She’s Finding a Husband THIS YEAR feat. @AyshaHarun | CCP 119

Let’s get to the real goal for S and that is to find a husband yes guys we had a little bit of an intervention I don’t know that s my lips are dry I thought you just got up to put on Vaseline when I could have SW welcome

Back guys to the cousin connection podcast oo and welcome to the new year for all those out there who are are making new changes in their life you know hopefully it’s another good year for y’all uh we’re going to be talking a little bit about that today I had a list of stuff

And I just realized it’s on my camera that we’re using to uh film Our Guest today well at this point it’s like like like regular regular I’m a reoccurring got my sister here Aisha again to you know I didn’t say her really say I should for that no they know that what

No cuzz I always say the first thing first okay yeah thank you thank you a silent clapping yeah so if you’re watching this for the first time thank you for um following our Channel and also subscribing make sure you subscribe to the channel and hit that like button

And hit the notification Bell and do all that stuff apparently oh I already mentioned that what or like if you tell people to do too many things they don’t do it so you have to tell them to do one thing you mentioned all though yeah whatever all good I’m going to cut out

All that extra stuff just subscribe at this point okay we’re really trying to hit our goal of 10K yeah by the end of the year inshallah we’re going to double our numbers and we’re going to hit 10K this year yall got 12 months now yeah uh

So what do you want to talk about first s what do you want to bring in the new new year with well first of all you know the new year I feel like it symbolizes the start of new things there’s that new found motivation even though it’s just

Another day on the calendar but don’t let anybody shame you if you have goals work on them I know last week we’ve kind of talked about what we wanted to do in the New Year the goals that we had so I think we should start I already have a

Couple for you you have a couple for me I already know what you’re going to say cuz you’re so predictable be on time number number one that be a great exactly that would be number one of course to be fair yeah I was not home okay there’s always an EXC exactly

There’s my life is what you know what series of events the second goal not saying okay not the second goal let’s say this is the third one cuz the second one I feel like is a little more important but the third goal uhhuh

Should be to get a car to get oh I am s has been saying for the past 6 months she’s getting get she’s going to get a new car here’s the thing here actually someone literally dm’d me and they’re like Muk on the car I’m like when did I

Say I was getting I don’t have it yet they’re manifesting it for you I know this point it’s a community Struggle No the car that I want is just not available yet so I have to wait get a used car come on no I want a new one why do you

Want a new car because once I set my eyes on it I’m just like I need this car like this need it okay okay it’s a very strong want but the the vehicle itself I need that have you driven it no cuz it’s literally not like they don’t have it in

Canada yet then how do you know you even want it if you haven’t driven it yet it’s just what I’ve been eyeing why don’t you drive other cars yeah Drive other cars yeah You’ never you’ve never like like You’ never actually started the car looking process if you haven’t actually

Test driven anything I’ve only test driven like the 2022 2022 model have you been so you’ve been to a car dealership at least yeah no I did I went went started the process exact I was like when are you guys getting the actual car car in your dealership and they were

Like we’ll know by January and that was 2 months ago so they’re like if you want we have they had the 2022 and the 2023 version I looked at it I was like I’ll wait like I’ll just be patient okay we’ll see if that works out you

Know what car you should get what what car should I get I feel like you should get a Toyota 2015 just get it with make sure at least it has Bluetooth in it do you have like a like a cut or something okay no no no okay it doesn’t have to be

A Toyota it can be a Honda as well just any like like reliable vehicle all you need is Bluetooth and maybe Android auto and that’s it you mean Apple car play like get it right whatever get just to get you just to get you from point A to

Point B that’s all you need no did you see the new Camry side note cuz it’s so nice that I was like Shook at how nice it looked then get the new Camry don’t get a new car that’s the thing cuz people don’t realize there’s depreciation okay there’s depreciation

Of vehicles and especially these days because the price of vehicles are going down so quickly like you can buy a vehicle and it’ll lose its value almost immediately pretty significantly it’s always been like that though it’s always been like but now it’s like it’s it’s exasperated no it’s uh

It’s almost like it’s that process is worse because of the fact that the market is changing so quickly it’s not that deep just get a car that you like like nothing that like you tell me cuz I feel like she gets it she’s gotten a new car before that feeling where you first

Drive it off the lot like aren’t you super Giddy and excited why don’t you cheesing all the way home then why don’t you lease then cuz I don’t own the car you don’t I lease yeah you might as well just lease at that point if you want a

New vehicle buy it out maybe I don’t know I feel like for for your first car it wouldn’t be horrible to leas because what if you end up hating the car you know and now you’re stuck with a car forever versus 3 years that is a good

Point but then at the end of like I don’t know I mean at the end of the day you’re paying money and it’s coming out to your account so whether whether it’s coming out to your account so that you can own it in the end I feel like it’s

Not as serious as like buying a house like you know that like okay okay like if you’re renting they say it’s like a waste of money which I still don’t technically agree with but like at least with a financed car you’re like paying or like a a financed house you’re paying

Into owning the home which then you can sell for a lot of money that’s true but a car it’s not really like you’re paying into it and then you can sell it for a lot you’re going to sell it for like a fraction of what you actually got it for

But but you could like pay the lease but then if the value of the vehicle um I think it is if it drops you do a lease buyout or something yeah you can buy out the lease so the value drops sign I you can buy

The car out for cheap so what you would have gotten if you bought it straight up yeah but and that’s not a bad idea but um You Can’t customize if you lease right um like if you wanted why do you want to customize I think you I’m trying

To think maybe you can’t customize but I know like I waited for like I wanted peanut butter Interiors so like they just like told me there like one was coming so I just waited until it was there oh so I don’t know if you can technically customize maybe not you can

Just pick the colors pick an option like there’s there’s like luxury options or like the regular option or sport option whatever you can pick different options I don’t think you can technically like customize it fully though like okay but do you really want to customize like are

You like oh I need to get a black vehicle that’s new and like has like red interior or something like that well honestly sometimes dealerships will just randomly put together those options and just have them so like I would suggest if you know 100% this is a car you want

Like get friendly with the dealer and then whenever there’s a car cuz they’ll know like yeah a couple months ahead of time and if if you let them know like no I want one with like black interior leather only like this mode whatever just be like let me know when something

Like this comes on the lot then they’ll call you up and let you know okay and you can usually put like a deposit on it so no one else takes it m I might do that I I’m pretty sure it gets released in the US first yeah so part of me was

Like oh maybe I should just get it but then the only thing that throws me off is like one it’s going to be more expensive yeah you you can’t do that also it’s it’s not possible to like buy a car in the US unless you buy it like

Fully cash you can’t Finance over borders right right right and and even then like the speedometer is going to be in miles it’s going to be annoying yeah and and also um you know were have you had Insurance before this I’m on insurance right now oh okay okay I was

Going to say people who don’t have a history of insurance if you buy like a new car a lot of times Insurance price is crazy cuz I know for me it was going to be crazy like I I I had work insurance I had work insurance for years

I had regular insurance right so that’s going to be a big thing too you’re sweating Miss we’re back honestly I mentioned this last week I hate dslrs and all these special Camas not even a DLR is it so much to figure out you know I tried

To be cool out here and use 4K but that’s not working gizm man’s tired you’ve been waiting like 40 minutes for us or Aisha’s tired here cuz we Wai 40 minutes okay it’s been a long day you know we’re just going to we’re going to bang out this

Podcast listen guys fully defeated start to the New Year hopefully we get you know we should just do an episode in ASMR no I don’t want to put people to sleep okay we’re not trying to turn people away here I think you should just try what we were talking about was your

Next goal your volume is okay guys what okay we’re going we’re going to get back we’re going to get back we’re going to get back to what we were talking about before okay okay okay guys I am done and over with this okay so the debate between whether you should purchase or

Leisa car yes forget about all that okay we we talked about it we finished it scratch whatever scratch that all off okay let’s get to the real goal for next year and that goal is something we talked about as a family I mean for this

Year for S and that is to find a husband yes guys we had a little bit of an intervention husb I don’t know that s hus literally guys the day I get married I expect yeah amir’s wedding speech is going to be like this hello everyone my name is Amir

