What’s up everybody it is your boy Cory coming back at you with another video on Tuesday they help you level get into the MPAC organization of your choice like I always say these videos will not guarantee you a spot in a NPHC organization but it will help you maximize your opportunities and maximize
Your chances of getting in in today’s video we’re going to be talking about something a little bit different I just talked about this a little earlier when I first started my youtube channel so I decided to revisit this because a lot of people have been asking me and I need to
Update some information but we’re gonna be talking about dating someone in a fraternity or sorority what’s the positives what’s the negatives what some things need to look out for so a pajama game oh no how many of y’all have asked me this question in the past few weeks so I figured I’d do
Another video First time I see this right here if you’re looking to date someone in a fraternity or sorority you need to make sure you’re not one to jealous type and you need to make sure you are not the type that needs a lot of attention this goes for male or female so if you’re
Male trying to date someone in the sorority if you’re a type of Miller I need all the attention you type of male that gets jealous easily just go ahead and don’t even go down that path same with women if you’re trying to date a guy in a fraternity and you need a lot
Of attention and you need and you get jealous easily just go ahead and just don’t put yourself in the situation i’ma say this it is hard whenever someone dates someone in a fraternity and a sorority especially if the other person is not any fraternity or sorority because they don’t
Understand what all goes I don’t understand how much of a time commitment it is so whenever you’re never in a relationship it’s all about understanding and it’s all about communication so I think whenever you date someone in a fraternity or sorority as long as you keep the level of
Communication up here I think it’ll be fine but what I realized and what I’ve seen before is people don’t communicate like they should and even with people that’s not a fraternity sororities don’t communicate like they should so like it’s all about trust and you know with you’re in a fraternity or sorority
You’ll be around the opposite sex a lot you’ll be at social Vista like you will have a lot of opportunities to per se cheat but it’s all about who you are what your character is and if your scumbag with you a whole that’s all you are turning your sorority is not gonna
Bring that out of you you have to have that embodied in you nonsense all I’m saying is make sure if you’re in a relationship build that trust honesty and integrity build all that because that’s that’s what it’s gonna take if you date someone in a fraternity or
Sorority because it like I say they’re gonna be out here doing this that and you just got to be able to trust that they’re going to be faithful Now I’m gonna say this to let’s say your girl dating a guy in a fraternity let’s say that guy is online so you already know your time with this guy is gonna be very very limited so if you’re the type of girl that needs validation and attention from this guy all the time
Then you might as well not even put yourself through that headache because he’s not gonna be able to do that while he’s online and probably a few months after you cross cuz we getting the old fever and we want to be with our Bros
And we want to be out when I know it’ll be out showing everybody that we you know we got a new letter so a lot of times throughout that on process stage and a few months after they cross is gonna be crucial and it’s gonna be hard
For you but if you think you can get through that as a woman that you don’t need you don’t need any validation from him you don’t need any you don’t need that much attention not saying that this is an excuse for him to ignore you that’s not that’s not the case but it’s
Just gonna be his time it’s gonna be split between the process of his bros and you you know what there’s time split didn’t I don’t even go that route now guys if your girl is joining a sorority or in a sorority same thing like I know
You want to be loving and all this and that but all that ain’t happened and watching you online all that ain’t happening all the dates and this and that is not happiness you gotta focus you gotta be on a purpose and get through the process that being said if
You’re the type of guy that gets jealous easily because you know some of us guys we get jealous you know I’m saying you need to bag back because you’re gonna be around all these different fraternities this is bent in this especially if she a delta especially if she an aka it can’t
Actually gonna be around alphas don’t just you gonna be around damn Q’s bro so you don’t need to be jealous bro which is go ahead and exit itself out of the situation if you don’t mean jealous hey if she’s a nurse he gonna be around sick
Was too so you’re not I’m saying so if you’re the jealous type of guy don’t put yourself in that situation because it’s gonna be hard for you and you’re gonna be over controlling you’re gonna be all opponent and that’s going to push her away and that’s gonna cause even more tension so yeah
Don’t do it don’t do it but I will say this relationships can last in a if someone is in a fraternity or sorority it can’t but everybody has to be on the same page if one person is on this page in one person’s on that page it’s not
