So the question is is sorority life toxic That’s right what is up everybody it’s your girl tyra and welcome back to my youtube channel if you are new here welcome i am so glad to have you here on this channel i create resources for black creatives who want to escape fear and share their creativity with the world without
Compromising their faith in god their integrity their uniqueness and without breaking the bank when i first started this channel i sprinkled in a little bit of greek life into my channel which i am starting to actually phase out but i had to answer this question because you guys
Have asked me so many questions under this umbrella and i just wanted to give you my honest opinion so with founders day coming up on january 13th and we are at the beginning of the spring 2022 semester and a lot of you guys will start seeing rush flyers interest meeting flyers for
Different organizations that you may want to join i thought this would be a great time to answer this question so are sororities toxic let’s jump in so the first thing that i want to say is that this entire like question is kind of not the right question to ask because
I don’t believe that people are toxic i believe that traits can be toxic so with that being said just under that umbrella alone no i don’t think sororities are toxic and i’m not just talking about my sorority i’m not even talking about my sorority as a whole um disclaimer these
Are my opinions they are not the opinions of my sorority like i just i have to say that kind of stuff in these type of videos these days um these are my personal opinions and mine only yes i may be wearing my letters but they
My letters to wear and i can do that in a video so i’m just going to be talking about sororities and fraternities as a whole with my response to this question so long story short i don’t personally think that sororities or fraternities themselves are toxic because that would
Mean that they would have had to be founded on toxic principles you feel what i’m saying like i really believe that it depends on the person it depends on the situation and it depends on the entire experience so i’m gonna go into my undergrad experience versus my grad
Experience so i crossed spring 2014 and oh my god i have been a delta for so long it’s 2022 this is crazy but anyways undergrad we were a reactivation line so we didn’t really have many deltas on our yard we also i went to a pwi which is a
Predominantly white institution and we didn’t have many denied greeks as a whole greek life was pretty huge on my campus but there was like cpc ifc greeks all of those types of organizations and i would say that i had a pretty great experience the only time that i had a
Less than stellar experience with someone from the same sorority or someone from a different organization is when i would travel to like another school or you know something like that and i feel like that has a lot to do with that person’s pride or that
Person’s idea of what it means to be in this organization and we just tend to group it all together because that person is a part of this organization but i’ve seen people in other organizations that have acted in this way i think the biggest thing for me is
That people be acting like they pretentious people be acting like they are on a pedestal because they have something that you may want or people be thinking that they can just treat you any kind of way and that has nothing to do with the organization that they are in that has
Everything to do with who they are as a person so my undergrad experience was great it wasn’t toxic in a sense um it wasn’t until i got into a grad chapter well until i graduated that i started to really see just how toxic this environment
Could be the potential that it had to be and i just realized that a lot of people go into these organizations and they don’t know who they are before they cross and they are nobody but beyond their letters like i hear a lot of people saying that like you ain’t
Nothing without your letters and what they mean by that is your entire identity cannot be defined by the organization that you pledge like of course you want to have pride and of course you want to um hold your organization to a high standard and a high regard and you want to be excited
That you’re in this organization but you are more than your letters and i think that’s very important to understand people who act in this way or people that that come up to you and like just act just honestly like shitty i think the biggest thing is they need to reflect on themselves and
Grow as a person so that they can be a full person so that they can be a well-rounded person so that they don’t feel like they have to overcompensate because they don’t truly know who they are beyond their letters so with that being said i don’t think that sororities or fraternities are
Toxic in any way i think the people who get into these organizations have perpetuated this stereotype but the more that you learn about any organization i’m not talking about just denying any organization you will see that there are people that love it and that people are welcoming and that people really enjoy
Being a great example of what it means to be a delta what it means to be an alpha what it means to be an aka what it means to be a fine you a tri-cig a chi omega a-o-pi like all of these different organizations not just one specific