I’m uh s and I do a podcast together and this is my speech finally mic dropped just walk out that’s crazy that’s crazy wait am I expected to make a speech that’s going to be weird ew yeah what going to be so awkward I can already see I know and we’re just going

To be laughing I’m not going to be awkward I’m actually a very good like public speaker I know but you you do this like voice yeah okay what are you talking about I’m I don’t know what you guys talking about you’re you’re literally talking to the two people that

Know you best yeah you don’t think we notice these things about you what what voice do I do it’s kind of similar to your podcast voice do you need a tissue am I sweating that much sweating look at the you pointing it out s cuz it’s just

Glistening I’m good I’m good okay you can’t see it on there now we’re filming on 1080p cuz I f4k okay it’s okay we’ll figure it out I think you’re not awkward you just it’s she’s right it’s like this voice that you put on yeah yeah it’s announcer voice like it’s a a presenter

Voice sure yeah is that not what you’re supposed to do what do you guys want me to do I mean when it’s like a like a speech to your family member like you kind of want to like I get nerves but if you want to make it personal like you

Want to sound like you like you sound like a business presentation like you’re trying to like you’re trying to sell us on something instead of just like talking yeah I don’t do that yeah you do you literally do okay okay okay maybe I but like that’s that’s how you that’s how you

Like uh you know capture the attention of the a yeah that’s how you capture attention of the audience you know you get people’s attention is because at the end of the day it’s all it’s not really for you it’s perform for everyone else yeah that’s true if it was for you I

Would just do it a one-on-one that’s true mhm yeah so you it’s really just reality situation okay I think I’m going to get through that speech I think I’ll just cry you know I can’t talk about emotional things I’m just going to cry you know like during sub’s

Wedding Dam no way this man is making a protein [ __ ] is that what that was so y was sitting here like a second ago and he just got up and suddenly we just hear we hear the blender go off we hear the blender go off this man just left us to

Make a protein shake but I thought I was going to cry during that um wedding speech yeah and to this day I still haven’t seen like any footage so I don’t know if it’s sound good you guys all the footage was lost yeah well no they have

The footage yeah I think it was just oh the audio was lost the audio was lost so crazy yeah so you can why don’t you guys just do uh ADR what’s that it’s like you know in movies how after they film oh they like redo it yeah they redo the

Sound just do that for the whole thing redo all the sound do the background noise like you guys have people come in and make like Fage sound not foliage sound but that background noise sound the feet shuffling on the yeah the feet shuffling you get the Moms come in and

They do a little performance for everyone you have to get ad him to resing all the time yeah exactly you know make it a whole production that would be a cool thing if like you could be you could be that next like popular viral Tik toks like we lost all the

Audio for our wedding uh video so we redid it all with everyone to come back for their voices or whatever like you know something like that if sub was into like editing and stuff mhm he could do that for their 10 year anniversary yeah

Make it like a 60c one you don’t have to do the whole thing but like just the main parts that would be kind of cool still see I’m just saying man ideas man I just come with them that’s all it is yeah just don’t come to me with ideas

About cameras cuz I apparently don’t have any idea I’m still I’m still going to go on that okay we tried we tried I’m not going to give up on it just yet I know I know we were talking about that really cuz I was ready to just say like

Return n no you know I feel like I feel like we can still make it work okay we’ll see how this turns out sorry I keep talking about the camera but we’ll move on and we’ll go back to what you guys tried to distract me from or you

Tried to distract us from which is the fact that we’re going to find you a husband the fact that we’re putting this on an actual episode now is like it’s official the pressure’s on okay exactly because as you guys know we’ve been doing our weekly Tik Tok lives and y’all

Have been coming for me MH the the attention deflected from Air now to me everyone’s like we’re going to leave him alone a little bit yeah we’ve annoyed him enough they bullied him enough and now it’s my turn and I’m just like dang this is I don’t like the hot SE well

Just just just like to be fair it wasn’t only Sada technically okay it inspired this air so it wasn’t me I just walked into this conversation no I’m setting you up for like setting the scene for the audience oh okay okay so we were all

At you know uh uh s’s nephew my nephew sorry s’s technically your nephew as well all of our nephews he’s all of our nephews sorry yeah it was his birthday so you know we had all the fam come over we were you know playing games we were

Chilling and you know when it gets to that like late night Vibe everybody’s kind of chilling they’re trying to just figure out what to do and you start having conversations right so one of the older cousins you know they started bringing us all together and of course

The mar topic of marriage came up and it’s funny cuz we were about to play another game and then I was like like quietly summoned do you remember that my sister-in-law she like you were summoned over we were like about to sit down we were sitting down and she’s like can you

Come to the kitchen for a second and she looked so excited so I’m like oh I already know where this conversation’s going to go like I already knew so I’m like okay and then but you weren’t alone well at first it was at one onone conversation and then eventually she

Called on my sister-in-law’s brother and her own brother yeah and then it like slowly started to expand and it became like this full-on like intervention red table talk conversation really was a red table talk like we were sharing like these Deep Thoughts we were literally all around a

Table not a red table but a table an island island island talks Island talks next podcast idea I’m just saying but but it was actually like you know I I enjoyed the conversation too like I I liked hearing from everyone’s perspectives and like we all took the

Time to listen to each other I loved that yeah yeah they’re asking like why have you not talked to anyone or like what’s stopping you clearly s’s already mentioned this a bunch of times it’s always the fear of rejection I’m pretty sure well no that that specific thing was like why don’t I

Make the first move as a woman yeah and I said I would never do it yeah you wouldn’t do it for what reason because I have too much pride ofir yeah it’s the fear of rejection exactly I feel like everyone has that yeah but like what I was trying to say

Was like guys should be used to that by now you know cuz I feel like it’s it’s natural should be used to that oh by like Co going up to people yeah like as in like I know rejection sucks whether you’re a man or a woman yeah that’s

Inevitable but you should be used to like the gesture of making the first move do you when you say that do you mean literally being like hey I want to pursue you intentionally for marriage like someone actually saying that or just like like what what do you mean is

Making the first move what is that like talking to someone yeah I would never that’s crazy like in person like just like to say hi you would never just go up to someone and say hi no I would do that I think is that not making a first move though mhm uh

Um I think you’re looking at it the wrong way I think like I I get what you mean by like I would never make the first move but I think when you when you say that I mean like initiating the conversation about about marriage yeah

And I agree I think I think that should be I mean I I don’t actually I don’t agree or disagree I think if a woman doesn’t want to like actually be like hey can we be intentional about this and like let’s talk about marriage if a

Woman doesn’t want to do that I think that’s okay um someone obviously has to but I think like making the first move is just as simple as going up to someone and talk and starting sparking a conversation I definitely think I can like that’s not a problem for me I feel

Like then I think just like shifting your shifting your um uh perspective on that will like help you just like be more open instead of just being like I don’t want to make the first move like I’m a woman he should be doing that blah blah blah but it’s like just keeping

Yourself open to like you know whether you necessarily think like making the first move is again just talking to someone that is a first move and you are kind of making the first move you know so if you are already able to open yourself up to talk to someone

First before they approach you why are you limiting yourself to saying no but I would never make the first move in terms of like initiating a conversation about marriage because true I wouldn’t say they’re both the same CU you could just be talking to someone to talk to someone

Like have a conversation but that is kind of part of making the first move so if you’re already halfway there don’t limit yourself and be like well I would never do that MH I mean I think the fact that you’re saying you’ll never do it is like you’ve already closed the door it’s

Like it’s not going to happen puts like a limiting like like thing there I think is he trying to come in is he trying to come back in come on he texted me he’s like can I come back in if this guy messes with our [Laughter] Focus oh oh you made me

One that’s so cute oh because the reason he made one is because we were talking [ __ ] the other day why he was saying that he makes really good ones like mine are better here’s here’s the official taste test okay let’s see Did It capture Focus again come on camera let’s yeah I

Think it’s good whatever it doesn’t matter here let’s see s here he will never see some yeah I will make I make gourmet meals and this man will always be like it’s all right okay okay you will humble me it’s good it’s good okay better than

