I’m glad we have them whether and it’s your choice
Whether you want to pledge or not pledge I just I’m just glad they’re here so I’m GNA say that and I don’t want the Sor fraternities get mad with me don’t be getting mad with me don’t be and don’t be sending me any mes I I enjoy them I think like I
Said I’m glad we have them and I think I saw um my cousin here is that Jesse hi Jesse I called you Jesse I called you the other day I you did you notice that okay oh did you oh are you oh you must be in Atlanta there okay all righty
Now well hi Jesse see I did give you a call about last week I think it was last week last Wednesday or Thursday then then you said oh it was a it was a psych you were a Psychology major and you have read about this subject a lot like
Elaine um is independent too tell me about it and she’s a remember she’s the youngest she’s the baby she’s the but okay keep this in mind elain’s the only girl see think about it Elaine I do think and we didn’t talk about that we didn’t get
Into the fact okay not only birth order but what your sex is in that order whether you be male or female and on top of that the birth order or I don’t you say which comes first the birth order or the sex of the individual I don’t know
That but I know all of it matters I will say that and this is Antonio uh you said I’m glad that we’re best friends and family oh that’s wonderful Anton I’m tell you Anton I’m waiting I’ll be looking for those muffins though I just want you to know
Anton Danielle said you agree with Antonio I love your smile oh thank you Danielle Danielle we I’m telling you we still have to talk Daniel I don’t know what we’re gonna do we gotta get together we have to get together we just have to I mean ladies and gentlemen all
We have to do is walk out our door and walk five houses but you know what it is we’re both busy that’s all it is B both of us are busy and then we have the comment this is from Nanette you said technically did you say nette technically in Psychology in Psychology
Doesn’t agree or put much stock in birth orders but in my observation there is something you know I’ve seen both I’ve seen where they do put uh emphasis in it where they do talk about um do parents treat the order of that individual differently I will say this I think they
Do I do I really do I think we do I think and I it could be an unconscious thing but I think and like I don’t remember who made the comment they thought by the time the youngest child comes they’re more lenient they’re harder on the first one and I think it’s
A lot of Truth to that by the way but as they get they’re tired by the my family by the time they got to my brother he was number five it was almost like not that he could do what he wanted to but to a certain extent you know because he
They’ve gone through four children so it I don’t know I I don’t want to say that but I think they were definitely you know they gave him more leeway than they did the rest of us oh hi oh hi Ruby good to see you Ruby
And Ruby says as I turned into oh to that’s okay and you finally talked yourself into going to a brand new uh it’s is that Recreation Center OH for exercise and you lost track of time you said I’m going to you g to see the
Replay to tune in to the post show okay and Oliver says thank you Ruby Rob Oliver says Hi everyone on the show I thank you for your continued support we’re appreciate your input and support oh thank you babe ladies and gentlemen we are down to two minutes so any
Comments that you want to put I want to thank all of you for your comments now I’m not a psychiatrist or psychologist so I don’t even know I don’t even know if it matters but it gives you something to think about doesn’t it it really does because I am a firm believer
That I like I said I’ve seen how in our families it matters it matters it does matter which what order you were born in and it just it just it makes a difference Danielle said and you’re the only girl too see I think I’m
Elain I’m tell I think that has a lot to do with your Independence you’re the only girl you have those older brothers you know what I used to think that that would be nice to have an older brother I was I was it my the brother next to me
Was three years younger than me and that was that was my my uh the brother in my in our that that I was raised with and I’m G tell you guys this quick story well I can’t tell you you have to wait till next week because it’s two o’clock
And it’s gonna cut off I love you guys I’ll see you next Monday God bless everybody bye bye
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