Hey guys and welcome to my first ever youtube video that is crazy to say but today is the first video so happy sunday and for this video i decided to discuss one of the biggest things i did this semester which was joining a panhellenic sorority as a black female
So if you don’t know a palette sorority is predominantly white so it did come with a very different experience that i want to share with you guys so without further ado let’s just get into this video So i played softball with a girl and she told me that she was going to usc and she was also joining a sorority and that was the first time i ever heard about sororities in general and i was like a sorority so i started to look into it you know i went into
Youtube university to learn kind of what really is they sorting kind of how what they do from people who are actually in them after that i kind of just decided that it was something i was willing to give a try i looked into it i wasn’t that involved
In high school so i knew going into college that i really wanted to make a change and be a little bit more involved than what i was and i also wanted something that would take me out of my comfort zone and believe me this definitely took me out of my comfort zone What i was looking for in a sorority was a place where i felt like i would fit and could have an impact on anything like that somewhere i felt like i could be myself and be 100 who i am and that’s just what i wanted out of
Sorority like i said i didn’t know much about sorority so i never had a set name in mind of a sorority i mean you hear of some here and there but other than that i had no experience or no knowledge of any sorority i just wanted to find me a
Place where i felt like i could be myself So after i decided to join a sorority obviously i’m in one but the journey to get there was completely different i actually did not go through the formal sorority recruitment like the rush that whole two-week process that everyone loved and hate i didn’t do it and here’s why i honestly
Backed out i was so scared to do it and i talked myself out of doing it the whole summer really before college i really just talked myself out of it which i really wish i would have went through it and got that experience but you know what it’s too late can’t
Turn back time and here’s why i didn’t rush i didn’t rush because i really didn’t know how would i feel being one of a few people colored there it was going to be a different experience i knew and i talked myself out of it i really contemplated
The whole summer of like would i even be welcomed here how would i even be perceived by my friends family or whatever i honestly care too much about what people thought and i backed out and then after i got to school and i saw it and i completely wish that was me
And wish i would have did it i regretted it so much and i really wanted to be a part of a sorority i knew i just erased the idea of what people would think about me and i just went into cob which is continuous open bidding
And that’s how i i ended up in a sorority through that instead of the formal thing i just didn’t do in the cob process it’s very calm and it’s very it’s not as much pressure to join not rip pressure it’s not as quick i would say as the form of recruitment
Obviously i can’t compare to because i didn’t do it but from what i hear it is a different experience it’s very calm it’s very 101 and you can really learn a lot about the sorority before you really get there so in the first step of my cob process i
Went to a zoom call with 30 other girls i was kind of nervous before i don’t know if nervous the right word but anxious i was very adamant about seeing how would everything go and i thought about it the whole day and i got into the zoom call and i did
Exactly what every single minority does i look throughout the whole room to see if i could find anyone who looked like me or similar and i only found one person so immediately in that situation my heart started to race my heart was pounding i got super
Nervous and i want to leave the zoom call obviously i knew going again that that would be the situation but i didn’t really think i was that prepared at the time to actually see that oh lord you are the only black person here are you gonna be okay and but i stuck
Through the zoom call and i learned so much about the sorority that i am in now and and during the call we went into breakout rooms with an older member and she was so nice to me and i never felt like that she was judging me or trying to talk to me differently
Just because i was black she literally talked to me the exact same way she talked to the other girl in the room and in that moment where was having this good conversation i was like okay i’m fine you know what and i completely enjoyed it it was end up turning out real
Way better than what i expected and then after that about a couple days later i got another text saying that they enjoyed the conversation and would like to continue to chat so i did that and and then i found out i had a facetime a member and oh my god if you
Know me i can i’m not good at talking to people i don’t know and here i go again the heart rate is pounding i am nervous again i and in my head i was like oh my god i have to facetime i’m not gonna face time at all i don’t
Chat with people for a long time on facetime and i didn’t know how long the conversation was gonna be but when i got there and i was talking to her i completely enjoyed it same thing the conversation just flowed so easily and honestly i talked to her for about
An hour and a half and i have never talked to anyone for an hour and a half unless it was like my best friend or my mom so that was kind of eye opener for me as like this might be a place for me or
Where i could feel like i would fit and everything went well and then a couple days later funny story i was taking my statistics exam while i haven’t like hit begin like the time haven’t started running or anything but the corner of my eye my phone was ringing
And something in my head was just telling brie answer the phone just just answer the phone so i decided to answer the phone and i got a bid into the sorority that i’m in now and i was so excited that i actually failed my statistics exam
Which is not funny at all but i was so distracted because i was so happy about getting a bid that i didn’t pay attention to a single question on that exam and i failed it which i ended up getting the grade back up so it’s completely fine