Yours m it tastes like a milkshake with protein you know but anyways back to the conversation mhm like what do you think about what we just said essentially does that shift your perspective a little bit so like I think growing up when I was a

Lot more naive I was also just like very open to you guys know I’m I’ve always been very social and I I still think I am but I just think you know life has humbled me a little bit so now I’m just like I don’t got the energy and I maybe

It’s because I’ve just I haven’t met that person that made me want to make the first move that’s fair so that’s why I keep saying like oh I’m never going to make the first move because I just haven’t like if I was to look at the

Guys the single guys that I know in my life no offense I’m sure they’re all wonderful people but I don’t think that I view them in a way where I’m like yeah I would totally make the first move right and I think that goes to another

Part of the conversation we had where it was making sure that you’re putting yourself in environments where you have the chance to meet those people right yes and we were talking yeah yeah yeah I I don’t want to say specifics but like there’s examples thrown out of like

People who are like you know working from home not going anywhere and being like I know I’m just waiting for this guy to pull up to my door and say he’s not talking about me cuz I didn’t say that I didn’t say that but but yes there

Are people who think that way and it’s like it’s like you have to put yourself in those positions in those environments to be able to meet people if you’re not you can’t just expect I mean unless you just have a great Network and like people will suggest I feel like the

Times for that are kind of past though like yeah maybe in the past like the parents would have been like oh I have a son I’m going to do you know and in a you know sometimes that still does happen but like I feel like generally because of the type of people

We are we do like to seek it out ourselves as opposed to like having like a parent be like hey I have a son so like because of that you have to put yourselves in situations where like you are able to meet them so whether if you

Work from home or your routine is you know wake up go go to work come back home like maybe instead you got to change that from like wake up go to work go to the gym then come back home or instead of working from home one day

Work at a cafe and like just switch different cafes every time go to the library like I don’t know or getting involved in programs where like the type of man that you want would be doing this like let’s say you really wanted a guy who was involved in the community so

Like or even just helping the less fortunate so you go to like a food drive and you and you volunteer your time there is food drives they T of them exactly exactly going yeah and that that would be a great person to like get to know like someone who actually cares

About you know volunteering and like all that kind of stuff yeah and you’re more likely to speak with them interact them CU you have to right is part of the job or part of the thing you’re doing I think people who say things like oh you

Know I don’t want to leave my house I I just hope that the guy comes knocks on my door I think there might be like a level of anxiety or like just the putting yourself out there there’s that fear right because yes fear of rejection

Is one part of it but like we also kind of just came out of a pandemic and I know we’ve beaten that topic dead to the ground dead to the ground but like it actually has impacted some people in more ways than we think MH I

Feel like it can be that but I also feel like it a lot of it has to just do with delusion and thinking that it is extremely easy to just find someone and and get married and like it’s like this like you do kind of have to put in the

Work you know it’s not not not even necessarily even putting yourself in those situations but putting in the work to like working on yourself if you are if you’re trying to attract or if you’re trying to like be with a man that has certain character characteristics you

Have to like ask yourself do you have those characteristics that that type of person would want yeah yeah like if you’re saying I want a man that’s like this and that and makes this income and whatever whatever do you have those characteristics that would attract that

I want a man who punctual you know do you do you remember we asked that once though like are you your types type basically that essentially um I saw that subtle Shade that’s like saying you know I want a man who’s tall okay first of all that’s very is it

Is it not Y no no no no no no doesn’t work like that okay yeah does work like that but mhm yeah no I I get it does it does it’s kind of a little delusional yeah but I think people do I I don’t think people think it’s easy to get

Married anymore I think we realize now like if you’re in Toronto you know the dating scene is a little it’s not easy it’s tough honestly and if you’re on apps that’s basically like you know what they say the pits of hell like but I think it’s only become harder because of

The thing we mentioned where people don’t have third places anymore yeah before when people had third places like back in the day can you just like elaborate on the third place just for anyone that might like like places that you would go to outside of work and home

Right so like third places back in the day used to be like um going to your local club like a I don’t know um give me a club badon Badminton Club exactly or like uh going to the the volunteering at like your local shelter yeah or just volunteering time at like the library

Like simple places places that like you would find like-minded people yeah right those have been like lost completely especially after Co so that’s maybe going to your point with the whole Co thing is that because a lot of those third places were closed and people didn’t build those habits in like very

Important times of their life or significant parts of their life that it just never became a thing and now people are kind of not realizing how important that really was I think um thinking this just kind of popped into my head but like when I was in university like my

School um I was in business school and they made it like a huge Point like literally multiple times a week there would be these like networking events and it would literally be like different clubs would put on networking events to connect like um past alumni that work at

Like I don’t know these Corporate Offices now and like just networking there may not necessarily be a job available but just to meet a network and and you know and it kind of taught me the importance of like oh okay if you’re actually trying to for example attract a

Type of um job or attract an industry or whatever you actually have to make you can’t just like sit back do well on your grades and all that and like sit at home and do nothing like you actually have to put yourselves in those situations dressed and like I have to people and

Whatever but what it did at least for me was train myself to understand and to understand that like say for example in the industry that I’m in the influencer industry if I’m trying to attract certain brand deals if I’m trying to attract certain things I have to go to

These events so that like there’s at least some like um visual like I’m I’m talking to the people I’m like you know just putting myself out there it’s not necessarily what I want to do like I I want to be at home I want to be doing my

Content whatever but in order to further my career I have to put myself in these situations you know and applying that also to like you know finding a man or a a wife or a husband whatever it’s it’s I wouldn’t say it’s exactly the same but

It kind of is like if you’re trying to you know have a certain outcome you have to put yourself in those situations to have that you can’t just like sit at home and expect it’s going to happen you also have to put your put the work in

Like put to work on yourself on um just like you know everything like Mind Body Soul all that yeah yeah like we were literally talking with someone the other day and I I don’t know why I didn’t put this together or maybe I forgot about this reason but like I was asking

Something like why would you sorority seem like such a weird thing like why do people it’s like oh it’s networking the reason people do go to sororities or join sororities is because of the networking like you have a huge history of alumni who are now connected in different Industries so you you can

Speak to them and they can mentor you and help you out in your career yeah like yeah Cen was actually telling me because I obviously we were in Canada we didn’t really learn that much about sorties and fraternities but he was mentioning like say for example you’re

Applying for a job and like you were in a fraternity in the past or whatever and there’s like two really really great qualifi qualified candidates and one of them just happens to be the same fraternity as like the guy that was like working for the job or whatever he’s

Automatically getting it because of that Network do you put that on your resume like how do they know uh do you would you put that on your resume yeah it’s it’s like an extracurricular yeah it’s something you’re paying into it’s a membership it’s a membership essentially yeah

Service yeah oh that’s kind of cool I didn’t know that yeah see so that was that was uh something that kind of was more eye openening to me right cuz typically people within our culture or background don’t join things like that but now it’s becoming I’ve noticed like

How we can benefit from it by as well and also having representation and all that as well yeah for sure that ground someone from the same Community as you what do you call it the a oh like yeah finding common ground like like you might not know the person

They might be like from Sweden but if they’re like oh yeah I’m part of this Association they’re like oh cool like you feel like you’re you there’s almost like a familiarity even though you have no idea who this person is it’s very similar to that even broader than that

Just being Muslim yeah usually can can open a lot of doors for you and like yeah cuz they at least you have yeah like you mentioned that common ground with them right yeah exactly so then like okay for for the the guys and the girls that want to sit at home and think

That they’re significant others just going to pop up out of nowhere what’s your advice like how do they navigate that what’s that third space that we can now look for postco the internet is a big third space and like there how many stories are there people who met on

Places like uh even Twitter yeah Twitter people who have met on Twitter yeah there’s a lot of people who have met on Twitter cuz you know oh yeah oh my god there you go yeah yeah Twitter even in Instagram yeah in actually Instagram is one of the biggest ones honestly yeah that’s why

You you have to be like consistently posting like to put yourself out there in order to actually be noticed I mean not necessarily it’s just like it’s it’s an option you know like it might not be your option yeah you know but it is it