Gonna work everybody gotta be on the same exact page guys now I remember this one person you know dear me about a situation like relationships she was like she won a pledge but her boyfriend doesn’t want her to do it and I’m like pledge because at the end of the day
This is your boyfriend you know I’m saying this is something you really wanted to do and you’ve been want to do it for a while pledge don’t let somebody else to even if it’s your boyfriend don’t let your boyfriend tell you can’t do something they’re not nice and daddy
He gotta let go of his insecurities about you know I’m saying and as a man you should let your woman do anything that will help better herself you shouldn’t hinder her from doing anything that will help better herself and in the day a sorority is supposed to help
Better the woman a fraternity is supposed to help better the man whatever decisions and actions they decide to do in that sorority or fraternity I still but it’s supposed to help build them up into a better person so I don’t think anyone should hinder someone from joining a fraternity because of their
Own insecurities let them let them do what they want to do my girls I had a situation where a girl didn’t want her boyfriend class because she think that he was gonna go off and cheat and and not give her as much attention with the attention part T I mean that’s him a
Fraternity is not gonna make somebody cheat it will give guys more opportunities to be around girls I will say that it will give guys more opportunities to talk to girls if they wanted to I will say that but it’s initially up to the guy to be
The one to take that action to go pull up on another you’re not saying so it’s not per sake of attorney and the sorority that forces these people to do these things it’s just these people all of a sudden get all this attention all of a sudden get
More opportunities than they had and maybe they don’t know what to doing it so it’s up to that person that has the right mental mindset or whatever to be like you know something I got me a shorty I ain’t gonna lie I ain’t gonna slide ladies I’d be like you know
Something I got a man this ain’t worth the risk you know I’m saying it’s up to the person you cannot blame it on a fraternity or sorority now like I said there is pros and there are cons so it’s all about what you think you can put up
With now if you a girl and you think your guy that just join a fraternity is no longer interesting you and is all about this attention that he’s receiving all this net exit yourself from the situation don’t try to change him just exit yourself from the situation go
Ghost leaving lead a man alone and then you go from there same with guys man if your girl just join a sorority or is in a sorority now she’s not giving you no attention anymore so you don’t initiate hanging out this and that this slide away go and do your
Own thing like don’t pressure don’t put pressure on yourself don’t stress yourself out go ahead and remove yourself from the situation because I don’t care what nobody say fraternity or sorority someone is really interested they will make time for you now it might not be as much as time as they could
Before they join but they will find a way to make some time in between study breaks yeah let’s go get some or on a weekend early in the day or something let’s go get something at night y’all do something like yeah it will be times where they can find some time to finish
Something for you so if someone that’s really into you and really want to be with you they will find time no matter how busy they was when I was in fraternity in college I was in relationship I was a damn president but I still found time to be with my girl I
Still found time found time to go out and do all this stuff with her as well as do my schoolwork as well as half a job as well as do presidential stuff in a fraternity I still found granted I had to sacrifice a few things
Not go to a party here not road trip there not do this with some of my brothers sometimes you got to make a sacrifice for eternity or sorority it just depends on how much you’re feeling that person if you’re really feeling the person you will make the top so like I
Said don’t stay in a situation where you’re seeing the other person isn’t trying to initiate time either like if you’re on the other side and you’re always trying to initiate this and that with the person that just daughter fraternity or sorority or you’re always trying to be like hey let’s do something
Let’s do something let’s do something and they just cross in here over there all high and mighty now let them go like that’s a no-brainer you know I’m saying let them go or you can get one time to see if that will wear off but it’s all
Up to you you know I’m saying but like I said the fraternity or sorority is not gonna force anybody to do anything it’s all about the person it’s all about who they are it’s all about how they can handle this a new attention that they got and not everybody can handle it ten
People come in from Luck right got go to this event see these people go to another campus see some other people and it like it’s all kind of opportunities out there but it’s all about the person it’s all about who they are and if they will embark on another person if they
Know they’re to release you that’s all I’m saying that I mean am I wrong am i right you know that’s it for this video please let me know if you have any questions you know y’all could damn me drop a like on this video for sure drop
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