Now and it’s funny now but in that time it was not funny at all so yeah that was how i ended up joining and even though that was very fun it did come with some obstacles after i accepted the bit First i’m just going to start out by telling like two things that happened like right after i joined so the first thing that happened was i posted on my snapchat story it was the first ever post i ever made about my sorority and someone slid up and said oh my god
You pledge delta delta is a part of the d9 organizations i did not pledge delta but they just assumed that i pledged delta and i had to explain like i didn’t pledge delta and it was very awkward conversation and then i kid you now probably a week
Later it was time for the usc and auburn football game that’s the only game i got to go to this semester which kind of sucks but i went i had my nice little sorority button on you know that we wear on game days and stuff and i was at soda city
And i was buying something from this vendor and he saw the button and he kept looking at it and he said oh you’re an ad9 sorority and and to me i just felt that he said that because i have greek letters on me and that i am black so that makes me a
Nad9 and i completely understand that he was trying to make conversation but it immediately got so awkward when i said no i wasn’t in d9 then i had to explain to him that i was actually in a different sorority that i wasn’t a part of a d9
And he was just like oh okay but it was awkward and after both of those things happened i knew i was always going to have to explain my reasoning of joining a panel in the sorority or the fact that i am black in a paneling sorority in general
And i actually did i had to explain to people friends family whatever always that’s just one thing that comes apart of it you’re always gonna have to explain which is very weird to me because i never had to explain any of my decisions before until this but you know what it is what
It is it’s just one of those things that happens because a lot of people just don’t understand and after having to explain so much i was very i started to get very insecure about my decision and it wasn’t even like around my sorority senses that i felt that way but
It was when i was around different people of where i felt like oh my god everyone is judging me and they looking at me it was just the insecurity that i had and in all actuality i bet half the people i met didn’t even care at all
But that was just the way i felt and you kind of have no one to talk to about it because people just don’t understand like i didn’t know anyone else who did it who joined a panelist sorority like i didn’t know anyone that i could talk to and people don’t understand like the
Difference because it is different and it’s not common at all i wouldn’t even consider this very normal and i had no one to talk to about it because it was a little weird at the beginning so that was like very yeah you don’t have no one to talk to because
People really just don’t understand but now hey if you’re in the same boat feel free to talk to me here’s my instagram shoot me a dm or whatever it does not matter i will be the person you can talk to but now being like a semester into my sorority
I’m fine you know what i really don’t deal with that anymore it was just those beginning stages of where i kind of felt insecure about my decision to me i just felt like your cousin is in a dean is in a d9 she is a delta
And you go over here and do this that was just how i felt like people reacted to it which they may have they may not i don’t really know and and that was just hard for me at the time and i’m saying this with a smile
Because like you know what it is what it is it’s definitely have been an experience for me for this last part of this video i just wanted to give my advice my advice would be just go for it honestly just do it regardless of who you are
What type of sorority anything if you have like the slightest idea of wanting to join a sorority but very scared to just go for it you would never know the experience you will have you can look at this videos and thousands of others and i promise you
Everyone is going to have a different experience not every single sorority is the same not every single school is the same but like i was saying you’re never going to know the experience that you’re going to have you could have a good experience or you could have a
Terrible experience but it’s better to know than to not you don’t want to be in your head about it and be like oh would have been like this what have i enjoyed it or xyz it’s just better to know regardless of if this is good or bad
So for my second thing of advice regardless if you decide to rush or go through cob or whatever just be yourself honestly that’s just the best advice i can give you if a sorority don’t like you for you then that’s just not the place you belong
My third thing of advice is to follow sororities on social media i followed every single sorority at usc palin is andy9’s owns instagram social media is not going to tell you everything you need to know about a sorority but you at least get a kind of an idea of the sororities if you’re
Anything like me going in i couldn’t even tell you five sororities off the top of my head and following them on instagram kind of gave me an idea like kind of where i felt like i would fit in like what could have been a good place for me
Oh also this kind of ties into the following or social media thing but do your research find out about these sororities especially if you don’t know nothing about them kind of find out the time commitment or what goes into it honestly i was very surprised about the
Amount of time commitment you have to give when you’re a new member look into what goes into sorority life like you’re not just going to be meeting friends you have to do community service and have x amount of hours depending on your sorority and it is a time commitment so learn before you
Join just do it be yourself follow on social media and do your research that was my first things of advice so and with that this is the end of the video and if you have anything that you think we should discuss or talk about put them down in the comments below but
With all that been said i hope you enjoy your sunday like i said happy holidays thank you so much for joining and watching the first video so bye
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