Is there yeah you see a guy you really like go through all of his pictures and hit the like button right send send a message yeah see or just go to like one random photo cuz you know they look get that one yeah but they do that a lot of

Time but yeah if you don’t want to go outside your third space will you have to find it on the internet but then it also goes to the same thing where you’re finding places where people will have be very like-minded to you like uh let’s say you’re really into chess like

Someone you might find like an online chess community that uh you can interact with people eventually you know you start to get to know the people in that Community eventually they’ll have an in person meet up right there are a lot of conventions like nerd conventions uh I

Just call them nerd conventions but you know you have like Comic-Con and you have like culture packs and all these things culture any culture con yeah Marvel con I don’t know if they have a Marvel con that’s part of Comic Con Anime Con anime anime expo Expo yeah so

Those places when you go there you meet people who are like-minded as well there you go guys there are some examples of your third space yeah but we wanted to and Al you know also you know if we’re keeping High out here you know the mosque is also a nice I think that’s

Honestly one of the one of the best places to like I mean it can be tough cuz I feel like especially in a city like Toronto there’s so many different mosques and like people go to different communities cuz this one might be like habasha and this one might be Somali and

Whatever whatever but I don’t know we do a little circle around all of them all done Ming and a lot of them have events going on like you can check out like hiah house was always having events here and there where you can meet people most likely habasha or like some East African

Typ or like that place do you guys mention um the how the place that has those events like oh half half note half note yeah places like that those are like third places like you have to like it can be annoying to like you know be

Like oh I have to do this like once a week or whatever but like it’s it’s what it’s it’s part of life it’s like you want to regardless yeah regardless of if you’re like even if you’re already married like just going out and just expanding your network meeting people

Meeting friends like all that it just like enriches your life you know the hardest part is always showing up because once you’re there you kind of start to embrace the environment but yeah just guys we’re getting married this year okay inshallah insh insh one thing that I want to mention

Cuz you guys mentioned like goals for the for the year you know one thing that like um I saw recently was um splitting your year into quarters like 12 weeks at a time and like planning out instead of making New Year’s resolutions or like for the entire year just look at every

12 weeks 12 weeks is way easier to think about than 12 months you know cuz a lot can change but in three months like things are generally I wouldn’t say they’re all the same but like you can see March you can’t really see November like that’s so far ahead so I think like

Making those goals and you know they say they say um I forget what the exact percentage is but it’s a quite large percent um of people’s resolutions they usually by the time uh February or March rolls around doing they’re not doing them anymore especially with the gym

Like you always see this every single year January February March starts to trickle off by April like that place is back to normal it’s empty you know not empty but like it’s back to normal it’s not it doesn’t have that push but it’s like if you if those same people just

Made it a goal instead of for the year of 2024 I’m going to do this you could just say for for this quarter for these 12 weeks I’m going to commit to going to the gym three times a week and you commit to that for three months months

12 weeks is not long and then at the end of that you you look over like what you did for those 12 weeks you’re proud of yourself you do the check okay next 12 weeks I’m going to I’m going to try to go to the gym four times a week now yeah

And you’re just adding one it’s so much easier to do that than like tell yourself you’re going to work out six days a week at the beginning of the year you might do that for the first week of January and then the rest is just like

Downhill you know y you got to like create what is it like smart goals I forget what the acronym you build you start small and build on top of that that’s all it is exactly and you don’t have to wait till the new year like a

Lot of people they think like if the new year is 4 months away don’t say oh wait till New cuz at that point you might not even be motivated to do whatever you wanted to do so I always say people like if you want to do something start now

Start small there’s no such thing as like clean eating starts Monday or I’m going to start Monday start Sunday start Tuesday it doesn’t matter what day of the week you start just start if you’re if you’re telling yourself you’re going to do this start the next day yeah yeah

You know just do it do it just do it and don’t think you have to start it all at once like you know you can you cold turkey is probably the worst thing a lot of people can do it depending on what you’re doing okay cold turkey if you’re stopping something yeah

Like depending on what it is but for majority of the times it’s might it’s not going to work yeah yeah just pace yourself because if you’re trying to do like what’s that one saying something wasn’t built in a day Rome wasn’t built wasn’t built in a day neither was your

Body or your mind or your goals or whatever yeah like take it easy just take it each day by day and you know inshallah it’s going to be a good year for all of us yeah are you guys into like Vision boarding and mood boarding and stuff you about that last time no

Someone asked about it our yeah yeah I think my my vision board was kind of weird I had they made us they made us make one at work like years ago I can’t find it yeah but like it was like what your life wants to be what your life

Wants what you want your life to be and I think I had like a Peter of like Lupita yongo or something oh my God and dream girl and then I had like and then I had like um an older gentleman like a black guy with like kids surrounding him

With like the globe in the middle and they’re all like holding hands in a circle and I was like yeah I’m I’m going to have a bunch of kids and take over the world oh my God very big goals very big goals you know I’ve never actually

Made a vision board but this is the first year where I’m actually considering it like I’ve I’ve started like writing things down just in my notes app of like what I want it to like what I want to be on it but like what shifted my perspective was something

That I I think I heard it on um uh Marana ht’s podcast and she was talking about how she she’s a huge Journal journaler journaler she writes in her journal every single morning like without fail and then also makes uh vision boards every single year and she

Was like she like the reason why you do it is because and it’s like you don’t just make it and then like you keep it in your computer or whatever she’s like I put it in a place where I see every single day so that I’m at least inspired

By like my own like what I want my life to look like like every single day and it kind of reminded me of something that I did when I was in um when I was in uh University it was my last semester of University and I didn’t create a vision

Board but I just I scribbled on this random notepad because I knew I wanted to do um YouTube like fulltime at least for like the 6 months after graduation so I just like wrote down like a few goals that I want for that and I was like I want to hit 100,000 subscribers

And I want to work with these 10 brands and I think I wrote VidCon or something this was in January oh my God by the end of January I got invited to VidCon by June I hit 100,000 subscribers and by the end of the year I worked with

Majority of the brands on that list and it was a list that I looked at every single day and it was literally just it was not aesthetic it was nothing but it’s like every single year after that I made another another list of like what brands I wanted to work with and I

Noticed like in the past like 3 years I didn’t do that and I’m like I was so motivated by some by just seeing that and by myself and like all the goals that I had at the beginning of the year and just looking at it every day like it

Was so like useful yeah and like alhamdulillah like I’m still proud of what I’ve done in the past three years but I’m like if I had just sat down and actually thought about exactly what I wanted to do and sought every single day like how much better could my life be

Right now right you know so I’m like I’m kind of inspired to like get back into Vision boarding and I’m actually going to like make it on canva or something and print it out and like put it in my office so I could see every single day

Like I’m going to frame it and just look at it every single day yeah you know and this it this doesn’t only have to be with like career and stuff like I want to put things of like I I wrote down like all the places I want to visit this

Year so I’m going to like put those countries up there too I’m going to put my like you know uh spiritual goals um you know inshallah I want want to go to omra this year so like if you know I’m going to put the Caba and just something

That I can see every single day so I’m reminded this is what you wanted to do at the beginning of the year like you still have time to do it yeah you know I think that’s actually a good point I I think like in the past I don’t know why

I just never felt inspired to make vision boards yeah and I would kind of just like have my New Year’s resolutions or just like goals that I wanted to achieve in the coming year in my head and sometimes like if it were like if they were like bigger goals like I don’t

Know you know wanting to get a promotion or or whatever at work like that was something that took priority over I don’t know getting a car for example and so I would work hard towards my career but then the car thing would take like the back seat and so I think having a

Vision board kind of puts everything on like an even playing field and because you’re visualizing what your goals are you’re reminding yourself like you could be working on one goal right now and then in 3 months you’re like oh you know what like I really want to work on this

Goal now so I’m going to put in more effort towards whatever that goal is exactly and like the whole the whole thing that we talked about about like planning your year into quarters like every quarter you can look at your vision board be like what can I achieve

From this in the next three months as opposed to just making it and being like this is for the year like doing that will actually give you like it’s measurable like in 3 months I want to accomplish this and you see it and I think also in that podcast someone uh