Fraternity or sorority i’m talking about everybody like you’ll find people all over the place that’s both good and bad and that’s what anything even if you take people who are in a science club let’s say that you had somebody in a science club and they was just a die-hard like
Heavy fan of their club like you couldn’t tell them nothing like their pride ran so deep like they could even exemplify some of these same characteristics that you see from people in greek life like it has i honestly think that it has nothing to do or not nothing to do but i honestly
Think that regardless of the organization greek academic sports athletic whatever whatever organization christian religious whatever i think that you will run into these people i feel like we run into these people a little more in greek life because everybody feels like they may have something to prove but baby let me
Tell you tyranny got another proof i ain’t got another fruit of you i don’t think sororities are toxic but i have had some uh personal experiences where i was like oh my gosh like this is toxic this is crazy and i have removed myself from those
Situations because at the end of the day even though you may be in the same organization or you may be you may run in the same circles if you are treating me in a way that i don’t like to be treated i’m not about to deal with you like and that’s just on
My mental health like i’m not about to play with you and everyone should hold everyone to the same standard regardless if you’re in the same organization or not i know a lot of videos especially at the beginning of the covet started coming out about denouncing your letters
And a lot of people were speaking about you know religious reasons or they joined the organization for the wrong reasons i think that is a huge part in why we think that organizations like this can be so toxic because people join them for the wrong reasons they don’t
Really get down to why this organization was founded what this organization is here to do and what they can do to better this organization and moving forward they worry about all of the popularity and all of the fun stuff the stepping the the hopping you know what i
Mean like wearing the letters like having this popularity around you having this thing that not everyone can have so i’ve seen a lot of denouncing letters videos and i think that also adds to you know people thinking that these organizations are not things that they
Want to be in but there’s so many great parts about being in a sorority or being in a fraternity one thing for me is especially now is networking like i live out in los angeles and i find so many sorors the creator of the show that i’m currently
Cast in is a sore roar and that just it gave us something in common it gave us something to bind on and i know that at the end of the day like she will if i needed something i would be able to go to her i would feel comfortable enough
To go to her as a sore sword or sorrow and say hey sorry like this is what i’m going through if there’s anything you can do like any advice you can give me whatever the case may be i know that that person is there for me but yeah i
I just think that you know as a whole like no they not and with that being said i know you guys asked me a lot of questions in my dms like i have gotten way way way too many questions i’m gonna do one more one one more
Um video about answering all of your questions about sorority life the ones that i can’t answer i will but with that being said i’m just say this off rip just in this video because i know you all are going to watch it if you have questions do not ask me to write your
Recommendation letters i don’t know you don’t ask me to do that i’m not going to write your recommendation letters and i say that with love because i’ve gotten so many people asking me on the internet to write these letters and the issue with that is one i don’t know you i
Can’t speak on your character i’ve never met you before and two this is a time for you to meet someone in the sorority if you don’t know anyone go out and have coffee with a sore that’s like your friend’s mom or you know your mom’s co-worker or something
Like that go out and have coffee with them get to know them ask them questions about the organization so you can truly learn about this organization and make an informed decision to make sure that this is something that you want to be a part of so you’re not on that side of
The line where people are treating other people less than stellar and they are perpetuating these negative stereotypes that have played all of our organizations and that people are talking about and saying like i don’t want to be a part of this organization and all that stuff but yeah y’all
I don’t think sororities are toxic if you have any questions about anything that i said in this video please let me know down below in the comments um as always you can always ask me questions on my dms i also have a form that you can fill out it is linked down
Below and that’ll be an anonymous form that you can fill out if you don’t feel comfortable asking me questions on instagram but with that being said i am phasing out the greek life content on my channel because like we’ve been talking about there are people who don’t treat people the same
Way and as you guys saw i had to remove a video and it’s just a lot that i really don’t care to deal with because i got things happening in my life i have a lot of stuff going on and i have bigger fish to fry so
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