She mentioned like one of the girls that she knows she puts it like on the outside of her I guess she has one of those show where like you could um see like it’s like a glass shower she’s like she put on the other side so she looks

At it every single day as she showers which that could be a little extreme but putting it in a place where you are actually going to look at it every single day like is much better than like you said like you might have those goals

In your head and I do the same thing but like like everything you forget exactly you know you might you might you might think to yourself oh I need to like pick up or I need to take out the chicken in the fridge like you know you think about

That in the morning and then it’s the end of the night you forgot to do it cuz you didn’t write it down how do you keep yourself respons not responsible but like U account accountable for like certain goals you do you do like so okay here’s one thing that sometimes like

When I have to check myself I’m like okay at work I feel so organized like I’m on top of my game like you know especially because I’m in charge of a team so I have to be on top of my I have no choice but to because if I don’t have

My [ __ ] together then they won’t have their [ __ ] together and I’m doing you know bi-weekly check-ins with my people making sure that they’re good in order for me to be good and finish up whatever I have to do but I’m like why don’t I do that in my personal life exactly is that

What is that what life Co coaches are for essentially I feel like life coaches are for that like you tell them these are my goals like I want to reach th like you mentioned like this many subscribers I want to get to this weight

I want to buy uh a house or or get an apartment something like that like these things like I feel like a life coach now think about it would be someone who would keep you like on those goals like keep you like being like hey you haven’t

Hit these numbers that you said you wanted to hit on this yeah but I think like I feel like you need someone to like keep you responsible I mean we have to keep each other responsible for this but like you know even the fact of like

Making a vision board for the year it could be something like something as simple as like you have you know maybe three goals that you want to accomplish in the next 12 weeks and then when the 12 weeks are up you do the audit and you

Do the the self checkin and then you’re like okay you know I I didn’t get to do my third goal but I did the first two so for the next 12 weeks I’ll add that one to the top of my list and then add two new ones for example and you kind of

Just do that checkin maybe 3 weeks sorry 12 weeks is a long time to do the check-in yeah but you could do it like every month like you know obviously this this this can be cut out of the podcast but I’m thinking about it like no no no

No no keeping it in okay well I was thinking like even for us in terms of like growing the channel and and really just taking it to the next level like treating it like an actual business like having business meetings having brainstorming sessions having like those

Ofers um to kind of basically just shift our mindset into like the growth mindset like we’re here we want to go there I feel like there needs to be it’s all about like once you once you set out like okay this is something I want to

Achieve even if it’s as simple as like buying a new car or getting that promotion it’s it’s not just as simple as saying those things and writing it down and seeing it it’s like okay if that’s the goal what are the next five steps for me to achieve that MH you know

In terms of finding a car okay what car do I want yeah do do I have the money saved up for it already or do I need to continue to save figure that out uh have I test drove the car going to like like there’s specific things that you’re

Going to do and I think in terms of like visualizing I just recently got like um like a weekly like calendar like it’s literally acrylic and it goes on my fridge Monday Tuesday Monday to Sunday or Sunday to Monday hm Sunday to what Sunday anyways Sunday Monday Tuesday

Monday Sunday Monday Sunday and every every week I just write in exactly what I have to do for that week so it could be as simple as like okay if you know you want to do whatever you have to do put something in that week that’s going

To get you closer to that goal like it’s not just sitting and like hoping it happens and like okay yeah I’m doing a little bit of the work but like let’s give a simple example as like I want to lose 30 lbs this year MH okay so in this

Next 12 weeks what are you going to do to lose those those pounds what are you going to get to start to start on that so in your to-do list your weekly to-do list you just put in okay I’m going to work out three times this week so you’re

Going to put in your workouts the exact times you’re going to work out especially like if you have a busy lifestyle it’s important to have that put it in your Google calendar put it everywhere that you can see and you can physically check it off I remember when

I was in high school and I like I went through like a huge like weight loss I think I lost like 30 or 40 lbs or something I had athletex I remember that it wasn’t it not athl p9x it was literally in the this was my

Bedroom and I had a calendar right there you could literally see the dot still of like the where I put the like pin I had a calendar there and it was just like a monthly calendar and every single day I put an X when I worked out so that I

Knew like it when I’m looking at it I slept right there and I’m looking at it I’m like okay I worked out every single day this week and and it feels good to like physically cross something out so that’s what you have to do with all of

Your goals too like you have to like look at it visualize it and actually like you know plan it out just as you would like your team like at work plan out your life the exact same way exactly it could be daily check-ins too like I

I’m not a huge journaler I would love to become one yeah I’ve never been into agendas or any of that even in when I was in school um but that you know if you are someone who likes to write things down it could be something like that like writing in your agenda every

Day or like your Journal okay this is what I did there’s like habit trackers which is apparently really good I actually want to get into that I feel like having like a digital habit uh tracker would be really good because then you can put in your habits of like

Okay I want to work out three to five times a week or whatever put that in your habit tracker you could physically check things off It’ll ask you questions at the end of the day all that and it’s as simple as just waking up putting a few clicks and then keeping yourself

Accountable that way yeah it at the end of the day it’s like you’re accountable for yourself and like the only person you’re really going to be disappointing is yourself exactly if you don’t reach those goals yeah so that’s like the ultimate uh thing that you’re trying to avoid just disappointing yourself cuz

You know no one else really cares actually know if you have family that loves you depending on what your goal is accountability partners are great and they’re super motivating I think like yes C and I are both accountability Partners you know when it comes to like our health goals which has been like

Very positive for both of us but you know obviously you have to do it for yourself first but if you can have a partner to help you with that a friend a sister dad brother mom whatever yeah you know it it is helpful yeah so what what

Other goals do you have inste I think I just wanted to be more consistent with everything that I do like not just not just one specific thing what do you mean more consistent like if I say that I’m going to stick to a specific routine because for me I I’ve noticed over the

Last year that I thrive when I’m in a routine mhm the spontaneous thing is just not for me yeah like it’s it doesn’t work for me in every aspect and so if I stick to a routine like I just have to be consistent with that so you

Know you guys know Amir and I were both sick in the last couple of weeks hence the random Hiatus um but for me that was like a huge reality check because um not to like get into it too much but like you know that was a reality check and I

Had to do a lot of um like rethinking healthwise you know so now I have that perspective of like I need to get my routine in check and stick to it because that’s what works for me and I know Amir is probably like I’ve been telling

You that a routine is what you need and I know and and you know what’s crazy is that like I’ve set up my environment to thrive in that type of routine like I’ve made everything so convenient for myself but I still don’t stick to it so I think

I think the main thing I kept telling you this is that and for everyone else is that always make sure to put yourself first yeah like don’t let other outside factors dictate what you’re doing in your life and how you’re scheduling your life and all that at the end of the day

Like your health and your Wellness is what matters most m so like don’t let any other whether it’s work whether it’s friends family or anything of course it’s good to be you know like if a friends and family need your help or something is good to you know be there

For them but like if it really affects your health in a negative way like sometimes you have to be like hey sorry I can’t come here and do that for you or if it’s your work ask me like sorry I can’t do these hours for you you know I’m currently going through something

You know so I have I have things planned so that’s a big part of it yeah you know you’re not I shouldn’t be waiting until [ __ ] hits the fan and then I’m like sorry I can’t do it because of whatever is going on um but as a recovering

People pleaser you know that’s a lot easier that’s big but you know like one big step was like working with an actual nutritionist who also um like basically plans out workouts and stuff yeah I feel like she’s more than just nutritionist I know like I keep putting that title for her

And I think I might have spoken about her before but she’s almost like sort of like a life coach too because she kind of encompasses like all aspects of my life and so I find that like working with her has actually been like very beneficial and that’s someone that like

Holds me accountable cuz I have to do weekly check-ins with him and so I I literally have to sit there and summarize how did the week go did I have a good week did I have a bad week did I do my workouts did I did I stick to my

Meal plan that I’m you know working on and it’s not even a meal plan of like oh because I want to lose weight like I’m just trying to live I’m trying to survive that’s literally it like I I’ve I’ve had to simplify my goals because it

Went from like oh I want to be stronger and healthier to now it’s just like I just want to live that’s it that’s literally it and I’m not dying guys like I don’t want you to think like that was kind of dramatic I’m fine alhamdulillah like it’s just like I’m just adjusting

What works for me and um yeah like we were just talking about the whole like consistency and having a routine like just last week when I had my check-in with her and she was like okay like she’s like I know you don’t like this like new year new me type of thing but

Like she’s like use it to your advantage like if you have that new found motivation or start on like like you were saying like start on a Tuesday if you want like mhm you know you don’t have to wait until Monday or wait until January 1st or whatever like just start

Exactly and I feel like also if you want to if you have a certain goal and like or like let’s say your goal was like to not use social media as much or like um not snack out as I don’t know like just small things here and there yeah I

Literally have the worst self-control like if there’s snacks in the house those snacks are going to be done in a week right so I tell people and whether it’s social if you have social media front of you if you you know you have easy access to it you might see yourself

Find yourself sitting there for 2 hours just looking at your phone scrolling through it so the ways that you can avoid doing that is just by not having there at all so like doing things that might seem extreme but like not allowing any snacks to be in the house at any

Time so if you want you literally have to go out and get one I actually I was just going to say like that was a huge problem for me in 2022 so 2023 like anytime I would go grocery shopping do you know it’s like you have to fight your impulses

Especially if you go when you’re hungry biggest mistake cuz everything looks good see but if I I know that like if it’s at home it’s game over so if I want a snack I got to go out exactly you know and deleting like uh we were speaking about this before deleting like any

Delivery apps doesn’t matter what delivery app it is delete it you don’t need that a trap um cuz even for me I had to like like for snacks that was a big thing like I had make sure not to have them in the house yeah whenever

People come over to the house and like they we have like get together whatever I tell people just take the stuff with you I don’t want it I don’t want it in here right and like there are apps that like can control how much social media you’re allowed or how much screen time

You’re allowed to have so and like let’s say you have a partner like you have a partner you say hey so put in a code here cuz I believe you have to put in a code or something like that put in a code that only you know and the only way

I can get access to it outside of the time that I want to look at it is by asking you for the code and of course they won’t give it to you you know if they’re not an enabler and you you have something that controls the amount of time that you’re

On those apps that only like if it’s social media in particular that only works if you don’t work on social media like it’s it’s tough like if she if you were like let’s say you were just suggesting to and I know you w but like well that’s like a very small small I

Know population right we’re dealing with like general population right then people who don’t usually use it for that or don’t have any like um aspirations to do that then it seems more reasonable right I feel like the whole snack thing like in the grocery store what’s helped

Me cuz I I love I definitely I love the grocery store personally it’s the third place for me I actually enjoy I he knows I enjoy going to the grocery store like it’s just fun for me but if I’m trying to like you know stick

To my health goals going in with a list and actually just checking it off and getting nothing else that’s not on the list unless it’s like healthy and it’s like a vegetable or something that you need for an ingredient yeah just sticking with that and leaving like for

Me that’s helped cut down the time of me being in the grocery store cuz I could be in there for a full hour or more I can’t believe you like it that much I’ve always literally when I was in high school I used to just go to the grocery

Store for fun just to look around I don’t know I don’t know it’s just it’s it’s a chef maybe maybe if there’s other people good into you big if there are other people that enjoy cooking that might be a thing for you like I just like studying the the fruits and the

Vegetables that are in there I’m like oh what’s this like it’s just kind of fun for me but going in with an actual list helps me just like get in and get out for sure without looking at everything else you know that’s actually like that’s actually very true and honestly

It also like for me I hate wasting time like I’m opposite I hate being in grocery stores and all that stuff so it also speeds up the process like you spend less time in that place cuz you have everything kind of like ready to go

Like okay this is done I’m out of here right but I feel like you’ve mastered it because you have you’ve eaten the same thing for the last like how many years so his grocery list has been the same every single week and I actually like oh it just stopped recording just now uh

What we talk about we’re back yeah one of our phones died here so we’re good yeah uh we’re having we’re having a lot of uh technical issues again as usual but what are we saying huh we’re talking about news resolutions whatever did I did I give any new year I don’t think I

Have I don’t have any new year no I but I think you have not New Year’s resolutions but I think we we this year we really want to just shift our our Focus yeah on nurturing our podcast and really putting our all into it yeah I’ve

Always been trying to but for me it’s like always been a constant process like I’ve always tried to tweak things here and there that’s the reason I got the camera because I thought maybe or we got the camera cuz I thought maybe like it could be a way of like elevating the

Video so we can have a better quality and like we won’t have to use our phones as much when to filming one thing that I feel like you worked on in 2023 was your editing yeah editing was a big part really like making sure that’s editing so yeah and just developing skills cuz

Also like just from developing skills here you might be able to use those skills further on in the future and whatever other um Endeavors you might have right cuz it’s not only video editing it’s like Photoshop like I can do whatever you want on Photoshop at

This point yeah right and um yeah just developing those skills over time eventually I got to teach you know a couple things here and there we can’t be using canva out here for everything okay even for you I like canva but you can probably pck monkey and canva but you

Can probably learn photosop and like you know it just seems intim you have so much more control it it does what needs to be done okay okay okay yeah so I was really trying to develop those skills mhm but yeah like the rest of the goals were related to like merchandise for the

Podast uh other video types like I know we’ve had the Vlogs but we’ve like I I didn’t feel like the quality was up to par with what we should be putting out which is why I didn’t I chose not to put out the part because we were talk we

Always talk about the Vlog and you know we put out the first two but like our skills as vloggers were not developed enough to like come out with a a podcast I thought was like worthy of everyone watching it’s also we’re we’re still new to that side too like I know we’ve had

Exposure in the past but but I think now we both realize like our style of vlogging is more like we need some kind of storyline for viewers to follow ex exactly like what we did before a lot of it was just pointing and shooting yeah and rarely talking to the camera right

Not even talking and tell was we was just filming like Boll yeah like you’re showing like what right and we I feel like we did do a lot of b-roll but not actually like talking to the camera and saying where we are what we’re doing because people need a through line when

You’re doing that kind of stuff so having like some type of through line or some type of story to tell um whether it be our our experiences or of whatever we’re following at a time like maybe telling the history of a place but just something to keep the person engaged and

Feel like we’re not wasting time I hate wasting people’s time which is why we also put work into editing the podcast video because like if you’re going to have someone sitting there and watching you talk for an hour an hour and a half or whatever you want to have them like you

Know some you know put up a a graphic of like what you’re talking about to give them yeah exactly uh which is why also we invested in the camera you know we’ll make it work you know I I I think we’re like right now we’re like on different

Sides of whether or not we’re going to keep this thing I feel like you know eventually we we’ll make it work okay there there different aspect there are different uh strategies we can work on you’re a little more patient than me know so I I’ll Trust you cuz you’re also

The one that I feel like is dealing with in more handson than like I’m not really in charge of editing so like that’s a headache for you exactly no I’ll figure it out I’ll figure it out if you say so but those are mainly my goals outside of

Getting married yeah I was going to say like that was a huge goal from last year that you is carrying on to this year exactly but you know inshallah by the end of the year that will all be done so yes yeah you know I’m just saying man you know I’ve

Been putting that work okay uh but yeah that was literally all I had because for me it’s like I don’t think about oh the New Year’s coming up like what am I going do if I want to do something or I’m like plan on doing something I just start it right like

Even when it comes to the merchandise yeah like I know we kind of it fell off of it a bit but like initially when I when we had the motivation I was like I was putting up vision boards yeah that a vision board I literally made a vision

Board I forgot of exactly what styles we might look into doing like mood board sorry yeah mood board and like the materials we might be using and like what the logo would look like all that stuff like I we were working on that a little bit of course it got busy with

Like other stuff but uh now that I feel like I’ve kind of locked down the editing part of it like before it used to take me multiple days now it’s taking me like one day uh not one day maybe and one and a half days two days maybe um I

Have like an extra one or two days to actually focus on those other aspects of it or and then if you want to make other contact content that’s going to take more time as well right yeah like there was one point I was like I should just

Quit my time my my full time job I was like I’ve had that no no no but that that might be a little crazy I feel like yeah exactly do you ever have Dre like what if they just fire me you like but you know what though yeah maybe maybe we shouldn’t

Said this on the podcast it’s fine whatever that’s whatever but sometimes I’m like you know yeah if it was my time to go from this job then I could put my all into the podcast exactly and like do like you know daily videos and like grow

The other platforms too and that’s why I envied like uh process like for you you graduated and you literally had you think you mentioned it when you first came on like you literally had the summer to figure out everything and if you didn’t figure

It all out then you would had to gone to like a full-time job right and alhamdulillah it actually worked out everything exactly went exactly as planned uh maybe even more so more like I don’t sure yeah I don’t think I would have been able to do everything that I

Did if I had a full-time job at the same time exactly very hard and you like Amir and I always talk about like MH you know when it comes to like your day job like because that’s your priority like the podcast is still a priority but it’s

It’s hard right cuz sometimes like we’ll need to upload something and usually we have our episodes scheduled but like there are little things like the admin stuff that that we have to do before the episode goes live and I’m like crap like I’m so sorry I’m just I’m literally

Stuck in meetings all day and I don’t have a second to like I can’t just pull up our YouTube page in the middle of an inperson meeting or whatever the case may be and so like it’s hard we we still make it work and we do the best that we

Can but when you have big dreams you’re also going to make some sacrifices sometimes ex kind of just I feel like I can feel it you know inshallah this year is going to be a really good year for the podcast the thing about oh sorry go

Ahead no my I cut you off there my I just but the thing about the internet is that like it can go sometimes from Z to 100 so you never know it could be it could be a month from now right it could be a week from now you never know like

One video that you put up just randomly blows up because of one thing and then you have like a not a lawy you have a following and you build them into loyal followers cuz that’s a big issue that’s one thing to note about the internet is

That you can gain a large following but gaining a large following is different from Gaining a loyal following right like you see a lot of especially with Tik Tok these days how quickly can blow up someone you see someone who blows up from one or two Tik toks they have like

A little stick or something that they’re doing and then they get tired the person gets tired of thatti stick stick stick yeah or the people who are watching get tired of it whichever one comes first they try and change up a little bit and then the following is like I’m not interested

Anymore right but if you feel like if you build a loyal Following over time like you have done yourself Aisha SL are always the best exactly then you you uh are more likely to have longevity in the in the in the realm because it also

Teaches you a lot too it’s like like if if fast success isn’t always great success because it’s like you don’t you don’t have those opportunities to make mistakes you don’t have those opportunities to like you have especially in terms of social media it’s like if you have overnight a million

Eyes looking at you those are a million people that are going to be judging every single move you make if you happen to fall you know but it’s like if you have only 5,000 people watching you okay yeah they might be like oh this person is like falling off or whatever but you

Have time to make those mistakes so that by the time you get to the 100,000 200,000 500,000 Millions You’ put in those you know they say like 10,000 hours like once you have put in 10,000 hours into something you’re now like you’re like an expert in that field

Like the best case example that I can give is like Jack a Jackie AA yeah she’s been in the industry she started making videos in like 2009 MRA and she’s still relevant and still popping like she just only launched a brand three years ago yeah you know a lot of people have all

This fast Fame and fast success they launch random brands that people don’t even know what your brand is you’re launching a brand and then like you know a couple years go by and it’s not really doing well but it’s like it’s that slow success that like teaches you all of

Those like yeah really key like lessons that like you should be learning along the way M for sure I think the worst like the thing that I’ve heard that some influencers mention is that like whenever they do blow up like randomly a video go up on them but they have like a

Large history but they’re still called an overnight success so like you’ve been on YouTube for like 10 plus years and then in year 11 or something your one of your videos blows up and everybody’s like an overnight success uh blah blah blah has like you know has gained a

Large following Rec he like no man I’ve been doing this for multiple years man I have a discography here and actually helps a lot to have a discography because or not discography um discography is usually like when an artist has like multiple album I don’t know what you would call

On YouTube like an arch an arch exactly then people go back and start watching that stuff right so that actually does benefit you because a lot of times people don’t realize that a lot of YouTubers especially people who have been on for multiple years like a lot of

The AdSense or the money they’re making is actually from people going back into their archives yeah because that stuff is always still acing views of course it’s not like huge a large amount but it adds up especially if you have a large um archive yeah that’s another part of

It so inshah that’s that’s basically what the goal is just to grow this Channel and have more of a growth mindset I think you guys are doing like so well like I’m always so proud like how consistent you guys have been but like also when you like engagement is a

Huge thing in social media and like the fact that you guys don’t even have 10,000 subscribers yet but like you consistently get a thousand or more views on every single video like that is a lot that’s a lot that’s not normal like people who have millions of followers now that maybe weren’t

Consistent in going back to YouTube but they barely get like 5,000 views now you know I think so it’s like it’s a big thing I I was watching a video where someone was talking about like when they’re selling their brand or not their brand but their Channel or or what they

Have to offer I think like most companies or most most of these companies are expecting like 2 to 5% of Engagement like that’s good or something like that it’s really low I thought it was like in like 50 to 40 but really it’s in the like low less than 10%

That’s actually considered good MH D yeah cuz like if you have a million followers MH uh maybe 10% would be what 100,000 of that that’s like very high yeah very very high exact on average it’s usually yeah like about 3 to 5% is like ideal wow obviously if it’s one and

Lower like that’s just kind of like need some work but yeah like anywhere from like 2 to 5% is like pretty average yeah cuz it’s all the numbers game at the end of day the compan like hey if we can at least get 10,000 eyes on this they’ll be

Happy right so yeah that’s that’s definitely a thing that helps the fact that we have pretty good engagement on everything yeah and I think like doing things like being able to connect with people and just you know although we’re sitting behind the camera and there’s lights and green screen and all that

Kind of stuff like we’re still just everyday people at the end of the day and and connecting with you guys I think reminds everyone including ourselves that we’re just ordinary people maybe maybe a goal for you guys for 2024 can be building on that connection you know you mentioned doing in-person events

Doing your lives more often like I think connection is like the best way to build and continue to build a loyal audience because people feel like they’re a part of something exactly so it’s like when you eventually create your merch line or when you have those inperson events like

People feel like they’re a part of something that’s true you know that’s true yeah so we’re definitely going to be working on those for the next year and I think what you said about like the um like the week weekly or bi-weekly check-ins like like meetings like actual

Business meetings like 1 hour it’s a zoom call or in person or whatever and you guys are literally planning out the next week or the next month or whatever like doing that weekly or bi-weekly I think that’ll like take you guys over I think so too you know we never really

Asked you like what are your what are your goals it doesn’t for the year but just some goals that you want to mention in general I want to I want to build like one of my biggest goals for this year is like uh building on like my brand

And and like the merch line is something that like I wanted to start for years just to kind of like see cuz I never started anything and whatever and like I’m still super proud of that and like there’s going to be a new launch like um in January inshallah well this month

Yeah um in a few weeks actually but I think just like building on that like I want to be a brand owner like I want people to like be able to like shop items that I create like basically taking what I care about in terms of content and like all the brands I

Already share but creating that for myself yeah because I think like I enjoy creating content I I’m blessed enough to work with like these amazing brands that I’ve been able to like you know work with for years now but I I still kind of sometimes feel like I’m still working

For someone else even though technically it’s like they’re coming to me but it’s like yeah but they’re coming to me with like key things that they want like the type of content that they want like I feel like I’m almost like working for someone I want to be able to just like

Pour into like my business like create something that can stand alone and this is like my brand like this is not um you know like it’s not dependent on another brand paying me or whatever it’s like I pour into this I invest my I’m you know hopefully investing my own money into

Things so that it can like you know grow in the future so that I don’t have to work with as many brands in the future or like have to I still always want to create content cuz obviously I feel like that’s how people connect and relate to me

But I want to be able to do it like just because I can not because I necessarily have to to sustain you know my lifestyle yeah longterm goals right exactly so like yeah so like 2024 is about building those like the foundation of all of that

It’s kind of already in the start but like you know building a brand I feel like a lot of people don’t realize it takes a lot of money sure a lot of money expensive it’s expensive you know there’s a lot of mistakes that happened before you know even launching and I

Feel like sometimes a lot of people discredit that when creators start to try to launch something CU they don’t realize like oh no people are actually putting in their life savings into these things and when they launch it like they hope that people will enjoy it so like

That’s my goal for this year is like you know alhamdulillah I’ve been able to I’ve been doing this now this will be the seventh year right 2017 was when I went fulltime so this is the seventh year I’ve been doing it fulltime which is crazy it’s almost a decade M so you

Know I think it’s finally time where I just take a lot of the money that I’ve been saving and investing and put invest that back into myself and like create something so that’s my goal for 2024 um there’s some other goals as well but that’s like my main focus yeah and then

I just have places I want to travel more too like you know we got to travel a lot this last year this is the year that we saw each other the most we did we actually did which is crazy so yeah I want to I actually was just writing like

Places that I want to hit this year yeah what were you thinking so I I wrote 2024 travel Japan turkey Australia Singapore South Korea London somewhere in Africa Mexico City and om which is not a place but Saudi Arabia yeah inshallah so some of those spots are double like you’ve been to

Before yeah well some of them are because like there’s weddings oh yeah um I’m going to turkey again for a wedding this summer but which one do you want to go like which one are your top Jaan well umra that’s obviously but like for travel Japan I’ve been that’s been on my

List since 2016 let me know when you go and it has to happen it has to happen I’m trying to it’ll probably I probably won’t be able to go in the spring but I hear Japan in the fall is like beautiful yeah cuz they have like they have the beautiful

Foliage and all that too so yeah inshah you got to let me know when that happens yeah cuz I’ve always wanted to go to Japan too still yeah that’s that’s those are a few of my goals I want to actually just go over like I know we’ve kind of

Gone over our time here uh but like the things that have happened in 2023 just a little recap of it I did write them all down but we’re kind of using the phone as uh see how good your memory is um so let’s see what happened this year okay I

Feel like the uh just for PP culture reasons like the main thing that might have happened was like barbin Heimer that was one of them oh my God and I think that one kind of exposed how it’s almost like nowadays the only way something can really like pop off or

Become really popular and make a lot of money is if it becomes a meme on the internet I feel like that was kind of exposing that whole thing because I think the culture of going to the movie theater was kind of lost with Co yeah that’s true so to like kind of build

That people didn’t really develop those habits for three three almost three years almost right yeah so now they’re kind of finding interesting ways of doing that and I feel like memes or like doing it for the the virality of it or for the uh what would you call it like

That’s the best way to describe the virality of it yeah exactly phenomenon it was exactly I think I think I think well I guess I wasn’t necessarily my T I don’t think I’m the target audience for Oppenheimer so I didn’t really see much of what was going on in terms of

Marketing for that but Barbie like that’s going to be studied in history books like or like marketing books because that was the craziest MH in most insane marketing push I have ever seen for anything like genuinely anything like and I don’t know how it happened like did it happen

Organically well no I think they planned it but I think what what made it like even worse dare I say was because there was the anticipation of the strike so basically the six-month marketing budget and all of that all things they pushed it up into two months I I believe so

Like all of the brand collaborations all that like telling you I got like multi like probably about three or four PR packages every single week for Barbie oh my god there was Barbie everything every single brand had a Barbie collaboration in terms of beauty like the child in us

Would have loved that I know ex crazy I did get one Barbie and I actually I kept it in the top you got a Barbie I did it was like a nice Barbie too I’m like I’m keeping that black too I’m like my future daughters Barbie and

Sha yeah but that was that was definitely insane mhm that was a big thing on the internet for a while I feel like before that was Despicable Me after or before that cuz remember Despicable Me was a big part of it too you didn’t see that one where a bunch of guys would

Go to the movie theater and like suits and they wear suits and watch down there and then like okay okay you know I’m on a different side of the internet no idea what you’re talking about and then after that of course was the movie not the movie sorry the strike that happened and

I feel like no one really knows what that’s going to how that’s going to affect like entertainment for the next few years because like so many things were delayed and also because there was a big shift towards like reality TV and everybody was just more interested in reality TV

So like it kind of it didn’t feel like you guys were getting hit that badly but I feel like we felt the shift in La obviously there were strikes everywhere like you could see the picket lines and stuff outside of all of the studios um all the show all the red carpets and

Stuff cuz for a while like I was going to a lot of like um red carpets or just like previews and Stu stuff like that all of those were shut down or if they were they would try to get a lot of influencers there cuz the go but then

Like our management side was being like you know what maybe don’t go cuz it might be a bad look MH so like that was yeah that was definitely like really really big um in the like influencer SL just La scene in general yeah oh my God

I didn’t realize like how much it was actually impacting yeah and were there any other big po before I move on were there any big popular pop culture things that went on um pop culture okay forget that forget pop culture let’s talk about the important

Things so also in April of this year H Taylor swi forget her she had like her biggest year ever yeah um but also in April of this year we we have to mention these of course but like in April this year was the um the Civil War started in

Sudan I believe that’s when it officially started uh between I think it was like the uh can’t remember the exact abbreviations but they’re essentially military like the government military versus like another Power yeah I wrote it all down I had it all there but yeah that essentially happened and displaced

I believe it’s almost 6 million people in all of Sudan I think 10,000 plus people have been uh killed from it so that was definitely a big part of uh what was going on internationally and unfortunately because of the media here like we didn’t hear much from it about

It we had to hear from places like Tik Tok and other places on social media and our own friends and family who are are more connected to that and then of course in October we had uh the situation go down in Palestine with um you know our brothers and sisters out

There who are which is still happening which is still happening after 85 days 86 days it’s like and unfortunately like we I thought the media the mass media would pick it up at some point but like even now it’s barely mentioned it’s just completely brushed over uh of course

There are people like us still mentioning it here and on other social media platforms but you can definitely like tell that like the momentum has been slowing down but of course there are still people out there trying to like continue to keep that momentum up and continue to speak about it even

Though it seems like at this point like the um mainstream media and the governments are not going to do anything about it yeah uh at least if they’re not going to do anything about it we have to make people witness what’s going on there yeah and just pray that eventually

Something does happen and and someone does wake up to this you know we have to shout out the the what is it the houthis in Yemen are currently blocking the shipments going through uh the I forget what the canal is the red sea theed sea but there’s that little Canal yeah

They’re currently fighting back uh you know I pray for them because you know the US government is not some you kind of want want to mess with um so inah there’s they’re helped in some way um but yeah those are two like probably the most important things that are going

On this year of course there’s also the place that the thing that’s been constantly happening and it continues to happen in the Congo with the people who are being exploited for their work um to dig for Cobalt it’s crazy that I had never heard of that before this I knew

About it for years I thought I thought people knew about this I didn’t know that because it was a big thing in like the tech industry as well right and there’re actually companies who um are now ethically like there’s a I forget I think they called the ethical phone I

Need to search it up but there’s a phone where they Source all of their materials ethically and like get it from ethical sources so you know and it’s also an Android just saying uh so let us know what the phone is that’s kind of yeah I

Need to find out I need to find out exactly where the exact name for but it has some ethic in the name somewhere but that’s also something that’s been constantly going on for for many years but recently start started getting a lot of um um light onto it as well mhm so

Yeah those are the main things that I’ve been we’ve been talking about and and trying to put shine a light on this year and inshallah by the end of this year a lot of those issues are resolved and and inshallah Palestine will be free yes exactly um but yeah so there’s as long

As y’all don’t have anything else to say I know we’ve been here for a long time almost two hours bathro I’m not going to lie so yeah uh thank you again for watching make sure to subscribe to the channel you know follow us for this year

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Back to side I will uh but I’ll be there too I’ll be there too as Amir reads them guys I read them okay uh but yeah and thank you AA for joining us always a pleasure having you on and yassim for being you know a little audience member here tional support exactly

Uh but yeah thank you again for listening we’ll see yall next week happy New Year happy New Year bye bye Bye

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